Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I see I'm just gonna have to force myself to really get out and just put myself in social situations.

I've always met women through school and went out with my friends. We're all working now so it's harder to really get together outside of once or twice a month, and I'm not in school.

Now I can't really rely on those crutches anymore

And an even bigger problem is that being a lame that doesn't really get girls is sort of my identity now, so I'm fighting against that too

Either way I realize that j just gotta take control of my circumstances
Totally relate to this bro,whats really setting me back is my lack of social life i dont really have friends I can go out and meet women with.I really what to get out there but its like where do i go? im not into the whole nightlife scene and i dont feel right cold approaching women on the street that i find attractive. I've witnessed dudes who try to approach women get hit with the "do i know you? :ld:" and im scared to death of putting myself in an awkward situation like that.
im only 22 so its not at a crisis just yet but damn i really feel the only option i have is with online dating; i rarely get responses from women nowadays so im just stuck in a hard place.
 

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Totally relate to this bro,whats really setting me back is my lack of social life i dont really have friends I can go out and meet women with.I really what to get out there but its like where do i go? im not into the whole nightlife scene and i dont feel right cold approaching women on the street that i find attractive. I've witnessed dudes who try to approach women get hit with the "do i know you? :ld:" and im scared to death of putting myself in an awkward situation like that.
im only 22 so its not at a crisis just yet but damn i really feel the only option i have is with online dating; i rarely get responses from women nowadays so im just stuck in a hard place.

you don't need friends man, I used to have many friends now I really have none except a few that live thousands of miles away or are married, just what are your hobbies? do it and you'll find people. Sometimes I just take my camera and go down to the aterfront and take photos and numerous times ive just striken up convos with people.

I've never cold approach a woman and I've never clubbed, and I don't use onlnie dating anymore. But jut get out there man. Volunteering, toastmasters, even travelling by yourself will break you out of your shell
 

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you don't need friends man, I used to have many friends now I really have none except a few that live thousands of miles away or are married, just what are your hobbies? do it and you'll find people. Sometimes I just take my camera and go down to the aterfront and take photos and numerous times ive just striken up convos with people.

I've never cold approach a woman and I've never clubbed, and I don't use onlnie dating anymore. But jut get out there man. Volunteering, toastmasters, even travelling by yourself will break you out of your shell
no real hobbies breh :mjcry:thats the thing now that im done with college ive got no reason to leave the house. too much idle time got me depressed as hell
 

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no real hobbies breh :mjcry:thats the thing now that im done with college ive got no reason to leave the house. too much idle time got me depressed as hell

just leave go for a walk, travel.

Even jsut go for a walk in the park sit on a bench and read a book or something.

IF you stay inside how is anyone going to see you ?

I'm a big "loner" by peoples definition but I love it
 

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no real hobbies breh :mjcry:thats the thing now that im done with college ive got no reason to leave the house. too much idle time got me depressed as hell
In the same boat :heh:

5 years of college got me like :ohhh: because school provided such an easy platform for meeting broads. Been outta school for over a year and I have a job but I pretty much go to work, come home, lift, eat, sleep and repeat. I am not a spontaneous person at all :manny:
 

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In the same boat :heh:

5 years of college got me like :ohhh: because school provided such an easy platform for meeting broads. Been outta school for over a year and I have a job but I pretty much go to work, come home, lift, eat, sleep and repeat. I am not a spontaneous person at all :manny:

welcome to life breh :blessed:
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Climbed that steep treacherous mountain just to be underwhelmed by the view at the top :mjcry:

when you start working its like downhill somewhat, wait till you get older. I'm 30 and napping after I come home :to:, my sister is married with 3 kids a year older and she has no life

one or the other
 

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Totally relate to this bro,whats really setting me back is my lack of social life i dont really have friends I can go out and meet women with.I really what to get out there but its like where do i go? im not into the whole nightlife scene and i dont feel right cold approaching women on the street that i find attractive. I've witnessed dudes who try to approach women get hit with the "do i know you? :ld:" and im scared to death of putting myself in an awkward situation like that.
im only 22 so its not at a crisis just yet but damn i really feel the only option i have is with online dating; i rarely get responses from women nowadays so im just stuck in a hard place.
those guys were not doing it right. If you preface hollering at a girl you dont know with an "excuse me... hope I'm not bothering you" then there is no reason for them to do that. If they do, they are bytches. No reason to be scared of bytches.

i really hope yall would just embrace rejection. A batter with a .250 batting average is good enough to stay in the league. You're not gonna hit it out the park every at bat. I've had girls that I had a good conversation with reject me and then give the number a year or so later seeing me a different time.
 
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Yeah, you pretty much have to force yourself to get out of the house as you get older. Another problem with America is that there's not really anywhere you can go and just 'hang out' without having to pay some money.
 

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i honestly haven't dated in years. i don't feel like i'm meant for marriage, as i'm happier alone at the moment. i feel free right now. i'm 20 in college. and building myself up. besides i don't understand the dating game right now and i dont need to be stressing myself over it.


haha i was oblivious at 20 in college, took me a long time to stop being so damn naive. its best to not understand it and go at your own pace/flow. some people jump into the college culture too hard and change themselves completely often for the worse. i also have never dated much though looking back I never had trouble with women - I just didn't notice them enough or psyched myself out

only advice i can give to a college student (not that you're asking for it :russ:) is to treat those well that treat you well (in terms of friends) and keep those grades up. i broke down the door I was trying to knock down but it took me a couple years after college cause I had one or two :francis: semesters. And improve yourself in ways you think are important not based on perception - a lot of my confidence came late in college but most of my growth as a man came after graduating though


bout to start grad school in my dream field :blessed: and moving to a new city this week
 
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