Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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When your ex knows things are going well in your life and that she didn't have the impact she thought she did. :banderas:

I bet she's wondering why I haven't hit her phone in a while to check up on her too
 

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Damn man, your stories make me wish I was asexual sometimes, so I could just live my life and never once have to think about getting into a relationship again. I was MARRIED (still am by law) so I can relate to the heartbreak a lot. It's a particularly nasty pain and can have you in a state of confusion and despondency and even doubting yourself for a long time....but time is a healer. You just have to take what lessons you can from the experience and make sure to never repeat the same mistakes.

Earlier today I was chilling by a spot I like to drive to by the airport and I was sitting down chilling, I decided to make the new year about ME....but this time for real. If a woman doesn't tick all the boxes then it's straight bushes. I'm gonna be extra #HOH if I sense any bullshyt on the horizon. I've said it before anyway and I'll say it again: single mothers are a no no. I don't care how much older I get, I'm sticking to that.
 
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Damn man, your stories make me wish I was asexual sometimes, so I could just live my life and never once have to think about getting into a relationship again. I was MARRIED (still am by law) so I can relate to the heartbreak a lot. It's a particularly nasty pain and can have you in a state of confusion and despondency and even doubting yourself for a long time....but time is a healer. You just have to take what lessons you can from the experience and make sure to never repeat the same mistakes.

Earlier today I was chilling by a spot I like to drive to by the airport and I was sitting down chilling, I decided to make the new year about ME....but this time for real. If a woman doesn't tick all the boxes then it's straight bushes. I'm gonna be extra #HOH if I sense any bullshyt on the horizon. I've said it before anyway and I'll say it again: single mothers are a no no. I don't care how much older I get, I'm sticking to that.

Breh I don't even know why I'm hung over this bytch. The whole relationship I was scared that I'm gonna get her pregnant and I'll be stuck with her. She wanted more kids but I got her to put IUD so I pumped it every weekend. she would beg me to see her kids I would tell her no I can't cause honestly I never saw myself with her in the future. She wanted to meet my family and friends, but I was too embarrassed that they'll know I'm in love with a single mom. She said she felt like a secret and the whole two years she felt like she wasn't good enough for me. And that I just lead her on thinking that eventually I'll accept her and we will live happily ever after.

The heartbreak is real though. I'm just gonna focus on myself. I've already hit simp mode, thinking about her and her new guy. But I know with time it'll pass. Not for one second I will believe that they're just friends. I blocked her from everything and we don't have any mutual friends so I know there's very little chance that we will ever run into each other.

It is what it is. I told her I would meet her kid just to get her back. To be honest, she has two kids. Not one. So even more reason to run the fck away. I just still don't get it why after I told her off she was like I can still meet them. Does she think there's a chance or am I just reading too much into it?
 

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I've said this before you can rescue a man from a burning building and he will be indebted for you for life, a woman nope.

A man can be cheated on in ten straight relationships finally find a faithful woman and I guarantee he won't mess it up

A woman will think yawn this is boring whyisnt he cheating can't he find someone, I'm scared I've never had a guy treat me this well and she will think even though she's never had one guy treat her well she finally found a guy who treats her well that suddenly guys like that are easy to come by.

I've dated a girl who was absed, used for sex, beaten so bad she had to go to a woman's shelter and Herr I was the decent dependable guy who treated her with respect she cheated on me with her abusive ex bf :heh:. Got knocked up by a grocery clerk and now has twins living in her moms basement.

I didn't understand it I treated her great, even her mom was crying one day how she's so happy her daughter found someone good. :heh:

And that's one thing as a man that bothers you, you would give a kidney for this girl, would treat her like your queen, always faithful, accept her for who she is as a person but she is so dumb she doesn't see it and some dude who treats her like a piece of meat just using her for sex, calling her names, doesn't give a San about her she's treating him with more respect than she ever did you.

You know your better than him, everyone knows your better than him but because you don't give her "tingles" or "sparks" she doesn't Carr.

And as a man its frustrating to say the least.

Like the second girl I ever loved, I'd do anything for her I loved her more than any woman ever in my life. But now she's just getting pumped and dumped, depressed , clubbing and drinking all the time and random men in and out of her life, but so be it they think they can do better you just have to get to the point of realizing maybe its for the best, you want someone to be with you through the thick and thin the good times and bad who will respect you and be grateful you are in their life.


Man, stories like this is why I can't even get mad at women no more. Like she left a good, stable situation to enter a knowingly shytty one - and for what, some quick, cheap thrills? Once you come to terms with the fact that many women don't make rational moves, let alone moves that serve their long-term self interest, you'll be a lot less angered/saddened/confused overall.

And many of these women have so many red flags. When I think of my ex, halfway depressed, body starting to fall off, roaches in the apartment, average cook at best, daddy issues, and think about how many times i was willing to mortage everything away to sniff the panties, i don't know whether to :ahh: or :damn:. i'm just glad i got a hold of myself and learned to be the best i can be and therefore attract the quality of woman that knows that i only deal with respectable, focused, humble people
 

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@World War Z @realdarkphoenix

Damn man, your stories make me wish I was asexual sometimes, so I could just live my life and never once have to think about getting into a relationship again. I was MARRIED (still am by law) so I can relate to the heartbreak a lot. It's a particularly nasty pain and can have you in a state of confusion and despondency and even doubting yourself for a long time....but time is a healer. You just have to take what lessons you can from the experience and make sure to never repeat the same mistakes.

Earlier today I was chilling by a spot I like to drive to by the airport and I was sitting down chilling, I decided to make the new year about ME....but this time for real. If a woman doesn't tick all the boxes then it's straight bushes. I'm gonna be extra #HOH if I sense any bullshyt on the horizon. I've said it before anyway and I'll say it again: single mothers are a no no. I don't care how much older I get, I'm sticking to that.

it sucks but i legit think heartbreak and being torn is needed. If not I would still hold women in regard as these angels who can do no wrong. The one thing i have learned and put into practice these past few years is not to settle, back in the days if she was attractive that was it, I was in all red flags an dall that's all i care about. Now i'm very very very careful who to let in my inner even to casual date. I know firsthand the wrong woman can destroy you and set you back.
 

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Breh I don't even know why I'm hung over this bytch. The whole relationship I was scared that I'm gonna get her pregnant and I'll be stuck with her. She wanted more kids but I got her to put IUD so I pumped it every weekend. she would beg me to see her kids I would tell her no I can't cause honestly I never saw myself with her in the future. She wanted to meet my family and friends, but I was too embarrassed that they'll know I'm in love with a single mom. She said she felt like a secret and the whole two years she felt like she wasn't good enough for me. And that I just lead her on thinking that eventually I'll accept her and we will live happily ever after.

The heartbreak is real though. I'm just gonna focus on myself. I've already hit simp mode, thinking about her and her new guy. But I know with time it'll pass. Not for one second I will believe that they're just friends. I blocked her from everything and we don't have any mutual friends so I know there's very little chance that we will ever run into each other.

It is what it is. I told her I would meet her kid just to get her back. To be honest, she has two kids. Not one. So even more reason to run the fck away. I just still don't get it why after I told her off she was like I can still meet them. Does she think there's a chance or am I just reading too much into it?


happens to everyone, look i've had women cheated on me, an abortion behind my back, left me in high 5 figure debt, ruined my credit, been in a car accident while trying to help out a woman and even then in the end a part of you still wants her even though you know she is no good and a detriment ot your life.

I've been there breh, sorry to say they ain't friends, and he is probably hitting it. I know it sucks we all like to imagine our exes or women we loved just sad, eating ice cream watching romantic movies thinking about us, when in reality they out clubbing, random dudes grinding on them, sucking dikk getting their brains screwed out :to:

and see two kids even more red flags, but I know it still hurts, all you can do is let time do its part, one day you'll meet a great girl and she'll be in the back of your min dand you will realize its for the best until that day :to:
 

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Man, stories like this is why I can't even get mad at women no more. Like she left a good, stable situation to enter a knowingly shytty one - and for what, some quick, cheap thrills? Once you come to terms with the fact that many women don't make rational moves, let alone moves that serve their long-term self interest, you'll be a lot less angered/saddened/confused overall.

And many of these women have so many red flags. When I think of my ex, halfway depressed, body starting to fall off, roaches in the apartment, average cook at best, daddy issues, and think about how many times i was willing to mortage everything away to sniff the panties, i don't know whether to :ahh: or :damn:. i'm just glad i got a hold of myself and learned to be the best i can be and therefore attract the quality of woman that knows that i only deal with respectable, focused, humble people

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i see it happen all the time breh, has happaned to me, people I know and the cycle continues. It will frustrate you to the core.

I was a man raised on principles and morals, a man who has never cheated, raised a hand, only has been faithful and treated any girl I dated with respect and Love.

Yet all I have been is cheated on, manipulated, lied to, used, false accusations, name slandered, dumped, lucky to get a second date.

And when I had my 6 months of rampage of #HOH, i was sleeping around, treating women like gum under my shoe and yet I was respected, yet I was getting laid on the first night, yet women were driving to come see me, buying me food, gifts, calling m ea a$$hole and a misogynst but still couldn't give me up.

And it makes you think and its very frustrating but ah well :ehh:
 
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i see it happen all the time breh, has happaned to me, people I know and the cycle continues. It will frustrate you to the core.

I was a man raised on principles and morals, a man who has never cheated, raised a hand, only has been faithful and treated any girl I dated with respect and Love.

Yet all I have been is cheated on, manipulated, lied to, used, false accusations, name slandered, dumped, lucky to get a second date.

And when I had my 6 months of rampage of #HOH, i was sleeping around, treating women like gum under my shoe and yet I was respected, yet I was getting laid on the first night, yet women were driving to come see me, buying me food, gifts, calling m ea @sshole and a misogynst but still couldn't give me up.

And it makes you think and its very frustrating but ah well :ehh:

How did you force yourself to sleep. This is what I'm having extreme difficulties with. I can't sleep. It takes me a while just to fall asleep and then it's only for one or 2 hours. Then I'm awake thinking again . It's agony and unbearable. I have this weird feeling in my chest. I've been heartbroken before and I've never felt like this. I want this feeling to go away. I don't want to use and abuse alcohol to get to sleep and whenever I smoke weed I get extreme anxiety. I don't know what to do
 

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How did you force yourself to sleep. This is what I'm having extreme difficulties with. I can't sleep. It takes me a while just to fall asleep and then it's only for one or 2 hours. Then I'm awake thinking again . It's agony and unbearable. I have this weird feeling in my chest. I've been heartbroken before and I've never felt like this. I want this feeling to go away. I don't want to use and abuse alcohol to get to sleep and whenever I smoke weed I get extreme anxiety. I don't know what to do
:damn: Damn breh... Compose yourself :snoop:
 

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How did you force yourself to sleep. This is what I'm having extreme difficulties with. I can't sleep. It takes me a while just to fall asleep and then it's only for one or 2 hours. Then I'm awake thinking again . It's agony and unbearable. I have this weird feeling in my chest. I've been heartbroken before and I've never felt like this. I want this feeling to go away. I don't want to use and abuse alcohol to get to sleep and whenever I smoke weed I get extreme anxiety. I don't know what to do

honestly for many months, i just was on relationship boards, reading and writing and letting things out. As well I would watch a ton of movies, read a ton of books, and try to keep busy. It was hard I remember suddenly my ex became the most beautiful girl ever in my eyes, id go out and see :noah: girls and it would have no effect on me all i wanted was her, it took me awhile. For sleeping just tire yourself out, go for a jog, eat a hearty meal, take a soothing bath.

The worst thing you can do is just stay idle like lying in bed, or hosed up in your house, the more you keep your mind busy the less you will think of her.

The feeling in your chest I know that feeling i've felt it when I was cheated on and also when I saw an aex with another guy, it sucks you just got to go through it.

Honestly if you can just go away, get a friend if you have time off go to vegas, or just take a few days of work, and drive a hour in any direction book a hotel hoom for the night go out and enjoy.

Also watch the movie swingers and forgetting sarah marshall both movies got me throuh tough times :heh:
 

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how is it that barack Obama the man in the relationship crosses his legs more often than Michelle?
 
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