Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DaRealness]

Breh I don't even know why I'm hung over this bytch. The whole relationship I was scared that I'm gonna get her pregnant and I'll be stuck with her. She wanted more kids but I got her to put IUD so I pumped it every weekend. she would beg me to see her kids I would tell her no I can't cause honestly I never saw myself with her in the future. She wanted to meet my family and friends, but I was too embarrassed that they'll know I'm in love with a single mom. She said she felt like a secret and the whole two years she felt like she wasn't good enough for me. And that I just lead her on thinking that eventually I'll accept her and we will live happily ever after.

The heartbreak is real though. I'm just gonna focus on myself. I've already hit simp mode, thinking about her and her new guy. But I know with time it'll pass. Not for one second I will believe that they're just friends. I blocked her from everything and we don't have any mutual friends so I know there's very little chance that we will ever run into each other.

It is what it is. I told her I would meet her kid just to get her back. To be honest, she has two kids. Not one. So even more reason to run the fck away. I just still don't get it why after I told her off she was like I can still meet them. Does she think there's a chance or am I just reading too much into it?

One thing I've learned about the women in my life (family, 'friends', romantic) is that most of the time the shyt they say and do has no rhyme or reason. Why she's still asking for you to meet her kid(s) simply doesn't make sense to me. From what I'm reading in your posts, the damage is already done and the fact that another dude is in the picture makes it even more of a no no. The whole thing seems like a convoluted mess that you're both better off just moving on from instead of complicating it even further.

Like you said, at least you both don't have mutual friends so that makes it even better. Just put it down to experience.

it sucks but i legit think heartbreak and being torn is needed. If not I would still hold women in regard as these angels who can do no wrong. The one thing i have learned and put into practice these past few years is not to settle, back in the days if she was attractive that was it, I was in all red flags an dall that's all i care about. Now i'm very very very careful who to let in my inner even to casual date. I know firsthand the wrong woman can destroy you and set you back.

That's the way to be. I know all the superhero cape wearing simps think otherwise, but the truth is you have to be careful with women. Powerful men have been destroyed right from ancient times to the present day, very rare do you see it the other way around. That's not some misogynistic shyt either, it's truth. The other day I was joking about hooking up with a chick at my cousin's birthday tomorrow, but now I don't even wanna do that. Something in my spirit told me earlier today to just focus on self and leave all that bullshyt for the future, so I'm gonna go with my gut instinct.

 

[MikelArteta]

One thing I've learned about the women in my life (family, 'friends', romantic) is that most of the time the shyt they say and do has no rhyme or reason. Why she's still asking for you to meet her kid(s) simply doesn't make sense to me. From what I'm reading in your posts, the damage is already done and the fact that another dude is in the picture makes it even more of a no no. The whole thing seems like a convoluted mess that you're both better off just moving on from instead of complicating it even further.

Like you said, at least you both don't have mutual friends so that makes it even better. Just put it down to experience.



That's the way to be. I know all the superhero cape wearing simps think otherwise, but the truth is you have to be careful with women. Powerful men have been destroyed right from ancient times to the present day, very rare do you see it the other way around. That's not some misogynistic shyt either, it's truth. The other day I was joking about hooking up with a chick at my cousin's birthday tomorrow, but now I don't even wanna do that. Something in my spirit told me earlier today to just focus on self and leave all that bullshyt for the future, so I'm gonna go with my gut instinct.

.Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings

Samson was judge of Israel, but the conniving whore Delilah brought him down to terrible destruction. David had a harem of wives, but taking the wife of one of his best friends brought him sore trouble, nearly destroyed his kingdom, and cost him dearly for the rest of his life. His son Solomon followed David’s horrible example against his own wisdom and is left in ignominy and shame in the Bible

http://www.amiannoying.com/(S(0elzyzlabzijwoilbv25iyfp))/collection.aspx?collection=476

 

[MikelArteta]

Be a 2nd string daddy to a post-Wall single mother, brehs:

http://www.theawl.com/2013/12/ask-polly-i-am-severely-chafed-by-my-gentle-compassionate-boyfriend

He is so very patient and loving with my child. Because of these traits, I find myself feeling less attracted to him physically. He seems meek. It is truly something sick. I have a hard time looking at him on occasion, because every little quiver, every timid step, every noise he makes while eating makes my skin crawl. He follows me around and paws at me. He is far less experienced than I am in the bedroom, and yet I do not know how to let him know what I like, because he is not keeping up with me in that department.


this sickens me

 

[DaRealness]

How did you force yourself to sleep. This is what I'm having extreme difficulties with. I can't sleep. It takes me a while just to fall asleep and then it's only for one or 2 hours. Then I'm awake thinking again . It's agony and unbearable. I have this weird feeling in my chest. I've been heartbroken before and I've never felt like this. I want this feeling to go away. I don't want to use and abuse alcohol to get to sleep and whenever I smoke weed I get extreme anxiety. I don't know what to do

Have you considered counseling/therapy? Because that might help.

Although it's a temporary fix, but for sleeping I've had prescription tablets prescribed - bear in mind it's only a temporary fix. Other times the pain was so great that I'd deliberately sleep during the day just to take my mind off things. I also took some organic natural herbs like Valerian Root, Kava Kava (the much better alternative) that helps you to relax and go to sleep easier. I ordered those from dhealthstore.com. they have other herbs on there that help deal with depression, anxiety etc without all the junk

Being immersed in my work helped me too. Plus meditation, listening to positive audios, CDs etc helped get me through. Just all these things combined helped me get through it.

But ultimately time is the great healer. Last summer for me was horrendous, but this year has been a lot easier. Shyt, when I was in the DR I was flirting with women like there was no tomorrow. It was good for a self esteem boost lol.

People get through these things differently, but never touch drugs or alcohol. Eventually you get to a state when you realise there's always hope and it's a chance for a new beginning. Millions of people around the world have been through it and have come out the other side successfully.

 

[MikelArteta]

Have you considered counseling/therapy? Because that might help.

Although it's a temporary fix, but for sleeping I've had prescription tablets prescribed - bear in mind it's only a temporary fix. Other times the pain was so great that I'd deliberately sleep during the day just to take my mind off things. I also took some organic natural herbs like Valerian Root, Kava Kava (the much better alternative) that helps you to relax and go to sleep easier. I ordered those from dhealthstore.com. they have other herbs on there that help deal with depression, anxiety etc without all the junk

Being immersed in my work helped me too. Plus meditation, listening to positive audios, CDs etc helped get me through. Just all these things combined helped me get through it.

But ultimately time is the great healer. Last summer for me was horrendous, but this year has been a lot easier. Shyt, when I was in the DR I was flirting with women like there was no tomorrow. It was good for a self esteem boost lol.

People get through these things differently, but never touch drugs or alcohol. Eventually you get to a state when you realise there's always hope and it's a chance for a new beginning. Millions of people around the world have been through it and have come out the other side successfully.

like i mentioned above travelling is great, you realize hey my only issue is heartbroke? people here have no food no water, broke as hell and would love to be in your position.

plus the amount of hot women


When I broke up wiht my ex fiance i was in the dump for months and months, it took me going to jamaica for 1 week and I did not think of her once basically cured me.

 

[DaRealness]

.Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings

Samson was judge of Israel, but the conniving whore Delilah brought him down to terrible destruction. David had a harem of wives, but taking the wife of one of his best friends brought him sore trouble, nearly destroyed his kingdom, and cost him dearly for the rest of his life. His son Solomon followed David’s horrible example against his own wisdom and is left in ignominy and shame in the Bible

http://www.amiannoying.com/(S(0elzyzlabzijwoilbv25iyfp))/collection.aspx?collection=476

I know that bible story. Even though I personally don't take it literally, the fact is you see examples of this in the present day. These bible characters were the wisest of men and they STILL suffered the downfall as a result of dealing with the wrong female. It's not even a stretch, because all you have to do is read of all these dumb ass athletes and entertainers who knowingly hook up with whores, other dude's men, strippers, golddiggers, Superheads etc and see how they get plundered financially and emotionally. All these examples have been around for thousands of years and dudes can never learn from other men's mistakes. I've seen some of it on this very forum..."Oh there's this married chick at my workplace who has three kids and I've met the husband, but I can't resist her cos she has a fat ass...." Like, really dude!? Even though you might warn them against it until you're blue in the face, they'll still pursue and risk destroying their own lives.

But ultimately, women can only do what you allow them to. All you have to do is exercise self control, discipline, common sense, caution and you'll be pretty much untouchable. Like I said, it makes me wish I was asexual sometimes.

 

[twan83]

i see it happen all the time breh, has happaned to me, people I know and the cycle continues. It will frustrate you to the core.

I was a man raised on principles and morals, a man who has never cheated, raised a hand, only has been faithful and treated any girl I dated with respect and Love.

Yet all I have been is cheated on, manipulated, lied to, used, false accusations, name slandered, dumped, lucky to get a second date.

And when I had my 6 months of rampage of #HOH, i was sleeping around, treating women like gum under my shoe and yet I was respected, yet I was getting laid on the first night, yet women were driving to come see me, buying me food, gifts, calling m ea @sshole and a misogynst but still couldn't give me up.

And it makes you think and its very frustrating but ah well

this is why i respect the shyt outta u

i mean when ur a good guy and u get shytted on bad that #HOH goes in too full force and thats what i did and even know I'm still that way now.
even though I'm with someone fukk i look like if u think u gonna disrespect me or attempt too ass better
i aint changing for no one but myself or kids and thats too be a better person.

i tell people i got a good marriage but if u think shyt is perfect or she is fukk outta here. she knows i dont play and if she step outta line #HOH goes in effect and she stops thinks bout what she did was wrong and apologizes now if i was wrong she will explain it too me in dummy terms so i can understand (sometimes i dont understand things i do wrong) and i see it and i apologize

i get that do u think she cheating aka sharing that girl. i go i dont know or care but in this way. she has given me no signs she has and if she does she will get caught one way or another. fukk i look like stressing out if she doing dirt i aint got time for that i got kids and they are my priority. sure if i think she is i will look into otherwise i aint thinking bout that nonsense
i tell people male or female if they wanna cheat they gonna and aint shyt u can do bout it but accept the reality of the situation
the question is will u leave them or stay with them and forgive em the choice is yours

i get asked your wife is beautiful but u used too pull hella dimes why settle on her for looks. i go if i wanna dime piece too be a trophy wife i marry one. i go its simple overall she exceeds anyone i been with in the overall department
then i go will your wife fukk u on a daily basis without even asking, cook, clean, have a decent job, go too school too make more money, spoil u with money, long hours of convo etc..........

they go no she won't then i got exactly

i get what if things dont work out

i go i'll be fine she aint my world and can be replaced but my kids are irreplaceable and thats all that matters. I've been heartbroken before and i know how too manage and get over it not gonna mope around imma be doing other shyt and moving on with my life

 

[DaRealness]

like i mentioned above travelling is great, you realize hey my only issue is heartbroke? people here have no food no water, broke as hell and would love to be in your position.

plus the amount of hot women


When I broke up wiht my ex fiance i was in the dump for months and months, it took me going to jamaica for 1 week and I did not think of her once basically cured me.

Yeah, I've learned that some people have it way worse than we do. Not only do these people suffer poverty, but they also have the risk of tsunamis, earthquakes, wanton violence etc. Some people have lost whole families for several reasons with very little to no governmental support. Just look at some of these towns in Mexico or Brazil where the murder rate is way off the chain and you're at the mercy of drugs cartels and corrupt police and government officials who run everything.

We have it way easier compared to a lot of people around the world.

 

[kevm3]

What ends up healing those wounds is TIME and a realization that she wasn't 'the one'. You just have to wait it out until those feelings disappear off of you, but you'll get back to normal. This is why I say never to get too emotionally caught up on a woman. You never know what they will do next.

 

[RealAssanova]

happens to everyone, look i've had women cheated on me, an abortion behind my back, left me in high 5 figure debt, ruined my credit, been in a car accident while trying to help out a woman and even then in the end a part of you still wants her even though you know she is no good and a detriment ot your life.

I've been there breh, sorry to say they ain't friends, and he is probably hitting it. I know it sucks we all like to imagine our exes or women we loved just sad, eating ice cream watching romantic movies thinking about us, when in reality they out clubbing, random dudes grinding on them, sucking dikk getting their brains screwed out

and see two kids even more red flags, but I know it still hurts, all you can do is let time do its part, one day you'll meet a great girl and she'll be in the back of your min dand you will realize its for the best until that day

Goddamn breh...tell me dat shyt ain't true.

no rein....



nah breh.

Toronto h0es.

I'mma shyt on all em and dedicate every log in your name my hoodbridge nikka.

 

[kevm3]

This is what simping gets you


She came out and didn't even hug him or say thank you lol.

 

[Shameonyou]

This is what simping gets you


She came out and didn't even hug him or say thank you lol.

lol the situations just write themselves smfh

 

[MikelArteta]

this is why i respect the shyt outta u

i mean when ur a good guy and u get shytted on bad that #HOH goes in too full force and thats what i did and even know I'm still that way now.
even though I'm with someone fukk i look like if u think u gonna disrespect me or attempt too ass better
i aint changing for no one but myself or kids and thats too be a better person.

i tell people i got a good marriage but if u think shyt is perfect or she is fukk outta here. she knows i dont play and if she step outta line #HOH goes in effect and she stops thinks bout what she did was wrong and apologizes now if i was wrong she will explain it too me in dummy terms so i can understand (sometimes i dont understand things i do wrong) and i see it and i apologize

i get that do u think she cheating aka sharing that girl. i go i dont know or care but in this way. she has given me no signs she has and if she does she will get caught one way or another. fukk i look like stressing out if she doing dirt i aint got time for that i got kids and they are my priority. sure if i think she is i will look into otherwise i aint thinking bout that nonsense
i tell people male or female if they wanna cheat they gonna and aint shyt u can do bout it but accept the reality of the situation
the question is will u leave them or stay with them and forgive em the choice is yours

i get asked your wife is beautiful but u used too pull hella dimes why settle on her for looks. i go if i wanna dime piece too be a trophy wife i marry one. i go its simple overall she exceeds anyone i been with in the overall department
then i go will your wife fukk u on a daily basis without even asking, cook, clean, have a decent job, go too school too make more money, spoil u with money, long hours of convo etc..........

they go no she won't then i got exactly

i get what if things dont work out

i go i'll be fine she aint my world and can be replaced but my kids are irreplaceable and thats all that matters. I've been heartbroken before and i know how too manage and get over it not gonna mope around imma be doing other shyt and moving on with my life

i've noticed it by the many weddings etc. I've attended and folks I've seen get married they pulled hotter looking women etc. but "settled" in terms of looks, its like the old analogy a dude can afford a ferrari but he drives a lexus the maintenance isn't worth it.

right now in my life I'd rather just sit back and if a great woman comes along then , if not , i'm to old and wise to go through that stress and heartbreak for a broad anymore

 

[MikelArteta]

i've noticed it by the many weddings etc. I've attended and folks I've seen get married they pulled hotter looking women etc. but "settled" in terms of looks, its like the old analogy a dude can afford a ferrari but he drives a lexus the maintenance isn't worth it.

Goddamn breh...tell me dat shyt ain't true.

no rein....



nah breh.

Toronto h0es.

I'mma shyt on all em and dedicate every log in your name my hoodbridge nikka.

sadly it's true ex fiance had a abortion behind my back, ran up ccs to spit in my face when we broke up which ruined my credit. And my last car accident this year, I was driving a broad who was laid off and needed to pick up a check from her dads.

I've been played like a violin many times

 

[twan83]

i've noticed it by the many weddings etc. I've attended and folks I've seen get married they pulled hotter looking women etc. but "settled" in terms of looks, its like the old analogy a dude can afford a ferrari but he drives a lexus the maintenance isn't worth it.

right now in my life I'd rather just sit back and if a great woman comes along then , if not , i'm to old and wise to go through that stress and heartbreak for a broad anymore

c/s thats what i would do if i was i single be like she comes great she doth great either way I'm always gonna be

great analogy too