I would disagree. But maybe that depends on your objective? How am I going to spend ANY time at all with someone if the convo is only about them? That's exhausting. Even an hour of that is draining. Much less a date. Or a one night stand, if you aren't interested in anything they say. it's a give and take process. It's not just about women, this is a life skill, of how to form bonds and connections.
Of course you always want to leave room in the convo for someone to talk. Ask questions. Give them the space to respond. it's not a monologe. it's mutual self disclosure. It's the basis for relationships of all kinds.
To me, telling someone to not talk about themselves and listen to relentless barrage from someone for an hour sounds like a good idea on paper, but try doing that in real life.
in business, you may have to do that, if it's some C Suite type that has you pinned down, but in personal relationships?
Of course you always want to leave room in the convo for someone to talk. Ask questions. Give them the space to respond. it's not a monologe. it's mutual self disclosure. It's the basis for relationships of all kinds.
To me, telling someone to not talk about themselves and listen to relentless barrage from someone for an hour sounds like a good idea on paper, but try doing that in real life.
in business, you may have to do that, if it's some C Suite type that has you pinned down, but in personal relationships?
it’s like you insulted they mama.