Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I told my ex don't add me on Snapchat. She said she wants to do it so she can send pics of the kids.

Next thing I know is she looking at my story. Now i gotta put this shyt on friends only
 

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How do you deal with stuff like this brehs? :patrice:

Had drinks with this girl on Monday. Prior to that we were hitting it off and extremely flirty before meeting. During it we did the normal icebreaker stuff and asked questions.

Later that night she said that I was nervous during our date. I explained myself (too much) that I wasn't and any sort of nervousness is normal meeting someone with romantic intent.

We texted a little but she stopped Tuesday. She texts me this afternoon. I haven't texted her back. Should I even bother with her mind games? She's attractive and I thought we had in commin, but I could be wrong.
 

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How do you deal with stuff like this brehs? :patrice:

Had drinks with this girl on Monday. Prior to that we were hitting it off and extremely flirty before meeting. During it we did the normal icebreaker stuff and asked questions.

Later that night she said that I was nervous during our date. I explained myself (too much) that I wasn't and any sort of nervousness is normal meeting someone with romantic intent.

We texted a little but she stopped Tuesday. She texts me this afternoon. I haven't texted her back. Should I even bother with her mind games? She's attractive and I thought we had in commin, but I could be wrong.


nah dont punk out on this and blame it on "mind games". not sure what its going to take before u guys get it through ur heads.

this woman clearly told u what u needed to work on in order to better ur chances on ur next date with someone else. u came off nervous. in other words, you TURNED HER OFF!!!!

think back to how the entire interaction went, take notes and learn to avoid everything u did that u think may have turned her off.

stop acting so gadamn excited when ur with a girl u like. in the game of seduction, NEVER EVER fall under the delusion that the more u show the girl u want her, the more shes going to want u. nah, let her know ur interested but that u can take it or leave it (dont say that to her but let ur mannerisms show it). and if ur a nervous person by nature, drink a lil alcohol before u head out (no drunk driving please).
 

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It was a response to what you said about not experiencing mutual attraction.
Maybe a couple in high school when I was a little bytch :skip:...but I'm 6 years removed. In my young adult life...nah. That's why I'm more critical of myself than most find normal. My void is greater than some of yall realize :ufdup:
 

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nah dont punk out on this and blame it on "mind games". not sure what its going to take before u guys get it through ur heads.

this woman clearly told u what u needed to work on in order to better ur chances on ur next date with someone else. u came off nervous. in other words, you TURNED HER OFF!!!!

think back to how the entire interaction went, take notes and learn to avoid everything u did that u think may have turned her off.

stop acting so gadamn excited when ur with a girl u like. in the game of seduction, NEVER EVER fall under the delusion that the more u show the girl u want her, the more shes going to want u. nah, let her know ur interested but that u can take it or leave it (dont say that to her but let ur mannerisms show it). and if ur a nervous person by nature, drink a lil alcohol before u head out (no drunk driving please).

Well...some people click or not. I recall wanting to go to another spot and she said "Am I boring you?"

Also on first introduction she tried to shake my hand. I was like "nah we hug". If anything many of the things she did or said she was the nervous one and she was projecting.

She texted me again and I said how about we do something again and she asked what did I have in mind so balls in my court. There's another woman I'm actually more into I'm gonna see tomorrow afternoon.
 

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nah dont punk out on this and blame it on "mind games". not sure what its going to take before u guys get it through ur heads.

this woman clearly told u what u needed to work on in order to better ur chances on ur next date with someone else. u came off nervous. in other words, you TURNED HER OFF!!!!

think back to how the entire interaction went, take notes and learn to avoid everything u did that u think may have turned her off.

stop acting so gadamn excited when ur with a girl u like. in the game of seduction, NEVER EVER fall under the delusion that the more u show the girl u want her, the more shes going to want u. nah, let her know ur interested but that u can take it or leave it (dont say that to her but let ur mannerisms show it). and if ur a nervous person by nature, drink a lil alcohol before u head out (no drunk driving please).

Real shyt. I'm noticing a trend of dudes behaving like weirdos then returning to the thread on some "Women are crazy, right?".

I do standup comedy, and any time I bomb, it's MY fault. Even if the crowd was lame, you'll never grow if you're so comfortable having an excuse. Gotta always be at the cause and not the effect, and that requires being real with yourself.
 

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Quick lil random thought... For as much grief as guys get about not being ready/serious when it comes time, a lot of these women aren't either.

I met my last two girlfriends at a point where I was ready to settle down and wife someone up. I came into it with that mindset and laid out the vision. Both of them were too immature at that point to go further. And these are 28 year old educated women I'm talking about. It's kinda funny.

And what I mean by immature is that they both were selfish and way too caught up in trivial things in life to understand that compromise is necessary for them to get the dream marriage they want.
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This one wont last long but basically if u are caught red handed with sending nudes or in the act just be as cold as u can be. What do I mean by that? If u have no other possible way of finessing the situation then with as shameless as possible with a straight face say u cheated , it happened, and what does she want to do (dont apologize or say sorry though). 9/10 she will stay with u. Just keep ur eyes on the swivel though afterwards


If she only caught u halfway like found some panties or texts of u talking to another girl or any other slight ways of finding out ur cheating then gas light her. Make her think shes crazy, tell her shes imagining things. Flip it on her.Are u cheating urself? Why are u going thru my stuff? Why are u so insecure? What are u doing behind my back that u feel the need to check up on me? Basically be a spin artist. Everything she accuses u of accuse her back and play victim. "idk why i put up with ur insecurity so much, its turning me off". Threaten to break up with her.Ive legit had exes beleive every word I said and hustled my way out that situation. Its demonic but it works. Suprisingly alot of women who go looking to find out ur cheating are cheating themselves so there a chance shes not shyt herself. Keep ur eyes peeled

If ur a good dude though just admit to it, apolgize and break up with her. Or dont do it at all.Call it a day.


U need to actively be working towards NEVER gettin caught, or just not cheating at all. Thats in Cheating For Dummies
Yeah She Def Gonna Be Lookin To "Pull A Him On Him":mjlol:
 
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