Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The ADD]

I’d say it was both of those. Talking about life, working out together, linking up for hiking/bike rides. I just saw them as attractive and that’s it.

For me, you gotta have something more than that to get me to pursue.

There’s beautiful women everywhere, fukk makes you so special?

I might be missing something but I don’t know to many brehs that approach women just to hang out platonically.

 

[Ohene]

Women really think you gay if you approach them on some regular platonic shyt and not try to pursue them…this shyt is crazy.

A bytch with a fat ass at the gym I been chopping it up with thought that as well as this chick from my job. The entitlement is kinda scary.

was talking to my dad about this a while ago
It is what it is.

That’s why most ppl in long term relationships I find were with their partners from high school or university . That’s the best stage in life or environment to build a friendship genuinely and have it blossom into something more

Once you get outta that environment it’s more pressured. The impetus for two ppl to meet generally becomes a sexual attraction so the longer it takes for sex to be involved the more likely it is to fizzle out. The paradox is that we know a relationship built on sex or lust is very unlikely to last. Hence why so many ppl who meet as adults end up in failed relationships or moving from one person to the next

 

[Black Excellence]

I might be missing something but I don’t know to many brehs that approach women just to hang out platonically.

I’m just different. I want more women in my life without having to fukk them. Whether they’re regular or a dime.

I truly don’t need p*ssy from these basic chicks. I would like it but it’s just not worth it to chase a chick just for some p*ssy from someone I truly don’t care about on a deep level. Most women I meet are entitled, expect you to court them, are very surface level, don’t really engage, expect you to carry conversations, don’t have many interesting things to say. Why would I want to deal with all of that just to fukk?

 

[Black Excellence]

was talking to my dad about this a while ago
It is what it is.

That’s why most ppl in long term relationships I find were with their partners from high school or university . That’s the best stage in life or environment to build a friendship genuinely and have it blossom into something more

Once you get outta that environment it’s more pressured. The impetus for two ppl to meet generally becomes a sexual attraction so the longer it takes for sex to be involved the more likely it is to fizzle out. The paradox is that we know a relationship built on sex or list is very unlikely to last. Hence why so many ppl who meet as adults end up in failed relationships or moving from one person to the next

fukking preach!

The lack of genuinely wanting to know the other person has really ruined us and just cycles over to the next generation. When you in your 20’s the door is closing as far as that open mindedness goes. Once you reach 30?Super quiet, women either panicking cuz they on a clock and men just wanna fukk with low commitment cuz they focused on the bag.

Sidebar I’m really a fan of just getting sex out early at least you know if it’s good or not. Don’t make me fukking wine and dine you just for you to be a starfish in bed


It’s such a conundrum but it really seems the best way is to meet your partner super early on or at an event that is from your interest (book store, dancing class, workshop, etc, etc)…cuz if not?

 

[Rasille]

Platonic friendships can work if there are no attraction between the two people. If one has feelings for the other then it won’t work. The difference is men 9/10 will still smash even if he’s not feeling her on that level, then she’ll grow resentment once it’s clear it won’t move beyond this stage. For women she simply won’t fukk you, then the man will grow resentment because she doesn’t see him that way.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

whose fault is it? if women incentivized men to approach more men would do it

but whats the point of approaching when they will likely ghost or vanish on you
when they may reject you harshly
when they may make you feel like a creep for approaching in public
when they may give you the wrong number etc.

Tbh most single women want to be approached respectfully

Not yelling from the car

 

[The ADD]

I’m just different. I want more women in my life without having to fukk them. Whether they’re regular or a dime.

I truly don’t need p*ssy from these basic chicks. I would like it but it’s just not worth it to chase a chick just for some p*ssy from someone I truly don’t care about on a deep level. Most women I meet are entitled, expect you to court them, are very surface level, don’t really engage, expect you to carry conversations, don’t have many interesting things to say. Why would I want to deal with all of that just to fukk?

I’m so confused. If you want them around then I’m guessing they aren’t what you describe in the 2nd paragraph.

Either way most women aren’t being approached for platonic friendships. I can’t see why they would think something is up.

 

[Apollo Creed]

I might be missing something but I don’t know to many brehs that approach women just to hang out platonically.

lol nobody does. Female friends outside of some childhood she damn near your cousin shyt is a waste of time. "Associates" are cool but usually those from from working with someone (school/volunteer, work, religious institutions).

 

[Ahadi]

lol nobody does. Female friends outside of some childhood she damn near your cousin shyt is a waste of time. "Associates" are cool but usually those from from working with someone (school/volunteer, work, religious institutions).

Yup. They’re a waste of time. Found out this year lol.

 

[Rasille]

Yup. They’re a waste of time. Found out this year lol.

She wasn’t feeling you?

 

[re'up]

Being friends with women, you get to meet their friends and a solid reference already. Doesn't mean you can NEVER go further. Or that you have to sleep with every woman you meet, or they are worthless. Have friends that are strippers and club girls, I meet their friends all the time.

People's black and white thinking always surprises me.

would admit that all my friends are attractive, and always very attractive to me, and I am sure this is mutual, but sometimes the sexual chemistry isn't right, sometimes the personalities aren't a match, I know a few that are bad, and like me, but I can already see it being a headache, because they are invested in commitment, or whatever. Sometimes it happens later.

totally understand what he is saying with "platonic" friends to a degree.

 

[re'up]

and to add, not everything has to follow some tight, and not that rewarding script

meet someone, go to dinner, x3, sleep together, distance yourselves with texts and unavailability, a bunch of artifice

 

[Apollo Creed]

Being friends with women, you get to meet their friends and a solid reference already. Doesn't mean you can NEVER go further. Or that you have to sleep with every woman you meet, or they are worthless. Have friends that are strippers and club girls, I meet their friends all the time.

People's black and white thinking always surprises me.

would admit that all my friends are attractive, and always very attractive to me, and I am sure this is mutual, but sometimes the sexual chemistry isn't right, sometimes the personalities aren't a match, I know a few that are bad, and like me, but I can already see it being a headache, because they are invested in commitment, or whatever. Sometimes it happens later.

totally understand what he is saying with "platonic" friends to a degree.

who fukking wants to be friends with strippers and club girls


what the fukk is wrong with you nikkas

 

[re'up]

who fukking wants to be friends with strippers and club girls


what the fukk is wrong with you nikkas

Me! I guess I can understand why someone wouldn't, maybe just a difference in values. Lot of the kinds of ideologies being expressed are like old testament esque lol and that's cool, but not everyone thinks that way. If someone is attractive and cool enough, that's all I care about.

I know the other ones, too, the church ones, the "good ones" the career ones, the highly responsible and sometimes too tightly wound ones.

 

[WIA20XX]

What kinds of dates you usually take chicks on and how much you usually spend?

In the past, had 2 strategies

1. Pull from Bars and Clubs (other dudes will get her tipsy)
2. Meet a chick and invite her out to what I'm ALREADY doing (So I don't care if she's late)

I hate changing this up for a random broad. A chick I'm seeing, invested in, sure. Standard JD/MBA Thots that I run into...yeah, I'm not hitting the new Mongolian Sushi spot em.

These days, I'll do

• For a first date? - Dinner as the Main Event - always something Latin, East Asian, South East Asian, Indian or Middle Eastern, something "exotic".
  • Never
    • BBQ, Caribbean, Soul Food, Cajun/Creole (Broads complain, complain, complain)
    • American, Wings, Seafood, Pizza, Sandwiches, Burgers
    • Chain Restaurant, Fast Food (down the line this okay, but early on, naw)
    • The Hottest Restaurant, Known IG Hot Spots. (that's how you get juiced)
• Something interesting (Gallery, Museum, Some type of "Event") + low stakes eating. Earlier in this thread, I basically recommend that guys find something to do every night, even if they don't go out every night. Afro Beats night, Brazilian Funk, Poetry, Book Club, Cooking Classes, etc.

I'm a professional, primarily dealing with professionals, so I'll drop $100-150. With my homies, I'll drop that or more, so it's not "big money", like it was when I was in my 20's.