Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[CityGuy]

if that was me I'd just call her up and say its not working, you will drive yourself crazy looking at her instagram every day from now on

It stings at first and maybe for a while, after it subsides you get the clarity of looking back and being happier you invested in youtself

 

[Hrcules]

This is hard brehs

What if it really doesnt mean anything and shes straight?

WHAT IF

 

[MikelArteta]

This is hard brehs

What if it really doesnt mean anything and shes straight?

WHAT IF

them emotional ties cloud the mind

 

[jadillac]

thanks for the responses guys, really appreciated

BUT i dont even follow this girl im seeing on instagram cuz i dont use it, today i stalked her for a bit amd noticed 2 days ago she uploaded a picture of some sunflowers someone gave her, in the description she had "thaaaaaaaaaaaaaanks " and that emoji with the hearts for eyes thing

Should i be worried? Like i went out with her on friday and then suday apperantly someone gave her flowers and she posted them on instagram

Should i call her out on it? Ask her who gave her those? Its driving me insane

I had a girl I was dealing with 2 years ago, we texted every day, thruout the day. Over a thousand texts I remember
Went on dates, I went over to her place and cooked us dinner & everything, etc.

I say this to say that one day while talking, she hit me w/ the "we're not exclusive" line, when I kinda thought we were.

I dont know all the details on your situation, but if she took the time to POST picture of flowers someone sent her, and then used the smiley face with the hearts, there's a small chance y'all aren't what you think y'all are. And she feels safe posting the pic b/c she knos ur not on IG. Plus, even if u ask her, she could say it's from her BFF....but wil u really believe that?

You sound young, if she is too, ur relationship prob not that serious to her. If I was you, cut yourself away from the situation slowly. She may be using you to pass the time so shes not home alone on a Friday night.

you could ask her her IG, then see the pic and comment on it, or you could just not give an eff and let it go.
This is just another issue of MANY you've already listed and if it's driving you crazy, as it seems, it ain't worth it.
Just ask yourself how llong you can continue going thru the same stuff you posted in this thread, and do you realllly think it's gonna magicallly straighten out and be smooth?

Assess the situation, and don't be afriad to chunk the deuce.


Just an observation....

 

[jadillac]

All in all just respect yourselves breh. It's as simple as that.

this right here will solve most everything when dealing with women out here

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

When women are hot and cold with their interest, best believe there is another dude, whether it is an ex, new guy, fukk buddy etc.

Two years ago I had a thing with this chick for a few weeks, she used to be weird, being emotional all over the place, being on and off with me, putting me down. I actually thought something was wrong with me, that I didnt have enough charisma, swagger, personality etc to keep a womans interest. After some research found out she been messing with a married man, married man was stringing her along lying he is gonna leave his wife. Till this day heard she still fukks married dude when his wife is out of town. Lucky thing I had no feelings for her, she was a rebound, I learnt my lesson and KIM with no hard feelings for home gal.

Yep last year there was a female super into me was all about it for I guess a long time, but only then was I starting to notice. I lowkey thought she was attractive for some time, so for a couple weeks we hung out a couple times and had a really great time doing the most nonchalant things. After a while, I found it harder to lock down meeting up with her or whatever. I beat myself up for it just like the homie @Hrcules is for some time like it would really bother me on occasion. In reality, I don't know what the fukk was up or if there was another dude or whatever, but I had to decide are my actions corny? Yes. Am I respecting myself sweating this chick who probably don't think about me in 90% of her days? The answer was no. Eventually she moved away late last year and for the most part thats that.

So if you're worried about the flowers, chances are you'll never find out what's really going on in her head just like I never did in this case. Most of the time she'll keep it cool with you and text you back, but they know you like them and aint gonna give you a full truth. Let that shyt goooooooooooooo lol @Hrcules you'll feel so much better for it when you look at as a past thing instead of a current thing. No one's telling you not to keep it friendly, I still do that with everyone but don't get wrapped up in it emotionally anymore


but on another topic are you glad you checked her IG or not? On one hand, you save yourself some time in case its not worth your time. On the other, you've now wasted so much thought into this.

 

[MikelArteta]

I had a girl I was dealing with 2 years ago, we texted every day, thruout the day. Over a thousand texts I remember
Went on dates, I went over to her place and cooked us dinner & everything, etc.

I say this to say that one day while talking, she hit me w/ the "we're not exclusive" line, when I kinda thought we were.

I dont know all the details on your situation, but if she took the time to POST picture of flowers someone sent her, and then used the smiley face with the hearts, there's a small chance y'all aren't what you think y'all are. And she feels safe posting the pic b/c she knos ur not on IG. Plus, even if u ask her, she could say it's from her BFF....but wil u really believe that?

You sound young, if she is too, ur relationship prob not that serious to her. If I was you, cut yourself away from the situation slowly. She may be using you to pass the time so shes not home alone on a Friday night.

you could ask her her IG, then see the pic and comment on it, or you could just not give an eff and let it go.
This is just another issue of MANY you've already listed and if it's driving you crazy, as it seems, it ain't worth it.
Just ask yourself how llong you can continue going thru the same stuff you posted in this thread, and do you realllly think it's gonna magicallly straighten out and be smooth?

Assess the situation, and don't be afriad to chunk the deuce.


Just an observation....

women will do and say anything to absolve themselves of responsibility. she hit you up with that line because someone else started giving her tingles more, if the situation were vice versa you'd be a a$$hole and a cheater and a player to all her friends.

I had the same thing happened to me, texting non stop, always calling me baby, always going out but then the I hope you don't think were more than friends

 

[MikelArteta]

Yes. Am I respecting myself sweating this chick who probably don't think about me in 90% of her days? The answer was no. Eventually she moved away late last year and for the most part thats that.

thats the thing dudes spend all day thinking about a chick the what ifs the different scenarios etc. when this chick aint thinking of you at all. If she cared she would text or try nd get in contact with you. It sucks but I can think of the women who were into me nothing stopped them from calling me texting, wanting to go out, they couldnt wait to see me or spend time wth me. Yes it sucks but you just have to stop focusing on those who don't care about you.

 

[MAGNETO.]

That's one of the aspects of why I disagree with a lot of that PUA movement. They are completely catering their behavior to whatever woman they are dealing with. It's headache-inducing trying to 'read her mind' and figure out the perfect ratio of texts to say, the perfect 'alpha' lines to hit her with, etc. What does she even have that is worth completely discarding your personality and your peace of mind in order to play the tap-dancing monkey for her?

When you like yourself and you are comfortable with yourself and you actually get out and about and you put yourself in different environments and you live life without the intent of 'catching this or that woman', you end up enjoying yourself a lot more and you get much higher quality of a woman. Why? Because you're not putting on this fake persona. You don't end up being confused about what to say next, nor do you feel awkward and uncomfortable because you're trying to force some interaction.

The ultimate key is to not change up and cater to a woman and be comfortable being who you are. Then you sit back and you focus on the women that are interested in you and don't bother with the ones that aren't. If you're in a particular area and the women aren't too into you, don't be afraid to go to another location. Location is HUGE. Some women may not be feeling you in such and such place, but they are feeling you in another... but really, the key is to not change up your personality and get into all this role-playing and faking because it will give you a headache and it's not really fun at the end of the day. When you focus on dealing with women that naturally like you for you, you won't have the 10,000 questions that pop up like, "What do I say next" or "how do I spark her interest." You only ask those questions when you are dealing with a woman who has low interest in you, and the best thing to do in that situation is not to turn into a chameleon and try to play into what she likes... it's to move on to a woman that naturally likes your style. I'm telling you, it will save you a ton of time and be 10,000 times more enjoyable since you are actually relaxing and being yourself and you're dealing with someone you constantly won't have to monitor your actions and wonder if you're being 'alpha' enough with.

 

[Atlrocafella]

Brehs, the main is a good chick, but I'm just not as into her as she is into me. It's cool when we kick it, but there isn't some huge chemistry, like I'm not thinking of her through out the day like I normally do with females I'm dealing with.

Should I give it time and let it grow some more? its only been two months and some change

To make it clear, I don't not like her, I do, but it's not a strong enough like to make me want to give her a title or introduce her to close friends and fam.

 

[The ADD]

Brehs, the main is a good chick, but I'm just not as into her as she is into me. It's cool when we kick it, but there isn't some huge chemistry, like I'm not thinking of her through out the day like I normally do with females I'm dealing with.

Should I give it time and let it grow some more? its only been two months and some change

To make it clear, I don't not like her, I do, but it's not a strong enough like to make me want to give her a title or introduce her to close friends and fam.

Is she asking for a title or introductions?

 

[Atlrocafella]

Is she asking for a title or introductions?

She's not asking for the title yet, but she's mentioning me to her friends and family, trying to set up double dates and shyt like that, some of the conversations we've had, I can tell she's already positioning herself as the GF by certain things she says.

 

[TRUEST]

Brehs, the main is a good chick, but I'm just not as into her as she is into me. It's cool when we kick it, but there isn't some huge chemistry, like I'm not thinking of her through out the day like I normally do with females I'm dealing with.

Should I give it time and let it grow some more? its only been two months and some change

To make it clear, I don't not like her, I do, but it's not a strong enough like to make me want to give her a title or introduce her to close friends and fam.

sadly, in this day in age, its a chick like this that you're probably better off wifing. u dont want to wife up a chick u are super into because when men love, we love hard and women know when u really like them. and if she is a unscrupulous woman (which will most likely be the case) all she'll be plotting on and thinking about is "what more can i get from this guy?".

my advice, if you are sexually attracted to this chick, and ur not easily turned off by her, id say give it more time. the ex of mine i spoke off several pages ago who flew from coast to coast to visit me, i wasn't deeply into her. but i cared about her. like i said, had she been younger or around my age, id have zero problems wifing her.

if ur looking for the one chick u're going to be super into, beware, you are heading into a rabbit hole u wont be able to get out of easily.

 

[The ADD]

She's not asking for the title yet, but she's mentioning me to her friends and family, trying to set up double dates and shyt like that, some of the conversations we've had, I can tell she's already positioning herself as the GF by certain things she says.

Let it ride until she brings it up. You might come to an answer by them or if you haven't then that's your answer.

 

[Atlrocafella]

sadly, in this day in age, its a chick like this that you're probably better off wifing. u dont want to wife up a chick u are super into because when men love, we love hard and women know when u really like them. and if she is a unscrupulous woman (which will most likely be the case) all she'll be plotting on and thinking about is "what more can i get from this guy?".

my advice, if you are sexually attracted to this chick, and ur not easily turned off by her, id say give it more time. the ex of mine i spoke off several pages ago who flew from coast to coast to visit me, i wasn't deeply into her. but i cared about her. like i said, had she been younger or around my age, id have zero problems wifing her.

if ur looking for the one chick u're going to be super into, beware, you are heading into a rabbit hole u wont be able to get out of easily.

You're absolutely right, the ones that you're heavily into be the ones that have you messed up once shyt goes left.
At the same time, I'm fearful that if the chemistry isn't there, someone else's is eventually going to grab my attention who I do feel like I have chemistry with.

I'll give it some more time like you and @The ADD said, I'll see what it is by the 3 month mark.