Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[TrapHouse Rock]

Okay I'll be keeping my eye on this thread. I wont contribute as much because I really don't feel comfortable in here no more. So far my advice was shot down and I was basically accused of dismissing their experience etc. But I am curious as to what type of jobs these women have, age range but then again they'd say its not the point. There are some selfish women out there.

I know I've made my mistakes with a past relationship and I look back on it now thinking wow, I'll be honest there were two guys I disappeared on (1) for a few weeks because of personal things (no other guy involved) but we ended up reconnecting later, he contacted me and the rest is history, I wanted to marry him but we are having issues now. The other guy (once again no other guy involved as to why i left, like some have stated) got very weird asking for naked pics and was a total head case there was no changing his mind, he told me that he was dumped by every woman he's been with by text message and that they are all game players. Every time we talked he was complaining about women and then his mental illness started to show, brother had ptsd and a sleep disorder. I talked to him for about a week before I left, he scared the mess out of me. It was sad because he was intelligent, goal oriented....That's why I said maybe some guys should watch how they are coming across to women as well. Like my example above, some of my friends and relatives have dumped men because of things they have said or red flag behaviors. I wanted to give my opinion on what men were going through because a woman knows another woman just like when people say listen to men they know men. I'll be watching this thread.

It really has nothing to do with the jobs of these women or anything like that, met some great girls from great backgrounds with great jobs and still seen some of this stuff happen to me personally or to my boys. That's not to say you might be different or people you know are different, but brehs are just sharing their experiences and they are often eerily similar.

Appreciate the respect you post with though

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

i hear you breh its just when you aint got no hommies to go out and meet women with, most women will be out in groups and it will be hard to go places without looking like a creepy loaner.

agree with the couple cold approaches to get it out of your system, and if you just go places and have a good time (i.e. hit a bar, grab some food, chat a bartender) you won't look like a creepy loner. People always think its weird to do shyt alone, but as long as you enjoy yourself a) it doesn't matter b) nobody will care if you're alone


Just the other day I was hungry was out by a town that had some decent food, just plopped down middle of the day at a bar had some food, chatted a couple people, and rolled out. It was a solid lunch and I had a great time

 

[Sincere Noble]

agree with the couple cold approaches to get it out of your system, and if you just go places and have a good time (i.e. hit a bar, grab some food, chat a bartender) you won't look like a creepy loner. People always think its weird to do shyt alone, but as long as you enjoy yourself a) it doesn't matter b) nobody will care if you're alone


Just the other day I was hungry was out by a town that had some decent food, just plopped down middle of the day at a bar had some food, chatted a couple people, and rolled out. It was a solid lunch and I had a great time

I used to be like that as well but this year I've started to go out to Bars and Night clubs solo because alot of friends have either kids and no money. Ive actually had alot more fun than I imagined and met alot of great women and new friends. My smash rate has been the same as its always been. I think if you're at the bar or on the dance floor and just having a good time naturally and not worrying about what people are thinking of you people will naturally gravitate towards you anyway. Plus, since Im rolling solo my head is a little bit more on a swivel and I don't have to worry about nikkas I roll with getting into extra shyt.

 

[b_priest9mm]

Girl will flat out ask for your number or offer hers and or try and set something up (we should go workout together/we should watch a movie/ etc).

It's one thing to read truth like this on TRP, Misc or (God forbid) Sluthate.

But coming from coli bretheren, this is gospel.

I know now how to proceed from here on in.

 

[MikelArteta]

Never get down on yourselves young brothers. Take control of the world around you and you will flourish. I just let my Kenyan shorty go not too long ago and I think I have something else brewing. A woman I've known since my teenage years. She's a lawyer now, working for the board of education. This woman is beautiful.

She reached out to me recently, after seeing a bunch of pictures I posted from Qatar. Been having some good conversation and we're linking up when I get back to NY. I'm not overthinking anything, I'm just being myself and letting things materialize on their own. Stay up.

 

[Bless't]

Brehs I think I finally found a women I want to spend significant time with.

First date we went to the park and shared sour patch kids, almonds and two bottles of white wine.

2nd date we went to a vegan Japanese spot and she offered to pick up half the check and she bought the ice cream
After

3rd date is this Saturday and we
Are going hiking to Alamere falls at point Reyes.

I'm happy with the way things are going, but I know it can end at any moment due to how irrational women are... Keeping my expectations very low.

I already know she wants physical contact, but I'm holding out on her and trying to get in her head first... Trying something different this time as opposed to just fukking first or second date.

Good luck breh.

 

[RealAssanova]

I know how it is fam. I'm going through something myself..

Back in October me and my ex split over me losing my cool over a nikka that jugged me over craigslist. Things were getting bad before then but was the last straw. I left and she changed
the locks on the door the next day. I was sick and determined to get her back. I did the same things you did, texting her mushy shyt and telling her how I felt because I really did love her. She has a son (I've been in his life since he was 4) and my son really thought they were brothers. For 2 months I worked on changing the things about myself I knew I needed to change, I even went to see a therapist and took a class for anger management. I really wanted my family back so I did everything I had to do show her I was serious. During this time my mom was diagnosed with cancer and her health deteriorated fast. So I'm trying to get my ex back, taking care of my moms and kids..I got a promotion at my job that required me travel so I was in and out of town. We reconnect back in January..talking on the phone everyday, going out with the kids, spending time. She knew how I felt about her and I made it known but it never got back to the way it was. I couldn't shake the feeling that she was trying to friend zone me. I wasn't having that. I've done to much and fought to hard to save our relationship for her to basically accept a demotion in her life. I also couldn't afford to invest any more time and emotion in her because my mother needed me more than ever. I cut all communication with her in the beginning of June and haven't talked to her since. She text me asking about my mom but I didn't respond. I still love her, I think about her constantly but at the same time I want her to live her life and find happiness. My life got to real and I really needed to focus and handle my business as a man. I said all of that to say this: sometimes it can be your ego that don't want to take the L, especially if you were the one that fukked up. But that's a question you have ask yourself. I hope everything works out, either way you'll come out stronger.

hope your mom gets better breh. If you never prayed before breh, now would be the best time and stay positive.

 

[NerdNash]

If she starts to nag, grab her aggressively and kiss her passionately while she is in mid complaint. She will shut up and forget whatever it was she was upset about to begin with. My man does this to me a lot, and it works every single time. We've been together for 4 years.

What's your thought on my situation .... Me trying to get my ex back

 

[Fatboi1]

1. when she was unemployed and I did her resume and applied for jobs and got her a job and she never even said thanks.

2. she owed me money and instead of paying me back she went out and bought a car just showed how low she viewed me

3. Came home from work one day to her in my house with some nikka announcing to my mom that their engaged

4. her threatening to call the cops on me for "harrasing" her when I asked back for the money I went her to get her place

there was a whole combo of things, not to mention she cheated on me and gave me a std, and tried to pin a pregnancy on me

was 5 years of hell, but i got out of it. She literally lives 2 minutes away but i havent said anything since dec 2013

im sorry this is just so fukked up.

 

[MikelArteta]

I've been through so many things shocked I never totally lost it

im sorry this is just so fukked up.

 

[Sovereign]

 

[NerdNash]

Well first ask yourself why are they ex?

I was a cheater.

 

[Sovereign]

 

[NerdNash]

Well when my boyfriend cheated on me, I was disgusted and didn't want anything else to do with him ever. BUT I loved him. He was man enough to tell me he did it or else I would've never known. This is the man that I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Get them to understand your desperateness... That you can't live without them. It will be tough at first, but you will have a lot of making up to do. Begging and doing whatever to make them happy. Convey how serious you are through your actions. Own your mistakes, don't try to justify them or make excuses for what you did..

That's all I've been doing. Begging and pleading my case. I was such a piece of shyt. Numerous girls and just mad foul shyt. This time I'm fed up with myself and I'm done with all that. Just hard to get her to believe me this time. I'm not giving up tho. I've even written a journal of everything I think and feel about what I'm going thru. Started yesterday. Planning on sending it next week and I'm going to keep writing and sending. It'll help me get through it and maybe it will make her at least stop and think. There's a lot of things I need to get together that I'm doing currently and hopefully she sees my effort.

 

[MikelArteta]

Don't mean to be rude but this is why you don't take advice from a woman


They want you to beg and plead but in essence they lose respect for you as a man.

Fight for her, follow your heart, tell her how you feel, don't go a day without letting you know she loves you. Deep down she feels the same way.

You know how many times ive hard this from female friends? When I've been dumped or cheated on

This is not the movies whn you've been dumped and you show up outside with teh guitar or the radio playing kci and jo jo and she looks out and smiles and opens the door and ends up running back into your arm. No this is real life.

I know how this story goes.


LIke I said somethings are worth fighting for but rarely if ever its a woman.. A woman that wants to be with you needs no "fighting for", its seamless its easy.

Yes you may have been in the wrong but if you apologize and let her know thats good enough if she doesn't accept its not mean to be.

Trust me women have no problems keeping past lovers as "friends" Every day she gets er validation, knowing she can have you at a moments glance if she wants.