I don’t think they are. My perception:
- Dating with intention equals working towards finding out if there is a long term path with said person
- Not settling equals not dipping below your standards
then it would never get to intentional dating.
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then it would never get to intentional dating.To be honest, only maybe 5% of women (10% at best) that you bag are really going to be genuinely interested in you and worth your time. It's very easy to forget how easy a woman is to deal with when she is genuinely interested. These are the women who respond within a half hour every time you message them, women who will initiate conversations, invite you out, have engaging phone calls/convos with you, do thoughtful shyt like bake cookies for you, have no problem coming over, be easy to make plans with and even easy to smash.
The other 95%...half of them will be very passive or give you the number just so you leave em alone.
Around a third (35%) will have some intrigue but will make you audition and warm up after months either due to being unsure or skeptical. These are the ones who will ask "what do you have in mind?" when you ask them out, take hours to respond, give you basic responses, will never initiate conversations...you'll essentially be doing all the work and may even be able to get into a relationship with her while she waits for somebody shes REALLY attracted to to come along. She might even already be fukkin that dude while youre the one taking her out. These are usually overstimulated and overexperienced women who have become jaded and need everything done on their terms to feel comfortable.
10% will be interested in you and attracted but noncommital are because they are dating other people. As soon as you express a real interest or treat these women well they will pull away because they dont wanna be tied down.
That top 5% comes along so sparingly that you are inclined to think that it is normal for you to be chasing your tail with these women; it isn't. Remember what it feels like when a woman is genuinely interested in you.
Some of these situations this last page are in that 10 and 35% probably. For some dudes who might be less confident or attractive that 5% might even be 1-4%. It's actually rather difficult to find a woman that just genuinely fukks with you from jump street lol
The other 95%...half of them will be very passive or give you the number just so you leave em alone.
Around a third (35%) will have some intrigue but will make you audition and warm up after months either due to being unsure or skeptical. These are the ones who will ask "what do you have in mind?" when you ask them out, take hours to respond, give you basic responses, will never initiate conversations...you'll essentially be doing all the work and may even be able to get into a relationship with her while she waits for somebody shes REALLY attracted to to come along. She might even already be fukkin that dude while youre the one taking her out. These are usually overstimulated and overexperienced women who have become jaded and need everything done on their terms to feel comfortable.
10% will be interested in you and attracted but noncommital are because they are dating other people. As soon as you express a real interest or treat these women well they will pull away because they dont wanna be tied down.
That top 5% comes along so sparingly that you are inclined to think that it is normal for you to be chasing your tail with these women; it isn't. Remember what it feels like when a woman is genuinely interested in you.
Some of these situations this last page are in that 10 and 35% probably. For some dudes who might be less confident or attractive that 5% might even be 1-4%. It's actually rather difficult to find a woman that just genuinely fukks with you from jump street lol
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In the last 2 weeks I have probably got 10-15 women's numbers.
Out of that 15 I would say only 1 has been in that 5% mold. I met her last wednesday I think and from the get she was A+ in terms of responsiveness - I'm talking replying within 5-10 even though she works. We probably went out for a drink on Friday. She was at the gym getting ready to meet up with me on Friday and forgot her hair gel. I asked for a pic to see how it looked without the gel and she sent it...no questions asked, no making it seem like I'm a creep just for asking for a pic lol. During the date we talked about everything from immigration to mental illness to religion to sex...all engaging discussions. After the date we been texting frequently and I asked her out to brunch for next Sunday. No hestitation, she said yes. Today she messaged me good morning. This afternoon mentioned that she got free Blue Jays tickets and invited me out to a Jays game - she dont even like baseball.
A lotta girls woulda tried to spend a nikkas money and said, "nah i'ma get my brunch, I dont like baseball".
A lotta girls wouldnt text a nikka they met a week ago good morning.
A lotta girls would deliberately take long to respond
Now I aint stupid, this girl could flip flop just as easily as any other woman. But still, this is what it's like when a woman genuinely sees value in you and has keen interest.
Another 3 have been in that 10% mold...relatively easy to make plans with but not necessarily forthcoming.
Out of that 15 I would say only 1 has been in that 5% mold. I met her last wednesday I think and from the get she was A+ in terms of responsiveness - I'm talking replying within 5-10 even though she works. We probably went out for a drink on Friday. She was at the gym getting ready to meet up with me on Friday and forgot her hair gel. I asked for a pic to see how it looked without the gel and she sent it...no questions asked, no making it seem like I'm a creep just for asking for a pic lol. During the date we talked about everything from immigration to mental illness to religion to sex...all engaging discussions. After the date we been texting frequently and I asked her out to brunch for next Sunday. No hestitation, she said yes. Today she messaged me good morning. This afternoon mentioned that she got free Blue Jays tickets and invited me out to a Jays game - she dont even like baseball.
A lotta girls woulda tried to spend a nikkas money and said, "nah i'ma get my brunch, I dont like baseball".
A lotta girls wouldnt text a nikka they met a week ago good morning.
A lotta girls would deliberately take long to respond
Now I aint stupid, this girl could flip flop just as easily as any other woman. But still, this is what it's like when a woman genuinely sees value in you and has keen interest.
Another 3 have been in that 10% mold...relatively easy to make plans with but not necessarily forthcoming.
And a lot of the time, why the number is so low has nothing to do with you.
Nowadays these women are talking to and dating multiple dudes, thus many more have been ran through and are jaded . They are working more than they ever have been and are thus more stressed/busy. They got all these apps and social media frying their brains so their attention spans are lower and their algorithms are steady telling them men are trash and whats acceptable etiquette from a man. It's increasingly difficult to really get real interest from a woman for all those reasons.
Nowadays these women are talking to and dating multiple dudes, thus many more have been ran through and are jaded . They are working more than they ever have been and are thus more stressed/busy. They got all these apps and social media frying their brains so their attention spans are lower and their algorithms are steady telling them men are trash and whats acceptable etiquette from a man. It's increasingly difficult to really get real interest from a woman for all those reasons.
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To your point @Ohene thats what makes the ending of relationships so draining as you get older/more time in the game is because you realize the bullshyt you gotta go through just to get 1 solid chick AGAIN.
I think that’s why a lot of dudes fight so hard to keep their relationship alive because they remember the lonely nights, the ghosting, the game playing, chicks juggling several men, chicks pump faking interest just for attention, etc,.
Hell a couple pages ago I just spoke about a chick that took FIVE fukking hours to respond to a text on a Sunday afternoon and then when she did respond it was some bullshyt, and this was a chick that gave heavy interest, mom hyping me up.
It is what it is. Something is heavily off with modern women. If it ain’t anxiety, depression, delusion it’s their autistic behavior
I think that’s why a lot of dudes fight so hard to keep their relationship alive because they remember the lonely nights, the ghosting, the game playing, chicks juggling several men, chicks pump faking interest just for attention, etc,.
Hell a couple pages ago I just spoke about a chick that took FIVE fukking hours to respond to a text on a Sunday afternoon and then when she did respond it was some bullshyt, and this was a chick that gave heavy interest, mom hyping me up.
It is what it is. Something is heavily off with modern women. If it ain’t anxiety, depression, delusion it’s their autistic behavior
Goddamn this woman just wants to tlc.
I have to be on my lover boy shyt at all times. You gotta wax poetry to these women.
It's crazy, but it's good for personal growth.
I have to be on my lover boy shyt at all times. You gotta wax poetry to these women.
It's crazy, but it's good for personal growth.
Yup
It’s hard not to get the scarcity mindset No matter what anyone tells you
It’s why when you get a good prospect you might end up being over eager and killing it. Happened to me 4 months ago
Culture plays a significant role in shaping gender roles and expectations in different societies. In many parts of Uganda and Kenya, for instance, traditional values emphasize that women should be respectful and supportive partners. From a young age, girls are often taught to care for their households, respect their husbands, and contribute to a peaceful home environment. Gestures such as bowing when serving meals, avoiding confrontation for the little things , and generally taking on a more submissive or accommodating role in the relationship.
I swear american and Canadian women you can do everything right and these broads will still complain . You can avg 30, 10 and 9 and they will complain how come you didn't sbg 30/20/10
"I like girls that like me!!"
The crazy thing is that's the way it should be. But there are some women who are just like that girl but won't show it so you end up just walking away.
And no one is really busy. Everyone is checking their phones tons of times every hour. People got Google watches, apple watched smart watches where you can reply to messages on. You don't even have to text on a phone to reply to a message you can speak. No one is busy no one
People reply back instant to who they think are important
Since th day I met my wife we have texted, called every single day. Even when we were 10,000 miles apart and 8 hr time difference.
People reply back instant to who they think are important
Since th day I met my wife we have texted, called every single day. Even when we were 10,000 miles apart and 8 hr time difference.
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"Not settling" = "I won't date a man that isn't my ideal man that i may or may not be qualified for"
"Dating with intention" = "my ideal men kept smashing me and never locked me down and then dipped when I asked them to commit. so now I'm forcing you to commit to me first even tho I let them hit with no strings attached"
At the end of the day most people will have to settle you'll never get every box checked up. These birds will wait and wait then everything pass them by though.
My wife is beautiful, educated, Christian, comes from a good family, isn't aggressive, humble and my family loves her but guess what she lived 10,000 miles away from me. I couldn't get it all.