Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Your girl makes an issue out of something so small? No disrespect to your girl but im convinced something is wrong with these women in general. I remember one time my little sister hit her head when my mother was opening the fridge, and im there comforting her while she is about to cry and i have the ice in my hand and im placing it on her head asking her which part of specifically.....
then my mom starts spazzing out like some maniac talking about how im___ years old and leave me alone with my daughter!!!
Because apparently you can't even comfort your own flesh and blood nowadays
Anyway as for thoughts on what your method was man....you were thisclose to doing it perfectly but peep this you made one big error and im not sure but maybe you noticed it already:
Me: Cool. Don't text my phone anymore
^Remember in situtations with kids you have to be extra careful. That 'Dont' text my phone anymore" could be very damaging....especially with how vindictive women can be. She could use that against you in the future with your family, her family, her friends,etc. Heck she could even bring it up 30 years from now whether or not you are still together about how you told her that you dont want "Her or your daughter to contact you ever again".
We all know talking in person or over the phone can be a bit more effective sometimes. But i understand sometimes because of our situation we can only text at that specific moment. And it may be better in some cases like that because you wont have them play one of those "games" where they love to hang up while your still talking.
That "COOL" could have also been replaced with an "okay".
Because "okay" is a more arbitrary word and i would recommend it as a word to get used to using when in situations like this with women....Whether you are saying "okay" through texting or in person.
When "cool" is used alot of women would usually take it for you being a big smart ass to them.
i think u confused. i told my girl not to text me anymore.....she's not my babymom
damn....my bad man thought it was a baby mom situation
So me and my girl pick my daughter up from the bus stop and as soon as my daughter gets in the car she goes
"daddy slept on my bed this morning he was tired"
smfh im like
My girl like
So i drop her off and she texts me " you got that" ... i'm like damn I f*cked up bit I didnt really cuz all i did was lay on her bed while i was waiting for my daughter to get ready (i drop my daughter off cuz my babymom works early...blah blah whatever)
Anyway instead of me b*tching up like I always do I hit her with this......
"Yea I laid on my daughters bed for 15 mins while she was getting dressed you can either get over it or leave me and keep it moving."
Her: "im leaving you"
Me: Cool. Don't text my phone anymore .....
Thoughts?
That's what you got to do man. I don't see why she would be mad if you took a nap on your daughter's bed. When ti comes down to it, you can't be out here punking up. If you ain't did nothing wrong, what is she tripping for?
When you let a female take your authority and punk you out, she's going to keep on escalating things. Even if you are perfectly right but you allow yourself to be punked... allow her to flip the script, then she'll be mashing on you even when she's in the wrong. What man really wants to be in a relationship like that? Once a woman gets a hint that you're being weak, she will pull all kinds of disrespectful things. When it comes down to it, women have a sort of bully mentality. Men have to realize that. When you come up being weak, then she will either escalate her bad behavior or leave. If you were wrong, you can admit that you were wrong, but you have to do it in a way that you are letting her know you ain't going to be punked, manipulated or have that held over your head.
With your action, you basically showed her that you ain't going for whatever games she is playing. She might threaten to leave, this and that, but if you stand on your decision, then she will likely come back. If she doesn't, did you even really want a woman who was ready to jump ship at a moment's notice?
When she does come back around and starts talking about oh you must not care about me, why didn't you stop me, you got to break it down to her in a real way. Every time a woman messes up, you got to come through with some real rap. "Listen baby, I got love for you, but if you got it in your mind to try to play with me or got it in your mind to leave me, it's obvious you really ain't got no love for me... and I don't want nobody around me that ain't reciprocating the love I am giving. Listen baby, I'mma be real with you, if you're going to trip off small things and threaten to leave, that makes me question your mindset. I want to deal with you, but if we are going to continue dealing with each other, you can't play with me."
You could do the catering and pandering role, talking about "BABY Don't GO! Please don't leave, I was wrong!" I bet you she will look at you like a sucker and peel off, and if she doesn't, she's going to keep on escalating that bad behavior. If she leaves with you holding your ground, at least you have your dignity and you have one less problem maker in your life. You got to stay down for real principles.
Halle is fine, but she keeps getting that butt whipped or called names with every relationship she is in. There's a reason a woman that fine isn't wrapped up. If you notice, every man that steps into her vicinity is subject to blow up. We gonna call that type of woman a landmine.
We like to sit back and think mice are stupid when they see that bit of cheese sitting on that mousetrap, talking about, how could they go for that? But as men, we do the same thing. A fine woman's time and attention is a bit of cheese, her drama is the trap, but we go ahead and rush ahead to get that cheese like a dirty rat and get our necks snapped in half and have the audacity to think what happened.
International Playa
Playa with a Passport
I been lurking for a while in this thread, I confess yall have helped
My Story:
I been interested in this gal over a year, took her to fancy restaurants, bought expensive gifts and was always there as soon as she wanted anything. The gal wasn't interested and at times showed behaviour of resentment/hate and disrespect towards me. I continued in my pursuits of tryna make her like/love me, until I came across this thread. I realised I was being used, the gal didnt give a sh1t about me and was tired
. I immediatly deleted her number, blocked her FB account, deleted her off BBM. Thanks Brehs
After getting my mind right, It came to my realisation this other friendly redbone chick with a fat asss has been after my attention
, but I was too blinded by da above chick to notice her. She may not have the best weave or the best dressing style, but she really friendly, has loads of respect for me and cares how im feeling or how my day is going. She make a nicca feel like a king
Im not saying she the one, Im just getting to know her at the moment, I have learnt to go after chicks who are in to you already, rather than try to convince women to like you or to be in to you................
My Story:
I been interested in this gal over a year, took her to fancy restaurants, bought expensive gifts and was always there as soon as she wanted anything. The gal wasn't interested and at times showed behaviour of resentment/hate and disrespect towards me. I continued in my pursuits of tryna make her like/love me, until I came across this thread. I realised I was being used, the gal didnt give a sh1t about me and was tired
. I immediatly deleted her number, blocked her FB account, deleted her off BBM. Thanks BrehsAfter getting my mind right, It came to my realisation this other friendly redbone chick with a fat asss has been after my attention
, but I was too blinded by da above chick to notice her. She may not have the best weave or the best dressing style, but she really friendly, has loads of respect for me and cares how im feeling or how my day is going. She make a nicca feel like a king Im not saying she the one, Im just getting to know her at the moment, I have learnt to go after chicks who are in to you already, rather than try to convince women to like you or to be in to you................Now that you dropped this, I think the situation changes a little. I thought that was your baby mom and she got mad at you for taking a nap at home. So the situation is more like you were at your babymom's house and fell asleep on your daughter's bed. Your girl is looking at it like you were at your baby mom's house just chilling. Based upon some of the things you said in the past like cheating on your girl, she probably assumed you were doing something with your baby mom, which is definitely understandable.
In this situation, I can understand where she is coming from, because she is looking at your past and judging you based off of that. You didn't allow yourself to be punked, which is the right action, but when you do have an opportunity to talk to her, you are going ot have to come at this angle
"Look ma, I know based upon our past, you are assuming that I did something wrong and that makes sense. But listen, I'm going to tell you straight up I didn't do anything. I'm with you and not her for a reason. You can believe me or not, that's up to you. But I'm giving us an opportunity to make it work out, but if you're not going to believe me, then what do we really got?"
On the real though man, when you violate the trust of your woman, you will always have her questioning your motives and objectives. When in a relationship, you have to give respect as well as demand it be returned. If you're being disrespectful to her, you can't really expect her to be respectful back. She may put up with it for a while, but it's a situation that will build a level of vindictiveness in her that can really mess you up down the line. Always give what you want in return, so if you want her to trust you more, you have to deal with her in a more trustworthy fashion.
why does she care that you slept on your daughter's bed?
So me and my girl pick my daughter up from the bus stop and as soon as my daughter gets in the car she goes
"daddy slept on my bed this morning he was tired"
smfh im like
My girl like
So i drop her off and she texts me " you got that" ... i'm like damn I f*cked up bit I didnt really cuz all i did was lay on her bed while i was waiting for my daughter to get ready (i drop my daughter off cuz my babymom works early...blah blah whatever)
Anyway instead of me b*tching up like I always do I hit her with this......
"Yea I laid on my daughters bed for 15 mins while she was getting dressed you can either get over it or leave me and keep it moving."
Her: "im leaving you"
Me: Cool. Don't text my phone anymore .....
Thoughts?
Yea she mad cuz she probably thinks i did something....but I was just at the point where I wasn't doing the arguing thing over that. i'd rather her just get over it or keep it moving. She decided to keep it moving so thats what it is as of now.
i'm gonna try my hardest to not text her lol smh
If she hits me back cool if not then hey. It was good while it lasted.
I was near my BM crib in the morning so instead of driving all the way back home i figured i'd just post up there. Yes, I could of just stayed in the car and waited but for what? I had no idea my daughter would sell me out lol. I guess I am somewhat wrong but f*ck it.
It's just a perception issue more than anything due to some of the past issues with your girl. Yeah man, it is what it is. Like technically, you might not have did anything, but it just comes down to the perception game. Just got to chalk it up and be more aware of that situation next time.
My neck and my back
All Star
is this the same girl who fukked with your sisters bf before you? cuz if it is you shoulda told that bytch to stfu even if you did fukk your bm
So me and my girl pick my daughter up from the bus stop and as soon as my daughter gets in the car she goes
"daddy slept on my bed this morning he was tired"
smfh im like
My girl like
So i drop her off and she texts me " you got that" ... i'm like damn I f*cked up bit I didnt really cuz all i did was lay on her bed while i was waiting for my daughter to get ready (i drop my daughter off cuz my babymom works early...blah blah whatever)
Anyway instead of me b*tching up like I always do I hit her with this......
"Yea I laid on my daughters bed for 15 mins while she was getting dressed you can either get over it or leave me and keep it moving."
Her: "im leaving you"
Me: Cool. Don't text my phone anymore .....
Thoughts?