Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Yup, I've been around women and seen them get q text and the ugh this guy won't leave me alone, ugh he's so annoying I'll message him later.

Thats why whenever your texting a chick and she's replying back and forth and then after a while it's taking longer and longer your now the ugh its him I'll get back to him later guy


Women speak in grey rarely black and white, its tests , it's smoke screens.

 

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chick screams drama to me

im telling you no women is that BUSY

late last year I had vacation days and my passport expired so i could only travel inside the country, the last chick i got with about 3000 miles away told me why don't you come back and we can hang so i said cool. I booked the trip I told her the dates she knew.

a week before I brought it up so my plane lands at sso and so, and shes like omg I forgot i'm busy i'm working. (b*tch i flew 5 friggin hours) I wasn't born yesterday I already know what what a womens "busy" means

I was there for 5 days 4 nights and she couldn't even take a hour to come see me. Later I find out her "busy" was basically another guy (which i already knew because im a step ahead)

of course i blocked and deleted, even as a friend I don't need liars in my life

I still had a great time anyways , but i'm just illustrating to you when women drop that "im booked, im busy" its straight ducktales

if a woman is into you nothing else matters, she can get shot at 12pm in the arm and will still be at dinner at 6.

I've had chicks early on in the vetting stage drive in snowstorms, chicks drive 3 hours away, chicks skip school, call in sick for work to chill.

Even if a chick was working like 9-9 on a saturday, ive met them for breakfest at starbucks or ish

if a chick is to "busy" at the beg when women are so "infatuated" and get caught up in chemistry and all that other bs its bushes

I agree. If a girl wanted to meet me on a day that, let's say, I had to work most of the day, or do something that would occupy a great deal of my time I would explain what I had going on and also ask what time she was thinking to meet to see if I can fit it in my schedule. Try to coordinate with her.

But with her, she just hits me with the "I'm all booked this weekend"...like damn....for the whole 48 hours you're THAT busy? You couldn't ask what time I was thinking to meet? How long to meet up? 1.5-2 hours won't fit in with your schedule?...yeah okay chick

 

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I'm on the fence about that reply @JUSE_HEDD

There are times when a woman is completely busy but more often that not if she really wanted to chill she'd find time. But I would also need to know more about the deal with y'all. If you two just started talkin she might not be comfortable with meeting yet for a few reasons. Yes, she could have other options, more than likely does but I don't know how your previous convos have gone. If y'all are in the real early stages maybe it's worth it to see what she says for next weekend but if I was you I wouldn't try to set something up now. I'd be very cautious and see if she proposes an idea and what the idea is. Dinner and movie could mean she just wants to be taken out. If she proposes an idea where you two can actually spend time together getting to know one another with no money attached then see what she's about.

We started talking a two days ago. We met on the online dating site OkCupid.

I personally like to actually sit down with someone to talk and get to know them more instead of doing it through texting but that's a personal preference. I like to know up front if I want to continue or not with a girl basically.

But if I ever want to meet a girl I'm liking and I'm into her and she wanted to set a day to meet and get to know each other more I would respect the offer and try to find a way to make time. I'm sure she has a lot going on but her response "I'm all booked" didn't even offer an attempt to ask me what time I was thinking to meet? For How long? Etc. Then she includes "I'm an a$$hole"? Really?

 

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she said shes an ahole which means she's letting you know that she is going to be disrespectful to you. That text in itself is disrespectful. I wouldn't pursue that. If she hits you up and wants to chill then cool but i'd let that one go for now

That's EXACTLY what I got from it.

I would never tell a girl I like and I'm really feeling that "I'm an a$$hole"

I know men have this idea women like a$$holes but I believe the notion women just don't want men they can easily manipulate and walk over.

A nice guy's response to "I'm an a$$hole" would be to laugh it off like its nothing and accept that "that's just who she is". She's straight up told me what kind of person she was. fukk that.

 

[MikelArteta]

Thays the thing with dating sites all the options, she probably has like 100 messages in her inbox and a bunch of dates lined up by next week you may not even be remembered

She's booked with tom dikk and Harry

We started talking a two days ago. We met on the online dating site OkCupid.

I personally like to actually sit down with someone to talk and get to know them more instead of doing it through texting but that's a personal preference. I like to know up front if I want to continue or not with a girl basically.

But if I ever want to meet a girl I'm liking and I'm into her and she wanted to set a day to meet and get to know each other more I would respect the offer and try to find a way to make time. I'm sure she has a lot going on but her response "I'm all booked" didn't even offer an attempt to ask me what time I was thinking to meet? For How long? Etc. Then she includes "I'm an a$$hole"? Really?

 

[kevm3]

Glad to see fellas coming to an understanding. Don't waste time ever trying to 'prove' to some disrespectful broad why you are worthy of respect. Eject and keep it pushing. If you wait on a disrespectful woman, what you are doing is confirming you are one of her back-up boys. If she really wanted to chop it with you, she'd probably try to meet way sooner, like I'm busy today with work projects, but let's kick it tomorrow. If you were talking to a gorgeous, no way you'd want to put off meeting with her for a week. It's women that you look at as expendable that you can put off for a long time. That's why women now have such a massive ego and treat men as they are expendable. They know that they always have some simp waiting for her to 'come around'.

Look at Japan at how men are getting paid a ton of money by women. Why? Because those Japanese dudes over there are ignoring women. I'm not saying for you to ignore and simply not deal with women. I am saying to make your attention PRECIOUS and stop giving it to women who don't really appreciate you like that. When the pool of attention and easy dates and meals drives up, women will be forced to act better.

 

[MikelArteta]

The strongest weapon you have as a man again is silence, acceptance and leaving with your dignity.

I've heard it straight from the vipers mouth, they want you to pin even if they don't want you.

I never saw Michael Jackson being a backup singer, because he knew his value


The average man chases something that doesn't want to be caught, accepts disrespect, will be that backup singer , gets angry and falls into her trap of confrontation and fights

I won't

 

[MikelArteta]

Unlike some dudes I don't mind asking women about their ex how they broke up the way they bash him is how you will be bashed one day to the next dude.

So I sit and listen oh I dumped him just wasn't feeling it anymore and he begged and got angry kept calling ugh

I knew it was hard for him so I was there as a friend till he finally understood it was over.

He kept begging me to give him another chance

My ex says he still loves me he's crazy why doesn't he get it


This is real life not some stupid tomantic comedy where you pour out your heart at the end and she comes back to you and respects you

Once a woman flakes, disrespects, dumps me she is no longer privy for explanations of what I'll do next.

She can bash me to her friends as the guy who vanished call me a coward whatever makes her feel good at night but deep down she knows she messed up

 

[Ohene]

I'm getting at this chick who's a science student at my alma mater and came across an internship for people in her specific program and year this morning when I was looking to see if there were any job postings for accountants / financial analysts etc. Shes younger than me so earlier she was trying to pick my brain about my experience post grad and I told her I would put her up on game on how to make the best out of university. Thus when I saw the posting I figured hmmm, maybe she'd be interested.

But how fukked up is it that before telling her to check out the opportunity I thought to myself, "what if me telling her this leads her to think I'm some sort of nice guy, or putting her on because I want something in return? and I get friend zoned accordingly." I say this because people always have their guards up nowadays..

I still put her on because she's black and I like to see my nikkas prosper. Thus I will offer resume help if she asks and what not but its a shame what the dating game can to do somebody. shyt will have somebody holding themselves from doing a gesture just because they're afraid of how it might come across to the opposite sex.

"I'm not gonna call him tonight because I called him two nights ago. I'll look desperate if I do so it's his turn to call me." - But obivously you want to talk to dude if youre thinking about him, so why not just pick up the phone and call?

"I'm not gonna drive her to work even though its along the way. Do I look like a chauffer? fukk that shyt." - But if its on your way to work then is it really an issue? If anything those rides to work could be an opportunity to really get to know one another.

LOL not to sound all corny but this is just something I've observed over the years and I feel its a shame. This is why I feel as human beings (not just men, not just women) we should all strive to be a little more communal with one another but somewhere along the line in this dog eat dog world our social skills and compassion went down the drain. Think of all the opportunities people including you and I couldve missed out on as a result of having too much pride or being too meticulous with their social interactions. Job opportunities, networking opportunities, dating opportunities, opportunities to learn etc etc. It is ridiculous.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yup I know what you mean.

You do something nice for someone you wonder if it kills your attraction, you open up about your life did I say something wrong.

I'm at the point where I'm not changing my core or who I am for anyone.

If your not going to be attracted to me because I helped you out with your resume, or helped you move in down the street well


I can't control what someone will think of me but I can control to accept whether I'll be their "friend"

I'm getting at this chick who's a science student at my alma mater and came across an internship for people in her specific program and year this morning when I was looking to see if there were any job postings for accountants / financial analysts etc. Shes younger than me so earlier she was trying to pick my brain about my experience post grad and I told her I would put her up on game on how to make the best out of university. Thus when I saw the posting I figured hmmm, maybe she'd be interested.

But how fukked up is it that before telling her to check out the opportunity I thought to myself, "what if me telling her this leads her to think I'm some sort of nice guy, or putting her on because I want something in return? and I get friend zoned accordingly." I say this because people always have their guards up nowadays..

I still put her on because she's black and I like to see my nikkas prosper. Thus I will offer resume help if she asks and what not but its a shame what the dating game can to do somebody. shyt will have somebody holding themselves from doing a gesture just because they're afraid of how it might come across to the opposite sex.

"I'm not gonna call him tonight because I called him two nights ago. I'll look desperate if I do so it's his turn to call me." - But obivously you want to talk to dude if youre thinking about him, so why not just pick up the phone and call?

"I'm not gonna drive her to work even though its along the way. Do I look like a chauffer? fukk that shyt." - But if its on your way to work then is it really an issue? If anything those rides to work could be an opportunity to really get to know one another.

LOL not to sound all corny but this is just something I've observed over the years and I feel its a shame. This is why I feel as human beings (not just men, not just women) we should all strive to be a little more communal with one another but somewhere along the line in this dog eat dog world our social skills and compassion went down the drain. Think of all the opportunities people including you and I couldve missed out on as a result of having too much pride or being too meticulous with their social interactions. Job opportunities, networking opportunities, dating opportunities, opportunities to learn etc etc. It is ridiculous.

 

[Bless't]

That's EXACTLY what I got from it.

I would never tell a girl I like and I'm really feeling that "I'm an a$$hole"

I know men have this idea women like a$$holes but I believe the notion women just don't want men they can easily manipulate and walk over.

A nice guy's response to "I'm an a$$hole" would be to laugh it off like its nothing and accept that "that's just who she is". She's straight up told me what kind of person she was. fukk that.

Breh, dont entertain that trollop any longer. She obviously has shown who she is. Move on to someone who is not an "a$$hole".

Sheesh... if a chick said that to me.

 

[Ohene]

Yup I know what you mean.

You do something nice for someone you wonder if it kills your attraction, you open up about your life did I say something wrong.

I'm at the point where I'm not changing my core or who I am for anyone.

If your not going to be attracted to me because I helped you out with your resume, or helped you move in down the street well


I can't control what someone will think of me but I can control to accept whether I'll be their "friend"

pretty much the reason i said eff it and still put her on. I cant help if I'm a nice dude who looks out for black ppl . fukk putting so much thought into uncessary shyt.

 

[MikelArteta]

The weapon of silence

A drowning individual panics and a dog backed up in a corner will bite. When you are in a state of uncertainty, anger, sadness while having your emotions are all over the place – the natural instinct of many will be how do I rectify this situation?

I rarely watch TV, but the odd times I turn on the old telly – I become engaged in the First 48. Time and time again someone gets called down to the station, the detective has been in the game for years and knows how to read people, hangs on to every word and shift in body language and is just waiting for an opportunity for this individual to slip up and yep right on cue time and time again it happens. A drowning individual panics and before they know it they are admitting guilt, or spewing a bunch of half truths that don’t match up and in a blink of an eye the cuffs are on and charges are filed.

You’ve been in a relationship with an individual for years; suddenly out of nowhere bam you are dumped. It catches you off guard, you were so in love, you guys were perfect together, and now your emotions are all over the place. A drowning individual panics – you can’t let this go; you’re going to fight for your love and start calling and sending text messages. You send a letter, you write a poem, you show up unexpectedly, you pour out your heart, you sob on the phone, wah this can’t be happening. A dog backed up in a corner will bite – now you’re angry, you try manipulative measures, you try and make them jealous, you scorch and slander their name to anyone who will listen, and you call and curse them out using every name in the book of obscenities. Time goes on and you are now calm again and try to apologize for your actions only for it to be to late – you lose.

First off no I am not advocating for criminals to be smarter, it was just an analogy regardless of how poor in taste it may seem. In life in many situations one of the strongest weapons you have is to be in control of your emotions at all times and silence.

 

[Atlrocafella]

I'm getting at this chick who's a science student at my alma mater and came across an internship for people in her specific program and year this morning when I was looking to see if there were any job postings for accountants / financial analysts etc. Shes younger than me so earlier she was trying to pick my brain about my experience post grad and I told her I would put her up on game on how to make the best out of university. Thus when I saw the posting I figured hmmm, maybe she'd be interested.

But how fukked up is it that before telling her to check out the opportunity I thought to myself, "what if me telling her this leads her to think I'm some sort of nice guy, or putting her on because I want something in return? and I get friend zoned accordingly." I say this because people always have their guards up nowadays..

I still put her on because she's black and I like to see my nikkas prosper. Thus I will offer resume help if she asks and what not but its a shame what the dating game can to do somebody. shyt will have somebody holding themselves from doing a gesture just because they're afraid of how it might come across to the opposite sex.

"I'm not gonna call him tonight because I called him two nights ago. I'll look desperate if I do so it's his turn to call me." - But obivously you want to talk to dude if youre thinking about him, so why not just pick up the phone and call?

"I'm not gonna drive her to work even though its along the way. Do I look like a chauffer? fukk that shyt." - But if its on your way to work then is it really an issue? If anything those rides to work could be an opportunity to really get to know one another.

LOL not to sound all corny but this is just something I've observed over the years and I feel its a shame. This is why I feel as human beings (not just men, not just women) we should all strive to be a little more communal with one another but somewhere along the line in this dog eat dog world our social skills and compassion went down the drain. Think of all the opportunities people including you and I couldve missed out on as a result of having too much pride or being too meticulous with their social interactions. Job opportunities, networking opportunities, dating opportunities, opportunities to learn etc etc. It is ridiculous.

Dope post and I get what you're saying. But there is a thin line these days with being too nice and getting taken advantage of. If at your core, you're really a nice person and like to help people, than that's great, never change that, but recognize the intentions of those people you help. Especially when it comes to women, if you're core is to always be that guy to listen, to be that girls shoulder to cry on, take her out on nice dates , constantly give, give , and give and not realize at some point "ey, this chick is just taking from me and not giving anything in return" that's when I think it becomes a problem and you should adjust based on that specific individual.

 

[Ohene]

Dope post and I get what you're saying. But there is a thin line these days with being too nice and getting taken advantage of. If at your core, you're really a nice person and like to help people, than that's great, never change that, but recognize the intentions of those people you help. Especially when it comes to women, if you're core is to always be that guy to listen, to be that girls shoulder to cry on, take her out on nice dates , constantly give, give , and give and not realize at some point "ey, this chick is just taking from me and not giving anything in return" that's when I think it becomes a problem and you should adjust based on that specific individual.

Mmhmm. Goes back to what we always say about not changing yourself for anybody. If youre gonna do good, do it...just dont expect anything in return.