Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Y'all ever been with a chick when she wasn't in the right place so to speak but now she not tryna date you after she went away for 4 years ... cus I'm tryna grt back with her for shyt at least be friends again cus she was my best friend and I can't lie I miss that shyt so much I'm just so confused on what to do. Do I try to make things work out or just give up. Like school boy q said is it really true if you ducked her once you can fukk her twice bruhs??
 

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Y'all ever been with a chick when she wasn't in the right place so to speak but now she not tryna date you after she went away for 4 years ... cus I'm tryna grt back with her for shyt at least be friends again cus she was my best friend and I can't lie I miss that shyt so much I'm just so confused on what to do. Do I try to make things work out or just give up. Like school boy q said is it really true if you ducked her once you can fukk her twice bruhs??
hpu shouldn't have to "try" to make someone hit friend.

As far as getting back with her, it depends on how your last encounter went but the general idea is to ask her out and make a move if she's unsure, you tell her to text you when her schedule frees up and don't contact until she contacts you first even if you never speak to her again. If she flat out says no, tell her that's too bad and to text you if she changes her mind and again no contact until she does.

You basically let her know what you want and leave it up to her. Of course you dont wait for her. You can't lose.
 

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I have an unpopular opinion that I'd like to share.

I'm 23 and I don't believe in having a girlfriend or a long term relationship until I'm in the 28-32 age range.
I'd like to finish school and build a career, some money, a good friend network etc. Honestly, having a relationship is very low in my priority list. Over the past year, I've cut off a lot of people and changed up my habits, health, and read a lot of books to change my general mindset and I'm so at ease with myself that I rarely feel lonely. It could also be subconscious; my parents don't like each other and a lot of men / dudes I've seen that are in relationships have turned soft. The last thing I want to do is turn soft in a sink or swim world.

Chime in and tell me what you guys think.
This isn't unpopular at all and actually what plenty of dudes in here preach.
 

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hpu shouldn't have to "try" to make someone hit friend.

As far as getting back with her, it depends on how your last encounter went but the general idea is to ask her out and make a move if she's unsure, you tell her to text you when her schedule frees up and don't contact until she contacts you first even if you never speak to her again. If she flat out says no, tell her that's too bad and to text you if she changes her mind and again no contact until she does.

You basically let her know what you want and leave it up to her. Of course you dont wait for her. You can't lose.
ight hope this shyt work out to be honest
 

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Wanna tell her how I feel and have things go back to the old way but I'm scared n not sure if I want all the stuff that old stuff had like the sex or if I just truly want my best friend back
 
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50/50 in a relationship is a lie.
somebody is gonna always care less.
relationships are flip flops of feelings
that switch up all the time
here's the thing......if you get that knot
in your stomach on the way home the
relationship is over.
if you ever hear your lady mouth the words.
(when i was serious you wasnt)
she's already got new dikk and it'll never be
the same.......it's over.

wat6rr.jpg
 

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Had to dead it with the poly chick for the time being. One of her partners got burnt a year ago and now out of the blue wants everyone to get tested. Ol girl aint never had shyt, I never had shyt. The fukk this nikka throwing stones from a glass house for. I'm like I don't have insurance I'm not about to blow 300 dollars on some shyt because this nikka wants me to :hhh:. then she like well he said we should just take a break but he doesn't want me fukking on that break. :hhh: So not only is this fukkboy I never met trying to get in my pockets he trying to make me celibate. I'm like guess we aint fukking then. Aint no p*ssy on earth worth 300 dollars to me dead ass. Was posed to hang with her today but I deaded that and said go get that shyt in order:picard:. She hits me back tells me its over with him I'm like meh w/e. holla at me if you want. She hits me back and says she has problems (ya don't say) and shouldn't be dating for awhile. Okay thats fine. She a cool chick and she shaped like pinky so I was cool with smashing in the interim but once a nikka I never met started infringing on my personal space wtf. It was a interesting experience and showed me I really have reached a stage of immense indifference with women to the point I don't even care if its exclusive or not but I'm not doing this shyt again:mjlol:. Told her once you get your life right hit me up and if we both still single we'll see what it do. But just you, none of this fu fu poly shyt. Had to ask her like did you ever stop and wonder that a lot of your issues stem from the fact you are poly?:troll:

It might be for some people but thats not the vision for me lol. And I'm not even jealous so I can't imagine nikkas who have that personality trait (its nothing wrong iwth that btw)
 

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So I've been small talking with this one girl.

I've been telling her about my situation with my father. It was pretty amazing to hear her send me some good vibes. I'm expected to see her Friday but I don't know what my emotional state will be.

Just my life...I'm forced to job hunt, meet a really cool girl that I could see a future with, and my father fighting for his life. I hate dealing with all of these emotions.
 

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So I met a massage therapist just walking..I said hi..she smiled so I went in..we talked walked to her bus got her number.

We set up plans for the beach tomorrow..and she hits me with this after we set plans...mind you

I DIDN'T mention sex first..she did.

"Im going to be upfront, I'm loyal and supportive friend but I gain no fulfillment in a quick roll in the hay....I think we could have a great time tomorrow but it could be a one time thing...what do you think/feel?"

I just put

Me: I'm glad that you say supportive and loyal..as those are traits I admire and they describe me..I don't believe 2morro will be a one time thing..

She replies

"Great see you at noon"

I made a joke :patrice:
"You're cute..fun and a roll does sound amazing though :steviej: "

I felt I had to let her know sex is on my mind too..she ain't fooling anyone she thinking about fukking just like me:shaq:


Going by the body language I believe my foot is halfway in the door...I'm attractive and I know not many dudes in Seattle are approaching her..let alone saying hi.

My plan is just have fun but obviously try to fukk..I feel she wrote that to gauge my aggressiveness :patrice:
 
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So I met a massage therapist just walking..I said hi..she smiled so I went in..we talked walked to her bus got her number.

We set up plans for the beach tomorrow..and she hits me with this after we set plans...mind you

I DIDN'T mention sex first..she did.

"Im going to be upfront, I'm loyal and supportive friend but I gain no fulfillment in a quick roll in the hay....I think we could have a great time tomorrow but it could be a one time thing...what do you think/feel?"

I just put

Me: I'm glad that you say supportive and loyal..as those are traits I admire and they describe me..I don't believe 2morro will be a one time thing..

She replies

"Great see you at noon"


Going by the body language I believe my foot is halfway in the door...

My plan is just have fun but obviously try to fukk..I feel she wrote that to gauge my aggressiveness :patrice:

You should take what she said seriously. She's attracted to you and is letting you know what she hopes to get from the relationship.

What you want doesn't seem to match what she wants. Your call though.
 

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getting kinda sick and tired of being nice to with some of these hoes man. But I guess thats a bit of a problem in itself right?

Some of these chics you really gotta DOG em and they fukk with it :jbhmm:

All (feminine) women want dominance. Only women with low self esteem want abuse.

I'm not sure which you're describing, but women who respond well to abuse should be avoided in general.
 
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