Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Well when my boyfriend cheated on me, I was disgusted and didn't want anything else to do with him ever. BUT I loved him. He was man enough to tell me he did it or else I would've never known. This is the man that I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Get them to understand your desperateness... That you can't live without them. It will be tough at first, but you will have a lot of making up to do. Begging and doing whatever to make them happy. Convey how serious you are through your actions. Own your mistakes, don't try to justify them or make excuses for what you did..

like I said its typical, women run of emotions, while men are more logical.

Example a man gets cheated on he may want his girl back but he realizes because of logical thinking that he cant trust her and it will never work while most men will never take back a cheater, a woman gets cheated on or played right away she breaks up or dumps dude because shes going off emotion.. When she cools down she realizes how much she loves him.

Here's the caveat even if your boyfriend didn't "fight for you" and pour out his heart you would have eventually come back. It's like I always say if a woman wants to be with you it doesn't matter what you do. And if she doesn't want to be with you IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU DO. It's why women return to cheaters, abusers, losers etc. because of the emotions it doesn't matter what the guy does. I call it the lebron james, he can leave Cleveland in the middle of the night be hated jersey burned, go elsewhere for 4 years and decide to come back and its like he never left his seat at the table and place in the heart of Cleveland fans etc is still there. It didn't matter what lebron did how he slighted the organization etc. because at the end of the day.

And its what I've been saying it doesn't matter what you do as a man if a woman wants you she'll be with you, regardless if beg and plead or if you carry on with your life and don't speak to her.


And this It's no slight against you but its just biology and the way men and women are wired. It's why when in a rage of anger if a man dumps a woman he will most likely take it back because he hasn't thought bout it, its also why as a man if a woman does the whole getting distant thing talking to the wolfpack and then dumping you its mostly over because emotions and logic met up and fought and logic won.

 

[PinotNoir]

That's all I've been doing. Begging and pleading my case. I was such a piece of shyt. Numerous girls and just mad foul shyt. This time I'm fed up with myself and I'm done with all that. Just hard to get her to believe me this time. I'm not giving up tho. I've even written a journal of everything I think and feel about what I'm going thru. Started yesterday. Planning on sending it next week and I'm going to keep writing and sending. It'll help me get through it and maybe it will make her at least stop and think. There's a lot of things I need to get together that I'm doing currently and hopefully she sees my effort.

I'm going to tell you something and it's what some posters have said before but I have a different twist. Stop initiating contact, like stop it. Make her miss you and in the mean time you can hopefully gain clarity. The point is to get her her to miss you. She's probably bragging to people she knows about how you don't want to let her go xyz. Stop contacting her ASAP. Let her miss you I can't stress this enough. In mean time workout and do something productive to keep busy.

 

[PinotNoir]

like I said its typical, women run of emotions, while men are more logical.

Example a man gets cheated on he may want his girl back but he realizes because of logical thinking that he cant trust her and it will never work while most men will never take back a cheater, a woman gets cheated on or played right away she breaks up or dumps dude because shes going off emotion.. When she cools down she realizes how much she loves him.

Here's the caveat even if your boyfriend didn't "fight for you" and pour out his heart you would have eventually come back. It's like I always say if a woman wants to be with you it doesn't matter what you do. And if she doesn't want to be with you IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU DO. It's why women return to cheaters, abusers, losers etc. because of the emotions it doesn't matter what the guy does. I call it the lebron james, he can leave Cleveland in the middle of the night be hated jersey burned, go elsewhere for 4 years and decide to come back and its like he never left his seat at the table and place in the heart of Cleveland fans etc is still there. It didn't matter what lebron did how he slighted the organization etc. because at the end of the day.

And its what I've been saying it doesn't matter what you do as a man if a woman wants you she'll be with you, regardless if beg and plead or if you carry on with your life and don't speak to her.


And this It's no slight against you but its just biology and the way men and women are wired. It's why when in a rage of anger if a man dumps a woman he will most likely take it back because he hasn't thought bout it, its also why as a man if a woman does the whole getting distant thing talking to the wolfpack and then dumping you its mostly over because emotions and logic met up and fought and logic won.

His problem is that he's making himself too available. Right now he's most likely being taken for granted even though she seems receptive.

 

[MikelArteta]

His problem is that he's making himself too available. Right now he's most likely being taken for granted even though she seems receptive.

 

[MikelArteta]

I'm going to tell you something and it's what some posters have said before but I have a different twist. Stop initiating contact, like stop it. Make her miss you and in the mean time you can hopefully gain clarity. The point is to get her her to miss you. She's probably bragging to people she knows about how you don't want to let her go xyz. Stop contacting her ASAP. Let her miss you I can't stress this enough. In mean time workout and do something productive to keep busy.

I agree with this but its not the "make her miss you", its basically getting back yourself.

 

[PinotNoir]

I agree with this but its not the "make her miss you", its basically getting back yourself.

Yea it works but he needs to be doing something else in the mean time. The advice you guys have given, he's doing the opposite. That's why I decided to throw that little gem in there I'm telling it seriously works though but he has to do his own thing and he may realize he doesn't really want her.

 

[RealAssanova]

why do older women always feel the need to say they can pass off as my mother whenever i approach them?

i'm 26 years old brehs. But i have a young lookin face though

 

[Atlrocafella]

@DropQ good stuff brehette

 

[MikelArteta]

i'm 26 years old brehs

damn i thought you were like 20

 

[NerdNash]

Yea it works but he needs to be doing something else in the mean time. The advice you guys have given, he's doing the opposite. That's why I decided to throw that little gem in there I'm telling it seriously works though but he has to do his own thing and he may realize he doesn't really want her.

I feel you man but it's hard we been together every day for years so it's only natural that I'm use to hitting her up.

 

[RealAssanova]

damn i thought you were like 20

lol naaa. looks like i need to pack on some serious muscle now.

 

[MikelArteta]

I feel you man but it's hard we been together every day for years so it's only natural that I'm use to hitting her up.

familiarity.
its like if you smoked every day for those years hard to just stop

I remember years ago when I broke up with my ex fiance, it was hard because this was someone i spoke to every day all day for like 3 years and the worst was I abandoned my friends throughout that time, so when I cut her off I had nothing and it was hard. But as time goes on you get better.

 

[kevm3]

familiarity.
its like if you smoked every day for those years hard to just stop

I remember years ago when I broke up with my ex fiance, it was hard because this was someone i spoke to every day all day for like 3 years and the worst was I abandoned my friends throughout that time, so when I cut her off I had nothing and it was hard. But as time goes on you get better.

That's a key point. Never, ever abandon your friends once you get a woman. As soon as she ends up leaving, you'll be stuck on your lonesome.

 

[MikelArteta]

That's a key point. Never, ever abandon your friends once you get a woman. As soon as she ends up leaving, you'll be stuck on your lonesome.

yup, and that the thing that many men struggle with, your chick leaves then suddenly you have nothing. I remember my phone wouldn't even ring or a text coming in for weeks at a time, and I used to be a guy with like over 1000 texts per month. I don't even think I missed my ex really I just missed having someone to talk to and hang out with.

 

[PinotNoir]

I feel you man but it's hard we been together every day for years so it's only natural that I'm use to hitting her up.

I know it's hard but you must have discipline and cut contact if you want a fighting chance at her. I know it sounds counter productive but it works. They always come back.