Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Momentum]

Feels like Summer is the new cuffing season.

 

[Dreamzeedream]

Feels like Summer is the new cuffing season.

Its Hoeing Season

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Summer cuffing season? Y'all nikkas lost it in here.

 

[Ohene]

Summer cuffing season? Y'all nikkas lost it in here.

Seriously. nikkas got to be patient

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

I'd say start off by just smiling at women you see whilst out and about with some eye contact all types not just the hot ones, now don't be creepy breh haha, maybe just a lil smirk. The amount of times something so simple has opened the door for me is crazy.

Then build up to starting random conversations with them when you see them outside say in the grocery store, getting gas, wherever you can be sociable without any effort. Easy way is to mention something that is linked to where you're at like gas prices, expensive dog food whatever. It's important that you go into those interactions with no expectations and not be an inconvenience, in fact just be social and dip. With time that should get you more comfortable being around them etc.

Eventually you'll want to build up to approaching them whether it's during daytime (slept on) or during night at bars and what not. Doing it at clubs is fruitless in my opinion.

Some dudes in here may be able to recommend some books for you.

excellent advice pos rep

 

[Shadow King]

Do any of yall believe different end games requires approaches/principles?

Tryna smash as much/many as possible vs looking for a solid partner.

 

[Turbulent]

Do any of yall believe different end games requires approaches/principles?

Tryna smash as much/many as possible vs looking for a solid partner.

I think either way you should approach the same. Even if you're trying to build something, if you fukk enough times, she will eventually want a relationship 9 times out of 10.

 

[Shadow King]

I think either way you should approach the same. Even if you're trying to build something, if you fukk enough times, she will eventually want a relationship 9 times out of 10.

I feel this but with the whole be yourself mantra, sometimes who you are may not produce the situation you want. Like when @Asantehene responded to a breh about getting a FWB situation...the formula to that is pretty much known but for some cats (like myself) that's not really who they are so they'd be playing a part to get what they want.

So if you know you're not one to present an ain't-shyt-ness about you and/or come up with 50 ways to let off sexual innuendos while "playing it cool", are you just stuck auditioning for relationships?

 

[Turbulent]

I feel this but with the whole be yourself mantra, sometimes who you are may not produce the situation you want. Like when @Asantehene responded to a breh about getting a FWB situation...the formula to that is pretty much known but for some cats (like myself) that's not really who they are so they'd be playing a part to get what they want.

So if you know you're not one to present an ain't-shyt-ness about you and/or come up with 50 ways to let off sexual innuendos while "playing it cool", are you just stuck auditioning for relationships?

I understand but at the same time I think people take that whole be yourself thing to the extreme. I think you shouldn't betray your principles in order to get what you want (in all aspects of life). Beyond your principles though, i don't think people should be attached to attitudes or use attitudes to define their identity. For example, say a young man wants to become a professional athlete. Beyond putting in work on the court and in the gym, depending on his personal circumstances, he might have to hustle his way into opportunities. If he's not naturally a hustler, his dream could just end there OR he could decide to develop different traits and become who he needs to be in the moment (a hustler) in order to achieve. I say hustler but it could be anything. Maybe he needs to display more leadership on the court. People don't have to limit themselves to "who they are" imo because alot of what we view as our identities (bot talking about race, gender, etc but more behaviour and attitudes) is based on the beliefs we decide to adopt and stuff we have learned (again imo). I think as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and sleep at night it's all good.

Without getting too philosophical, i think a lot of what we consider "who we are"/personalities is bs that we keep repeating to ourselves because it's comfortable, makes our decision process easier, and makes us easier to digest to other people (more consistent, predictable).

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

Have yall had a woman accept your different religious/spiritual beliefs?

Most women i know deal with were raised in a christian household (i think most black people were) but ive been on this black muslim thing lately.

I'll be on snapchat joking and I'll put some shyt up like "Sun is finally out, bismallah this is the day Allah has made"
Or get an unexpected bill in the mail "Another bill. This too shall pass wallahi"
Its just some arabic phrases and i get loads of DM's like "Whats wrong with you, you alright?" "You're not serious, right" Im in the south and people act like you're a devil worshiper if you dont think like them.



I laugh off the DM's but inside im likei hope my beliefs dont hurt my dating life

Yeah in the South they're all the way brain washed.

My homie is damn near atheist and I was djing a wedding down south and we were eating dinner with some bytches & I let it slip and the jawns were completely dumbfounded. We then had to lie and basically start talking this "Jesus is good" type shyt to bag the bytches.

In Philly tho, you would do well. Chicks who've been raised christian their whole lives will convert to islam and cover their face and the whole 9.

 

[Shadow King]

I understand but at the same time I think people take that whole be yourself thing to the extreme. I think you shouldn't betray your principles in order to get what you want (in all aspects of life). Beyond your principles though, i don't think people should be attached to attitudes or use attitudes to define their identity. For example, say a young man wants to become a professional athlete. Beyond putting in work on the court and in the gym, depending on his personal circumstances, he might have to hustle his way into opportunities. If he's not naturally a hustler, his dream could just end there OR he could decide to develop different traits and become who he needs to be in the moment (a hustler) in order to achieve. I say hustler but it could be anything. Maybe he needs to display more leadership on the court. People don't have to limit themselves to "who they are" imo because alot of what we view as our identities (bot talking about race, gender, etc but more behaviour and attitudes) is based on the beliefs we decide to adopt and stuff we have learned (again imo). I think as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and sleep at night it's all good.

Without getting too philosophical, i think a lot of what we consider "who we are"/personalities is bs that we keep repeating to ourselves because it's comfortable, makes our decision process easier, and makes us easier to digest to other people (more consistent, predictable).

I personally think people do have qualities about them that are either inherited or hardwired early and deep that don't get erased so I'm not sure we fully agree but I see what you're saying. People don't have 20-30 characteristics that are set in stone but I don't think someone who is naturally reserved or "sweet" is gonna become someone who can consistently and thoroughly give off the assholish qualities that separates boyfriends from fukk buddies. Just like I'm not sure a man with heightened levels of compassion can become a cutthroat businessman/hustler.

 

[Turbulent]

I personally think people do have qualities about them that are either inherited or hardwired early and deep that don't get erased so I'm not sure we fully agree but I see what you're saying. People don't have 20-30 characteristics that are set in stone but I don't think someone who is naturally reserved or "sweet" is gonna become someone who can consistently and thoroughly give off the assholish qualities that separates boyfriends from fukk buddies. Just like I'm not sure a man with heightened levels of compassion can become a cutthroat businessman/hustler.

i think it would be harder for some than for others, on that we could agree. There is such a thing as natural leanings. But not impossible for both scenarios. Especially if life makes you experience certain things. It all depends how bad you feel you need to achieve your goal and how much you believe becoming these things is the only way. I personally don't think you have to be a jerk to have a fwb. If you have certain things you want out of life and your learned beliefs tell you that the the necessary traits required to get what you want are bad/wrong /negative thing, achieving your goals will be even more complicated because it poisons your motivation. Multiple layers of beliefs have to be untangled. We can agree to disagree. But we do agree that certain traits are harder to shake off.

 

[NeilCartwright]

I just turned 23 but im ready to get out the game, even here in ATL

Im tired of running the streets. I went out last night and friday, i cant do this shyt long term too much wear and tear on my body

Im graduating in a couple weeks. I just wanna settle down with a bad lil baby, i have so much love to give, too much for these one night stands

 

[International Playa]

Do any of yall believe different end games requires approaches/principles?

Tryna smash as much/many as possible vs looking for a solid partner.

My mindset is smash as many women as possible until you find a good/dream girl you wanna settle down.

Dating different women helps you build confidence with women, you learn what you actually want from women & how to deal with women. Most of this cant be learned from a book, only through experience.

By the time you meet your dream girl, you will be confident enough to get her & keep her

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

I just turned 23 but im ready to get out the game, even here in ATL

Im tired of running the streets. I went out last night and friday, i cant do this shyt long term too much wear and tear on my body

Im graduating in a couple weeks. I just wanna settle down with a bad lil baby, i have so much love to give, too much for these one night stands

Talking like that is gonna get your world turned upside down by a woman with more game than you.