Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

meh...even if she isnt completely busy she has a right to want alone time.

it looks like the two of em dont really know eachother like that yet.

No need to put thought into a reply. Either suggest something for next weekend or just say cool...keep it moving...and then when next weekend rolls around suggest something

if a female likes you trust me doesn't matter how "early" it is

when i was big on online dating, id talk to a chick at like 9am and meet her at 6pm that same night and she was down for it.

whenever a woman doesn't have time for me especially early on its bushes

shes just not into you

"im booked" more than likely = dates with other negros

next week nothing yet, so of course she can fit you in

 

[¯\_(ツ)_/¯]

simple delete and get on with your life

if a woman is really interested in you, she would make time, there are 48 hours in a weekend she can't take a few out to meet you?

when a woman tells you she is busy, you are not a priority but a option, but of course next week you can take her out for dinner and a movie.

So you have no life, that you sit by and wait?

if that was me I'd be like I have plans next weekend and take the power right back from her.

Women don't speak black/white but in the grey area

I was taken back by the whole "I'm an a$$hole" line than the "I'm booked" line. But I agree, I'm not asking for a whole day to meet, just a few hours MAX.

 

[Rich Spirit]

if a female likes you trust me doesn't matter how "early" it is

when i was big on online dating, id talk to a chick at like 9am and meet her at 6pm that same night and she was down for it.

whenever a woman doesn't have time for me especially early on its bushes

shes just not into you

"im booked" more than likely = dates with other negros

next week nothing yet, so of course she can fit you in

yep and you know when that week comes, she's gonna say some shyt like "damn i forgot about this thing im suppose to do, totally slipped my mind, i'm sorry....maybe next week?"

 

[Ohene]

yep and you know when that week comes, she's gonna say some shyt like "damn i forgot about this thing im suppose to do, totally slipped my mind, i'm sorry....maybe next week?"

this i agree with

 

[Jone2three45]

One major thing that I learnt from this thread and it played out in my life. Modern day women get off on a roller coaster of emotions. Most women will require you to play with their emotions. Make them cry, make them happy, make them angry etc. Most nice guys are always trying to make a woman happy, that woman will quickly get bored.

I learnt this lesson during summer with this lady I was seeing. I'm a calm and collected dude and takes a lot to get me angry. This chick pushed me to my limits. She disrespected me in front of friends. Later that night, just the two of us, we cursed each other out and had an aggressive argument for like two straight hours. She had never seen that side of me. After the argument, things were resolved. The next week,this chick was calling me everyday, begging me to spend the night at hers,cooking (even though she is one of these modern woman who hates cooking) the meals I love and fukking me like a mad woman starving for d1ck.

It was a real enlightenment, however I'm not gonna fake arguments or create situations so a woman gets her rocks off. However I learnt if a female needs checking, she will get checked with a firm hand. Dont be always out to make a woman happy, give her what she deserves. Thats why these woman stay running back to dudes who make her cry, feel like sh!t, make her laugh, ignore her, make her happy. Play with a girls emotions,these chicks love living in their emotions. Thats why the best movies can make us cry, laugh, happy, angry in one movie, these modern type women get off that. If you always trying to make a modern woman happy all the time, you losing. The modern day woman will find you boring.

there is a reason why soaps are catered to women, and r&b etc., the drama, the discord, the emotional highs. It's why they stick with cheaters, abusers, "bad boys" because they never know what side they going to get.

when it comes down to it, i'd rather be single and find someone like me (yes they do exist in rare qualities), than to get with a chick and stir up all these emotional highs.

I'm a "nice guy" not in the realm of being a doormat, just that I treat people with respect have a heart for others, I'm slow to anger and by slow I mean really really slow, if a woman disrespects me, I'll bring it to the forefront and if I don't like what I[m seeing I'm gone and I'll never utter another word till death.

Like I said before the girl i was dating last year, she thought I was the pushover nice guy simp she was probably used to because she looked pretty and I'm a laid back dude at my core, but once she disrespected me and got distant that was it, no fight or arguement, no asking why, i just vanished

There is so much power in silence - Silence is a key negotiation technique. Silence tends to make people feel uncomfortable

Women want to draw you in and test you and see you get angry and argue, but I don't fall for them traps. I love silence because I never have to apologize or take back something said at a emotional state of outburst

The main reason people will contact you out of nowhere is because they want to see how you living. They want to see if they are living better than you. If she asks you how you been, you either don't reply and ignore her or if you do reply, be a dikk about it. Tell her you been feeling great. She'll hate that but she'll also be intrigued. From this point you can fukk around with her or chunk up the deuce, whichever.. It could be funny but I prefer to just ignore broads.

this is all real shyt.

 

[MikelArteta]

I was taken back by the whole "I'm an a$$hole" line than the "I'm booked" line. But I agree, I'm not asking for a whole day to meet, just a few hours MAX.

chick screams drama to me

im telling you no women is that BUSY

late last year I had vacation days and my passport expired so i could only travel inside the country, the last chick i got with about 3000 miles away told me why don't you come back and we can hang so i said cool. I booked the trip I told her the dates she knew.

a week before I brought it up so my plane lands at sso and so, and shes like omg I forgot i'm busy i'm working. (b*tch i flew 5 friggin hours) I wasn't born yesterday I already know what what a womens "busy" means

I was there for 5 days 4 nights and she couldn't even take a hour to come see me. Later I find out her "busy" was basically another guy (which i already knew because im a step ahead)

of course i blocked and deleted, even as a friend I don't need liars in my life

I still had a great time anyways , but i'm just illustrating to you when women drop that "im booked, im busy" its straight ducktales

if a woman is into you nothing else matters, she can get shot at 12pm in the arm and will still be at dinner at 6.

I've had chicks early on in the vetting stage drive in snowstorms, chicks drive 3 hours away, chicks skip school, call in sick for work to chill.

Even if a chick was working like 9-9 on a saturday, ive met them for breakfest at starbucks or ish

if a chick is to "busy" at the beg when women are so "infatuated" and get caught up in chemistry and all that other bs its bushes

 

[kevm3]

If a woman tells you she's crazy, she's this or she's that, believe her. Also, like Reincar said, if a woman really digs you, she'll find a way to make time. they'll drop whatever they're doing to come and chill

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

I'm on the fence about that reply @JUSE_HEDD

There are times when a woman is completely busy but more often that not if she really wanted to chill she'd find time. But I would also need to know more about the deal with y'all. If you two just started talkin she might not be comfortable with meeting yet for a few reasons. Yes, she could have other options, more than likely does but I don't know how your previous convos have gone. If y'all are in the real early stages maybe it's worth it to see what she says for next weekend but if I was you I wouldn't try to set something up now. I'd be very cautious and see if she proposes an idea and what the idea is. Dinner and movie could mean she just wants to be taken out. If she proposes an idea where you two can actually spend time together getting to know one another with no money attached then see what she's about.

 

[MikelArteta]

If a woman tells you she's crazy, she's this or she's that, believe her. Also, like Reincar said, if a woman really digs you, she'll find a way to make time. they'll drop whatever they're doing to come and chill

yup, I wouldn't be shocked i'm pretty sure she has a date or dates set up with other dudes, or going to the bar with the girls or out clubbing.

I've seen and heard it all with women.

I've had women tell me there "busy", but i'd look at their facebook or instagram and there liking photos and posting selfies out and about.

Chick telling me shes going to bed early, seen her check in at a club

 

[ReadOneBookAWeek]

Breh....

How does one respond to this text Brehs? So much wrong in it...

she said shes an ahole which means she's letting you know that she is going to be disrespectful to you. That text in itself is disrespectful. I wouldn't pursue that. If she hits you up and wants to chill then cool but i'd let that one go for now

 

[MikelArteta]

I keep trying to tell brehs, trust me find a woman that is totally into you and you will kick yourself for all the time you wasted on other women doing their tests, doing seal tricks, trying to decipher what there saying, dealing with being flaked on, the busy lines etc.

You don't have to do anything when a woman is that into you, you can meet up and sit on a park bench and its raining and she'll still be all

 

[kevm3]

yup, I wouldn't be shocked i'm pretty sure she has a date or dates set up with other dudes, or going to the bar with the girls or out clubbing.

I've seen and heard it all with women.

I've had women tell me there "busy", but i'd look at their facebook or instagram and there liking photos and posting selfies out and about.

Chick telling me shes going to bed early, seen her check in at a club

More times than not, you will be better off NOT giving a woman the benefit of the doubt, sad to say. A woman WILL find time to speak with you if she wants to... she might be going to school AND work and will still find a way to hit you up. It's only when she's occupied with other men do they usually disappear. It gets a lot more simple by pretty much accepting it for what it is. All the problems come when we start handing out passes and exceptions to women and trying to woo over women who aren't interested.

 

[MikelArteta]

as i always go through tis thread
@kevm3 has dropped mad gems on the "busy"

We be telling cats what's up when a woman says she's busy or she mysteriously disappears. None of these broads are that busy. They use it as an excuse when they don't really want to see a dude. If they want a dude, they'll drop just about everything to get to him.

The point of that is to demonstrate how these women really AREN'T that busy, but they're giving you the run-around with all the busy stuff. A woman that finds you valuable will make time.

When it comes down to it, we can blame the other party, or we can accept accountability and blame ourselves. True, they are acting in a garbage fashion, but as humans, we have self-control, so it's up to us to choose a proper reaction to someone who decides to put us on the backburner. The simple response is to cut our ties and to move on.

It's often hard because of the air of ambiguity, meaning in the midst of uncertainty, we often try to create an optimistic scenario. We WANT to believe they are truly busy because we like them, and maybe if we do this or that action, that they will return our affections down the line. I find that it hardly EVER works like that.

The reality is, people that aren't feeling you much make very little effort to stay in contact with you. You simply have to blast past that ambiguity and make a decision to keep it pushing with people that waste your time. It's like you offer someone a job and they don't bother showing up. Do you think the employer will sit around wondering too much what they are doing? Nah, the employer will move on. People that really want something, they'll find a way to make time for it.

When you start making excuses for what you feel is funny behavior, all you are doing is covering doodoo with an intellectual blanket, hoping that it makes it disappear... but you'll find that you'll keep getting the notion that something stinks. When you start saying, "Ahh, that ain't what it looks like" or you keep finding all kinds of rationalizations for why a woman isn't doing what she should, if you stick with that course of action, you will find yourself on a losing train. Women that really like you, you have to beat them off with a stick. You don't sit there wondering, "Where is she at?" "Why isn't she around?" You're wondering, "Man how do I get her away from me? She is way too clingy." So my friends, when these broads start telling you they are so busy and just can't find the time, they are indeed busy, but they are busy getting gamed up by another man more often than not. If question marks start coming up about her interactions with other men, aka her 'male friends,' more often than not she is doing what your gut is telling you she is doing but your mind is covering up with 'please don't be a ho' rationale because you like her so much.

 

[MikelArteta]

More times than not, you will be better off NOT giving a woman the benefit of the doubt, sad to say. A woman WILL find time to speak with you if she wants to... she might be going to school AND work and will still find a way to hit you up. It's only when she's occupied with other men do they usually disappear. It gets a lot more simple by pretty much accepting it for what it is. All the problems come when we start handing out passes and exceptions to women and trying to woo over women who aren't interested.

pretty much, women have been used to having their way with men for so long and knowing that most will accept it if they are pretty or "caught up", or hoping for vagina, that they can pull these games and disrespectful actions, or flake and knowing more than likely dude will say allright sure and take her out next week, or when she's bored. There so used to it they get so angry if you call them out, or just sever the ties.

And what's worst is they will flip it on you if you try and call them out, wow your insecure, wow you have issues bla bla, that's why I just act "dumb and oblivious", and get on with my life.

 

[kevm3]

pretty much, women have been used to having their way with men for so long and knowing that most will accept it if they are pretty or "caught up", or hoping for vagina, that they can pull these games and disrespectful actions, or flake and knowing more than likely dude will say allright sure and take her out next week, or when she's bored. There so used to it they get so angry if you call them out, or just sever the ties.

And what's worst is they will flip it on you if you try and call them out, wow your insecure, wow you have issues bla bla, that's why I just act "dumb and oblivious", and get on with my life.

Yeah, women constantly play little games. If you let her reschedule, she feels that she 'has you' and you are in backup territory. Oh, I got this dude for dinner next week. A woman that is really feeling you will break dates with other dudes to be with you. When you're on the wrong side of the equation is when you get that, "Oh, I was busy with such and such."

You're right in that it's no use in arguing with them. Better to gracefully eject. "I'm free next week." "Oh aight."

Something I've found is if you don't force a woman to think of you as 'her man' or as someone she'd like to date, you're going to get put into buddy category or meals on wheels category. If she can keep on talking to you without her having to make a move and see you, or if she can reschedule dates, you're going to be in a bad position.

As a man you simply have to approach women you want as your woman as someone you are dealing with on that level and never 'as a bud' or conversation homie.