Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Ohene

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All that butterflies head over heels is bs

It only lasts in the honeymoon period like the first 3-5 months of a relationship

Its the drug of novelty like watching a movie or binge watching on Netflix
It's not healthy for a man to be in such a state regardless...because most times when a guy is head over heels he lets his guard completely down. And without discipline and principles a man has nothing.
 

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The first love is the best because there are no rules and you are innocent you fall like crazy.

You do things you'd never do again then you get burned.

And your heart becomes different,.

I remember my first and even second love. It was like a fairy tale somewhat but now I enter relationships with cynicism.

There's only two paths in relationships marriage or heartbreak.

I already know I'll never be able to fully trust or fully love another woman again.

Because with experience you know words are just words.

Actions can change, people change. Km not even the same person I was at 25. Women I liked a few years ago wouldn't even meet my basic standards.







LOL this is a good discussion.

Love is pretty much just an attachment. I dont see much of a difference between the two so to me it's nothing special man. That's why after the first heartbreak a lot of dudes say they'll probably never love the same again; its because theyve learned not to get attached or that it brings more negative than positive. You can love cigarettes but that doesnt mean cigarettes are good for you. It's just that the nicotine has created an attachment; a dependency so to speak and that is where the whole neurotransmitter/chemical stuff I mentioned comes into play. How many people later on tell you that they wish they never began smoking cigarettes because now they can't stop even though they want to. It's the same thing.

Thats why I say mostly, true love can only exist between a parent and his or her seed. Think about it...most dudes here have probably been broken up with my a chick or vice versa and it was like all those feelings of "love" between the two persons went out the window.All of a sudden the victim finds themselves competing with their ex girlfriend trying to live better than them. All of a sudden theyre getting feelings of resentment, envy and in some cases even hoping their ex experiences some sort of misfortune. Is that real love? Compared to a mother who still loves her son regardless of how criminalistic, mischievous or bad of a person he is.

Like I said, just be rational breh. There's a lot more science and psychology to this relationship/love stuff than meets the eye. You'd be surprised.
 

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Its true, you simp. You give leeway, benefit of the doubt, even would consider taking back a cheater.

Your emotions take over the steering wheel

You basically put the control of your heart in the hand of another


It's not healthy for a man to be in such a state regardless...because most times when a guy is head over heels he lets his guard completely down. And without discipline and principles a man has nothing.
 

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I don't even think I can love again, I've seen the dangers.

I'm not even a sap or anything like that but the recovery process wasn't nice.

I was lucky my first heartbreak wasn't really in the social media stage and I didn't even have a smart phone.

My second I stalked on Facebook for like 6 months daily like some drug addict.

Now you don't even need fb can just have a number in WhatsApp and see your ex ugly mug with a new nukka


To me love is overrated, I like to be in control of my emotions at all time.

I've had like ten women yell me they love me

I've only loved two
 

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Females get so caught up in love, butterflies, chemistry and all that bs.

Why they hop from relationship to relationship


A female wkl date you for a month and drop the l word


With women JTS all about feelings.

"I just never felt this way before"




Lots if good point being made.

I guess love is just some bullshyt.

I stick with ol girl tho until shyt fall apart.
 
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My personal principles that keep me simp/stress free:

"It's not your p*ssy, just your turn."

"Everything a female says is a lie until proven otherwise."

"All relationships are temporary, the other person either leaves or dies."

"Never send a text or email to a female that you wouldn't want posted on a Jumbotron screen for others to see."
 

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I was talking to one of my female coworkers and her advice was to date ugly

Because ugly wouldn't want to.lose lose you and you'd be their prize


And I said even a hideous ugly woman nowwdays has a filled pof box and 1,000 tinder matches
Pretty much.

There will always be a taller dude
There will always be a smarter dude
There will always be a dude with a better job title
There will always be a dude with that 2015 BMW 740 even though you just copped the 2014 9 months ago
There will always be a dude with more bread
There will always be a dude who's more handsome
There will always be a dude with a bigger house
There will always be a dude whos funnier or wittier

etc etc.

And with all this, there will always be a dude that a female can attain that she perceives to be an upgrade over you. Same can be said for a man wanting a better girl.

Theres no shortcuts to this shyt.
 
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There will always be a "newer" dude as well





Pretty much.

There will always be a taller dude
There will always be a smarter dude
There will always be a dude with a better job title
There will always be a dude with that 2015 BMW 740 even though you just copped the 2014 9 months ago
There will always be a dude with more bread
There will always be a dude who's more handsome
There will always be a dude with a bigger house
There will always be a dude whos funnier or wittier

etc etc.

And with all this, there will always be a dude that a female can attain that she perceives to be an upgrade over you.

Theres no shortcuts to this shyt.
 

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Chick is loyal, she smart she just need somebody to guide her ( which at this point in my young life i have no time for)

I think i would be much happier if i found her 4 years later when she more grown and has more money.

But why do i still talk to other women even tho most of the time they come at i still play the game , Even tho it wrong maybe im just a no good nikka like my pops

I was in your position about 9 years ago. GF was in love w me, but I didn't feel the same way. I had been in love twice before, so I knew what was what. Had to break up with her cuz she was starting to involve me more in her family trips and I wasn't trying to involve myself in all that if I didn't see a long term future with her. Broke up with her.

2 months later started dating my now wife. Probably would've missed out on that had I stayed in a relationship I knew wasnt going to go anywhere just because nothing was wrong with her.
 

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Like I've said before when a woman is into you, you don't have to do anything.

Enjoy it




I'm not even doing much and I already have this girl so enamored with me that she's going to take a trip from Japan just to come see me. :banderas:

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:wow:
 

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Yup
As well why when a woman goes cold just eject because there is one out there who will be hot for you.





That Japanese girl right there just shows you how different it is when a woman is actually feeling you. This is why it's important to avoid women who have a low interest level. A lot of guys get into dealing with a woman who isn't very interested in them and try to compensate with dinners and circus tricks, while there is a woman who can't wait to be in their presence and they have to do nothing other than be themselves. One of the best realizations a man can come to in my opinion is simply being yourself while recognizing which women like you and which ones don't and stop wasting times with the ones who don't particularly care for you.
 
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