Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Poitier]

i wouldnt mind her going through my sh1t. but the reason women snoop is if they're plotting on some sh1t themselves and they need to justify it on some "see, he's doing it too" type sh1t. so off that alone, id look at any chick that wants to snoop on me sideways (if i havent given her a reason to).

women on the other hand can engage in blatantly disrespectful behavior and find ways to justify it. he's just a friend. why cant he sleep over at my place? he's gay.

My thing is that if you have that suspicion to snoop then there is probably toxic behavior in the relationship already that demands it be ended, no?

You snoop, find nothing, you telling me that relationship will go back to being normal? I don't buy it.

If men snoop out of possessiveness and paranoia and women do it for "get back" then those are feelings harbored in a relationship headed for self-destruction anyways.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

Found the exact quote

"nikkas be having whole degrees and still getting finessed by girls without high school diplomas."

 

[TRUEST]

My thing is that if you have that suspicion to snoop then there is probably toxic behavior in the relationship already that demands it be ended, no?

You snoop, find nothing, you telling me that relationship will go back to being normal? I don't buy it.

If men snoop out of possessiveness and paranoia and women do it for "get back" then those are feelings harbored in a relationship headed for self-destruction anyways.

it all boils down to being prepared. when i hear a guy talk so much about a girl he likes, and how she treats him, i almost always predict (correctly) whats going to happen to him.

a ex-coworker (he's chinese) of mine was dating this black dime. she was hot. all he talks about is her. and from what i heard, she seemed into him.

to make a long story short, they were at a store one time. she was wearing a turtleneck. he just happens to catch a glimpse of a hickie on her neck. he lost his mind. she cried and denied everything but eventually confessed. turns out she had been letting some dude in her class take her to hotels. and they were having raw sex.

my coworker got tested immediately after she told him. turns out she gave him chlamydia. needless to say, he broke up with her shortly after.

u may be tempted to think these are stories that happen to other people. not u. but think again.

 

[Poitier]

it all boils down to being prepared. when i hear a guy talk so much about a girl he likes, and how she treats me, i almostalways predict (correctly) whats going to happen to him.

a excoworker (he's asian) of mine was dating this black dime. she was hot. all he talks about is her. and from what i heard, she seemed into him.

to make a long story short, they were at a store one time. she was wearing a turtleneck. he just happens to catch a glimpse of a hickie on her neck. he lost his mind. she cried and denied everything but eventually confessed. turns out she had been letting some dude in her class take her to hotels. and they were having raw sex.

my coworker got tested immediately after she told him. turns out he has chlamydia. needless to say, he broke up with her shortly after.

u may be tempted to think these are stories that happen to other people. not u. but think again.

Obviously infidelity can occur whether you perceive the relationship to be great, meh or flat-out toxic but yall making it seem like good relationship must have something beneath the surface

In Reincar's case, there was absolutely nothing that made him say "hmmmm time to put a keylogger on this bytch iphone?"

The relationship was absolutely perfect and in the back of his mind he was thinking "this bytch doing everything right she must be sucking some dikk?"

Seems like a miserable way to be in a relationship if true and on some control freak shyt but I can dig it Most likely there were signs and cues he was picking up on, consciously or subconsciously

 

[TRUEST]

in Reincar's case, after finding out the sex thing, i honestly feel his girl just felt victim to human needs. some dude who was more aggressive probably got in her ear and it was a wrap from that. its not hard to do when she's gone months/years without sex. recipe for disaster.

but aint no point discussing this back and forth. u seem set on being in a relationship based simply on trust. and thats fine. whatever helps u sleep better. to each his own.

 

[Poitier]

No, I believe if your relationship is toxic or her behavior changes or there are other signs that cause you to question her then by all means go ahead and dig.
If you can't enjoy a good relationship though then you shouldn't be one in the first place. Some seemingly good relationships will obviously end in an L but you can't be afraid of life.

but yeah, agree to disagree.

 

[twan83]

For people who snoop their partner's stuff, is this a mutual thing. Is it cool for her to do the same if she suspects something or would you be pissed?

If you snoop and nothing is there, do you give her all your trust at that point or does the paranoia persist?

I really don't like going thru a woman stuff to be honest
And to say a guy who does it is insecure is foolish now don't get me wrong some dudes who do it are insecure

And the ones who say I don't need too cuz I trust her it goes both ways it's good to have that trust imo but also if something is off nothing wrong to do it either

I only go thru her stuff if she gives me a reason too
And as for her she has before too but found nothing cuz ain't shyt I'm doing

When I have a reason too there were times I found nothing at all and just moved on from it and I have found something but nothing like cheating just dumb shyt that could be avoidable to not cause argument

She knows how I roll cheat if u want too ur gonna lose more than I will nor am I gonna stress over it

If u give me reason to search ur shyt I will if not I won't

Just keep it 100 with me I'm a big boy I can handle it I've dealt with enough shyt in my life that is fukked up

For as long as I been with her no cheating has happened THAT I KNOW OF

She has 90% of my trust and that's the max u will get from me the other 10% is cuz I don't trust women no matter how good or loyal they have been too me due to experience from past

Either way I'll always be fine on my own as a single father
Marriage or a relationship is a bonus in my eyes

 

[MikelArteta]

My thing is that if you have that suspicion to snoop then there is probably toxic behavior in the relationship already that demands it be ended, no?

You snoop, find nothing, you telling me that relationship will go back to being normal? I don't buy it.

If men snoop out of possessiveness and paranoia and women do it for "get back" then those are feelings harbored in a relationship headed for self-destruction anyways.

you know what I get a statement in regards to my investments every month from my accountant, but I still will log into my account every day to check.

The only person in life who looks out for you IS YOU, a woman cheating on you isn't thinking oMG i'm urting poitiers feeling.

Just like a accountant or broker wouldn't be like omg im messing up poitiers money

as that old withery cac ronald reagan said trust but verify

 

[MikelArteta]

No, I believe if your relationship is toxic or her behavior changes or there are other signs that cause you to question her then by all means go ahead and dig.
If you can't enjoy a good relationship though then you shouldn't be one in the first place. Some seemingly good relationships will obviously end in an L but you can't be afraid of life.

but yeah, agree to disagree.

id say 90% of partners find out their being cheated on by "snooping"

 

[MikelArteta]

it all boils down to being prepared. when i hear a guy talk so much about a girl he likes, and how she treats him, i almost always predict (correctly) whats going to happen to him.

a ex-coworker (he's chinese) of mine was dating this black dime. she was hot. all he talks about is her. and from what i heard, she seemed into him.

to make a long story short, they were at a store one time. she was wearing a turtleneck. he just happens to catch a glimpse of a hickie on her neck. he lost his mind. she cried and denied everything but eventually confessed. turns out she had been letting some dude in her class take her to hotels. and they were having raw sex.

my coworker got tested immediately after she told him. turns out she gave him chlamydia. needless to say, he broke up with her shortly after.

u may be tempted to think these are stories that happen to other people. not u. but think again.

I've told my story before, but i was pissing razor blades and I thought it was nothing so i started to drink cranberry juice ish wouldn't go away. I even told my girl at the time and she told me "you better have not given me anything". For a second like a dumb idiot I thought maybe it was from another thot in the past and it lied dormant, i googled like crazy and everyone was saying for males the symptoms usually appear within 2 weeks, only for females can it lie dormant, went to the dr they stuck a qtip up my peehole and results came back i had chlamydia and trichomonsis.

I asked her did she cheat on me of course she said no. I was hypnotized by the booty and somewhat believed her , She was always using my computer logging into to her email, fb and ish, so i downloaded a keylogger and just sat as it recorded all the keystrokes she did.

When she left logged in and yup, SHE HAD ANOTHER FACEBOOK where I did not even exist where she would talk to her "Ex", and she told him to go get tested that she thinks he gave her something, and he said oh yeah I forgot to tell you I f**** someone at the gym and then toronto health called me to get tested.

If I never snooped I never would have known, imagine if it was HIV or some ish.

 

[Poitier]

you know what I get a statement in regards to my investments every month from my accountant, but I still will log into my account every day to check.

The only person in life who looks out for you IS YOU, a woman cheating on you isn't thinking oMG i'm urting poitiers feeling.

Just like a accountant or broker wouldn't be like omg im messing up poitiers money

as that old withery cac ronald reagan said trust but verify

People are not material items like money and real estate.

So tell me, do you put the keylogger on day 1? I mean if you wait 6 months then you could still be tasting another man's sack all that time til you install the software anyways.

How often do you check? Have to do it every few weeks right? Do every few months and there can still be a period she is cheating on you and bringing home disease.

The lengths you'd have to go to stay on top and prevent the L the moment it happens are ridiculous.

id say 90% of partners find out their being cheated on by "snooping"

Read my post again.

I have no problem with snooping when the signs are there. Most people start to snoop because they consciously or subconsciously pick up on cues.

If a bytch is good enough to pull off cheating while providing the perfect relationship (some are) then thats simply an L I'll have to take.

 

[MikelArteta]

People are not material items like money and real estate.

So tell me, do you put the keylogger on day 1? I mean if you wait 6 months then you could still be tasting another man's sack all that time til you install the software anyways.

How often do you check? Have to do it every few weeks right? Do every few months and there can still be a period she is cheating on you and bringing home disease.

The lengths you'd have to go to stay on top and prevent the L the moment it happens are ridiculous.



Read my post again.

I have no problem with snooping when the signs are there. Most people start to snoop because they consciously or subconsciously pick up on cues.

If a bytch is good enough to pull off cheating while providing the perfect relationship (some are) then thats simply an L I'll have to take.

no of course not

I never snooped my ex fiance phone not once. And I had her pin and my fingerprint was stored on her phone to open it.

However usually if you feel something is wrong IT USUALLY IS. And when I snooped on that girl it saved me my health, my time and to this day she has no idea that I knew what was up.

What I'm saying yes trust is important in a relationship if you cant trust someone don't waste your time with them, but you'll a fool if you go in all blindly and if you feel like something is WRONG better confirm that it ain't.

I don't put anything past ANYONE esp in this day of social media.

I have a old coworker whose been with this guy for over a year and just found out from one of her friends that she saw him on bumbler or bubble? whatever the hell its called.

And this was Mr. "Perfect"

 

[Poitier]

no of course not

I never snooped my ex fiance phone not once.

However usually if you feel something is wrong IT USUALLY IS. And when I snooped on that girl it saved me my health, my time and to this day she has no idea that I knew what was up.

What I'm saying yes trust is important in a relationship if you cant trust someone don't waste your time with them, but you'll a fool if you go in all blindly and if you feel like something is WRONG better confirm that it ain't.

I don't disagree with any of this.

 

[MikelArteta]

I don't disagree with any of this.

I also agree with what you said though, it can as well be counter productive, because you'll see something you don't like.

A guy may go through his girls phone and get angry if some guy on her private instagram is like damn gyrl in a comment and she replies back with a smiley face emoji

even though hes jerking off every night to big titties on xvideos on his phoen

 

[Atlrocafella]

My thing is that if you have that suspicion to snoop then there is probably toxic behavior in the relationship already that demands it be ended, no?

You snoop, find nothing, you telling me that relationship will go back to being normal? I don't buy it.

If men snoop out of possessiveness and paranoia and women do it for "get back" then those are feelings harbored in a relationship headed for self-destruction anyways.

My ex was a so called good girl, we were actually doing great, than I look through her phone and see her talking spicy with another nicca and her telling him to please bring condoms because she didn't want him to nut in her, all the while telling him that this is only going to be a one time thing because she truly loves her boyfriend (me). I stopped that bytch in the middle of the shower and kicked her out the crib.

These heauxs can't be trusted, it doesn't take a rocky relationship for you to consider checking up, even when shyt is going good you still need to check.