Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[jadillac]

lol i know exactly what that means. it means u gave her just too much leeway. she probably did a few things she knew were wrong and u probably brushed it off because 1. it didn't bother u, 2. u didn't wanna blow up on her since u just met her.

nah, when I looked back on it, I think it was b/c...

when we went out, we met up & the 1st thing we had planned to do was unavaliable. So we had to audible. I asked her what she wanted to do(of course women hate this) just to get an idea, rather than me bogard the date. Since our orig plan fell thru, I wanted to do something we both agreed on, rather than just something I like and she's sitting there w/ an attitude. It's like you can't win w/ certain chicks...if you take them somewhere they hate they'll be mad, if you let them decide/have input they say you're "too accommodating"

Also, I'm very nice to service ppl, waiters, etc. I acknowledge them, tell them thanks etc. When she spoke to the waiters and ppl she wasn't too polite. So she prob docked me for that too. lol


In the end, the chicks I endn up dating never match for me. Like this girl here had a brother in prison. When she told me that I was already like, I dont think I want any part of this. So her "too accommodating" comment didn't bother me too much b/c we weren't gonna click anyway. But still you always wonder why people aren't feeling you when you've been polite to them.

 

[jadillac]

The problem is that I don't want to be a "bad boy". I hate the idea of putting on an image just to impress some broad. If she doesn't like me for me then fukk her and on to the next. I'd admit that I don't talk that much but it's because I don't feel like talking or don't have much to say.

I feel you here bruh.

I've tried to play the bad-boy/player role, in the end it just throws off my balance. And the chicks I'm doing it for are often a waste of time anyway. A real/good woman you don't have to front for. I'm a guy who likes to have a good time & joke & have fun.. Now I won't let a woman run over me and will check them when needed, but I'm pretty easy going otherwise. But most women don't like that. Especially black women

But you might need to talk more tho if you can. Or even just ask her more questions....I've foudn that letting women talk 80% of the time and you just chiming in with a few statements here and there, works well.

I'm not a naturally inclined blabber mouth either, especially around someone I just met.

 

[jadillac]

The problem is that I don't want to be a "bad boy". I hate the idea of putting on an image just to impress some broad. If she doesn't like me for me then fukk her and on to the next. I'd admit that I don't talk that much but it's because I don't feel like talking or don't have much to say.

I feel you here bruh.

I've tried to play the bad-boy/player role, in the end it just throws off my balance. And the chicks I'm doing it for are often a waste of time anyway. A real/good woman you don't have to front for. I'm a guy who likes to have a good time & joke & have fun.. Now I won't let a woman run over me and will check them when needed, but I'm pretty easy going otherwise. But most women don't like that. Especially black women

But you might need to talk more tho if you can. Or even just ask her more questions....I've foudn that letting women talk 80% of the time and you just chiming in with a few statements here and there, works well.

I'm not a naturally inclined blabber mouth either, especially around someone I just met.

 

[TRUEST]

The problem is that I don't want to be a "bad boy". I hate the idea of putting on an image just to impress some broad. If she doesn't like me for me then fukk her and on to the next. I'd admit that I don't talk that much but it's because I don't feel like talking or don't have much to say.

i didn't mean for u to "act" like a bad boy. u just goto have a backbone. and what that means is, if a hot chick pisses u off, let her have it. dont brush off any inconvenience caused by a chick for fear of losing her. its not about image at all.
i dont consider myself a bad boy. matter of fact, i'm more of a hopeless romantic. but at the same time, i have no tolerance for annoyance at all. u goto be able to chastise a chick when she crosses the line. and the one thing u goto understand is, no matter the girl, sooner or later, they will do something that requires u to set boundaries. even the good girls do it. it's human nature. if ur a man that never sets boundaries, u are, like they said to ol boy "too accommodating".

 

[jadillac]

i didn't mean for u to "act" like a bad boy. u just goto have a backbone. and what that means is, if a hot chick pisses u off, let her have it. dont brush off any inconvenience caused by a chick for fear of losing her. its not about image at all.
i dont consider myself a bad boy. matter of fact, i'm more of a hopeless romantic. but at the same time, i have no tolerance for annoyance at all. u goto be able to chastise a chick when she crosses the line. and the one thing u goto understand is, no matter the girl, sooner or later, they will do something that requires u to set boundaries. even the good girls do it. it's human nature. if ur a man that never sets boundaries, u are, like they said to ol boy "too accommodating".

breh I explained to you why that happened. You can choose to believe it or not.


My thing is, I'm nice until you give me a reason not to be. Ol girl didn't say or do anything out of line to me, so I had no reason to correct her.


BUT like alot of women, their egos/"intuition" makes them think they can peg every man into a certain category. So unless you do some alpha-stuff on a first date, some women will (incorrectly) assume a man is nice all the time.....until they pull something and I let them know they


But make no mistake, no woman has ever ran over me. My father taught me that long time ago. Any L's I've taken deal with women lying/flaking etc.

 

[TRUEST]

breh I explained to you why that happened. You can choose to believe it or not.


My thing is, I'm nice until you give me a reason not to be. Ol girl didn't say or do anything out of line to me, so I had no reason to correct her.


BUT like alot of women, their egos/"intuition" makes them think they can peg every man into a certain category. So unless you do some alpha-stuff on a first date, some women will (incorrectly) assume a man is nice all the time.....until they pull something and I let them know they


But make no mistake, no woman has ran over me. Any L's I've taken deal with women lying/flaking etc.

i think ur missing my point. but anyway, everyone takes the Ls i quoted except for maybe celebrities and professional atheletes lol.

 

[kevm3]

Even celebs and athletes regularly take l's, especially when it comes to doling out child support and alimony

 

[Dreamzeedream]

I have no problem telling a woman when she's wrong or about herself if I feel disrespected.

I thank yall for that

 

[Atlrocafella]

When your old girl sends you a text and it still fukks with you

 

[MikelArteta]

When your old girl sends you a text and it still fukks with you

testing if she still got you

 

[Atlrocafella]

testing if she still got you

Didn't give her the satisfaction. She sent a congrats for an upcoming promotion I told her about months back(like September) so it was interesting that she remembered and texted me out the blue to say good luck and congrats.

I just hit her with a "thank you" and kept it moving. Maybe she thought I would want to know what's going on in her life or see how she was doing. I didn't care to ask, but man was I close lol

 

[MikelArteta]

Didn't give her the satisfaction. She sent a congrats for an upcoming promotion I told her about months back(like September) so it was interesting that she remembered and texted me out the blue to say good luck and congrats.

I just hit her with a "thank you" and kept it moving. Maybe she thought I would want to know what's going on in her life or see how she was doing. I didn't care to ask, but man was I close lol

so you told her in september and now its feb and shes just saying congrats now

theres always something more when a ex text you out of the blue

 

[Ohene]

so you told her in september and now its feb and shes just saying congrats now

theres always something more when a ex text you out of the blue

he said upcoming...it probably was announced earlier but kicked in february.

 

[MikelArteta]

Always be you. The only thing you might have to do is be more talkative. If you play that bad boy stuff and attract some broad, sooner or later the routine is going to wear thin and you'll get tired of playing games.

yup its like i mentioned before, always be yourself

if your quiet to one woman she may take it as if your shy, to another woman she may take it as your mysterious

if your confident to one woman she may take it as confidence to another she may take it as arrogant

if your aggressive to one woman it may be your coming on to strong to another it may be you know what you want

this is why im always myself, take it or leave it

 

[Atlrocafella]

Yes to what @Asantehene said. It kicked in this month, so she hit me on some "your promotion starts this month right? Good luck and congrats".
Haven't spoken to her in months so it was for a brief moment.