Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

My ex was pregnant with another nikka's baby while we were dating...bytch had the nerve to fake taking the Plan B pill when I went raw on New Year's. Think she was pregnant by the cac who hit her ass in the last relationship (reason for breakup). I'm over the broad...just hearing the news from a reliable source. shyt adds up....the signs were there. bytch talked about desping cheaters, but does it herself. To be continued if she tries to flip the child on me.

i've noticed with many women that whatever they tell you they "Despise' or hate so much

whether it be cheaters, drama, liars, fake freinds, etc. etc.

is what they are.


at least you got out breh dont need a woman like that in your life

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

Anybody ever dealt with a girl that shows no emotion (or can a coli girl help me out)

I mean she likes me i know this, its just hard for me to get her to show any type of affection, or take my affection.

Voice your concerns to her and tell her what you like.

I had a girlfriend that wasn't very affectionate at one point. No one is perfect and she probably doesn't realize it. If she likes you enough she'll do what she has to do to make you happy.

Sometimes it's just best to communicate.......

 

[bullygohard1]

Alright brehs fukk it I don't usually.do this but a nikka is trippin right now

Backstory mixed with cliffs

Been with bytch for two years before let's just say I was away for 5 almost 6 months

Back now but bytch went through phone while I was gone and found some bullshyt

Now bytch questioning me and thinks I was doing shyt before I got.into my lil situation(did only once tho)

bytch stayed with me but now.we ain't living together at the moment like used to , she been living apart and doing things seperate ( we far away right now)and shyt n it's something I'm not used to anyways , had to tell her look I'm sorry for what I did and I'm.trying to.be a way better dude and make shyt work

Now she expects me to.Chase and told me I hurt her and it's gonna take a while to trust me again , calls.me and texts me tho

Well yesterday we was talking small talk and I hit her with a message which ain't need to really be responded to.and she didn't ... So I say fukk it I already called her when she was mad and not.talk tome and I never do that but it seem like she wants me to chase her and appear desperate.. fukk that , so we ain't talk.last night and I.ain't say shyt today , and just got.a text talmbout some "hey baby what u doin" now this bytch ain't respond or.call yesterday but want to.text me night time with this shyt. Question is what do I do , say fukk it and hit her back or just wait it out and get back at her when I'm ready I'm not tryna seem to available cuz that shyt kill attraction , but I brought this shyt upon myself what do I do my nikkas ??

Edit : fukked on vday she came seen me then wanted me to chase so we didn't talk until she ended up.calling me even tho I told her hit me somehow it was me who was supposed to.call

 

[jeh]

Alright brehs fukk it I don't usually.do this but a nikka is trippin right now

Backstory mixed with cliffs

Been with bytch for two years before let's just say I was away for 5 almost 6 months

Back now but bytch went through phone while I was gone and found some bullshyt

Now bytch questioning me and thinks I was doing shyt before I got.into my lil situation(did only once tho)

bytch stayed with me but now.we ain't living together at the moment like used to , she been living apart and doing things seperate ( we far away right now)and shyt n it's something I'm not used to anyways , had to tell her look I'm sorry for what I did and I'm.trying to.be a way better dude and make shyt work

Now she expects me to.Chase and told me I hurt her and it's gonna take a while to trust me again , calls.me and texts me tho

Well yesterday we was talking small talk and I hit her with a message which ain't need to really be responded to.and she didn't ... So I say fukk it I already called her when she was mad and not.talk tome and I never do that but it seem like she wants me to chase her and appear desperate.. fukk that , so we ain't talk.last night and I.ain't say shyt today , and just got.a text talmbout some "hey baby what u doin" now this bytch ain't respond or.call yesterday but want to.text me night time with this shyt. Question is what do I do , say fukk it and hit her back or just wait it out and get back at her when I'm ready I'm not tryna seem to available cuz that shyt kill attraction , but I brought this shyt upon myself what do I do my nikkas ??

Edit : fukked on vday she came seen me then wanted me to chase so we didn't talk until she ended up.calling me even tho I told her hit me somehow it was me who was supposed to.call

She had no business going thru your phone. Cut her loose. Relationships, partnerships, friendships so on and so forth. One of the key ingre is trust. And get rid of any and every thing that reminds you of her.

 

[jeh]

On spending money on your significant other*
NO matter if yall been together 1 day or 12 years...(time).. and no amount of currency is the right amount you have spent varies(its your choice, just make a rational choice) My views is this.....don't do it. Alot of pros and cons to lending some woman thats not your wife money.....but of course gentlemen. The cons outweighs the pros.

She won't respect you.
Why, lol.Why you ask,aren't these the same women screaming "money can't buy you love" All you are to her is a personal atm. Pretty soon, she'll be asking to upgrade this upgrade that. Before you know it.....you'll be co sign loans. Now, stop it now. Its a habit. First its a few dollars, then its a few dollars, then its tripling outta control. No hair done,no phone bill,no nails, none of that. Now if you want to feed her,by all means. If you cook, heck that's even better. We all gotta eat right. Right. I don't care if she ran out of gas. Or need a new tire or whatever. And don't be fooled when any one says this to you man or woman regarding your ENDS.

"What you want do,another man will"
As soon as that is uttered, politely exit the premises, if your not at your house of course. If your at your place, tell her to get out. Immediately. Don't get trapped by that shyt.


"I like when you spoil me"
Brehs......it is easier......EASIER TO ATTRACT FLIES WITH HONEY THAN VINEGAR. Don't let that sweet talk fukk yo mind up. Let go in one ear out the other.

Stay tight, keep shinning and don't fall the sunk cost shyt women putting y'all thru when it comes to your money. Now of course, respect begets respect. She showing you love with a gift, break her offa lil trinket every now and then. She forget your birthday, cool don't sweat it. But when hers here, and she asking you where her gift at:
"ITS AT THE GAWD DAMN STORE"
Lol, tell her straight like that.

 

[Music Fiend]

Brehs, I hit a new low today. In the risk of being made fun of, I actually realized today I may be that crazy ex. Its so cringe worthy but I have to confess.

After all the recovering I've done from my simpish ways of caring too much. I just messed up.

I ran into to one that got away tonight. She eventually left me after I let my life fall spiral out of control.

She looked bruhs, and I was lit. I was walking into a bar and she was walking out with a big group. We hug and ask how each other were, her friends call her name then she dips to catch up with her friends.

We dont talk and I dont have her #, so I get home and try to find her by searching her name. No luck. Then I remembered she always used the same username for everything and we had this open policy about social media and having each others passwords. I never used it.
I go to log in to IG to search the username and drunkenly was like just typed in her info and her old twitter password she used when dated a couple years back, for IG.

it logged in. I had this pathetic thought to snoop on her and go thru her messages. But I couldn't bring myself to do it. I immediately logged out and turned my phone off. Idk why i would do something like this, my phone keeps calling me to snoop now and i dont wanna give in. One it's pathetic and stalkerish and invading privacy, and 2, who knows what ether I will find. I wish I never did this.

I feel like a crazy ex nikka now.

 

[jeh]

Brehs, I hit a new low today. In the risk of being made fun of, I actually realized today I may be that crazy ex. Its so cringe worthy but I have to confess.

After all the recovering I've done from my simpish ways of caring too much. I just messed up.

I ran into to one that got away tonight. She eventually left me after I let my life fall spiral out of control.

She looked bruhs, and I was lit. I was walking into a bar and she was walking out with a big group. We hug and ask how each other were, her friends call her name then she dips to catch up with her friends.

We dont talk and I dont have her #, so I get home and try to find her by searching her name. No luck. Then I remembered she always used the same username for everything and we had this open policy about social media and having each others passwords. I never used it.
I go to log in to IG to search the username and drunkenly was like just typed in her info and her old twitter password she used when dated a couple years back, for IG.

it logged in. I had this pathetic thought to snoop on her and go thru her messages. But I couldn't bring myself to do it. I immediately logged out and turned my phone off. Idk why i would do something like this, my phone keeps calling me to snoop now and i dont wanna give in. One it's pathetic and stalkerish and invading privacy, and 2, who knows what ether I will find. I wish I never did this.

I feel like a crazy ex nikka now.

Yeah, I've let a few great ones get away myself. Don't be to hard on yourself breh. The point is, you showed you had self control. Enough self control not tp do it. Nothing gained or lost from checking considering shes your ex. That's why, I personally get rid of any and everything that I had from my ex(es). I was dating this chick from Bogalusa, bacc when I was doing " construction" and she was a correctional officer. Mane......petite, Carmel complexion, nice set of boobs, proportionate ass, legit 9 on her good days....8 on her off days. I never rate women, believe you me. She was amazing. Anyway, I told her I wasn't ready to settle down, (she wanted marriage) and I left. Long story short shes dead now. Shes perhaps the only woman outside my mother I told I loved. (Clears throat) Just understand, that its alot of great ones out in this world you know. But it hurts something vicious when a great one gets away. You'll be fine, now delete all the stuff you have about her....and stop snooping lol.

 

[Music Fiend]

Yeah, I've let a few great ones get away myself. Don't be to hard on yourself breh. The point is, you showed you had self control. Enough self control not tp do it. Nothing gained or lost from checking considering shes your ex. That's why, I personally get rid of any and everything that I had from my ex(es). I was dating this chick from Bogalusa, bacc when I was doing " construction" and she was a correctional officer. Mane......petite, Carmel complexion, nice set of boobs, proportionate ass, legit 9 on her good days....8 on her off days. I never rate women, believe you me. She was amazing. Anyway, I told her I wasn't ready to settle down, (she wanted marriage) and I left. Long story short shes dead now. Shes perhaps the only woman outside my mother I told I loved. (Clears throat) Just understand, that its alot of great ones out in this world you know. But it hurts something vicious when a great one gets away. You'll be fine, now delete all the stuff you have about her....and stop snooping lol.

Preciate it bro.

I deleted all her stuff long ago. Trust me, I'm not new to the game. I started down this journey of self discovery years ago. I've bettered myself in many ways by "letting go" of this relationship. I help all my friends out and bros out all the time as they come to me for advice these days. I blocked her from everything like @Emperor_ReinScarf would say. Hell I even deleted my FB so i wouldn't be tempted to check her profile. I thought I had moved on completely and was good. Rarely thought about her in the sense of having her back. It's been a couple years.

So running into her after not seeing her in a long time and having no words between us, I thought I would and bruh, that ish hit me so damn hard I almost sobered up. Feels just like it used to in terms of strength and power over me. It's depressing af. I didn't even check her profile, I logged into that hoe. smh. I just wanna erase it from my memory. for real got a nikka on some simp ish listening to take care. wtf.

Maybe I just need to call a piece to come stay with me for the night. In b4 "I need some company"lookin ass nikka.

 

[jeh]

Preciate it bro.

I deleted all her stuff long ago. Trust me, I'm not new to the game. I started down this journey of self discovery years ago. I've bettered myself in many ways by "letting go" of this relationship. I help all my friends out and bros out all the time as they come to me for advice these days. I blocked her from everything like @Emperor_ReinScarf would say. Hell I even deleted my FB so i wouldn't be tempted to check her profile. I thought I had moved on completely and was good. Rarely thought about her in the sense of having her back. It's been a couple years.

So running into her after not seeing her in a long time and having no words between us, I thought I would and bruh, that ish hit me so damn hard I almost sobered up. Feels just like it used to in terms of strength and power over me. It's depressing af. I didn't even check her profile, I logged into that hoe. smh. I just wanna erase it from my memory. for real got a nikka on some simp ish listening to take care. wtf.

Maybe I just need to call a piece to come stay with me for the night. In b4 "I need some company"lookin ass nikka.

I guess its safe to say Nothing was the same

Nah, it's all good homie. Yeah you got to keep pushing on man. In time you'll be cool. While you thinking about her, she ain't thinking about you. Got to rid yourself of everything. Cause that shyt will have you .

 

[MikelArteta]

We've all stalked breh, I'd give it awhile then change the passwords. To recover her accounts she will change the password. That's the thing with someone you once loved, anything can set you back until you reach total indifference . just seeing her will bring back all those emotions, have you just checking and you look up and a hour has gone by.

Don't kick yourself so hard just a minor setback

[QUOTE="Music Fiend, post: 12405439, member: 17081"]Brehs, I hit a new low today. In the risk of being made fun of, I actually realized today I may be that crazy ex. Its so cringe worthy but I have to confess.

After all the recovering I've done from my simpish ways of caring too much. I just messed up.

I ran into to one that got away tonight. She eventually left me after I let my life fall spiral out of control.

She looked bruhs, and I was lit. I was walking into a bar and she was walking out with a big group. We hug and ask how each other were, her friends call her name then she dips to catch up with her friends.

We dont talk and I dont have her #, so I get home and try to find her by searching her name. No luck. Then I remembered she always used the same username for everything and we had this open policy about social media and having each others passwords. I never used it.
I go to log in to IG to search the username and drunkenly was like just typed in her info and her old twitter password she used when dated a couple years back, for IG.

it logged in. I had this pathetic thought to snoop on her and go thru her messages. But I couldn't bring myself to do it. I immediately logged out and turned my phone off. Idk why i would do something like this, my phone keeps calling me to snoop now and i dont wanna give in. One it's pathetic and stalkerish and invading privacy, and 2, who knows what ether I will find. I wish I never did this.

I feel like a crazy ex nikka now.[/QUOTE]

 

[MikelArteta]

Everyone is human man, I remember during Christmas I went to Walmart and I swear I saw my ex, same height same winter jacket, I spent my whole time shopping scurrying around . Heart beating fast what if she sees me :heh', it turned out it wasn't even her.

You never know until that moment you see an ex or past love what will happen , it can be years and the emotions can just come back. It's like a trigger. Like a rape victim seeing her rapist again not ri equate the two but you can be over it and healed but it will still bring up some emotions.

Preciate it bro.

I deleted all her stuff long ago. Trust me, I'm not new to the game. I started down this journey of self discovery years ago. I've bettered myself in many ways by "letting go" of this relationship. I help all my friends out and bros out all the time as they come to me for advice these days. I blocked her from everything like @Emperor_ReinScarf would say. Hell I even deleted my FB so i wouldn't be tempted to check her profile. I thought I had moved on completely and was good. Rarely thought about her in the sense of having her back. It's been a couple years.

So running into her after not seeing her in a long time and having no words between us, I thought I would and bruh, that ish hit me so damn hard I almost sobered up. Feels just like it used to in terms of strength and power over me. It's depressing af. I didn't even check her profile, I logged into that hoe. smh. I just wanna erase it from my memory. for real got a nikka on some simp ish listening to take care. wtf.

Maybe I just need to call a piece to come stay with me for the night. In b4 "I need some company"lookin ass nikka.

 

[Ohene]

She had no business going thru your phone. Cut her loose. Relationships, partnerships, friendships so on and so forth. One of the key ingre is trust. And get rid of any and every thing that reminds you of her.

You be keylogging though. Hypocritical fam

 

[jeh]

You be keylogging though. Hypocritical fam

I don't understand what you're talking about

 

[Ohene]

I don't understand what you're talking about

my bad. I was trying to quoate Reincar lol

 

[jeh]

my bad. I was trying to quoate Reincar lol

I see. I just dont want us brehs getting caught up in this sunk cost fallacy.....no matter what. In this case, she went thru his phone and invaded his privacy. That shows a lack of
Respect
Trust
so we stick around(not all ) cause we feel we "messed" up and she found something she had no business of finding. So, its our phone. So now we keep trying to earn her trust back,.......when in reality she is supposed to be earning your trust back. SUNK COST FALLACY lot of em there are masters at making you feel guilty bout stuff, or making us feel guilty for endijg the relationship.....so we hold on, thinking it's gone get better. Thinking its gone pay off in tge future, because of all this " work and money and time and resources" you invested in the relationship. Sunk cost fallacy. That's why I CLAIM to say in any ship......Relation, Partner, Friend. Keep it tight brehs....and take care