sighLike my breh @Emperor_ReinScarf always says, learn when to eject yourself from a situation..sucks cause I thought she was dope and high hopes, but she bullshytting and it's not feeling right
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Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Just don't get why these chicks be sabotaging shyt. Everything go from all good this past weekend to her being distant, returning text days later, just a complete different person I'm dealing with now over the course of a few days 
weve all been there. i was last summer. no use wondering why. delete and move on i guess.
When they pop up with that distant, cold stuff, most likely they started eyeing someone else. I could be wrong, but that's what I personally found to be the case. They get to testing the waters, and if the other person ain't ready to take them on, then they come back.
That's the thing about women. Everything seems cool, but she just turns different for reasons out of your control. I read a great quote. "Women are loyal to their happiness."
Women were already emotional, but this society makes them really turbulent and seemingly unpredictable. You never know when they will jump ship. Ultimately, I think more men here will come to the point where they don't particularly care if they have a woman or not. If she's there, great. If not, still great because he will be enjoying his life anyways.
That's the thing about women. Everything seems cool, but she just turns different for reasons out of your control. I read a great quote. "Women are loyal to their happiness."
Women were already emotional, but this society makes them really turbulent and seemingly unpredictable. You never know when they will jump ship. Ultimately, I think more men here will come to the point where they don't particularly care if they have a woman or not. If she's there, great. If not, still great because he will be enjoying his life anyways.
Happens to us all
99 percent of the time its another guy, the key is to eject and leave with your dignity
Don't be that guy texting, calling, accepting friendship
99 percent of the time its another guy, the key is to eject and leave with your dignity
Don't be that guy texting, calling, accepting friendship
Like my breh @Emperor_ReinScarf always says, learn when to eject yourself from a situation..sucks cause I thought she was dope and high hopes, but she bullshytting and it's not feeling right
Most women are just seasonal, its just like a roller coaster of emotions and then the ride ends.
She's just been "busy"
Its the slow fade these chicks do, you can be oblivious, or come out ahead
She's just been "busy"
Its the slow fade these chicks do, you can be oblivious, or come out ahead
Your natural instinct is to fight it, ask what's wrong, try to come on stronger but nope don't do it.
I don't ask why or wait around for explanations just delete block she's dead now
I don't ask why or wait around for explanations just delete block she's dead now
Sometimes I wonder how many women really like US as men as opposed to a feeling we may or may not present to them or because we are a check on their checklist. I was reading this article about some woman and how she is changing in her 20s, and this was a piece of it:
It says that she has 'ring anxiety'. The word man doesn't pop up in there once. She doesn't talk about wanting to find a man to build her life with. It's all about 'getting a ring'. I think a lot of women want to 'get married' for the spectacle and to be able to say they are married more than actually caring about the guy they are with.
When I hear a lot of dudes talking about settling down, it's more along the lines of I want a decent woman to build a life with. On the other hand, with a lot of women, it's more, "When am I going to get a ring?"
I certainly have ZERO desire to be some spectacle for a woman. If her goal isn't to be with ME as opposed to looking for a princess day, then she's a no go.
It says that she has 'ring anxiety'. The word man doesn't pop up in there once. She doesn't talk about wanting to find a man to build her life with. It's all about 'getting a ring'. I think a lot of women want to 'get married' for the spectacle and to be able to say they are married more than actually caring about the guy they are with.
When I hear a lot of dudes talking about settling down, it's more along the lines of I want a decent woman to build a life with. On the other hand, with a lot of women, it's more, "When am I going to get a ring?"
I certainly have ZERO desire to be some spectacle for a woman. If her goal isn't to be with ME as opposed to looking for a princess day, then she's a no go.
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Urbanmiracle
Brooklyn the planet...
So I cut off my ex months ago. She wanted to keep talking and be friends and even asked to treat me on my bday I refused. I'm not gonna let my ex friend zone me which is exactly what she did. Anyways yall know my idiot friend told me she has a new bf and all and every once in a while she appears in my dreams. Some dreams we still together others it's just her face and this one last night she came over to the crib and we talked about the new people in our lives. On the surface for my friends and family sake I try to be strong and not say I miss her but parts of me do. I guess it's just my bruised ego fukking with me. I never been dumped before. I'm not gonna break the ice and contact but I do miss some of the things we used to do. I dunno what to do about these recurring dreams though
They will fade in due time, just try and go to sleep when your really tired.
Tell your friend to stop telling you or don't talk to them.
Tell your friend to stop telling you or don't talk to them.
And this is what I mean when I was dumb and oblivious it was easier getting women because I believed the sob stories, I did not have any standards, I'd be her spectacle
Now km to smart I know everything , I'm like a seasoned detective
Now km to smart I know everything , I'm like a seasoned detective
Some may say if you keep marinating on all the trials and tribulations that have occurred in your life you will be planted in the past - swimming in the sea of malice, bitterness and woe is me, reliving all that gluck and gloom over and over again spewing it out till your mouth gets coarse and your ears bleed - stop talking about and get over it. Well I say my past is what defines me and what has shaped me to who I am the man today, it's my testimony; and I believe wholeheartedly that one of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is to not learn from your mistakes.
When I was younger I had a speech impediment and struggled to pronounce certain letters and words. While I was laughed at by others for the way I talked, the gift was that it somehow slowed me down in the sense that I never blurted out anything. I thought about what I was going to say before I would verbalize it so I would not say a word that began with a certain letter to stave off any further laughter or embarrassment. This also led me to immerse myself in books and start formulating my thoughts on paper, being silent and observing which led me to acquire somewhat of a sixth sense of reading people.
Like a old washed up pop star faded from the spotlight so to speak - I've lived a tale of two lives. The glitz and the glam, the popularity, the status, desirability levels reading over 9000 on the scouter, the expensive clothes, the beautiful women. However I kept on having this empty feeling as this wasn't who I was, I was late to the party so to speak and was just embracing everything that I thought at one point would bring me happiness and fulfilment. So as mentioned before, I ejected from that life just vanished and stepped into who I am. And that leads to the biggest misconception about me is that being a guy that does not drink, smoke, do drugs, party, curse, womanize and has a heart for others' that values principles such as respect, loyalty and kindness above all = being some pushover, people pleaser, nice guy doormat sap who can be swindled and turns the other cheek without a shred of respect in his bones. Stereotyping to say the least that my personality or the core values I follow gives off this vibe ah well.
I'm not perfect far from it, I don't think I'm better than anyone else nor have I crossed every t and dotted every i in life. I've made every mistake in the book when it has come to dealing with women and relationships. For a long time I kept dating the same type of women just a different name and face but expected different results (some might call it insanity) and would always find myself wondering why at the end results? refusing to look at the common denominator which was me. Life was showing me that the path I kept on taken needed to be adjusted dramatically. So I had to sit back and question everything about me to find the malfunction in my make-up and correct it. I became a experienced surgeon so to speak - I have now seen it all, heard it all and been through it all. No this is not a woe is me, please pat on the back, there there you'll find someone great one day type of synopsis.
I've been there wallowing in bed, in the hospital thinking I was going to die with doctors not being able to tell me what was wrong. I've been at the checkout crossing my fingers that my debit would say approved for a $10 dollar item, I've been stabbed in the back by the closest people I thought I could count on, I've been played for a fool and had my dignity, self-respect and pride at levels barely visible. However I was able to salvage the tiny amount and rebuild with what was left and well look at me now. Trust me when I say life can change in a instant.
Everything I have been through, all the pain, heartbreak, embarrassing moments, struggles, desertions, slandering, feeling that I was at the end of the rope, the days and nights consumed with bitterness and anger has taught me so much. I used to be a debbie downer, used to expect the worst, used to wallow in self-pity, used to feel sorry for myself, used to get angry/frustrated/upset - but now? Now I'm thankful in everything, thankful for the opportunities, thankful for every experience as I see how much it has taught me, thankful for the gifts I have been given, thankful for all the people I have met along the way. Why? because no matter what occurs in life, regardless of the situations or the bad days ahead - I am confident I can handle anything, life is full of ups and downs but I know to keep pressing forward but WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE - there will be better days ahead, there is no testimony without a test - happiness will come again I can promise you that.
When I was younger I had a speech impediment and struggled to pronounce certain letters and words. While I was laughed at by others for the way I talked, the gift was that it somehow slowed me down in the sense that I never blurted out anything. I thought about what I was going to say before I would verbalize it so I would not say a word that began with a certain letter to stave off any further laughter or embarrassment. This also led me to immerse myself in books and start formulating my thoughts on paper, being silent and observing which led me to acquire somewhat of a sixth sense of reading people.
Like a old washed up pop star faded from the spotlight so to speak - I've lived a tale of two lives. The glitz and the glam, the popularity, the status, desirability levels reading over 9000 on the scouter, the expensive clothes, the beautiful women. However I kept on having this empty feeling as this wasn't who I was, I was late to the party so to speak and was just embracing everything that I thought at one point would bring me happiness and fulfilment. So as mentioned before, I ejected from that life just vanished and stepped into who I am. And that leads to the biggest misconception about me is that being a guy that does not drink, smoke, do drugs, party, curse, womanize and has a heart for others' that values principles such as respect, loyalty and kindness above all = being some pushover, people pleaser, nice guy doormat sap who can be swindled and turns the other cheek without a shred of respect in his bones. Stereotyping to say the least that my personality or the core values I follow gives off this vibe ah well.
I'm not perfect far from it, I don't think I'm better than anyone else nor have I crossed every t and dotted every i in life. I've made every mistake in the book when it has come to dealing with women and relationships. For a long time I kept dating the same type of women just a different name and face but expected different results (some might call it insanity) and would always find myself wondering why at the end results? refusing to look at the common denominator which was me. Life was showing me that the path I kept on taken needed to be adjusted dramatically. So I had to sit back and question everything about me to find the malfunction in my make-up and correct it. I became a experienced surgeon so to speak - I have now seen it all, heard it all and been through it all. No this is not a woe is me, please pat on the back, there there you'll find someone great one day type of synopsis.
I've been there wallowing in bed, in the hospital thinking I was going to die with doctors not being able to tell me what was wrong. I've been at the checkout crossing my fingers that my debit would say approved for a $10 dollar item, I've been stabbed in the back by the closest people I thought I could count on, I've been played for a fool and had my dignity, self-respect and pride at levels barely visible. However I was able to salvage the tiny amount and rebuild with what was left and well look at me now. Trust me when I say life can change in a instant.
Everything I have been through, all the pain, heartbreak, embarrassing moments, struggles, desertions, slandering, feeling that I was at the end of the rope, the days and nights consumed with bitterness and anger has taught me so much. I used to be a debbie downer, used to expect the worst, used to wallow in self-pity, used to feel sorry for myself, used to get angry/frustrated/upset - but now? Now I'm thankful in everything, thankful for the opportunities, thankful for every experience as I see how much it has taught me, thankful for the gifts I have been given, thankful for all the people I have met along the way. Why? because no matter what occurs in life, regardless of the situations or the bad days ahead - I am confident I can handle anything, life is full of ups and downs but I know to keep pressing forward but WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE - there will be better days ahead, there is no testimony without a test - happiness will come again I can promise you that.
Look again everyone thinks their girl, or situation is special and different,
Here's the thing thought, she was nothing special, your situation is not special it's just special to you. Your relationship was nothing special it was just special to you.
You don't find it weird, how we are different ages, in different countries/states/cities, different races, dealing with women of different ages,backgrounds, cultures yet it's the same script we all run to?
Bottom line, a drowning man panics and makes bad choices. I've been there
you will be eager to break those chains of what we preach of not to contact her, pour out your heart, just try for that one last hail mary, but those chains will have kept you away from confusions, tensions and restlessness.
I'm human like you brehs of course when rejected I want to know why, i want to contact her, I want to try all these seal tricks and tactics to draw her back in but I know firsthand IT DOESN'T work
If you take the advice that is offered in this thread, you will salvage what is left of your dignity and pride. You can rebuild with even a shred of your dignity trust me I have and you WILL be ok, it may not be today, next week, next month but you will be okay.
You will eventually find a woman who will respect who you are as a man. And you will have your life change in a very dramatic profound way the change will be a lot easier and you have a much better chance coming out the other side with a better more satisfying life for yourself after all is said and done if you follow the advice.
Here's the thing thought, she was nothing special, your situation is not special it's just special to you. Your relationship was nothing special it was just special to you.
You don't find it weird, how we are different ages, in different countries/states/cities, different races, dealing with women of different ages,backgrounds, cultures yet it's the same script we all run to?
Bottom line, a drowning man panics and makes bad choices. I've been there
you will be eager to break those chains of what we preach of not to contact her, pour out your heart, just try for that one last hail mary, but those chains will have kept you away from confusions, tensions and restlessness.
I'm human like you brehs of course when rejected I want to know why, i want to contact her, I want to try all these seal tricks and tactics to draw her back in but I know firsthand IT DOESN'T work
If you take the advice that is offered in this thread, you will salvage what is left of your dignity and pride. You can rebuild with even a shred of your dignity trust me I have and you WILL be ok, it may not be today, next week, next month but you will be okay.
You will eventually find a woman who will respect who you are as a man. And you will have your life change in a very dramatic profound way the change will be a lot easier and you have a much better chance coming out the other side with a better more satisfying life for yourself after all is said and done if you follow the advice.
Loud Still Coolin
Suppose be a IT cert like you coli nikkaz
yo im back to zilch hoes on the roster. 
excuse me for callin them hoes breh
/ the dualities, the fukkery. the dissaapearing acts. so a chick i was sweatin yes i admit it. was cool. chemisty was craaa. i just kept it polite with her honestly didnt throw my thirst out there. her body was 
no kids own spot own car etc. she says she single. we even got up and kicked it had a ball. didnt spend no bread or nothin descieving far as i can see. we just talked and build. only thing strange was she seemed like she's been mistreated in past relationships etc. she would talk down on nikkaz randomly not me but most nikkaz. I ignored this...... we still was communicating very well so it seemed and what i thought was building. so i end up goin out of town for a weekend. get back. shorty a compeltely whole diff person 
. the miscommunication/im always busy era period starts and begans 
. i never even touched the broad so im not pressed. this was based on conversations all while i was gone she kept in touch. so fast forward me already bein victimized by women/hoes before see where this is goin. I KNOW WHAT TIME IT IS BREHS..... so instead of worrying and starting a investigation or pressin the b1tch. ima G i knew what time it was. so i just shake it off like damn on to the next one all while scratching my head i must admit.
i still wanna knock it down but ANYWAY.... so out the blue this creepy broad hits me back up eventually. starts saying hello and explains. but she tells me she's been upset lately cause one of her as she puts it "HOMIES"stole some $$$ from her and some belongings from her house. so she's been upset lately and she apologizes for the disapearance. .
mind you i never even began or attemptin to contact her. i just get hit up with this bull a week later. so i just thought i share the story. because in all honesty whether this happened or not. it was just distasteful. i had to disassociate myself. felt like this chick was too old for that nonsense. and she shouldnt have even told me cuz now im
. like brehs how does a middle age 20 year old hoe prob gettin robbed in her own apartment. 
pretty sure she was drug free. don wanna even find out. sounds like fishy bidness anyway. for all i know he prob was in the cut knockn it down seen my text and decided to rob this chick he was most likely livin off of lol. prob seen my texts and schemed on his hoe 
furthermore i didnt even care to wonder 
lol broad vanished just to tell me she got GOT by a shopliftin purse snatcha who was suppose to be her friend her homeboy
b1tch who????? what???? didnt even know how to cheer this dumb b1tch up 
dont believe these hoes at all in my age group brehs
im fukked out here.
these the same hoes i done seen jump hurdles do backflips just to catch/watch love and hip hop on mondays at 8pm. ive seen trick go out they ways never to miss a episode. but all while goin to try disapear and front on me cause of something totally irelevant so SHE SAYS....
closed the curtains on the hoe before i could even
say "sorry to hear that" 
i actually got into some mess last year with women friends and family jail and hell and back. so i been keepin it cool. and just went through a whole process of fallin back from fukk ass friends but damn i done went and met found a fukk ass weirdo b1tch
back to basics breh....
excuse me for callin them hoes breh
/ the dualities, the fukkery. the dissaapearing acts. so a chick i was sweatin yes i admit it. was cool. chemisty was craaa. i just kept it polite with her honestly didnt throw my thirst out there. her body was no kids own spot own car etc. she says she single. we even got up and kicked it had a ball. didnt spend no bread or nothin descieving far as i can see. we just talked and build. only thing strange was she seemed like she's been mistreated in past relationships etc. she would talk down on nikkaz randomly not me but most nikkaz. I ignored this...... we still was communicating very well so it seemed and what i thought was building. so i end up goin out of town for a weekend. get back. shorty a compeltely whole diff person . the miscommunication/im always busy era period starts and begans . i never even touched the broad so im not pressed. this was based on conversations all while i was gone she kept in touch. so fast forward me already bein victimized by women/hoes before see where this is goin. I KNOW WHAT TIME IT IS BREHS..... so instead of worrying and starting a investigation or pressin the b1tch. ima G i knew what time it was. so i just shake it off like damn on to the next one all while scratching my head i must admit. i still wanna knock it down but ANYWAY.... so out the blue this creepy broad hits me back up eventually. starts saying hello and explains. but she tells me she's been upset lately cause one of her as she puts it "HOMIES"stole some $$$ from her and some belongings from her house. so she's been upset lately and she apologizes for the disapearance. . mind you i never even began or attemptin to contact her. i just get hit up with this bull a week later. so i just thought i share the story. because in all honesty whether this happened or not. it was just distasteful. i had to disassociate myself. felt like this chick was too old for that nonsense. and she shouldnt have even told me cuz now im. like brehs how does a middle age 20 year old hoe prob gettin robbed in her own apartment. pretty sure she was drug free. don wanna even find out. sounds like fishy bidness anyway. for all i know he prob was in the cut knockn it down seen my text and decided to rob this chick he was most likely livin off of lol. prob seen my texts and schemed on his hoe furthermore i didnt even care to wonder lol broad vanished just to tell me she got GOT by a shopliftin purse snatcha who was suppose to be her friend her homeboy
b1tch who????? what???? didnt even know how to cheer this dumb b1tch up dont believe these hoes at all in my age group brehs
im fukked out here.these the same hoes i done seen jump hurdles do backflips just to catch/watch love and hip hop on mondays at 8pm. ive seen trick go out they ways never to miss a episode. but all while goin to try disapear and front on me cause of something totally irelevant so SHE SAYS....
closed the curtains on the hoe before i could even
say "sorry to hear that" i actually got into some mess last year with women friends and family jail and hell and back. so i been keepin it cool. and just went through a whole process of fallin back from fukk ass friends but damn i done went and met found a fukk ass weirdo b1tch
back to basics breh....
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