Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[NerdNash]

That's another question. Dig deeper ask yourself why you're insecure and, how do you know they didn't see your flaws and all. Usually how we view ourselves isn't how others see us. Dig deeper some more.

fukk it.

I'm not hitting her up anymore. This could mean losing her for good and I'm just going to have to accept it. I facetimed her this morning and it wasn't bad but it wasn't good either. She knows I'm sick and she knows I'm hurt. She loves me and I love her. She said me hitting her up and saying I miss her etc. drains her. She said I just need to live for the day and better myself and not worry about her. She said it's been 3 months and what has really changed. I honestly couldn't tell her what's changed. She said me thinking a certain way doesn't mean I changed. Said I have to show it with actions. But at the same time if I cut off all communication how will she notice my change? Maybe that's a dumb question but it's a serious one. I don't know how Ima find the strength to not buckle at times and hit her up but I HAVE TO fukkING DO THIS.

 

[Fatboi1]

fukk it.

I'm not hitting her up anymore. This could mean losing her for good and I'm just going to have to accept it. I facetimed her this morning and it wasn't bad but it wasn't good either. She knows I'm sick and she knows I'm hurt. She loves me and I love her. She said me hitting her up and saying I miss her etc. drains her. She said I just need to live for the day and better myself and not worry about her. She said it's been 3 months and what has really changed. I honestly couldn't tell her what's changed. She said me thinking a certain way doesn't mean I changed. Said I have to show it with actions. But at the same time if I cut off all communication how will she notice my change? Maybe that's a dumb question but it's a serious one. I don't know how Ima find the strength to not buckle at times and hit her up but I HAVE TO fukkING DO THIS.

Breh cut her off, go keep yourself occupied and you'll probably not even care about her as much later. You wallowing over her while she probably out here having fun with new dudes is not whats good. I thought about that with this girl and realized even though she may say she love me blah blah it means nothing. My ex told me she love me while she went dating with other dudes.
Go talk to other girls. I just cut off this Japanese girl I was talking to heavy daily for months last week. I missed her honestly and wanted to talk again but now I feel I'm past that. It also helps that I just met three new Japanese girls today so I'm cool now.

 

[Action Mike]

fukk it.

I'm not hitting her up anymore. This could mean losing her for good and I'm just going to have to accept it. I facetimed her this morning and it wasn't bad but it wasn't good either. She knows I'm sick and she knows I'm hurt. She loves me and I love her. She said me hitting her up and saying I miss her etc. drains her. She said I just need to live for the day and better myself and not worry about her. She said it's been 3 months and what has really changed. I honestly couldn't tell her what's changed. She said me thinking a certain way doesn't mean I changed. Said I have to show it with actions. But at the same time if I cut off all communication how will she notice my change? Maybe that's a dumb question but it's a serious one. I don't know how Ima find the strength to not buckle at times and hit her up but I HAVE TO fukkING DO THIS.

Breh you lost. Drop her right now. Delete everything.

Yes that's a dumb question.

I suggest no one reply to this breh if he talks about the same girl again.

I'm over here in scotland, and I wanna fly out and slap you to your senses.

 

[Fatboi1]

Breh you lost. Drop her right now. Delete everything.

Yes that's a dumb question.

I suggest no one reply to this breh if he talks about the same girl again.

I'm over here in scotland, and I wanna fly out and slap you to your senses.

mjlol

 

[Atlrocafella]

Had a chick in my building I've been peeping for about a two weeks, decided to approach her last Friday and see if she had a current situation and possibly wanted to get up, she smiled and said she did have a current situation.

Perfectly fine, told her it was nice to meet her and kept it moving. All this week she's been seeing me and smiling and waving.

See how easy that shyt is brehs? No stress, no prolonged wondering about this chick on whether I should talk to her or not, no nervousness, I just exit the situation and prepare myself for the next woman.

To the brehs still timid or scared about approaching that chick you've been eyeing, I encourage you the next time you see her, SAY SOMETHING. Get it out the way, you will feel a lot better, rejection or not.

Good Friday brehs and our new brehettes

 

[MikelArteta]

Remember what I said before you'll blink your eyes and a year would have gone by and your still will be clinging to some chick who doesn't want you.

You don't have to show anything

Who cares what she wants,be selfish and put your feelings first

It's like buying a shelf from Ikea with a million screws after a while your like screw it and just bring it back and buy a easy assemble at another store.

The same with women, stop wasting all your time trying to "fix" and assemble and show you have changed and are the perfect man.

fukk it.

I'm not hitting her up anymore. This could mean losing her for good and I'm just going to have to accept it. I facetimed her this morning and it wasn't bad but it wasn't good either. She knows I'm sick and she knows I'm hurt. She loves me and I love her. She said me hitting her up and saying I miss her etc. drains her. She said I just need to live for the day and better myself and not worry about her. She said it's been 3 months and what has really changed. I honestly couldn't tell her what's changed. She said me thinking a certain way doesn't mean I changed. Said I have to show it with actions. But at the same time if I cut off all communication how will she notice my change? Maybe that's a dumb question but it's a serious one. I don't know how Ima find the strength to not buckle at times and hit her up but I HAVE TO fukkING DO THIS.

 

[NerdNash]

Breh you lost. Drop her right now. Delete everything.

Yes that's a dumb question.

I suggest no one reply to this breh if he talks about the same girl again.

I'm over here in scotland, and I wanna fly out and slap you to your senses.

I feel yall brehs @Emperor_ReinScarf

 

[PinotNoir]

fukk it.

I'm not hitting her up anymore. This could mean losing her for good and I'm just going to have to accept it. I facetimed her this morning and it wasn't bad but it wasn't good either. She knows I'm sick and she knows I'm hurt. She loves me and I love her. She said me hitting her up and saying I miss her etc. drains her. She said I just need to live for the day and better myself and not worry about her. She said it's been 3 months and what has really changed. I honestly couldn't tell her what's changed. She said me thinking a certain way doesn't mean I changed. Said I have to show it with actions. But at the same time if I cut off all communication how will she notice my change? Maybe that's a dumb question but it's a serious one. I don't know how Ima find the strength to not buckle at times and hit her up but I HAVE TO fukkING DO THIS.

This is why you need to cut contact, you're too available. Get yourself together and focus on you. Focus on a career, exercise, do things that will add value to your life. All the best.

 

[NerdNash]

This is why you need to cut contact, you're too available. Get yourself together and focus on you. Focus on a career, exercise, do things that will add value to your life. All the best.

I just gotta become a way better version of myself. She'll notice even if she isn't checking for it.

 

[Atlrocafella]

I just gotta become a way better version of myself. She'll notice even if she isn't checking for it.

And it doesn't matter if she doesn't notice. A better version of you is better for YOU, and at the end of the day, that will attract someone better for YOU.

If you're hitting the gym, I hope you are doing it because YOU want to be healthy and feel better, women taking notice will just be a perk.

If you're working towards gaining more education or moving forward in your career, I hope you are doing it because YOU want to be successful for yourself, women taking notice will just be a perk.

When you work on yourself, everything else will fall into place naturally.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Alot of you might not like what @Emperor_ReinScarf has to say. Or feel like he's some bitter dude... But if you follow the gist of he's suggest. You'll be much happier in the long run.

Alot of jewels he drops seem harsh or like they come from a bitter place. And they might, but the advice is sound and will save you alot of headache.

 

[Urbanmiracle]

I always been apprehensive about doing things alone. I gotta learn to be more confident in myself. Im working on losing my stomach and thus some of my low self esteem stems from how i think people see me. But more often than not, when i don't think about it and be myself, people gravitate towards me. But then I think about how shallow society is with social media and people always trying to stunt or show out on their pages and I think will I meet a person who is into me or into the things they think I have?

 

[RealAssanova]

met a girl last week that was down to smash/kick it after ramadan which ended today. Last spoke to her last thursday and i hit her up bout 3 hours ago asking her what her schedule was this week. She said she wasn't sure then asked why? told her i wanted to scoop her up and kick it. No reply. .

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@Asantehene that ghanian chick got cut too. I guess she couldn't wait till after ramadan or perhaps its because i said ass and titties in a text convo and she got offended. She told me lets keep it pg told her we're both adults here, especially her seein as how she's over 30.


my god, how everything in this thread is fukkin golden. The symptoms of a flaky chick.

Something deep down inside me is saying stop going after women and refocus that energy on yourself. Time and time again, when i feel something might happen, it tends not to. I have 1 homegirl who lives all the way out in the Bay and i'm in Canada....and that girl is just Her insight, personality, charm. Never forgets a nikka even if i forget her. We be havin phone convo's till 4am talkin about life and shyt (and the odd sexual convo ). This is the prototype woman every nikka wants...but most in here don't have.

But basically, what i'm trying to say is, everytime i deal with a woman, i almost feel like i'm putting myself in a position where i have to be chosen, rather than choose. Funny thing 9/10 times, these ain't even women of quality yet i allow myself to get "silenced" all cuz i want to get my nut off. I've never ever simped, acted desperate or done none of that corny/extra shyt. I'm a simple and straight forward nikka. I holla, say a few words (might even call) and set something up. But even doing that, loses me the women i thought i had.

maybe its my mindset still. I honestly think i need to once and for all kill that emotion i have with women. Sad that it got to this point, but it is what it is.

 

[MikelArteta]

Alot of you might not like what @Emperor_ReinScarf has to say. Or feel like he's some bitter dude... But if you follow the gist of he's suggest. You'll be much happier in the long run.

Alot of jewels he drops seem harsh or like they come from a bitter place. And they might, but the advice is sound and will save you alot of headache.

thing is I'm not even better . Think of a situation with woman and I've been there, i've seen it all and dealt with it all. Tht's why I know how it is, we all think what we have is special and were the outlier. But more than likely most women follow the same script. Ive wasted so many days, months, weeks and years stuck in the ame place before and im happy those days are over.

 

[Stone]

Got a tinder date on Sunday, baby steps I guess.

it's crazy how as soon as I set it up, a rush of negative thoughts flooded in almost instantly.

I guess I've done it so much that it's second nature.