Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Spend less time worrying about this or that particular woman and instead focus on getting your life right with God, enjoying times with your friends and family, increasing your knowledge and getting your career right, etc. There is TOO much to enjoy in life and too much joy to be had to be pondering over some disrespectful broad, whether it's an ex or whether it's a woman you are currently talking to. Keeping disrespectful people out of your life is like pulling weeds. It's critical if you want your garden to grow.

pretty much, all these women your stressing over wont even matter like 5, 6 months from now, women come and go, why worry about a braod that probably right now is swiping right on tinder, or talking to a bunch of dudes, and prob went out drinking and bar hopping last night, i'd rather focus my energy on gasp people who care about me nad have my best interests at heart.

 

[MikelArteta]

And trust me women expect you to beg, grovel, or give them chance after chance, that's what they are used to.

They can't fathom a guy sticking to his words or guns and not looking back.

I remember one of the last things an ex said to me was "you'll be back anyways, all my exes have always tried to"

even in the months after when I felt like hey jst maybe that phrase stuck in my mind and I never did

 

[kevm3]

The reality is, I can't control what a woman does, but I CAN control what behavior I will allow if she is to be in my presence. That's something we all need to realize. So don't waste time trying to search for secret, hidden techniques to try to control some woman's behavior. Just always be up front in letting her know what kind of behavior you will and will NOT tolerate and be firm in everything you say. If she looks at you as valuable, then she will live up to those standards you set. If not, then you don't want someone like that around you. It's similar to how if you're around a woman who demands respect and doesn't disrespect herself, you're going to give her respect.

Now, on to another subject. Bad women can be a lot like drugs. You get with one, there is that huge, initial high, but eventually things start to taper down. Eventually, you find it extremely hard to leave, because you are emotionally HOOKED. You KNOW this woman isn't healthy for you, but you think it's too painful to leave. When you DO choose to kick the habit and dismiss the woman out of your life, you're going to spend time going through painful withdrawal systems. If you hold out, those withdrawal symptoms will go away and you will eventually have a lot more clarity in your life and say to yourself, "I should have done this earlier." What's the best way to deal with hard drugs? Never do them in the first place. It's not hard to avoid something you've never done in the first place and allowed to get emotional hooks in you. It's the same thing with bad women. This is why you need to very carefully screen who you are dealing with BEFORE you let them in your life. It's a lot easier keeping a bad woman out of your life if you never let her in in the first place and allow her to hook you.

 

[kevm3]

And trust me women expect you to beg, grovel, or give them chance after chance, that's what they are used to.

They can't fathom a guy sticking to his words or guns and not looking back.

I remember one of the last things an ex said to me was "you'll be back anyways, all my exes have always tried to"

even in the months after when I felt like hey jst maybe that phrase stuck in my mind and I never did

All that ends up happening when you do beg and cryis that she gets a huge ego boosts and ends up clowning you and looking at you as weak afterwards. Even if she gets back with you, it's most likely going to be temporary because she looks at you as weak and pathetic. Look at those videos on different sites of dudes crying that they sent to their ex and their ex uploaded it to one of those sites.

One thing is NEVER beg or cry. If it's over, accept it and move on. Don't ever show weakness around a woman. I don't care how much she tells you she wants a sensitive man, etc. When she sees that moment of weakness in you, she's going to hone in on it and hammer it over and over, kind of like in a videogame where you're fighting a boss that is invulnerable except that glowing spot that you have to hit to do damage. If a woman sees some weakspot in you, she's going to hit you right there over and over.

 

[Londilon]

These last two pages is real

I feel like the game is so fukked up that I wont even know when I've actually found a decent girl.

 

[kevm3]

You know when a lot of civilizations started to fall? When they had to depend on merc armies. A mercenary is pretty much a fighter for hire. They have no real loyalty to the nation. They're only loyal to the money. The reason they are so dangerous is that they aren't sticking around if things get tough and the enemy can easily pay them more and they are now attacking you.

Honestly, I feel like a lot of modern women are mercs. You always have to watch your back around them and you know if a better offer comes along, they are gone. You always have to watch being stabbed in the back. Best thing is to not ever deal with a mercenary woman. You never know when they will flip, but you know they have all the right characteristics to stab you in the back, and it will most likely be when you are down on your luck.

This is why I advocate learning to be alone, because there are a ton of merc women out there, and if you are desperate for attention, you will accept one into your life just to alleviate your 'loneliness', and they will end up hooking you and ditching you at the worst possible time.

 

[EA]

This weekend, I've had two different girls say that my outlook on relationships are too harsh & old fashioned. I'm sitting here genuinely puzzled about it...especially after the last girl I spoke to. She essentially said that women shouldn't take all of the blame when they cheat because they obviously did it due to something their boyfriend did/didn't do. It honestly depresses me as a young man who hopes to find a good woman because there is a lack of accountability now in dating.

 

[kevm3]

This weekend, I've had two different girls say that my outlook on relationships are too harsh & old fashioned. I'm sitting here genuinely puzzled about it...especially after the last girl I spoke to. She essentially said that women shouldn't take all of the blame when they cheat because they obviously did it due to something their boyfriend did/didn't do. It honestly depresses me as a young man who hopes to find a good woman because there is a lack of accountability now in dating.

They say that because they want to 'pick and choose' which parts of the relationship they adhere to, which is essentially all benefits and no sacrifice. Any woman that says that is to be avoided for relationships.

 

[EA]

They say that because they want to 'pick and choose' which parts of the relationship they adhere to, which is essentially all benefits and no sacrifice. Any woman that says that is to be avoided for relationships.

I'm realising this more and more everyday. A lot of girls my age claim they want a good man with morals that's going to do right by them but then they take exception to the fact that those same men have rules and principles that doesn't allow them to act out and have one of relationships seen in soap operas and movies.

 

[jadillac]

These last two pages is real

I feel like the game is so fukked up that I wont even know when I've actually found a decent girl.

yeah, it's tough. Not impossible, but tough.

Especially when the only info you have is her facebook/instagram page. And most women keep that stuff clean as a whistle to protect their image.

What you can do though, is pay attention to EVERYTHING you possibly can about her. Pay attention to everything she says, and if she later contradicts that with another statement. Women blabber so much that they can't remember every little detail they said several weeks ago, but as a listener, you can.

Pay attention to everything in her house, in her car, etc. and pay attention to her friends and what type of ppl they are. Old sayings like "birds of a feather flock together" will always be true.

 

[RealAssanova]

These last two pages is real

I feel like the game is so fukked up that I wont even know when I've actually found a decent girl.

it is. I feel like the person i am today, wasn't the man i was years ago. Today, i cannot really be open with women, cuz it'll be viewed as weak. Today, I cannot love a woman the way i truly want to cuz i'll be viewed as a simp. Today, I cannot trust a woman, cuz i know she'll misuse my trust, perhaps lie and do other worst shyt.

Women during our parents generation were more loyal and knew their role. Today we have foul-mouthed women, women aspiring to be bad bytches and kim kardashion 2.0's, women that want their cake and to eat it too, women tryna be masculine, etc.

that is the reality we are dealing with. So my message is not to love these broads. Yourself is priority#1 and everything else is just fun including women. Never catch feelings, never truss their words, never simp, etc.

@Emperor_ReinScarf said it the best. There are only 3 things women hold over you: looks, sex and emotional attachment. 3 trivial things if you ask me. Society just makes sex and women out to be bigger than they actually are. We need to stop pedastalizing sex and women, stop tip-toeing around em and being outcome dependent.

 

[MikelArteta]

All that ends up happening when you do beg and cryis that she gets a huge ego boosts and ends up clowning you and looking at you as weak afterwards. Even if she gets back with you, it's most likely going to be temporary because she looks at you as weak and pathetic. Look at those videos on different sites of dudes crying that they sent to their ex and their ex uploaded it to one of those sites.

One thing is NEVER beg or cry. If it's over, accept it and move on. Don't ever show weakness around a woman. I don't care how much she tells you she wants a sensitive man, etc. When she sees that moment of weakness in you, she's going to hone in on it and hammer it over and over, kind of like in a videogame where you're fighting a boss that is invulnerable except that glowing spot that you have to hit to do damage. If a woman sees some weakspot in you, she's going to hit you right there over and over.

or tell a woman your insecurity

 

[Ohene]

it is. I feel like the person i am today, wasn't the man i was years ago. Today, i cannot really be open with women, cuz it'll be viewed as weak. Today, I cannot love a woman the way i truly want to cuz i'll be viewed as a simp. Today, I cannot trust a woman, cuz i know she'll misuse my trust, perhaps lie and do other worst shyt.

Women during our parents generation were more loyal and knew their role. Today we have foul-mouthed women, women aspiring to be bad bytches and kim kardashion 2.0's, women that want their cake and to eat it too, women tryna be masculine, etc.

that is the reality we are dealing with. So my message is not to love these broads. Yourself is priority#1 and everything else is just fun including women. Never catch feelings, never truss their words, never simp, etc.

@Emperor_ReinScarf said it the best. There are only 3 things women hold over you: looks, sex and emotional attachment. 3 trivial things if you ask me. Society just makes sex and women out to be bigger than they actually are. We need to stop pedastalizing sex and women, stop tip-toeing around em and being outcome dependent.

shyt is exactly what i was alluding to in my post a few days ago. shyt is sad

 

[MikelArteta]

These last two pages is real

I feel like the game is so fukked up that I wont even know when I've actually found a decent girl.

It's impossible to know early on, every girl knows what role to take, they will ask you what you like in a woman and become that sweet pure angel, until she has you

also what i alluded to earlier how i miss the innocence so to speak, when I was young and dumb and gullible, and believed the good in people, I had way more "success" with women because I had no rules, boundaries, standards, she was hot that's all that matters.

Now my past experiences has killed all that and I enter every relationship or dealing with women with cynicism. I already know shes going to a fake it early on and sell me an illusion, I know there are men hidden in the background, I know she's only infatuated with me and once it dies down what happens next,

 

[MikelArteta]

yeah, it's tough. Not impossible, but tough.

Especially when the only info you have is her facebook/instagram page. And most women keep that stuff clean as a whistle to protect their image.

What you can do though, is pay attention to EVERYTHING you possibly can about her. Pay attention to everything she says, and if she later contradicts that with another statement. Women blabber so much that they can't remember every little detail they said several weeks ago, but as a listener, you can.

Pay attention to everything in her house, in her car, etc. and pay attention to her friends and what type of ppl they are. Old sayings like "birds of a feather flock together" will always be true.

its true the last two women i messed with both of their best friends were skanks, such big skanks they are on thedirty.com, but of course there not like that or so they said

cant believe i fell for it back to back

i also agree to be on some columbo type ish. Remember that show columbo? he just looked bummy, he looked dumb and stupid nad aloof, he looked harmless, criminals trusted him and thinking they were playing him and underestimated him, but he sat back and observed, he watched every movement they made, he remembered every statement, and at the end he won.

like i said earlier growing up i had a speech impediment, made me at a young age withdrawal and just stick to myself and barely speak, but the gift of that is that it made me observe everything about people, and to cling to every word and remember everything they said

thats also how i caught a brehette because it went from her being busy on a friday to a few weeks later when we were out and there were high heels in her car and she mentioned oh thats when i went to the party on friday

same with that chick who swindled me over when i visited her, how she was busy, but when she was drunk and texting me, how she had a date on one of those days but she was stood up