Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Wild self]

That's the real problem. It's very hard to tell what you have, so you have to run these women through several tests, and even if she passes, you still have to come with the expectation that people are capable of anything. Mentally, you have to be ready for the woman to walk at any time, but when you have one that grinds for you to an extent that other women don't, you have to show her appreciation.

For example, you have a woman that respects your leadership and doesn't constantly second-guess you. She isn't going out all the time. Her female friends are decent. She doesn't have 'male friends'. She doesn't mind cooking and cleaning. She has enough education to where she makes her own money and doesn't really ask you to pay for anything. When you've been down and out, she's been there to support you. You ran her through the scuttle-butt test, aka you've seen what others have had to say about her and never did some man come through on some 'she's easy' or she's 'everybody's friend' tip. Obviously these women are rare, so if you find one, then what a blessing.

I believe an exclusive relationship to a woman should be a reward and she has to pass a stringent test. Just as there are signs to cheaters, there are signs of decent women. Even with that said though, we are all human and anything can happen, but sometimes you have to take a risk to win.

I keep telling dudes that going out with extroverted chicks is lame and only for sexual relationships. Only good women that you can legitimately wife is the humble, introverted, pretty face, in-shape women that will do anything to make you happy. Problem is, there are so few of them left in America with the facebook/ twitter/ instagram age that you have to travel

That clubbing/ going to bars/ "modeling" crap is not normal. Society is brainwashing men into thinking that these chicks are chicks that you must settle down with or marry.

 

[TRUEST]

I keep telling dudes that going out with extroverted chicks is lame and only for sexual relationships. Only good women that you can legitimately wife is the humble, introverted, pretty face, in-shape women that will do anything to make you happy. Problem is, there are so few of them left in America with the facebook/ twitter/ instagram age that you have to travel

That clubbing/ going to bars/ "modeling" crap is not normal. Society is brainwashing men into thinking that these chicks are chicks that you must settle down with or marry.

there will always a dumbass who will wife women like this

 

[MikelArteta]

I know eh?

but shes a virgin. She said when we have sex if we ever break up shellbe devastated but then again who knows.

A part of me thinks id be better off prolonging taking her virginity so she can maintain this mindset. Her parents raised her right though.

If i take an L i take it...but all i know is right now she lookin like the one.

One of those thinga where you have to know her or witness it but i tell you...any requirement yall have in a woman she probably fulfills. To think...what if i never spoke to her on that GO bus

manipulation already don't fall into the trap, i've been there breh, i've had chicks literally cut themselves and showing me the marks how they would die if we every broke up and maniupulated me into staying longer in the relationship than i should, yeah and them chicks are still alive prob manipulating another breh.

i give you props though for being just 21 and not just rushing into sex or pressuring her into it.

dont ever think any girl is the one just telling you know breh, ive been engaged, i thought she was the one, the way we met was out of a romantic movie , i also had htose mindset what if i never went to that corny azz party i would have never met you, none of that means anything, it doesn';t matter how you met, remember you are still learning about her, your still in the honeymoon stage and getting to know her she is still on her best behaviour at the moment, just remember. But your smarter than i was at 21, i was a such a simp

 

[Ohene]

it wont last breh, im telling you shes 18 now just wait till she's 19 or 20, she will start to feel like she "missed out on fun", that she "needs space", that your a great guy but she's not sure if your teh one for her, she just needs to explore.

im just warning you breh, to be prepared when that day come and you get that "we need to talk text"

i feel you breh thats why I'm taking it one day at a time .

If the L comes it comes.

 

[Wild self]

there will always a dumbass who will wife women like this

Yeah, but they trying to make it the norm.

 

[winb83]

Are you really applying that to meaningful man/woman relationships?

why not? relationships are self-serving and we enter them because from our own perspective they serve a beneficial purpose to us. if they no longer serve that purpose or begin to become a burden the ability to walk away from them is valuable.

you can be with a woman and fully enjoy her company but have it be known that at any time you have the ability to leave and your attitude is that you'll be fine with or without that person.

a relationship doesn't suddenly become meaningful the moment you decide you can't be without the other person because the truth is unless you're conjoined twins you can live without anyone.

 

[Ohene]

manipulation already don't fall into the trap, i've been there breh, i've had chicks literally cut themselves and showing me the marks how they would die if we every broke up and maniupulated me into staying longer in the relationship than i should, yeah and them chicks are still alive prob manipulating another breh.

i give you props though for being just 21 and not just rushing into sex or pressuring her into it.

dont ever think any girl is the one just telling you know breh, ive been engaged, i thought she was the one, the way we met was out of a romantic movie , i also had htose mindset what if i never went to that corny azz party i would have never met you, none of that means anything, it doesn';t matter how you met, remember you are still learning about her, your still in the honeymoon stage and getting to know her she is still on her best behaviour at the moment, just remember. But your smarter than i was at 21, i was a such a simp

I feel you fam.
The 180-360 rule is something that is very true. which is why i take it day by day. These girls will turn their back on you in an instant and then come back. However there are some good girls out there. I'm hoping that I got one of them as it currently appears so. If it fukks up then what can I do except cut off that contact and make her feel it. By then I'll probably be an I-Banker or Portfolio Manager (knock on wood) doing my thing with even more bytches on deck . One important thing in african relationships i've noticed is that the families really help faciliating shyt so it can work when you far into it.


As for the honeymoon phase...ironically we never reached it . From early on we have our arguments but we seem to air it out...settle them and learn from them in healthy ways. We dont let it linger.

The way we met was far from romantic but its just funny how shyt works. Like if I was my old self that didnt approach women I'd probably be alone beating off right now.

And thanks, Getting my heart broken as a 19 year old and going through the whole drawn out break up was enough for me to learn the game. That same ex has come back to the kid always tryna set shyt up. Just last week she was saying how we should go for dinner again (last time was in the summer) ...cause thats what "friends" do. nikka please we aint no damn friends. i remember back on SOHH i dropped some knolwedge that I may have reiterated here and shak told me that for a young dude I really got my mind right. Nice to know I aint no sucka. Following the things and pricinples I know I truly think I can do this...but I aint holding my breath. Her admiration for me is what got me on top right now but time will tell.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

@malcolmxxx_45 - did you used to be married? Or was that just a joke?

was married breh for year..i dated her for 4yrs and everything was lovely

then a year after i got married i got tired of the nagging and random fights over lil shyt
shyt wasnt fun


so randomly just decided to end it one day..

no kids no stress..had to pay her 3k for the dowrey and thats it
both went seperate way

lesson learned..

 

[MikelArteta]

I keep telling dudes that going out with extroverted chicks is lame and only for sexual relationships. Only good women that you can legitimately wife is the humble, introverted, pretty face, in-shape women that will do anything to make you happy. Problem is, there are so few of them left in America with the facebook/ twitter/ instagram age that you have to travel

That clubbing/ going to bars/ "modeling" crap is not normal. Society is brainwashing men into thinking that these chicks are chicks that you must settle down with or marry.

yep why do you think the divorce rate is so high? those women are so rare and as brother malta says by the time they aere 24-25 they are locked down and off the market. I've had that type of woman that great white bufalo once in life and i ruined it over a beautiful model type chick who was literally bipolar.

chicks who go clubbing, to bars, "model", potty mouth, promiscious, instagram, twitter, pof free dating sites are the worse stay away

there will always a dumbass who will wife women like this

yup its sad, i have strigent requirements, id never allow a girl im dating to go to the clubs, whether its a "friends bday" or a night out with the girls nope.

 

[MikelArteta]

I feel you fam.
The 180-360 rule is something that is very true. which is why i take it day by day. These girls will turn their back on you in an instant and then come back. However there are some good girls out there. I'm hoping that I got one of them as it currently appears so. If it fukks up then what can I do except cut off that contact and make her feel it. By then I'll probably be an I-Banker or Portfolio Manager (knock on wood) doing my thing with even more bytches on deck . One important thing in african relationships i've noticed is that the families really help faciliating shyt work when you far into it.


As for the honeymoon phase...ironically we never reached it

From early on we have our arguments but we seem to air it out...settle them and learn from them in healthy ways.

And thanks, Getting my heart broken as a 19 year old and going through the whole drawn out break up was enough for me to learn the game. That same ex has come back to the kid always tryna set shyt up. Just last week she was saying how we should go for dinner again (last time was in the summer) ...cause thats what "friends" do. nikka please we aint no damn friends. i remember back on SOHH i dropped some knolwedge that I may have reiterated here and shak told me that for a young dude I really got my mind right. Nice to know I aint no sucka. Following the things and pricinples I know I truly think I can do this...but I aint holding my breath. Time will tell.

wish i had your knowledge at 21 breh, i was a simp who was engaged and whipped

and at exes, these chicks are the ones who dumped you and more than likely ran off to someone else, yet they try and weasel their way back in your life playing with your emotions

 

[kevm3]

I keep telling dudes that going out with extroverted chicks is lame and only for sexual relationships. Only good women that you can legitimately wife is the humble, introverted, pretty face, in-shape women that will do anything to make you happy. Problem is, there are so few of them left in America with the facebook/ twitter/ instagram age that you have to travel

That clubbing/ going to bars/ "modeling" crap is not normal. Society is brainwashing men into thinking that these chicks are chicks that you must settle down with or marry.

Yeah man, that's what making finding the decent women so difficult. Decent women typically aren't the ones that are always out and about. They are usually homebodies, so you have to catch them when they HAVE to be out. It may be at school, it may be at church, while they are grocery shopping, or it might be through a friend. On the other hand, the women we most typically come across are the club rats and ones who can't stay at home because they are always out and about. That's what makes it tough. The women that you shouldn't wife up are the ones you see the most, while the ones you should wife are hard to find because they aren't out all that much.

Another sign a man needs to look at is how much television vs reading books a woman does and WHAT she is watching. If she's watching Atlanta Housewives, Bad Girls Club, Sex and the City and such shows, there's a very high likelihood she is subconsciously responding to those shows and will begin to emulate the behavior within those shows in different forms. Like they say, garbage in, garbage out. Now television shows and other media consumption won't necessarily dictate her behavior, but they WILL influence her way behavior in some ways.

 

[kevm3]

I feel you fam.
The 180-360 rule is something that is very true. which is why i take it day by day. These girls will turn their back on you in an instant and then come back. However there are some good girls out there. I'm hoping that I got one of them as it currently appears so. If it fukks up then what can I do except cut off that contact and make her feel it. By then I'll probably be an I-Banker or Portfolio Manager (knock on wood) doing my thing with even more bytches on deck . One important thing in african relationships i've noticed is that the families really help faciliating shyt so it can work when you far into it.


As for the honeymoon phase...ironically we never reached it . From early on we have our arguments but we seem to air it out...settle them and learn from them in healthy ways. We dont let it linger.

The way we met was far from romantic but its just funny how shyt works. Like if I was my old self that didnt approach women I'd probably be alone beating off right now.

And thanks, Getting my heart broken as a 19 year old and going through the whole drawn out break up was enough for me to learn the game. That same ex has come back to the kid always tryna set shyt up. Just last week she was saying how we should go for dinner again (last time was in the summer) ...cause thats what "friends" do. nikka please we aint no damn friends. i remember back on SOHH i dropped some knolwedge that I may have reiterated here and shak told me that for a young dude I really got my mind right. Nice to know I aint no sucka. Following the things and pricinples I know I truly think I can do this...but I aint holding my breath. Her admiration for me is what got me on top right now but time will tell.

You have the right mindset. Sometimes you just have to take a risk with a woman and see where it goes, but always be prepared if it doesn't go right. That's the right mindset. No use disqualifying women based on the behavior of other women.

 

[MikelArteta]

"You say that you love rain, but you open your umbrella when it rains. You say that you love the sun, but you find a shadow spot when the sun shines. You say that you love the wind, but you close your windows when wind blows. This is why I am afraid, you say that you love me too"

someone dapped this quote from bob marley i think it was that i posted way back when

remember it brehs

womens feelings are fleeting, what they say is not what they mean, they say what you want you to hear to qualm your fears, to give you a false sense of security.

 

[Ohene]

one day I'll post all the things about this chick...even in comparison to my ex that make me fukk with her on an unprecendented level (cant let her know that though )

i will be dropping updates and asking for yall assistance through this process brehs

 

[TRUEST]

Yeah, but they trying to make it the norm.

u know what, i shouldn't call em dumbasses. some just dont know any better...until its too late.