Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I can't even get to that point. I'm figuring these chix must not have liked me in the first place.

Hi I'm Scorpio.

O hi


Blah blah

No reaponse

Battle of attrition

shyt is aggravating

I know, I deal with this kind of thing all the time. That's why I don't text anymore, at least not unless I really have to.

Call first. If she doesn't pick up then text. & when texting, text only to set a meeting up or set another call, don't have full blown conversations with these chicks on text - texting as a medium for gauging is terrible because of how long and drawn out conversations can be due to their asynchronous nature, (not to mention the lack of non verbal cues that really tell you where you are situated ... etc).

If a chick is going to curve you at least make it tough for her. With texts it's just too easy for chicks to be dismissive - one non-response here, another one there.
 

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I'd go further and recommend you give up texting as your platform of choice altogether. There's no useful "gauging" you will be doing through text. I'd try to minimize texting as much as possible unless it is to set up a meeting. Plus you don't want to deal with the chicks who want to show they are "busy" by waiting for hours to respond to you when you know that they are always on their phone.

Yeah but I'm trying to find out what she's all about before "setting up a date". So, I like delving into questions that can somewhat sift out potential partners and not just someone I want to fukk.

I've chopped it up with women on the phone, had great conversations with playful banter/no awkward pauses/smooth transitions then when I'm at work shooting a text here and there... ghost. Some times you'll meet good "texters", sometimes you wont.

There really is no be-all and end-all answer to conversing with women. Go with your gut.

:yeshrug:
 

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Can't disagree with this. You have to put in the work and fall flat on your face a couple of times to figure out what your personal rule book is like. But the advice in here is generally good in my experience.
That's the thing. I get you have to screw up to eventually make progress. I need to adjust heavily. I feel I'm too generic with conversation
 

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I implore everyone to buy that corey wayne cats book. He looks corny as fukk but he speaks straight gospel. Excellent use of 10 dollars. I'm filling in a lot of holes with women just from reading it and having A HA moments
 

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I suck at texting

I get a number and introduce myself a day later and get the fade out real quickly

I know this cuz I got the same chick up a few weeks later like this the nikka that wanna fukk and she came back more interested. I still ain't hit but it taught me that chix think I'm corny when I text basic shyt

Is there a medium between going full blast and mr Rogers?

What should the first few texts look like when u reaching out?
Most women prefer phone calls breh. Calling will put you in her ear & ahead of the other guys texting her
 

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Me and the nurse been dating since Feb. Things are going slow, still getting to know her and she getting to know me. Even though it hasn't been said it feels "exclusive" meaning she spends a lot of her time with me and she is always over at my crib. But she still has other suitors trying to get they way in but she curves them and spends her time with me. I guess that should mean something. But she is afraid to give me her all just yet cause she still kinda hurting from her last relationship. I get it but I guess I'm getting slightly impatient because I know I'm a good catch and good guy for her but she gotta see it herself. Plus honestly, I was bit insecure with her having the other guys try and holla but then she ain't my girl and we dating so she free to talk to whomever and so am I. I still have a few back ups on my "bench" that text and call me but they noticed I've fallen back on them. The chemistry is there and we already act like a team. We took a road trip to AC and had a great time for her bday. I like her a lot and I can tell she likes me a lot to but afraid. I know I should take it one day at a time but I just feel she a great look. Hopefully she will feel the same way. I'm sick of dating. I'm sick of dealing with these women influenced by social media. This nurse she has no social media and she just attracts people with her personality and grace. I hope I can lock this down brehs.

Have yall slept with each other yet?
 

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Me and the nurse been dating since Feb. Things are going slow, still getting to know her and she getting to know me. Even though it hasn't been said it feels "exclusive" meaning she spends a lot of her time with me and she is always over at my crib. But she still has other suitors trying to get they way in but she curves them and spends her time with me. I guess that should mean something. But she is afraid to give me her all just yet cause she still kinda hurting from her last relationship. I get it but I guess I'm getting slightly impatient because I know I'm a good catch and good guy for her but she gotta see it herself. Plus honestly, I was bit insecure with her having the other guys try and holla but then she ain't my girl and we dating so she free to talk to whomever and so am I. I still have a few back ups on my "bench" that text and call me but they noticed I've fallen back on them. The chemistry is there and we already act like a team. We took a road trip to AC and had a great time for her bday. I like her a lot and I can tell she likes me a lot to but afraid. I know I should take it one day at a time but I just feel she a great look. Hopefully she will feel the same way. I'm sick of dating. I'm sick of dealing with these women influenced by social media. This nurse she has no social media and she just attracts people with her personality and grace. I hope I can lock this down brehs.

why are you "trying" to lock her down? her job is to lock you down ! you're the catch not her
 

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Me and the nurse been dating since Feb. Things are going slow, still getting to know her and she getting to know me. Even though it hasn't been said it feels "exclusive" meaning she spends a lot of her time with me and she is always over at my crib. But she still has other suitors trying to get they way in but she curves them and spends her time with me. I guess that should mean something. But she is afraid to give me her all just yet cause she still kinda hurting from her last relationship. I get it but I guess I'm getting slightly impatient because I know I'm a good catch and good guy for her but she gotta see it herself. Plus honestly, I was bit insecure with her having the other guys try and holla but then she ain't my girl and we dating so she free to talk to whomever and so am I. I still have a few back ups on my "bench" that text and call me but they noticed I've fallen back on them. The chemistry is there and we already act like a team. We took a road trip to AC and had a great time for her bday. I like her a lot and I can tell she likes me a lot to but afraid. I know I should take it one day at a time but I just feel she a great look. Hopefully she will feel the same way. I'm sick of dating. I'm sick of dealing with these women influenced by social media. This nurse she has no social media and she just attracts people with her personality and grace. I hope I can lock this down brehs.
Let is play out. If she is with you most of the time just ride the wave. Doesn't seem like much would change other than a "title".
 

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Most women prefer phone calls breh. Calling will put you in her ear & ahead of the other guys texting her

this shyt right here is gospel. :banderas:

i incorporated this into my game and my success has been through the roof. :wow:

nikkaz sleepin on phone conversations. :ufdup:

You'll go from being just another nikka on her contact list to bein that nikka on her mind.
 

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You going over there was a mistake and the only way to fix it is to go complete no contact on her. That means do not contact her in any way.

And the last thing you need right now it a new chick to distract you from your real issues. You don't seem like you're in a good place mentally where you can even have a solid relationship/date without getting caught up. Take a lot of time for yourself (I'm talking multiple months). Lift, improve your wardrobe, focus on friendships that you may have neglected. Just be by yourself for a while.


Naw I'm straight. A lot of my depression was shyt I straight never really realized and thought about like how I was raised in a unloving broken ass household. I just kind of always dealt with it and never questioned it and almost embraced it like it was some badge of honor to be able to find success in life with such a cloud over me :dahell:

But I started writing/meditating and just soaking up game and stuff and I'm in a good place mentally right now. Going to go get my massage license in november so I can double my income and I'm just feeling fine. If my ex hit me up I'll talk to her but as far as chasing after her thats over because it obviously doesn't work. Also about dating atm I have no goals. I'm just out to have fun and w/e happens happens. 0 expectations.
 

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For 99 percent of these chicks that's ALL that matters. They'll tell you they want a good man, a nice guy. But will bust it wide open for that dude with one or more of those things above.


For instance I had a chick get back in touch with me yesterday, I liked her well enough months ago. But she had her eye on some other nikka at the time, she was straight up about it so I respect that. But she really thought I was going to entertain her after she had her fun with this nikka

:mjlol:

Long story short, it was fun but the dude cheated on her and wasn't as nice as she thought. He plays ball somewhere so :yeshrug: I can't blame her. Now she can't stop thinking about me. :camby::camby:
 

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For 99 percent of these chicks that's ALL that matters. They'll tell you they want a good man, a nice guy. But will bust it wide open for that dude with one or more of those things above.


For instance I had a chick get back in touch with me yesterday, I liked her well enough months ago. But she had her eye on some other nikka at the time, she was straight up about it so I respect that. But she really thought I was going to entertain her after she had her fun with this nikka

:mjlol:

Long story short, it was fun but the dude cheated on her and wasn't as nice as she thought. He plays ball somewhere so :yeshrug: I can't blame her. Now she can't stop thinking about me. :camby::camby:


Dealt with a similar situation with a young lady.

She really thought I would swoop in like superman and save her life after her main dude blown her back out and dump her for another chick. She was cool and upfront about it. She even told me that she's dealing with another guy on the side and I was cool with it because we liked it each other and it wasn't going to work out anyway. She called me out the blue and told me her main dude cheated on her and she asked me if we can go out sometime. :childplease:

She wants me to take her out to Olive Gardens and a movie next week(:deadmanny:). And I was "sure" I will. After we spoke to each other I simply delete/block her number. :obama:

But you're right today's generation of women wants a man that is 6+, good looks, big penis (no homo), a body of a greek God, 6 figures, etc. It's sad but it is what it is. I'm attracted to a smart and ambitious woman. Not gold diggers. I try to go for the smart, educated, kind hearted woman. But it is extremely difficult to find one. In the mean time, I am 22 years old and working on myself.

My cousin told me if I find a woman that is kind, loyal, educated, virgin (nonvirgin too),you should hold on to her.
 
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