Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Damn man. I hate to hear anyone sound this down. You have to ignore everything in your mind that's telling you your mouthpiece won't work. TAKE YOUR SHOTS! At the end of the day, even if you aren't successful, what have you really lost? Nothing. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose. Always keep that in mind. It isn't healthy for any man to be so trapped in his own mind that it keeps him from living his life.

i dont chase after women or holler not because I'm shy I just don't care.
But yeah if whatever you are scared at in life CONQUER IT

I used to be scared of travelling alone, first time i was like now im that I don't even want to travel with anyone anymore

I used to be terrified of snakes, said f it and went to a reptile zoo and now they don't bother me at all.

I used to be terrified of public speaking, signed up for toastmasters and now im a lil out there


fears will just hold you down, especially when it comes to women, stop placing them higher than you are. The worst she can say is gasp NO, most women arent going to say f outta my face and hurl insults just a polit eno if they are not interested. Just think of it like this if you don't holler at a women your feeling, and if you holler and get rejected in both instances your not getting her number.

 

[MikelArteta]

I always say you shouldn't get serious with a woman or consider marriage until you meet a woman that is worth getting serious with or worth getting married to.

As well only associate with women who respond to you treating them well. What I mean is forget those chicks who only respond to mysterious, aloof, distant, azzholes that you have to morph into some Mr potato head character. If some chick doesn't appreciate being respected and treated well why waste your time associating with her? Let the vultures have the rotten left over meat.

As well its up to us as men to require what a chick will bring. If all you require for happiness is a pretty face and sex then enjoy the spoils and everything else that will bring. When you vet and demand more and hold yourself to a higher standard these chicks gotta bring more. It's just like in the NFL you can have all the talent, size speed but if you can't stay out of trouble you'll be a Justin blackmon, Josh Gordon.

 

[Morose Polymath]

brehs, if you have a chance and the time to be in a wedding party, do that shyt...
These broads be choosing at these weddings

Spoiler

Most Of them reformed thots tho

 

[360dagod]

brehs, if you have a chance and the time to be in a wedding party, do that shyt...
These broads be choosing at these weddings

Spoiler

Most Of them reformed thots tho

Pretty much like Church

 

[LordTaskForce]

As well only associate with women who respond to you treating them well. What I mean is forget those chicks who only respond to mysterious, aloof, distant, azzholes that you have to morph into some Mr potato head character. If some chick doesn't appreciate being respected and treated well why waste your time associating with her? Let the vultures have the rotten left over meat.

This is really A1 advice. You have to be with someone that truly appreciates you. You shouldn't have to explain to someone why you are a benefit in their life.

 

[Shadow King]

Brehs what does it mean when you paying for an item and the chick covers her mouth with her hair while she ringing you up?

 

[It is a mystery]

this thread is huge as hell and im not gonna bother reading 2k+ pages so ive been reading most dapped posts. Any piff I might miss from doing this (quality posts with low daps etc.)?

 

[MikelArteta]

this thread is huge as hell and im not gonna bother reading 2k+ pages so ive been reading most dapped posts. Any piff I might miss from doing this (quality posts with low daps etc.)?

theres quality posts all over but
you can search by username
search username sharp, kevm3, CrossBones

 

[TheArchitect]

Damn man. I hate to hear anyone sound this down. You have to ignore everything in your mind that's telling you your mouthpiece won't work. TAKE YOUR SHOTS! At the end of the day, even if you aren't successful, what have you really lost? Nothing. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose. Always keep that in mind. It isn't healthy for any man to be so trapped in his own mind that it keeps him from living his life.

INDEED. I believe that's my MAIN problem with everything, not just females. Majority of my life has been lived deep within my head. My head was filled with all types of nonsensical, negative ideas. Dude, I can't even tell if a female is even attracted to me or not. It always seemed like everyone else wasn't getting rejected all the time, but I was....I would always get shyt on by females. Even the 1st female I legit "liked" shyt on me. Had a lil nikka heartbroken and humiliated, crying on the curb and shyt....quite traumatizing. I feel like I've always been denied food, (asides from a couple scraps, but nothing healthy or filling) just for being me. It'd be different if I was a fukking weirdo in a bad way, or some other negative attribute, but I don't fit the description. I'm just a bit unique, 'tis all....

 

[MikelArteta]

INDEED. I believe that's my MAIN problem with everything, not just females. Majority of my life has been lived deep within my head. My head was filled with all types of nonsensical, negative ideas. Dude, I can't even tell if a female is even attracted to me or not. It always seemed like everyone else wasn't getting rejected all the time, but I was....I would always get shyt on by females. Even the 1st female I legit "liked" shyt on me. Had a lil nikka heartbroken and humiliated, crying on the curb and shyt....quite traumatizing. I feel like I've always been denied food, (asides from a couple scraps, but nothing healthy or filling) just for being me. It'd be different if I was a fukking weirdo in a bad way, or some other negative attribute, but I don't fit the description. I'm just a bit unique, 'tis all....

i actually like when a female flat out tells me shes not interested or im just a "friend". because its better than being stuck in the unknown all frustrated, wondering etc.



women want you in the state of confusion because thats when you give them the benefit of the doubt.

Reading a woman is sometimes hard, chicks can be flirty and touchy feeling and still just view you as a friend. Heres the thing everyoen gets rejected whether its from a job, women, hell even women do from men ala a dude beats and doesnt call back or they get played.

Just got to let the past not define you wipe that slate clean and push forward

 

[Spin]

INDEED. I believe that's my MAIN problem with everything, not just females. Majority of my life has been lived deep within my head. My head was filled with all types of nonsensical, negative ideas. Dude, I can't even tell if a female is even attracted to me or not. It always seemed like everyone else wasn't getting rejected all the time, but I was....I would always get shyt on by females. Even the 1st female I legit "liked" shyt on me. Had a lil nikka heartbroken and humiliated, crying on the curb and shyt....quite traumatizing. I feel like I've always been denied food, (asides from a couple scraps, but nothing healthy or filling) just for being me. It'd be different if I was a fukking weirdo in a bad way, or some other negative attribute, but I don't fit the description. I'm just a bit unique, 'tis all....

i actually like when a female flat out tells me shes not interested or im just a "friend". because its better than being stuck in the unknown all frustrated, wondering etc.



women want you in the state of confusion because thats when you give them the benefit of the doubt.

Reading a woman is sometimes hard, chicks can be flirty and touchy feeling and still just view you as a friend. Heres the thing everyoen gets rejected whether its from a job, women, hell even women do from men ala a dude beats and doesnt call back or they get played.

Just got to let the past not define you wipe that slate clean and push forward

As a person who used to be in my own head, I can say being straight forward with a chick when you first meet her is the way to go. Most guys are too scared to do this. It took me awhile to get to that level, but I realized it saved being frustrated and TIME. You don't have to tell her straight out you want to fukk her (though this is possible), but you tell her you're not interested in just being friends with her off rip. More than 50% of the time, you will notice the chicks eyes start to light up as you have "shaken" her out of her auto guy response routine. Chicks will only do what we let them get away with. They're constantly testing us with shyt tests to see how we respond. Be the leader and state your intention from the jump.

 

[TheArchitect]

As a person who used to be in my own head, I can say being straight forward with a chick when you first meet her is the way to go. Most guys are too scared to do this. It took me awhile to get to that level, but I realized it saved being frustrated and TIME. You don't have to tell her straight out you want to fukk her (though this is possible), but you tell her you're not interested in just being friends with her off rip. More than 50% of the time, you will notice the chicks eyes start to light up as you have "shaken" her out of her auto guy response routine. Chicks will only do what we let them get away with. They're constantly testing us with shyt tests to see how we respond. Be the leader and state your intention from the jump.

Yeah, I'm thinking that's the only option I have right now.

honestly, I ain't looking for no storybook marriage, movie-like relationship type of thing at all. I just simply want to have someone(s) to chill with, that I'm actually feeling....but seemingly the universe has had other plans, unless it's because of my non-action.

Most people have a good idea of what their range is....I have NO CLUE what mines is at all....not natural...I've even had friends look at me and be like "wtf dude? How are you not raping bytches by now??? I can't even go a month without the nookie..."

I don't even know what "good p*ssy" feels like...

 

[Youseenmywork]

....WTF is wrong with me?????

So today I'm shopping, and I see one of the chicks I was actually fairly attracted to (I used to work the store I was shopping in, I'm a vendor). I don't know why, but I have quite a strong attraction to her, though I've only briefly spoke her twice. I really wanted to try and start a convo, but all I could really get out was a half-assed "how are you" or some shyt like that. I felt so damn awkward....It's like everytime I try and start convo with someone I'm attracted to or whatever, shyt never works. I can't get it to flow naturally like others. I talk to any other person it's fine....It's like I get this BLOCK that gives me this "fukk it, it ain't gonna work anyway" feeling. I don't know how other people think, but I know that shyt ain't natural AT ALL....

I don't know how much longer I can take this by myself shyt. I guess it's true what they say about people being lonely for too long; it fukks with your mental well-being. It's sort of like I notice myself growing number and number...I just don't want to get pushed over the edge. I can go on and on about what lead up to these thoughts, but I'll just say this: Of all My 31 and a half years on this planet, I've been alone for about 30....and the year I wasn't wasn't even worth remembering....

This is one of the post that i wanted to respond to. First i wanna say approaching women that you are attracted to is tought because most of the time women have heard everything there is to hear cause many of them get approached daily. Honestly when it comes to men that are natural it just boils down to how much those guys talk to women im the introvert type plus ive never have been the club or bar type of guy. So a lot of the men that are naturals its cause bars, clubs, and or college have been there practice grounds...let me not forget house parties as well.

I havent been in a relationship since last july and i was 30 at the time it was my first time being in love. I havent had the urge to deal with women for many reason since then. I sit and think about all the things i have learned about women i was the guy in college that was very knowledgeable when it came to women but i didnt know how to apply it. In my mind this has always held me back. It could also be cause im not the most outgoing person as well. Im not shy but i dont know always what to say either ...it dosent help that im always in my head as well.

Dont let let it get you down thoe. In fact if i were you i would reassess my life. What i mean by that is nobody in this thread is a complete man we all have insecurites, fears , financial issues as well as spirtual issues and many others. Being 31 I dont get how i have to be all these things as a man to be desirable but women dont have to be a 1/3 of what i have to be. To me dont understand womens value outside of the obvious(sex). I know were at mentally and im saying make some changes address insecurites and fears . Make your life so great that women is not needed . Remember we are all playing the game weither we like it or not ...but if you dont play (get better at it) you just lose quicker.

Tommorow i start my own personal spiritual journey no tv no cell phone no music and no enternet for 35 days. I wanna focus on things that truly make a better person and or man. Ive said a couple of times in this thread i dont wont to get married and i still feel this way because im the prize i look out at the world and im just not intrested in whats going on out hear but i can admit im not the best communicator so imwann learn to communicste more effectively. Getting better as a man shouldnt be about women ...it should be about a or the bigger picture.

 

[Youseenmywork]

As a person who used to be in my own head, I can say being straight forward with a chick when you first meet her is the way to go. Most guys are too scared to do this. It took me awhile to get to that level, but I realized it saved being frustrated and TIME. You don't have to tell her straight out you want to fukk her (though this is possible), but you tell her you're not interested in just being friends with her off rip. More than 50% of the time, you will notice the chicks eyes start to light up as you have "shaken" her out of her auto guy response routine. Chicks will only do what we let them get away with. They're constantly testing us with shyt tests to see how we respond. Be the leader and state your intention from the jump.

Many people tell me im too honest and straight forward.

 

[fkthisgaysite]

Registered for this thread. I had a lot I wanted to say but it took like two weeks for my registration to be approved.

I'm 22 and I had to teach myself everything I know about women. My dad is cool but he pretty much only told me "don't put the p*ssy on a pedastal". He probably would have told me more but I like to keep my emotions and shyt to myself, so he most likely figured I didn't need any help and I didn't care about love and all that.

Getting to the point: I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who posted legitimate advice. I read about 90 pages but most of the posts started to become the same stuff but worded differently. A lot of it is indeed situational but there's still tons of things a lot of dudes should read over.

This thread definitely changed my view on women and made light of what my dad told me. I didn't understand what he meant until I read this thread. Luckily, I was only a simp with two girls but now I know what to look out for.
A lot of this stuff I already knew, though...which is good to know that I had put myself on the right track all these years.

After soaking up all the information I gathered in this thread, I really don't even know what to do as far as women go. Like, I really couldn't care less if I were to stay single for the rest of my life and it's honestly liberating af to not care about shyt like that anymore. I still enjoy looking at women and shyt but that's about it.

I agree with whoever said every man needs his heart broken by a woman. Imo, that's when you become a man because a devastating breakup is what tunes you in to your emotions. I used to hate a certain ex of mine but now I'm forever thankful. Our breakup changed me in almost every single way and for the better. I know exactly what I want out of a relationship and what I like/dislike in a female because of her. Breaking up with her forced me to enjoy being alone and now I don't need to be with anybody. I'd never tell her but she made me into the person I am today. My life would be totally different if I never met her.

I used to have no confidence at all. I used to hate the way I talk, look, my height (5'7''), my hair, my complexion, my name...damn near everything until I started really thinking about things and paying attention to certain situations, like where/why/when/how women talk to me and treat me. I would stare at myself in the mirror, forcing myself to pick out things I liked about my face and shyt. Corny but it worked. I don't know why I never had confidence, I've never had issues getting girls. It was just hard for me to believe someone actually had feelings for me, I suppose.

I spend a lot of time alone. I have tons of friends but people are busy. If I'm not working or some shyt, I'm thinking about what I can do to improve myself. This has nothing to do with money or material things. It's more of a mental and soul development thing. I'm more worried about what happens after you die (intrigued would be the better word) than the next girl I'm going to fukk. A lot of people don't get that, though. So many dudes ask me, "BRO...HOW CAN YOU NOT NEED p*ssy BRO? I SWEAR MAN I NEED IT EVERYDAY BRO I NEED ME SOME p*ssy" - that is weak af to me. You shouldn't NEED anything from anyone other than their respect. My own damn cousin thinks I'm gay because I won't sit there with him and discuss sexual shyt or because I'm never trying to get laid. I've never understood why a bunch of nikkaz would want to sit around and talk about what they like having done to them and all that shyt. You really have nothing else better to talk about? C'mon bro...

There are so many things to have your mind stapled to other than p*ssy. Don't attach your self-worth to sex.