Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[m@jestic]

"she deserves so much more, she's a great girl, i should take my time with her and give her what she wants because she's shy and delicate' she..."

realize 9.5 times out of 10 this is your mind filling the blanks. Most of the time you will say this about a chick because that's how you feel about it. this is what she evokes. but it's all a trick. we are all magicians without realizing it. we do it by accident most of the times (both men and women). it's all misdirection, smoke and mirrors, the power of suggestion and all that. when you start feeling these things about a chick (she's the coolest, greatest, sweetest, etc) take a step back and think about why she is all that and be cold and real with yourself. what concrete things that you have seen (not extrapolated or imagined) make her great compared to other girls? you'll find that a lot of times you don't know much and your mind just filled in the blanks with a bias in her favor. it's to the point where even if she does something you don't like or respect, your mind will race to find a possible excuse for her so that the portrait your created in your mind can remain intact. and the longer you keep painting that portray the more protective you will be of it because it's your baby and masterpiece. always try to remain as objective as possible.

we're all magicians performing for eachother. most of us aren't aware of it but the ones that are and that try to create the best magic tricks is what we call "players".

Some real talk breh,

It very much ties into what some of the earlier discussions about keeping a girl in check in the early days and not tolerating any disrespect weather it be covert or overt. It's very easy to make them excuses in the early days when it's all going well but it really does come back and bite you on the ass later down the line.

I advise all the brehs out there to tell the girl from the jump that you won't tolerate any bs or games and make sure she knows that you will leave her at the drop of a hat. I know to some this will sound counter-productive but in reality your placing a high value upon yourself which will make you appear more desirable and also display to the girl a level of maturity, your not willing to put up with any bs.

 

[The Frozen One]

Hell if you want should change your number . I know those msgs can set back sometimes

Ya it did bring up some emotions, but I've had those # for a while and I'm not gonna just change it. Should I tell her to call the company directly and find out? I don't know why she just doesn't call them. It's so dumb. Everything is already done on my end. She just has to call. How lazy can someone be?

 

[m@jestic]

Ya it did bring up some emotions, but I've had those # for a while and I'm not gonna just change it. Should I tell her to call the company directly and find out? I don't know why she just doesn't call them. It's so dumb. Everything is already done on my end. She just has to call. How lazy can someone be?

She's not being lazy breh, she's just using it as a control mechanism.

I'd consider writing the money off personally as the amount of energy exerted in order to get your return may not be worth the effort. Getting these toxic females out of your life can really give you a new lease of life.

 

[Turbulent]

Some real talk breh,

It very much ties into what some of the earlier discussions about keeping a girl in check in the early days and not tolerating any disrespect weather it be covert or overt. It's very easy to make them excuses in the early days when it's all going well but it really does come back and bite you on the ass later down the line.

I advise all the brehs out there to tell the girl from the jump that you won't tolerate any bs or games and make sure she knows that you will leave her at the drop of a hat. I know to some this will sound counter-productive but in reality your placing a high value upon yourself which will make you appear more desirable and also display to the girl a level of maturity, your not willing to put up with any bs.

yup, and also not just tell her but also follow through on your word. When a chick really respects and love you, she will remember EVERY SINGLE WORD you say to her because to her it represents instructions on how to make you happy (which in turn will make you feel like making her happy). this is with the good stuff as well as when you check her. Checking her is all good but everytime you don't follow through you dilute the potency of your word. hat's why i say, never bluff when checking a chick. if you're not sure you can follow through, you might as well not say anything cause at least then you won't lose respect. words are like currency. in reality it's cheap (money is just a piece of paper, words are just sounds we make with our mouths). it's all about how you manage to give it value. words are given value by actions that back them.

 

[m@jestic]

yup, and also not just tell her but also follow through on your word. When a chick really respects and love you, she will remember EVERY SINGLE WORD you say to her because to her it represents instructions on how to make you happy (which in turn will make you feel like making her happy). this is with the good stuff as well as when you check her. Checking her is all good but everytime you don't follow through you dilute the potency of your word. hat's why i say, never bluff when checking a chick. if you're not sure you can follow through, you might as well not say anything cause at least then you won't lose respect. words are like currency. in reality it's cheap (money is just a piece of paper, words are just sounds we make with our mouths). it's all about how you manage to give it value. words are given value by actions that back them.

This is the gospel truth brehs.

To a woman everything you say is a promise so guard your words wisely and don't speak for the sake of it.

I've had ex's throw all types of off the cuff comments in my face which they claimed was a promise but in reality it was just a throw away comment.

 

[The Frozen One]

yup, and also not just tell her but also follow through on your word. When a chick really respects and love you, she will remember EVERY SINGLE WORD you say to her because to her it represents instructions on how to make you happy (which in turn will make you feel like making her happy). this is with the good stuff as well as when you check her. Checking her is all good but everytime you don't follow through you dilute the potency of your word. hat's why i say, never bluff when checking a chick. if you're not sure you can follow through, you might as well not say anything cause at least then you won't lose respect. words are like currency. in reality it's cheap (money is just a piece of paper, words are just sounds we make with our mouths). it's all about how you manage to give it value. words are given value by actions that back them.

You just reminded me of her

I made too many promises to her and things that I didn't even mean as promises she would hold me to it and get angry cause I didn't keep my word.

Btw I told her she got till the end of the month but no mention of the credit card. Should I bring up? It's a good time as any since she initiated contact.

Edit: fukk it I asked. I need to know.

Edit: this bytch is just mind fukkkng me.

"Hey I just wanted to say I am sorry that we are where we are. It's unfortunate that it came to this.... I really wish you the best in your life and lifetime of happiness. You will do amazing things in your life. So I just wanted to tell you that."

I gave this bytch every opportunity to come back.

fukk my life now she's blowing up my phone .. She's asking me why I deleted her from my life and that I didn't have to bring up the money. She's aware and she'll make payment this week. I'm keep the text as a recording.

 

[Turbulent]

You just reminded me of her

I made too many promises to her and things that I didn't even mean as promises she would hold me to it and get angry cause I didn't keep my word.

Btw I told her she got till the end of the month but no mention of the credit card. Should I bring up? It's a good time as any since she initiated contact.

Edit: fukk it I asked. I need to know.

the bold is why she's not in a hurry to pay you. she thinks you're just talking (and why wouldn't she think that? this is the standard you have set so far)

as far as getting the money, their are currently two things that tie you to her. the cellphone line and the money. If she pays you and takes the line, she loses her power over you and has no way of evoking emotion out of you (even if it's negative feelings). The only way you MIGHT get your money back one day is if you stop rewarding her "not paying you" with attention and energy. instead, reward her when she makes installments on the money she owes. Once you stop giving a fukk about her and that money and sees she can't manipulate you with it, she'll suddenly try to dangle that carrot in front of you (just like she wanted you to meet her kid again once you stopped giving a fukk about meeting him).

 

[The Frozen One]

the bold is why she's not in a hurry to pay you. she thinks you're just talking (and why wouldn't she think that? this is the standard you have set so far)

as far as getting the money, their are currently two things that tie you to her. the cellphone line and the money. If she pays you and takes the line, she loses her power over you and has no way of evoking emotion out of you (even if it's negative feelings). The only way you MIGHT get your money back one day is if you stop rewarding her "not paying you" with attention and energy. instead, reward her when she makes installments on the money she owes. Once you stop giving a fukk about her and that money and sees she can't manipulate you with it, she'll suddenly try to dangle that carrot in front of you (just like she wanted you to meet her kid again once you stopped giving a fukk about meeting him).

i see what you're saying breh. I just wanted to have something on record that she owes me money. So I screenshoted the text and didn't reply. I already explained to this bytch so many times why i will cut her completely from my life and she asks me a dumb question .. I think she just misses me and i know where the conversation would lead to if i keep it going.

 

[Turbulent]

one game i advise people to get into as a hobby is chess.

that game will teach you about life and yourself. it will teach you about:

-action/reaction
-multitasking (defending and attacking)
-adapting
-options
-pragmatism and not taking things personal
-seizing opportunity
-honesty
-patience
-belief in yourself
-your ego
-your insecurity
-perseverance
-focus
-your greed

 

[MikelArteta]

1,000 is a lot of money, like I said I'm in the same boat as you.

What I would do is just say send me aoneh transfer the 15th of every month and that's that.

Foe the phone is just cancel she's on her own and don't look back, don't text sent be friendly

 

[Atlrocafella]

Oh look who's texting. Ol girl who Had a paper to work on when school was done

 

[CASHAPP]

 

[OSUBaneBrowns]

 

[OSUBaneBrowns]

Guys,

How do you deal with getting stood up from a chic that you been dating for a while? This chic that I been seeing for about three months stood me up yesterday for a date. Pretty much, I text her on Saturday to see what days that she was free and she stated that she was free on Monday for a date. I called on Monday afternoon just to confirm but I didn't get a answer. I didn't receive any response from her for the rest of yesterday and so far today. I'm not going to call her until she contacts me but should I start preparing to send her to the bushes or just give her a firm warning if/when she responds? A part of me feel that I should have sent another text/call but I also know that she is around her phone so a missed call from me would have pop up and that should have trigger a reminder about our date for yesterday.

 

[George Gooney]

Guys,

How do you deal with getting stood up from a chic that you been dating for a while? This chic that I been seeing for about three months stood me up yesterday for a date. Pretty much, I text her on Saturday to see what days that she was free and she stated that she was free on Monday for a date. I called on Monday afternoon just to confirm but I didn't get a answer. I didn't receive any response from her for the rest of yesterday and so far today. I'm not going to call her until she contacts me but should I start preparing to send her to the bushes or just give her a firm warning if/when she responds? A part of me feel that I should have sent another text/call but I also know that she is around her phone so a missed call from me would have pop up and that should have trigger a reminder about our date for yesterday.

That's her one and only strike. Don't contact until she contacts you... If she doesn't contact within a week with a good(believable) excuse... BUSHES