Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I feel everything you brehs saying ... @kevm3 @Emperor_ReinScarf ....

But I gotta get my girl back. I won't be on no psycho shyt but i'm def doing what I can to get her back....but i'm prepared any day to get a bomb dropped on me and i'm bettering myself regardless just in case she moves on. I believe if something is worth fighting for you have to fight for it.

Sent her a good morning text this morning and told her I loved her...

I know i'm looking like a sucker but hey.....It is what it is.

I'll keep yall updated and I def welcome daily feedback. It helps me get through this.
 

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Brehs I think I finally found a women I want to spend significant time with.

First date we went to the park and shared sour patch kids, almonds and two bottles of white wine.

2nd date we went to a vegan Japanese spot and she offered to pick up half the check and she bought the ice cream
After :ehh:

3rd date is this Saturday and we
Are going hiking to Alamere falls at point Reyes.

I'm happy with the way things are going, but I know it can end at any moment due to how irrational women are... Keeping my expectations very low.

I already know she wants physical contact, but I'm holding out on her and trying to get in her head first... Trying something different this time as opposed to just fukking first or second date.
 

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Brehs I think I finally found a women I want to spend significant time with.

First date we went to the park and shared sour patch kids, almonds and two bottles of white wine.

2nd date we went to a vegan Japanese spot and she offered to pick up half the check and she bought the ice cream
After :ehh:

3rd date is this Saturday and we
Are going hiking to Alamere falls at point Reyes.

I'm happy with the way things are going, but I know it can end at any moment due to how irrational women are... Keeping my expectations very low.

I already know she wants physical contact, but I'm holding out on her and trying to get in her head first... Trying something different this time as opposed to just fukking first or second date.

Salute.
 
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The more I live, the more it seems like I'm going to be a bachelor for life.

It's a damn shame because I think I'd be a good father and husband. I just can't do the games.

Bottom line, it's who you choose to see.

If you keep ending up with these women who wanna play games, re-evaluate your choices and what you're looking for in the first place.
 

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You have to do what you have to do


But all I can say is one thing I realized is sometimes the best thing you can do is nothing.

She already knows how you feel.

Some things are worth fighting for, but how do you fight is the question. Sometimes it's better to just back away and wait to be engaged on your own turf

I don't mean to be harsh because I've been there and even done way worse. But I'm telling you it doesn't matter what you do.

You could give her a kidney, a brand new car, a litre of blood to save her life or you can sit back and do nothing and cut all ties and in both situations the outcome will be the same she will either want you or not.

Just that in one situation you'll have your dignity and the other you won't.



I feel everything you brehs saying ... @kevm3 @Emperor_ReinScarf ....

But I gotta get my girl back. I won't be on no psycho shyt but i'm def doing what I can to get her back....but i'm prepared any day to get a bomb dropped on me and i'm bettering myself regardless just in case she moves on. I believe if something is worth fighting for you have to fight for it.

Sent her a good morning text this morning and told her I loved her...

I know i'm looking like a sucker but hey.....It is what it is.

I'll keep yall updated and I def welcome daily feedback. It helps me get through this.
 

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You have to do what you have to do


But all I can say is one thing I realized is sometimes the best thing you can do is nothing.

She already knows how you feel.

Some things are worth fighting for, but how do you fight is the question. Sometimes it's better to just back away and wait to be engaged on your own turf

I don't mean to be harsh because I've been there and even done way worse. But I'm telling you it doesn't matter what you do.

You could give her a kidney, a brand new car, a litre of blood to save her life or you can sit back and do nothing and cut all ties and in both situations the outcome will be the same she will either want you or not.

Just that in one situation you'll have your dignity and the other you won't.

I feel you bro. Real talk I don't care about looking like a sucker and/or losing my dignity. I made her look dumb so many times with the shyt I did. It is what it is.
 

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Gotta do what you have to do I understand man.


Just saying you can go silent cut all ties and let time do its thing.

What I realized in life is that if someone wants you, time, distance apart rtc. Means nothing.

I've had women pop up I haven't spoken to in years and they were always thinking of me. I had a chick telling me she was looking for me on Facebook, when she was at work (worked in a mall close to me). Tried remembering my email all that ish and we never spoke for three years then she saw me on pof :heh: and messaged me "is this reinscarf"?

I know you think you have to keep this up in case you cut all ties and she thinks "maybe he doesn't care" buy its all jargon


I feel you bro. Real talk I don't care about looking like a sucker and/or losing my dignity. I made her look dumb so many times with the shyt I did. It is what it is.
 

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Gotta do what you have to do I understand man.


Just saying you can go silent cut all ties and let time do its thing.

What I realized in life is that if someone wants you, time, distance apart rtc. Means nothing.

I've had women pop up I haven't spoken to in years and they were always thinking of me. I had a chick telling me she was looking for me on Facebook, when she was at work (worked in a mall close to me). Tried remembering my email all that ish and we never spoke for three years then she saw me on pof :heh: and messaged me "is this reinscarf"?

I know you think you have to keep this up in case you cut all ties and she thinks "maybe he doesn't care" buy its all jargon


I feel you bro. Real talk I don't care about looking like a sucker and/or losing my dignity. I made her look dumb so many times with the shyt I did. It is what it is.
 

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pretty much done with online dating its near impossible for me to get a response these days.
i know im gonna have to start going out to meet women but shyt is gonna be extra tough as i dont have the social life for it,what am i to do brehs?:mjcry:
Breh you just got to get out there, women are everywhere. Hit the gym, go to your favorite bars or eateries by yourself and just enjoy yourself. It really doesn't matter what you are doing, just get out and do something because You will run across women all over. Since you're just getting back into it, I would suggest a few cold approaches to women just to get the bugs out of your system and the fear of rejection out of your heart. Once you are good with that, become more selective of who you think you might want to have a conversation with.
 

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Breh you just got to get out there, women are everywhere. Hit the gym, go to your favorite bars or eateries by yourself and just enjoy yourself. It really doesn't matter what you are doing, just get out and do something because You will run across women all over. Since you're just getting back into it, I would suggest a few cold approaches to women just to get the bugs out of your system and the fear of rejection out of your heart. Once you are good with that, become more selective of who you think you might want to have a conversation with.
i hear you breh its just when you aint got no hommies to go out and meet women with, most women will be out in groups and it will be hard to go places without looking like a creepy loaner.
 

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i hear you breh its just when you aint got no hommies to go out and meet women with, most women will be out in groups and it will be hard to go places without looking like a creepy loaner.
Don't be dependent on your friends to make you more social, and there are more females who are by themselves than there are in groups, you probably aren't paying close enough attention.

You have to be able to be fearless on your own, and not depend on your boys to be the crutch. That's why I suggest doing cold approaches the first few times, get over that fear of rejection or nervousness until it no longer matters to you. Trust me, once you get over that, you'll have much more confidence in doing things alone and it'll be much easier for you to enjoy yourself while meeting new women.
 

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I've never approached a woman before I was scared when I was young but now I just don't care.

Regardless of what your fear is get over it.

I was scared of travelling alone, eating alone and snakes and i got over them all.

You can meet women anywhere just get out there the odds are in your favor as there are more single women than ever before r
 

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Called my girl (won't even say ex lol) today about something regarding where her sisters boyfriend works and she didn't sound happy on the phone. I sensed it. Wondered what was the deal with that. Told her I would hit her up and maybe we could see each other tonight. Told her I loved her and she said it back.
 
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