Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Huellz Santana]

real talk question for yall. most of us have been hardened due to a bad experience in a relationship.

do you think this is a good thing?
do you think it makes you jaded or more realistic?
im kinda torn. its like how the fact that I had a rough upbringing made me tough, but it also made me miss out on some of joys of life. and its also ruined my ability to "dream"

if there's really no hope for a relationship then what's the future hold? i see a lot of cats talkin bout they wont get married, but you're all in your twenties. lets see if you hold that stance in 10 years.​

 

[Turbulent]

real talk question for yall. most of us have been hardened due to a bad experience in a relationship.

do you think this is a good thing?
do you think it makes you jaded or more realistic?
im kinda torn. its like how the fact that I had a rough upbringing made me tough, but it also made me miss out on some of joys of life. and its also ruined my ability to "dream"

if there's really no hope for a relationship then what's the future hold? i see a lot of cats talkin bout they wont get married, but you're all in your twenties. lets see if you hold that stance in 10 years.​

it's not about the bad experiences.

it's not your rough upbringing that made you miss out on stuff. it's how you dealt with the way it made you feel that made you miss out. say you had a car accident with minor injuries. some people would never drive again, some would still drive without the seatbelt and some would drive with the seatbelt. wearing a seatbelt in this case doesn't mean you're bitter or jaded about driving. you're just protecting yourself a little more against the risks.

we're not saying there is no hope for relationships. You just have to know how to operate in one. and how to manage your feelings. it's about what type of perspective you should have.

the point of it all is to be happy. the problem is, some guys get into a relationship and think alicia is the reason they're happy. it's like they,re thinking "I'm happy because i'm with alicia therefore if i'm not with alicia i'm unhappy". The problem is, she's the condition for your happiness but you don't control her mind or body. you're basically fukked. IMO, you should see it as, "I'm happy because i found a chick named alicia that does XYZ and who is blablabla". Now your happiness is based on how you are being treated. so if she stops being that person or stops doing those things, your mind is clear where you understand why you're partially unhappy. then you can try to explain to her and work it out with her and if that doesn't work after a while (depending on your level of patience) your mind has the option to just find another girl who does XYZ. because you understand that you're attached to her because of XYZ, not because it's "alicia". XYZ is what makes you happy.


as far as marriage, i just don't see what's the point.

 

[winb83]

real talk question for yall. most of us have been hardened due to a bad experience in a relationship.

do you think this is a good thing?
do you think it makes you jaded or more realistic?
im kinda torn. its like how the fact that I had a rough upbringing made me tough, but it also made me miss out on some of joys of life. and its also ruined my ability to "dream"

if there's really no hope for a relationship then what's the future hold? i see a lot of cats talkin bout they wont get married, but you're all in your twenties. lets see if you hold that stance in 10 years.​

The world is a cold hard place. You can either match it or get taken advantage of by it.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Approaching a new woman every day for a month, Day 26:

There's a hot blonde that works as a personal trainer at my gym. She's good motivation to get off my fat ass to go work out. I also like the fact that she is the kind of girl that seems so unapproachable to so many other guys, because the fear factor that she creates on her own is something that weeds a lot of the guys that would be going for her out of the picture.

Anyway, I saw her working the squat rack with a forty something housewife. She was looking real good as usual and she looked over at me. I had to react quickly. If a girl catches you looking at her you can't make it seem like you were just staring. That's creepy. You have to react somehow. So I smiled in the only slick way that I know how, and said, "Hey there." She seemed pleasantly caught off guard and responded with a smile and a, "Hi!"

Her client finished her set and left for the locker room. I started talking to her about certain hot spots around town. I pretended to recognize her from some place that I go to regularly downtown, because if she did frequent the spot I could ask her a bunch of follow up questions and ask her to meet there, but if not I could proceed to tell her about the place and invite her out next time.

Anyway, got her number and stuff. She is so fukking hawwwwwt.

Gonna bring her out Saturday, I think.

 

[Sharp]

I have a dilemma fellas.

There's this women I met that I've been talking to for the past month. She's older women in her 40s

Now originally, it was all business. I'm a writer and she is an independent film producer, and she wants to me to contribute my male point of view (like the stuff I drop here) on her documentary where I will battle it out with a panel of women.

So anyway, our conversations have started out business, and we have become friends and out conversation are more personal, and have an underlying flirting nature.

Now don't get me wrong, she's fine as hell, and under ordinary circumstances I would go for the kill. My issue is that I'm trying to keep it professional because I sincerely believe that she can help me expand my brand. But everytime I see her, I keep thinking about wanting to lay her the pipe, and she is super receptive to my agenda...in terms of the shyt I kick here.

I'm thinking that I need to act oblivious to any sexual tension and keep it professional, but I have the feeling that something could go down. My thing is that the more acquainted we become with each other, and the better friends we become, the more likely that something will pop off.

Not sure how to go about this. Right now I'm just chillin.

 

[sixsixtwo]

The Frustration of a Single Man « Free Northerner

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[MikelArteta]

All these rules and how to interact are great stuff posted by Kevm but it makes me realize why I'm happy being single being carefree it's like you have to follow a playbook now a days not being to aggressive or conservative etc.

I just want to be Brett favre just having fun out here

And mr hate coffee speaking from my own experiences, date anyone for a while and your emotions will go stronger if you don't think she's the right one end it now or you'll end up having deep emotional ties and it wil be harder for you to break

On the other hand if she's a good woman you may regret it, there's no magic chick out there who will make your heart tingle daily and you should know that you were with your ex for 7 years

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

that loudaffair thread affair

the level of ratchetness
at him smashing his bm best friend

 

[Shameonyou]

These women are all the same, they just play different roles

One might play the good girl, one might play the bad...but at the end of the day, its the same whore that needs alot of different dikk in her system....married or not.


let that marinate

 

[firemanBk]

Excellent thread.

Really like posters quoting the bible and how many times women fukked things up for men even back then.

I mean Lot and his family get saved from Sodom and are told not to look back. Guess who looked back
Then, his 2 daughters rape him

Side note: Anybody else thinks Lot was like after his wife looked back? "Bye, bytch"

I have a dilemma fellas.

There's this women I met that I've been talking to for the past month. She's older women in her 40s

Now originally, it was all business. I'm a writer and she is an independent film producer, and she wants to me to contribute my male point of view (like the stuff I drop here) on her documentary where I will battle it out with a panel of women.

So anyway, our conversations have started out business, and we have become friends and out conversation are more personal, and have an underlying flirting nature.

Now don't get me wrong, she's fine as hell, and under ordinary circumstances I would go for the kill. My issue is that I'm trying to keep it professional because I sincerely believe that she can help me expand my brand. But everytime I see her, I keep thinking about wanting to lay her the pipe, and she is super receptive to my agenda...in terms of the shyt I kick here.

I'm thinking that I need to act oblivious to any sexual tension and keep it professional, but I have the feeling that something could go down. My thing is that the more acquainted we become with each other, and the better friends we become, the more likely that something will pop off.

Not sure how to go about this. Right now I'm just chillin.

Do not shyt where you eat, breh. You know better than this. If you want a long term business relationship with this woman, keep it STRICTLY business.

BTW, that doc sounds legitimately interesting

 

[Turbulent]

Approaching a new woman every day for a month, Day 26:

There's a hot blonde that works as a personal trainer at my gym. She's good motivation to get off my fat ass to go work out. I also like the fact that she is the kind of girl that seems so unapproachable to so many other guys, because the fear factor that she creates on her own is something that weeds a lot of the guys that would be going for her out of the picture.

Anyway, I saw her working the squat rack with a forty something housewife. She was looking real good as usual and she looked over at me. I had to react quickly. If a girl catches you looking at her you can't make it seem like you were just staring. That's creepy. You have to react somehow. So I smiled in the only slick way that I know how, and said, "Hey there." She seemed pleasantly caught off guard and responded with a smile and a, "Hi!"

Her client finished her set and left for the locker room. I started talking to her about certain hot spots around town. I pretended to recognize her from some place that I go to regularly downtown, because if she did frequent the spot I could ask her a bunch of follow up questions and ask her to meet there, but if not I could proceed to tell her about the place and invite her out next time.

Anyway, got her number and stuff. She is so fukking hawwwwwt.

Gonna bring her out Saturday, I think.

it almost seems like the game is in slow-motion in your eyes at this point. smooth as fukk and very natural. props

 

[NerdNash]

So me and my girl pick my daughter up from the bus stop and as soon as my daughter gets in the car she goes

"daddy slept on my bed this morning he was tired"

smfh im like

My girl like

So i drop her off and she texts me " you got that" ... i'm like damn I f*cked up bit I didnt really cuz all i did was lay on her bed while i was waiting for my daughter to get ready (i drop my daughter off cuz my babymom works early...blah blah whatever)

Anyway instead of me b*tching up like I always do I hit her with this......

"Yea I laid on my daughters bed for 15 mins while she was getting dressed you can either get over it or leave me and keep it moving."

Her: "im leaving you"

Me: Cool. Don't text my phone anymore .....





Thoughts?

 

[DaRealness]

I have a dilemma fellas.

There's this women I met that I've been talking to for the past month. She's older women in her 40s

Now originally, it was all business. I'm a writer and she is an independent film producer, and she wants to me to contribute my male point of view (like the stuff I drop here) on her documentary where I will battle it out with a panel of women.

So anyway, our conversations have started out business, and we have become friends and out conversation are more personal, and have an underlying flirting nature.

Now don't get me wrong, she's fine as hell, and under ordinary circumstances I would go for the kill. My issue is that I'm trying to keep it professional because I sincerely believe that she can help me expand my brand. But everytime I see her, I keep thinking about wanting to lay her the pipe, and she is super receptive to my agenda...in terms of the shyt I kick here.

I'm thinking that I need to act oblivious to any sexual tension and keep it professional, but I have the feeling that something could go down. My thing is that the more acquainted we become with each other, and the better friends we become, the more likely that something will pop off.

Not sure how to go about this. Right now I'm just chillin.

My advice is keep it strictly professional with anyone you have to do business with. If or when things don't work out, then things will just get messy and it will f**k up the money flow as well as have a negative ripple effect in the industry you work in.

 

[Turbulent]

So me and my girl pick my daughter up from the bus stop and as soon as my daughter gets in the car she goes

"daddy slept on my bed this morning he was tired"

smfh im like

My girl like

So i drop her off and she texts me " you got that" ... i'm like damn I f*cked up bit I didnt really cuz all i did was lay on her bed while i was waiting for my daughter to get ready (i drop my daughter off cuz my babymom works early...blah blah whatever)

Anyway instead of me b*tching up like I always do I hit her with this......

"Yea I laid on my daughters bed for 15 mins while she was getting dressed you can either get over it or leave me and keep it moving."

Her: "im leaving you"

Me: Cool. Don't text my phone anymore .....





Thoughts?

when she sees you can live without her and be cool, she might come back...or she might not.

either way, doesn't it feel good to not bytch up about the situation and just stand firm if you don't believe you did anything wrong?

 

[CASHAPP]

So me and my girl pick my daughter up from the bus stop and as soon as my daughter gets in the car she goes

"daddy slept on my bed this morning he was tired"

smfh im like

My girl like

So i drop her off and she texts me " you got that" ... i'm like damn I f*cked up bit I didnt really cuz all i did was lay on her bed while i was waiting for my daughter to get ready (i drop my daughter off cuz my babymom works early...blah blah whatever)

Anyway instead of me b*tching up like I always do I hit her with this......

"Yea I laid on my daughters bed for 15 mins while she was getting dressed you can either get over it or leave me and keep it moving."

Her: "im leaving you"

Me: Cool. Don't text my phone anymore .....





Thoughts?

Your girl makes an issue out of something so small? No disrespect to your girl but im convinced something is wrong with these women in general. I remember one time my little sister hit her head when my mother was opening the fridge, and im there comforting her while she is about to cry and i have the ice in my hand and im placing it on her head asking her which part of specifically.....

then my mom starts spazzing out like some maniac talking about how im___ years old and leave me alone with my daughter!!!

Because apparently you can't even comfort your own flesh and blood nowadays

Anyway as for thoughts on what your method was man....you were thisclose to doing it perfectly but peep this you made one big error and im not sure but maybe you noticed it already:

Me: Cool. Don't text my phone anymore

^Remember in situtations with kids you have to be extra careful. That 'Dont' text my phone anymore" could be very damaging....especially with how vindictive women can be. She could use that against you in the future with your family, her family, her friends,etc. Heck she could even bring it up 30 years from now whether or not you are still together about how you told her that you dont want "Her or your daughter to contact you ever again".

We all know talking in person or over the phone can be a bit more effective sometimes. But i understand sometimes because of our situation we can only text at that specific moment. And it may be better in some cases like that because you wont have them play one of those "games" where they love to hang up while your still talking.

That "COOL" could have also been replaced with an "okay".

Because "okay" is a more arbitrary word and i would recommend it as a word to get used to using when in situations like this with women....Whether you are saying "okay" through texting or in person.

When "cool" is used alot of women would usually take it for you being a big smart ass to them.