Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

its not worth it, the added stress. Men can be on that I dont care, but trust me as time goes on when you actually fall for her and commit to her that ish is going to nag at you. When you check her instagram and she has a mirror shot showing her ass, and dudes are like damn ma let me hit, or her ex is writing on her facebook wall and ish, or you wake up and check her photo and she went out clubbing with the girls

It's no way to live, that stress will eat you up alive.

Not all battles have to be fought

Exactly, the stress will consume you. It's much better to be single than deal with a woman that isn't built for a relationship. Obviously having a quality woman is the best, but if none is available, singlehood is better than a bad woman. A bad woman will tear you apart. Men are afraid of being single due to afraid of being alone or what society might say, ex. "Why are you 30 and not married?"

 

[EffYou]

Man im trying to do what you are and set a standard without comprising. Why are there so many of us as men settling for women that disrespect us?

My opinion: No self respect, feel like being pressured by society to fck as many hoes as you can, wanting to seem like the "man" to your friends for the amount of females you get with,not finding happiness from within and trying to get it from an outside source (aka validation seeking through friends/strangers).

When i actually think about it, it sounds disrespectful to women the mentality guys have towards them. I see a lot of posters on coli hating on @kevm3 / @Emperor_ReinScarf and titling them "women haters" or w/e... but its actually far from that. They seem to look at things through a honest/truthful perspective w/o no bias from society, "The truth hurts" people will do any and everything they can to avoid/dismiss the truth.

Women deserve to be loved and lead as thats our role as men, what type of mentality do you think the guys hitting 50-70+ chicks have? They won't know how to settle down; they just know how to make a female feel good, use them, then on to the next.

 

[kevm3]

Man im trying to do what you are and set a standard without comprising. Why are there so many of us as men settling for women that disrespect us?

Because we're in a pathetic, demonic society with no real standards. We're now in a 'morally gray' society because nobody believes in anything and hence, everyone is confused.

If you have true principles, which are Biblical principles, then one should NEVER compromise those. The thing about having principles though is that often you will have to stand alone because the right thing isn't always the popular thing.

 

[MikelArteta]

Exactly, the stress will consume you. It's much better to be single than deal with a woman that isn't built for a relationship. Obviously having a quality woman is the best, but if none is available, singlehood is better than a bad woman. A bad woman will tear you apart. Men are afraid of being single due to afraid of being alone or what society might say, ex. "Why are you 30 and not married?"

It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman

 

[BlaKcMoney]

its not worth it, the added stress. Men can be on that I dont care, but trust me as time goes on when you actually fall for her and commit to her that ish is going to nag at you. When you check her instagram and she has a mirror shot showing her ass, and dudes are like damn ma let me hit, or her ex is writing on her facebook wall and ish, or you wake up and check her photo and she went out clubbing with the girls

It's no way to live, that stress will eat you up alive.

Not all battles have to be fought

Right. She's having the time of her life showing her body to the world and loving the attention while Its causing me pain. Thats another thing, while a brotha was dying slow she was enjoying every moment, that's what really makes mad @ myself. Wasting time going thru all kinds of stress to the point of almost losing my grip on sanity and she's enjoying herself in all kinds of ways while I'm caught up in my feelings like a sucka

 

[MikelArteta]

Man im trying to do what you are and set a standard without comprising. Why are there so many of us as men settling for women that disrespect us?

Society tells you to get married
your more desirable to women if you have a bunch of one, if you manipulate and role play

sex, beauty, emotional ties.

The thing is rarely a woman will disrespect you or show you anything of the bat, so you meet her and you get enchanted by her beauty step 1, time goes on and you get sex the dophamine draws you in more, your addicted, then the emotional ties form and before you know it she has you!!

once she gets you, she can disrespect you and many men as long as shes beautiful and is giving them sex will take the disrespect because if i dont take it someone else will.

I'm not judging anyone hell I been there, it took me getting raked across the coals and screwed over by a beautiful woman for my eyes to be open and thankfully they were.

 

[MikelArteta]

Right. She's having the time of her life showing her body to the world and loving the attention while Its causing me pain. Thats another thing, while a brotha was dying slow she was enjoying every moment, that's what really makes mad @ myself. Wasting time going thru all kinds of stress to the point of almost losing my grip on sanity and she's enjoying herself in all kinds of ways while I'm caught up in my feelings like a sucka

I've been there myself man, I remember being heartbroken after the fact,s hes on mind constantly lying in bed staring on the ceiling then id snoop her facebook and shes out clubbing, that snapped me out of it fast.

Why the hell im i wasting any thoughts, wallowing for some skank whose out having the time of their lives

That's why now the moment a woman is gone from my life see ya, all ties are cut, silence till death, im the best there is the and the best there was, this is a ONE TIME SHOT, this is like the ncaa once you declare doesnt matter if your undrafted you aint coming back.


guys dont realize when a woman goes cold on you how it is, she goes ice cold. she could be 30 andcould talk to you every day from Jan 1 2000 to January 16, 2015 and never utter another word to you again if she goes ice cold.

 

[kevm3]

My opinion: No self respect, feel like being pressured by society to fck as many hoes as you can, wanting to seem like the "man" to your friends for the amount of females you get with,not finding happiness from within and trying to get it from an outside source (aka validation seeking through friends/strangers).

When i actually think about it, it sounds disrespectful to women the mentality guys have towards them. I see a lot of posters on coli hating on kev/Reinscarf and titling them "women haters" or w/e... but its actually far from that. They seem to look at things through a honest/truthful perspective w/o no bias from society, "The truth hurts" people will do any and everything they can to avoid/dismiss the truth.

Women deserve to be loved and lead as thats our role as men, what type of mentality do you think the guys hitting 50-70+ chicks have? They won't know how to settle down; they just know how to make a female feel good, use them, then on to the next.

how far society has devolved is pathetic. It's not all on the women. The men are just as bad when it comes to doing their part in relationships.

It's sad that when relationships has come down to a man looking at a woman as something to 'bust a nut in' and women look at a dude like a walking gucci bag or a mobile meal on wheels. Instead of two people who honestly love each other and do everything to avoid hurting the other person, people just look at the person their with as a convenient come-up of some sort. The problem we have is a moral one. It actually takes a form of morality to turn down one's OWN immediate pleasure and gratification to look out for the other person.

Relationships SHOULD be about two people being perfectly honest with each other, looking out for each other and coming together as one, more powerful WHOLE. I honestly couldn't tell you what relationships are actually today. They are more like finding someone you can use for benefits now and stab in the back later.

 

[MikelArteta]

As well that's why I tell men if it's over she dumps you, she flakes the power you have is how you take it.

Don't ask why, don't ask for another chance, don't write a letter, don't send a email, all that closure type crap, don't do manipulative measures like changing your display picture on whatsapp etc. The power you have is Acceptance and Silence.

These chicks want you to pin, want you to grovel evn though another dude is plowing them and in their mind.

When a chick is done with you she's done with you, don't give her any more satisfaction.

I'm at the point now if im dating a chick for a substantial time and she dumps me through text I wouldn't even say anything just keep quiet and change my number and get on with my life.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

I spent a lot of time in search of validation. I was always picky on looks because I liked the feeling of people in my life tellin me I'm the shyt or whatever but as I got older I didn't fukking care anymore because who the hell are these people to me anyway? They were nothing. People I couldn't give a shyt about so why should I care what they think about who I'm dating.

After I got that out of my system things got a lot better. I was able to focus more on what I like. at the end of the day, it is YOUR life. Most of these people I was looking for validation from became losers in society or got their girl pregnant or got fat and lazy etc.

When I see them now I'm just like

 

[BlaKcMoney]

Because we're in a pathetic, demonic society with no real standards. We're now in a 'morally gray' society because nobody believes in anything and hence, everyone is confused.

If you have true principles, which are Biblical principles, then one should NEVER compromise those. The thing about having principles though is that often you will have to stand alone because the right thing isn't always the popular thing.

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Society tells you to get married
your more desirable to women if you have a bunch of one, if you manipulate and role play

sex, beauty, emotional ties.

The thing is rarely a woman will disrespect you or show you anything of the bat, so you meet her and you get enchanted by her beauty step 1, time goes on and you get sex the dophamine draws you in more, your addicted, then the emotional ties form and before you know it she has you!!

once she gets you, she can disrespect you and many men as long as shes beautiful and is giving them sex will take the disrespect because if i dont take it someone else will.

I'm not judging anyone hell I been there, it took me getting raked across the coals and screwed over by a beautiful woman for my eyes to be open and thankfully they were.

Beauty sex emotional ties. That's real. I went thru exactly that and soon as she knew she had hit my willpower with kryptonite the gloves really came off.

Exactly, the stress will consume you. It's much better to be single than deal with a woman that isn't built for a relationship. Obviously having a quality woman is the best, but if none is available, singlehood is better than a bad woman. A bad woman will tear you apart. Men are afraid of being single due to afraid of being alone or what society might say, ex. "Why are you 30 and not married?"

That stress is one of the worst feelings, esp when its so strong its always lingering in your mind and the smallest things trigger jealous thoughts. I would be with friends having a good time and any reminder would trigger a stress attack that ruined my day. I mean stress so bad I would feel the physical effects like my heart pounding, my mood dropping and a flood of emotions.

Man this thread is therapeutic

 

[BlaKcMoney]

As well that's why I tell men if it's over she dumps you, she flakes the power you have is how you take it.

Don't ask why, don't ask for another chance, don't write a letter, don't send a email, all that closure type crap, don't do manipulative measures like changing your display picture on whatsapp etc. The power you have is Acceptance and Silence.

These chicks want you to pin, want you to grovel evn though another dude is plowing them and in their mind.

When a chick is done with you she's done with you, don't give her any more satisfaction.

I'm at the point now if im dating a chick for a substantial time and she dumps me through text I wouldn't even say anything just keep quiet and change my number and get on with my life.

the power we have is acceptance and silence....my brotha you just added another piece to my armour

 

[BlaKcMoney]

how far society has devolved is pathetic. It's not all on the women. The men are just as bad when it comes to doing their part in relationships.

It's sad that when relationships has come down to a man looking at a woman as something to 'bust a nut in' and women look at a dude like a walking gucci bag or a mobile meal on wheels. Instead of two people who honestly love each other and do everything to avoid hurting the other person, people just look at the person their with as a convenient come-up of some sort. The problem we have is a moral one. It actually takes a form of morality to turn down one's OWN immediate pleasure and gratification to look out for the other person.

Relationships SHOULD be about two people being perfectly honest with each other, looking out for each other and coming together as one, more powerful WHOLE. I honestly couldn't tell you what relationships are actually today. They are more like finding someone you can use for benefits now and stab in the back later.

Morality. The morality to turn down ones own self gratification for the benefit of a loved one. Brotha that's a good insight, if that doesn't exist for both people then there can't be a real relationship. And it means there isn't a true love there in the person who lacks that morality.

 

[MikelArteta]

the power we have is acceptance and silence....my brotha you just added another piece to my armour

unlike many I do and have done research throughought the years. Googling, reading women forums, talking to women I'm dating and just casual women I come across and my own experiences.

If a woman is going cold on you and you just say and just accept it and go cold on her as well it baffles them. If she dumps you and you accept and just vanish never to be heard from again it bothers them to a woman there is nothing worse than being left in the dark and not knowing.

Not knowing why he stopped talking to me, why did he accept it so easily, why didn't he fight

Again im not proud of it but years ago i was dating this chick and she dumped me , i just accepted it. I knew her secret answer for her email so i hacked it one day, and then that got me her fb password. I logged into her fb and under activies it shows you searches etc.

this chick was searching for my fb EVERY day for months, she dumped me went ice cold but because I didn't pin and all that, reman "friends" and all that crap women want you to do she was left in the dark not knowing what I was doing

 

[BlaKcMoney]

My ex is calling me right now lol