Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I've been on a two month cold streak since I broke up with my girl. But its always good to take L'z because you learn from em. So this what I've been learning.

-Fellas. Don't hit women up on social media if you not gonna get straight to the business about kicking it. Like if you don't got a car, your own crib, if you not prepared to hang out with her somewhere or anything of that sort. Don't even fukking try. Unless you see her daily at work or at school there is really no point of trying to hold a conversation with her because more times than none its not gonna work. She got a FB where she got 1000 friends, she got a snapchat where she snapping 10 people by the hour, and then she gets a match every time she swipes right on tinder. You really not going to keep her attention when 100 dudes and also females tryna smash her.

- A female who has 1000 people hitting her up can cut you off for no god damn reason. Meanwhile dudes will let anything slide just to smash. Don't put your morals and values aside for the hopes of smashing a chick. Have the same attitude of that chick who has 1000 people hitting her up.

-There is a chance you can outgrow the women in your town. Especially if its a average size population where everyone knows everybody. The only women in my town are women who are good looking but have kids by 22, grown ass women who stay on FB talking about "Free this person free that person" or still in drama talking about fighting someone ass like we in high school, fat bytches, and etc. My last relationships have been with females who go to my college. Sometimes its really not you breh the females in your location could just be dumb af.

I had more but Stephen King's IT on.
 

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Just Jane: Love has gone cold

IT breaks my heart that the woman I’m desperately in love with doesn’t feel the same way about me.


We’re a couple. We’ve been together for five years and she’s respectful and kind.

But she doesn’t lust after me or miss me when I’m not around.

We both like hotel breaks, good meals and holidays and have a jolly time in each other’s company.

She always makes an effort with her clothes and hair and I’m proud to have her on my arm. But I’m not her dream guy.


I can see it in her eyes. When we make love, her gaze is always cold. We have a lively sex life but I’m convinced she’s faked every orgasm.

People say we’re a fantastic couple and we’re lucky to have found each other but our relationship is unequal.

Where am I going wrong? And how do I make her love me completely and utterly?




Man, just cut your losses and move on. If I knew a woman wasn't into me I'm not asking why, I'll just make it easy for you and bounce.
 

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Of course not, but at least you'll know. A woman will cheat on you and still come home and act like everything is OK.

I got an STD because my girl at the time couldn't let me know she wanted outside dikk.

A woman will cheat on you and still walk down the altar and say that she loves you.




You're being insecure.

If she decides to cheat on you, you're not going to be able to stop her.

:heh:
 

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Many men sell themselves short. Many men don't know their worth. The older you get the more you learn.

The other day something clicked for me I work a hospital over 2,600 employees . We had our staff BBQ , I think I counted like 5 other black males beside me.

And it clicked to me I'm blessed and highly favored, I have a great career a great life especially for a black man, few get this opportunity i went back to my chair and booked my trip to NYC.




I've been on a two month cold streak since I broke up with my girl. But its always good to take L'z because you learn from em. So this what I've been learning.

-Fellas. Don't hit women up on social media if you not gonna get straight to the business about kicking it. Like if you don't got a car, your own crib, if you not prepared to hang out with her somewhere or anything of that sort. Don't even fukking try. Unless you see her daily at work or at school there is really no point of trying to hold a conversation with her because more times than none its not gonna work. She got a FB where she got 1000 friends, she got a snapchat where she snapping 10 people by the hour, and then she gets a match every time she swipes right on tinder. You really not going to keep her attention when 100 dudes and also females tryna smash her.

- A female who has 1000 people hitting her up can cut you off for no god damn reason. Meanwhile dudes will let anything slide just to smash. Don't put your morals and values aside for the hopes of smashing a chick. Have the same attitude of that chick who has 1000 people hitting her up.

-There is a chance you can outgrow the women in your town. Especially if its a average size population where everyone knows everybody. The only women in my town are women who are good looking but have kids by 22, grown ass women who stay on FB talking about "Free this person free that person" or still in drama talking about fighting someone ass like we in high school, fat bytches, and etc. My last relationships have been with females who go to my college. Sometimes its really not you breh the females in your location could just be dumb af.

I had more but Stephen King's IT on.
 

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Just Jane: Love has gone cold

IT breaks my heart that the woman I’m desperately in love with doesn’t feel the same way about me.


We’re a couple. We’ve been together for five years and she’s respectful and kind.

But she doesn’t lust after me or miss me when I’m not around.

We both like hotel breaks, good meals and holidays and have a jolly time in each other’s company.

She always makes an effort with her clothes and hair and I’m proud to have her on my arm. But I’m not her dream guy.


I can see it in her eyes. When we make love, her gaze is always cold. We have a lively sex life but I’m convinced she’s faked every orgasm.

People say we’re a fantastic couple and we’re lucky to have found each other but our relationship is unequal.

Where am I going wrong? And how do I make her love me completely and utterly?




Man, just cut your losses and move on. If I knew a woman wasn't into me I'm not asking why, I'll just make it easy for you and bounce.
He need to start doing her dirty to bring back the interest. Not saying cheat tho
 

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You're being insecure.

If she decides to cheat on you, you're not going to be able to stop her.

:heh:

your reasoning is flawed, and shockingly sophomoric, given ur time in this thread already. no, u cant always suspect when ur girl is doing u wrong. women are very, very, very good actresses.

yes, a girl can decide to cheat on you at anytime. and that's ok. lord knows, if she is the entitled type with an attitude, id already be cheating on her anyways.

but notwithstanding, in these situations, you have two options,

1. you can either check up on your girl and know very quickly the moment she thinks of cheating on you (i.e. talking to another guy in a sexual way) and dip early in the relationship.

Or,

2. you can let her lead you on for weeks, months or even years (having u spend money on her) before u find out, then potentially risk urself catching a case for beating her up when u calculate all the money u spent on her during the times she was two-timing u.

these are ur options. whether u choose to accept them is irrelevant. u can argue all u want that the sun doesnt exist. but when daybreaks, u wont be able to deny it.

its ok to be arrogant and challenge people. but when u challenge common sense, u come off as an idiot. dont be that guy.
 

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your reasoning is flawed, and shockingly sophomoric, given ur time in this thread already. no, u cant always suspect when ur girl is doing u wrong. women are very, very, very good actresses.

yes, a girl can decide to cheat on you at anytime. and that's ok. lord knows, if she is the entitled type with an attitude, id already be cheating on her anyways.

but notwithstanding, in these situations, you have two options,

1. you can either check up on your girl and know very quickly the moment she thinks of cheating on you (i.e. talking to another guy in a sexual way) and dip early in the relationship.

Or,

2. you can let her lead you on for weeks, months or even years (having u spend money on her) before u find out, then potentially risk urself catching a case for beating her up when u calculate all the money u spent on her during the times she was two-timing u.

these are ur options. whether u choose to accept them is irrelevant. u can argue all u want that the sun doesnt exist. but when daybreaks, u wont be able to deny it.

its ok to be arrogant and challenge people. but when u challenge common sense, u come off as an idiot. dont be that guy.


True, some cats find out after they catch a std from a cheating gf on in the worst case scenarios, you find out the kid you been raising aint yours lol.
 
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your reasoning is flawed, and shockingly sophomoric, given ur time in this thread already. no, u cant always suspect when ur girl is doing u wrong. women are very, very, very good actresses.

yes, a girl can decide to cheat on you at anytime. and that's ok. lord knows, if she is the entitled type with an attitude, id already be cheating on her anyways.

but notwithstanding, in these situations, you have two options,

1. you can either check up on your girl and know very quickly the moment she thinks of cheating on you (i.e. talking to another guy in a sexual way) and dip early in the relationship.

Or,

2. you can let her lead you on for weeks, months or even years (having u spend money on her) before u find out, then potentially risk urself catching a case for beating her up when u calculate all the money u spent on her during the times she was two-timing u.

these are ur options. whether u choose to accept them is irrelevant. u can argue all u want that the sun doesnt exist. but when daybreaks, u wont be able to deny it.

its ok to be arrogant and challenge people. but when u challenge common sense, u come off as an idiot. dont be that guy.

nikka please

:russ:

Going thru a chick phone is sum sassy female shyt.
 

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Many men sell themselves short. Many men don't know their worth. The older you get the more you learn.

The other day something clicked for me I work a hospital over 2,600 employees . We had our staff BBQ , I think I counted like 5 other black males beside me.

And it clicked to me I'm blessed and highly favored, I have a great career a great life especially for a black man, few get this opportunity i went back to my chair and booked my trip to NYC.
Like what I once read on twitter.

Dudes with college degrees n careers be letting women who barely got a high school education run all of them. Like that's backward.
 

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Just Jane: Love has gone cold

IT breaks my heart that the woman I’m desperately in love with doesn’t feel the same way about me.

game over right there.

she has to love you more than you love her. even when you're commited to your lady, it's almost like you still keep her at arms length, never giving yourself completely to her. always make her the pursuer. she prefers it that way though she'll never admit it or even understand it.

if your lady can say, "i got that nikka wrapped around my finger" it's a done deal for you. it's just a matter of time.
 

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Like what I once read on twitter.

Dudes with college degrees n careers be letting women who barely got a high school education run all of them. Like that's backward.

yes. lol. just cause she got a booty or a pretty face or both. u need to let these women know early on that they need to impress u cause early on they'll throw little comments at u to see how u view urself so they can gauge if ur a mark or not.
 

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For people who snoop their partner's stuff, is this a mutual thing. Is it cool for her to do the same if she suspects something or would you be pissed?

If you snoop and nothing is there, do you give her all your trust at that point or does the paranoia persist?
 

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For people who snoop their partner's stuff, is this a mutual thing. Is it cool for her to do the same if she suspects something or would you be pissed?

If you snoop and nothing is there, do you give her all your trust at that point or does the paranoia persist?

i wouldnt mind her going through my sh1t. but the reason women snoop is if they're plotting on some sh1t themselves and they need to justify it on some "see, he's doing it too" type sh1t. so off that alone, id look at any chick that wants to snoop on me sideways (if i havent given her a reason to).

women on the other hand can engage in blatantly disrespectful behavior and find ways to justify it. he's just a friend. why cant he sleep over at my place? he's gay.
 
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