Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

My ex is calling me right now lol

 

[BlaKcMoney]

I made the mistake of being "friends" with her after we split, meaning we occasionally talk on the phone and have sex. After years of being together I confused the feelings of attachment we had 4 each other with some kind of love. Talking to her only made things worse, it was a constant reminder of betrayal and shame. Out of all the girls I've been with this is the only one I have had any problems cutting off. But Im 25 about to turn 26 I don't have anymore time to waste fornicating with thots and exxes. Getting back into studying the word, being around real friends and threads like this have helped me mentally understand what's going on and how to take control instead of being led by emotions and my johnson. I let myself go into some dark places over this broad that I never plan on going to again.

 

[BlaKcMoney]

I've had dimes in my city that my boys would be happy just to get a phone call from and I still couldnt get this bum broad off of my mind. Just being able to ignore this chick the past couple of days has already improved my work and my focus. This thread has been immensely therapeutic just to read thru and vent

 

[MikelArteta]

I made the mistake of being "friends" with her after we split, meaning we occasionally talk on the phone and have sex. After years of being together I confused the feelings of attachment we had 4 each other with some kind of love. Talking to her only made things worse, it was a constant reminder of betrayal and shame. Out of all the girls I've been with this is the only one I have had any problems cutting off. But Im 25 about to turn 26 I don't have anymore time to waste fornicating with thots and exxes. Getting back into studying the word, being around real friends and threads like this have helped me mentally understand what's going on and how to take control instead of being led by emotions and my johnson. I let myself go into some dark places over this broad that I never plan on going to again.

i was "friends" with my ex for 5 years and it was torture and hell. Everytime I thought I was over it, id keep on getting drawn back in, ish stressed me out, put me into debt, screwed me over in the dating game.

Messed up thing we were only together for 7 months, yet she was in my life for 5 years till i couldnt take it anymore. Finally got the courage to cut her out of ym life and i havnet said a word since, that peace that money can't buy

 

[MikelArteta]

I've had dimes in my city that my boys would be happy just to get a phone call from and I still couldnt get this bum broad off of my mind. Just being able to ignore this chick the past couple of days has already improved my work and my focus. This thread has been immensely therapeutic just to read thru and vent

if yu cut her off now, no social media stalking, no breadcrumbs nothing you'll be better soon.

Last time I talked to my ex was December 18, 2013 and my life has been 50 tmes better since then.



And this was someone i talked to every day for like 5 years, who was literally apart of my family but was so toxic beyond words

 

[Benjamin Sisko]

Alright then tinder chick hit me out the blue said how am I doing, and I said "I've been great". Then she responded "well let that greatness rub off on me". And I think I know how to respond but i didn't yet. I don't wanna fumble this one.

 

[MikelArteta]

Alright then tinder chick hit me out the blue said how am I doing, and I said "I've been great". Then she responded "well let that greatness rub off on me". And I think I know how to respond but i didn't yet. I don't wanna fumble this one.

overanalyzing leads to failure, if you out at a coffee shop and a chick saw you and was like hey how you are doing and you said that line and she said that are you going to overanalyze? You won't have time to

thats the thing with words on a screen, just go with the flow

 

[Benjamin Sisko]

Now Im waiting for the reply haha

overanalyzing leads to failure, if you out at a coffee shop and a chick saw you and was like hey how you are doing and you said that line and she said that are you going to overanalyze? You won't have time to

thats the thing with words on a screen, just go with the flow

 

[RealAssanova]

matter of fact, it shouldn't be "trying to get the girl to do something". you have little control over that as well. it should be trying to get a girl (meaning any girl as long as she meets your personal criteria in looks and personality) who wants to fukk. that's the situation in which you have the most control because eventhough you don't control what a girl will or won't do, you still control the selection process.

a restaurant manager doesn't try to convince a mechanic to work at his restaurant and become a chef. you'll never see him interview a mechanic and trying to convince him he would love working at his restaurant cause it's the best in town. it would be a waste of time and energy. Instead he'll look for chefs who are trying to cook and get hired.

dudes need to learn to choose within the chicks that have already chosen. it's like fishing out of a barrel. but instead, too many dudes jump straight into the ocean blindfolded trying to catch fish with their bare hands and then get mad at the fish cause they're not catching...I mean, it could be done for sports but not if you're trying to eat...

thing is, the ones that are choosing....ain't ones that i really want. I mean, yea it'll be easy puzzy but that post-nut clarity

then you got the odd one that both chooses, is easy puzzy and one you want...but you somehow fukk it up

i gotta improve myself and that is a good thing, because i am far from a finished product. But lemme hit my goals

 

[BlaKcMoney]

i was "friends" with my ex for 5 years and it was torture and hell. Everytime I thought I was over it, id keep on getting drawn back in, ish stressed me out, put me into debt, screwed me over in the dating game.

Messed up thing we were only together for 7 months, yet she was in my life for 5 years till i couldnt take it anymore. Finally got the courage to cut her out of ym life and i havnet said a word since, that peace that money can't buy

Same story we been on and off "friends" longer than we were together. Torture and hell is exactly what its been, a torture and hell in my own mind that sucks away all peace and joy. I know shes calling to play mind games or come over and have sex but I'm done stressing my mind. I used to think she might change but time has revealed more and more that she's nothing that I thought she was so how can I expect her to be what I think she should be.

What you said about silence and acceptance and actually doing it just felt good. I feel like Im in control again instead of my irrational emotions.

I feel the power

a brotha just had a breakthrough out of a mental hell

to emp reincar, kevm, turbulent,geffn and the other posters in this thread

the freedom and the peace tastes so sweet.

 

[BlaKcMoney]

No surprise to find that believers in Christ in here are giving the best advice. Studying in the word and reading this thread has really cleared my mind. Y'all brothas keep up the good work in here, its needed.

 

[MikelArteta]

Same story we been on and off "friends" longer than we were together. Torture and hell is exactly what its been, a torture and hell in my own mind that sucks away all peace and joy. I know shes calling to play mind games or come over and have sex but I'm done stressing my mind. I used to think she might change but time has revealed more and more that she's nothing that I thought she was so how can I expect her to be what I think she should be.

What you said about silence and acceptance and actually doing it just felt good. I feel like Im in control again instead of my irrational emotions.

I feel the power

a brotha just had a breakthrough out of a mental hell

to emp reincar, kevm, turbulent,geffn and the other posters in this thread

the freedom and the peace tastes so sweet.

been there sa well, anytime i met a chick, sabotage as she would come around

women dont change at all!!! remember that when its over its over she doesnt mind keeping you as a side guy

 

[MikelArteta]

No surprise to find that believers in Christ in here are giving the best advice. Studying in the word and reading this thread has really cleared my mind. Y'all brothas keep up the good work in here, its needed.

even if you are not a christian just read the bible on how to deal with woman the advice is

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

how many of us has been burned by a beautiful charmful woman?

1) A Godly Woman Always Seeks to be Modest in Her Dress. Then out came a woman to meet him, dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent. (NIV). (Proverbs 7:10)

2) A Godly Woman Always Seeks to be Holy in Her Conduct. Come, let's drink deep of love till morning; let's enjoy ourselves with love! My husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey… (Proverbs 7:18 - 29, NIV)

3) A Godly Woman Always Seeks to be Truthful in Speech and Motives. With her enticing speech she caused him to yield, With her flattering lips she seduced him. Immediately he went after her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, Or as a fool to the correction of the stocks, Till an arrow struck his liver. As a bird hastens to the snare, He did not know it [would cost] his life. (Proverbs 7:21-23,NKJV)

4) A Godly Woman Seeks to be Gentle and Quiet. The woman Folly is loud; she is undisciplined and without knowledge. (Proverbs 9:13, NIV) She is loud and defiant, her feet never stay at home (Proverbs 7:11 NIV)

5) A Godly Woman Seeks to Care for the Home. She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands. (Proverbs 31:13, NKJV)

6) A Godly Woman Seeks to Serve Others. She also rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household, and a portion for her maidservants. She extends her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy. (Proverbs 31:15, 20, NKJV) She has learned the love of Christ for others.

7) A Godly Woman Strives to be a Person Who Can be Trusted. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life (Proverbs 31:11-16).

8) A Godly Woman Seeks to be Prudent in Financial Matters. She considers a field and buys it; from her profits she plants a vineyard. She makes linen garments and sells [them,] and supplies sashes for the merchants. (Proverbs 31:16, 24, NKJV) She is a saver not a spender. She can see beyond today alone.

9) A Godly Woman Seeks to be a Hard Worker. She girds herself with strength, and strengthens her arms. She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hand holds the spindle. (Proverbs 31:17,19, NKJV) God puts a premium on hard work and so she moves toward it not away. There is no slothfulness, indolence or lack of motivation.

10) A Godly Woman Seeks to Do the Right Thing and Have a Good Reputation.Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.(Proverbs 31:23)

 

[RealAssanova]

i just deleted the numbers of 5 different chicks. some i prolly cud've smashed...but they ain't worth it.

my mind is clear now.

 

[BlaKcMoney]

been there sa well, anytime i met a chick, sabotage as she would come around

women dont change at all!!! remember that when its over its over she doesnt mind keeping you as a side guy

Yea im done deluding myself into believing her claims that she has changed. Its crazy to have to go from believing the best about someone to having to believe the worst. After reading this thread I'm certain that she's just trying to keep me around as a guy on the side and only tells me certain things to keep me talking to her. She enjoys having the power to affect me, I see that now and its deaded. These chicks really out here running schemes with 100 layers of deception.