Yep
This is how you get rid of being that nice guy
Should I buy her flowers
Should itext
EXACTLY FELLAS!
You let the guys who stay steady simping/executing go after her.
To make yourself stand out... when you DO finally hang out with girl - MAKE THAT MOTHAFUKKA COUNT! Then, do like a recliner chair - and fall back.
Give it some time. If you came off on a good note, odds are, she feeling you but wants to take it slow to see if you deem her WORTH IT!
I'm doing this as i type to that same gal i met on july 4th. She's a hardworking, got her own place/whip, top level senior manager at a global company - she got hers (i have nothing to offer but slanging my thangin and a fun personality; seems like that's all women want - early on. I may be doomed later but oh well, that's another topic).
Thirstyness over a stretched amount of time is WAAAAYYYY worse than being assertive early on (if she feeling you - pound and strike while iron is hot). If she's being lackadaisical - don't be too aggressive (fukk, i need to take my own advice because i may be losing this dime i met in Portland - then again, she lives 3 hours away and told boo to hit me up when she comes to Seattle, pardon the digression).
In gist; not giving her too much attention/reverting is the strongest method to attracting a woman because it begins to play with their psyches. It's the cat n string theory; you let the ball of yarn loose, but you retract it as soon as you think she is about to grasp it. Keep doing it and it'll keep her intrigued/continuing to vie for your attention in the process. Works like a gawtdamn charmed.
You just have to be patient. Realize that YOU ain't the only mothafukka she messing with (come off as tho you have multiple things going in your life. I got a 9-5, gym, flag football, recreational/social events, my dj'ing - i'm occupied as hell, but even when i have time for a lady, i just tell her how backed up my calendar is and when i'm free, can pencil her in my e-rolodex).
What i do like about women who don't jump into dating you so heavy off the bat is that it keeps things interesting. The chase for BOTH parties is beneficial in that in that she is going to want you and v.v.
When you two do ultimately meet up, you feel as though the payoff and patience was worf it.
Keep the jump offs around cuz you gon' need to beat to keep your sanity (and game fresh with ego in check - it's very necessary. If you see her after a long stretch of not dealing wif womans, she can smell the nervousness from a mile away and odds are, she ain't gon think its cute. Even if you have to fake it til you make it... put on the facade of exuberance and swag/secks appeal).
When youre conversing; challenge her. Educate her. Intrigue her. Mystify her. Entertain her. Tell her stories/concepts/dreams that she's NEVER heard before.
Make YOU the object of HER desire.
Every woman wants to be led. But ironically, she doesn't want to be chased to no end feeling that way.
Be strong but indifferent.
Be assertive and never thirsty.
Exude charm and convey class.
But most of all... be the lion who's natural aura emits strength, confidence and the cajones to control any situation at any given time.
And that my friends... is the essence of a man.
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