Most of the player type dudes I know didn't end up marrying the finest. They ended up marrying somewhere around the 7 range or so. They've pretty much dealt with the fine broads and learned that past the looks, there's nothing special there. It's the woman that is loyal, does what he says, grinds for him, etc. that he finds actually adds value to his life. It's usually the dude that didn't get much women and now has a lot of money or is starting to get attention later on in life that ends up with the trophy wife to show he has game. These are the dudes that end up getting taken for their money or end up having to spend constantly to hopefully 'keep her satisfied'. Of course she never really is satisfied. She's most likely complaining that he's not doing enough for her despite him doing everything he can, while she's dealing with some bad boy on the side.
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i agree ive seen it to, ive dated fine women as well in my past, and the majority weren't loyal, talking to a bunch of guys, minus the looks offered nothing couldn't even cook.
Let me reiterate one more time. If you have to use cars, dinners or anything other than your personality and who you are to catch a broad, then leave her alone! You're telling her she is higher value than you if you need to 'give her something' in order for her to warm up to you. If a woman feels she is higher value than you, she won't deal with you for long or she will use and abuse you and toss you away. It's all about positioning with women. If she doesn't see you as higher value than her, then you're useless to her. By entering into the scene bearing gifts, you are playing a losing game.
it's good hearing about heartbroken on here, cause obviously i'm not the only one .. but i get worried when people say it took a while to get over it.
I don't want to have this feeling.. I just want to move on and find another girl. I think i'm at a point in my life where i'm looking for something stable and for the future.
She was something stable. That's why i can't stop thinking about the situation. Like she did so much for me. It's hard finding someone on your level where you can connect like that. If she didn't have the baggage, she would definitely the one i would have liked to spend the rest of my life with.
I don't want to have this feeling.. I just want to move on and find another girl. I think i'm at a point in my life where i'm looking for something stable and for the future.
She was something stable. That's why i can't stop thinking about the situation. Like she did so much for me. It's hard finding someone on your level where you can connect like that. If she didn't have the baggage, she would definitely the one i would have liked to spend the rest of my life with.
RealAssanova
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i've noticed it by the many weddings etc. I've attended and folks I've seen get married they pulled hotter looking women etc. but "settled" in terms of looks, its like the old analogy a dude can afford a ferrari but he drives a lexus the maintenance isn't worth it.
sadly it's true ex fiance had a abortion behind my back, ran up ccs to spit in my face when we broke up which ruined my credit. And my last car accident this year, I was driving a broad who was laid off and needed to pick up a check from her dads.
I've been played like a violin many times
holy shyt breh.
and you came out a wiser man afterwards.
my role model.
George Gooney
AA GANG AA GANG AA GANG
@kevm3 @His_Excellence_Reincar I gotta come at the OG's for this one...
So I've been seing this cool woman breh. I see long term potential but at the moment she makes more paper than me(more educated and a little older). Now it's obvious that she more stable than a youngin' and she doesn't seem to mind because she's seen my potential and she "doesn't care about money" in her words. Now I could probably milk it a little more and pay for NOTHING but that ain't my style. My question is... Do y'all see anything wrong or broke-nikka like by dating a woman willing to spend bread on you and not mind???
So I've been seing this cool woman breh. I see long term potential but at the moment she makes more paper than me(more educated and a little older). Now it's obvious that she more stable than a youngin' and she doesn't seem to mind because she's seen my potential and she "doesn't care about money" in her words. Now I could probably milk it a little more and pay for NOTHING but that ain't my style. My question is... Do y'all see anything wrong or broke-nikka like by dating a woman willing to spend bread on you and not mind???
nope nothing at allm the thing is, is she ok with it
ive told this story before, i was dating this broad who had her mba own condo making like 6 figures, anyways everythign was going allright she was paying for like dinner and stuff till she saw my car
, then she never talked to me again after that night.many women follow hypegamy and want their man to make more than them etc.
but times are changing imo more women than men are working, more women are in college than men and the wage gap is closing
Nah, there's nothing wrong with it as long as you aren't letting her little boy you with that money and you aren't going out there taking advantage of her, trying to peel her for all she has. Just remember if she's spending money on you, she's seeing you as a kind of investment, so the more you accept, the harder it will be for you to leave. Also, never let a woman use money or gifts to little boy you, aka control you and say stuff like, "Well I bought you this and that so you better do this for me."
George Gooney
AA GANG AA GANG AA GANG
Shorty Knows that I'm FAAARRR from balling! She is very cool with our situationnope nothing at allm the thing is, is she ok with it
ive told this story before, i was dating this broad who had her mba own condo making like 6 figures, anyways everythign was going allright she was paying for like dinner and stuff till she saw my car
many women follow hypegamy and want their man to make more than them etc.
but times are changing imo more women than men are working, more women are in college than men and the wage gap is closing
Nah never that with the little boy stuff. When we go out to eat dinner I ALWAYS pay. I just asked because I see she's willing to put up bread for your boy. for example if she knows I'm coming through to her place to chill she'll call me and ask questions like "I'm on my way to the supermarket, what do you wanna eat when you get here? What kind of snacks do you like?" Or she'll have some good food waiting for a brothah. The other day it was some gourmet looking pizza with olives and leaves n stuff on it
It tasted good tho. I definitely wouldn't try and use her because I care about her and that's not in my character. She just been making it real easy for a brothah. I even got a tooth brush over there at her spot.
it's good hearing about heartbroken on here, cause obviously i'm not the only one .. but i get worried when people say it took a while to get over it.
I don't want to have this feeling.. I just want to move on and find another girl. I think i'm at a point in my life where i'm looking for something stable and for the future.
She was something stable. That's why i can't stop thinking about the situation. Like she did so much for me. It's hard finding someone on your level where you can connect like that. If she didn't have the baggage, she would definitely the one i would have liked to spend the rest of my life with.
we've all been there breh, its a horrible feeling something i wouldn't wish on anyone, sad thing is it could take a few weeks, a few months, even longer. Even finding another girl even sleeping with another girl may not help, you never know. It took me travelling to jamaica to finally clear my mind and feel alive again.
All you can do is keep going, you never know when you may find another broad
Youseenmywork
KING
http://blog.sancheezie.com/2011/01/1-30-scale.html we need to get rid of the the 1-10 scale please !!!?
Beerus
Banned
So before yesterday I asked her out to the movies like after her finals, and she was like well I might be going on this trip to Boston(told me about it a few weeks back so i know it aint bullshyt), but we'll see...(shes done like in 10 days)
However iono if I fukked up. She asked me for some help on a french assignment like 15 mins(I speak french so it was easy shyt like make a summary+ opinion of 200 words each for 2 articles of 500 words) before I asked her out. So iono if this forced her to give me the response instead of a NO(like I really wasn't tryna ask her after but it was either that or I was finna have to call her another day for it and fukk a phone call if I can say fukk it). However when I asked her to go see american hustle she was like iono I wanna see Hunger Games....
so yeah now I just wait and I guess I'm either gon call her to see whats up after she done and try to set something up
man she looked so brehs
However iono if I fukked up. She asked me for some help on a french assignment like 15 mins(I speak french so it was easy shyt like make a summary+ opinion of 200 words each for 2 articles of 500 words) before I asked her out. So iono if this forced her to give me the response instead of a NO(like I really wasn't tryna ask her after but it was either that or I was finna have to call her another day for it and fukk a phone call if I can say fukk it). However when I asked her to go see american hustle she was like iono I wanna see Hunger Games....
so yeah now I just wait and I guess I'm either gon call her to see whats up after she done and try to set something up
man she looked so
brehs
Youseenmywork
KING
keep busy. it's crazy because when you're as down as you appear to be, the first thing you do is basically go into hiding. the worst thing you can do when you're feeling down is to be by yourself, yet that's our first action as people. round up ya boys and go play ball, work out, (i'd avoid bars and clubs because that's just alcohol and women) . you'll probably realize that you've neglected your friendships while you were being everything to your ex. that kind of stuff will take up most of your free time. when you're alone in the late evenings, start a brand new show on tv - one you wouldn't normally watch. i've found plenty of gems on netflix. cook, even if you don't eat it right then, you'll have something for work/later. free time is your enemy right now. pay close attention to your health as good eating and exercise can help regulate your body and therefore your sleep.