Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[ProfessionallyTrill]

so when i get with a girl, and i find myself very attracted to her. i step back and wait to see who is more attracted. if i am, i kinda fall back. the most successful relationship, in my opinion, is one where the woman is far more into the guy than the guy is into her. women know when u are in a position to "take it or leave it" and that seems to have a way of keeping them in check.

 

[MikelArteta]

IMA add that to memory banks.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

The gems being dropped

@Sharp @TRUEST @kevm3 @Emperor_ReinScarf


Definitely something I always have to remind myself. It's so much better when a woman is truly into you......The difference is night & day. I have a chick right now that I know I can pull but I can tell that I'm not a priority

 

[Ohene]

good news on the job....just got a call regarding the impending background check that theyll need to perform
will receive the documents shortly.

wonder what salary they finna offer

edit: IF i got it

 

[TheBeigeBomber]

what do i say when a girl asks me "what I do?" how am i suppose to answer that when mcdonalds refused to hire me lol.

 

[MikelArteta]

Everything is so much easier.

The gems being dropped

@Sharp @TRUEST @kevm3 @Emperor_ReinScarf


Definitely something I always have to remind myself. It's so much better when a woman is truly into you......The difference is night & day. I have a chick right now that I know I can pull but I can tell that I'm not a priority

 

[MikelArteta]

You made it breh

Hoping I get that call

good news on the job....just got a call regarding the impending background check that theyll need to perform
will receive the documents shortly.

wonder what salary they finna offer

edit: IF i got it

 

[RealAssanova]

brehs, how do you become outcome independent? moreover, how do you detach emotion from the outcome?

i feel like this is where all our frustrations, anger and other emotions come from. Especially with me.

When i apply for a job, i don't think for a second whether or not i'd get the job. I'm at peace knowing that i applied for the job and whatever happens, happens. Weird thing is, most often than not, i tend to get the job.

I feel like emotion at times is good, but when it comes to things like women, it ain't. Rather, it should be calibrated to be used at specific moments.

But in the initial stages of getting to know a woman, it should never be used.

 

[TRUEST]

brehs, how do you become outcome independent? moreover, how do you detach emotion from the outcome?

i feel like this is where all our frustrations, anger and other emotions come from. Especially with me.

When i apply for a job, i don't think for a second whether or not i'd get the job. I'm at peace knowing that i applied for the job and whatever happens, happens. Weird thing is, most often than not, i tend to get the job.

I feel like emotion at times is good, but when it comes to things like women, it ain't. Rather, it should be calibrated to be used at specific moments.

But in the initial stages of getting to know a woman, it should never be used.

the best way to be outcome independent is to know the game and abide by the rules. when u abide by the rules (whether it be women or anything else), u are at peace with whatever happens.

if ur dating a girl, and u talk to her without any scent of desperation, u make it known u like her, yet, she turns around and goes for another guy, u cant give a sh1t because u tried ur best. u can only become dependent on an outcome if u know in ur heart there is something u could have done differently or better.

me personally, im able to be outcome independent due to experience with women. i expect the worse and i hardly ever spend too much time thinking of one girl.

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

brehs, how do you become outcome independent? moreover, how do you detach emotion from the outcome?

i feel like this is where all our frustrations, anger and other emotions come from. Especially with me.

When i apply for a job, i don't think for a second whether or not i'd get the job. I'm at peace knowing that i applied for the job and whatever happens, happens. Weird thing is, most often than not, i tend to get the job.

I feel like emotion at times is good, but when it comes to things like women, it ain't. Rather, it should be calibrated to be used at specific moments.

But in the initial stages of getting to know a woman, it should never be used.

With women, for me at least, it's just that I know there will always be another.

It's also important to know your worth. If you are confident in what you bring to the table, it easy to brush off the ones that reject you because you understand that their judgment is

If I feel/know that I'm a Benz and a women looks at me like I'm a Chevy Nova, I'm not putting a lot of stock into her judgment in the first place. I think of it like "Your loss, idiot."

 

[Ohene]

brehs, how do you become outcome independent? moreover, how do you detach emotion from the outcome?

i feel like this is where all our frustrations, anger and other emotions come from. Especially with me.

When i apply for a job, i don't think for a second whether or not i'd get the job. I'm at peace knowing that i applied for the job and whatever happens, happens. Weird thing is, most often than not, i tend to get the job.

I feel like emotion at times is good, but when it comes to things like women, it ain't. Rather, it should be calibrated to be used at specific moments.

But in the initial stages of getting to know a woman, it should never be used.

That's something that can only come from within. You have to get into what my brother, his friends (my OGs) and I call JDC, "just dont care" mode. The only thing is that you cannot force yourself into it because by trying not to care (purposely) youre are caring. Some people let frustration with women drive them to JDC mode and ironically for some its having already ran through so many. For other people it might be busyness at work, general more important stresses or goals in life. For some porn might even do the trick . And for others, in the best case scenario (where I'm approaching) its a general happiness, satisfaction that one happens to obtain without having women that can lead a dude into not caring about them or the associated outcomes.

You might already know the game, know there are plenty of women out there etc. But that wont change the feeling you get from being rejected by a girl you really like unless you simply just dont care that much anymore.

 

[MikelArteta]

brehs, how do you become outcome independent? moreover, how do you detach emotion from the outcome?

i feel like this is where all our frustrations, anger and other emotions come from. Especially with me.

When i apply for a job, i don't think for a second whether or not i'd get the job. I'm at peace knowing that i applied for the job and whatever happens, happens. Weird thing is, most often than not, i tend to get the job.

I feel like emotion at times is good, but when it comes to things like women, it ain't. Rather, it should be calibrated to be used at specific moments.

But in the initial stages of getting to know a woman, it should never be used.

im always calm, what is so special about this certain women that why I should get angry or sad or whatever if she rejects me or dumps me or leaves me, nothing. The only thing "special" about her is the emotional connection you may have.

I'm almost 30 so I been dating for more than a decade and like another poster said there is always another one. Of course back int eh day when it ended I thought this was it, I'd never get another beautiful woman again, id never get a chick again , but its all bs, I take the mentality now of cool, thanks for not wasting any more of my time, see when you look at yourself as the prize if someoen doesn't want it well onto the next person, if you look at the chick as a prize thats when you falter

 

[MikelArteta]

brehs, how do you become outcome independent? moreover, how do you detach emotion from the outcome?

i feel like this is where all our frustrations, anger and other emotions come from. Especially with me.

When i apply for a job, i don't think for a second whether or not i'd get the job. I'm at peace knowing that i applied for the job and whatever happens, happens. Weird thing is, most often than not, i tend to get the job.

I feel like emotion at times is good, but when it comes to things like women, it ain't. Rather, it should be calibrated to be used at specific moments.

But in the initial stages of getting to know a woman, it should never be used.

im always calm, what is so special about this certain women that why I should get angry or sad or whatever if she rejects me or dumps me or leaves me, nothing. The only thing "special" about her is the emotional connection you may have.

I'm almost 30 so I been dating for more than a decade and like another poster said there is always another one. Of course back int eh day when it ended I thought this was it, I'd never get another beautiful woman again, id never get a chick again , but its all bs, I take the mentality now of cool, thanks for not wasting any more of my time, see when you look at yourself as the prize if someoen doesn't want it well onto the next person, if you look at the chick as a prize thats when you falter. Not saying its like a light switch and all that, but life is short why waste time or thoughts on people who don't view you as valuable

 

[International Playa]

Check this out, some female screenshotted her POF profile. She has 800 messages!!!!!!!!

 

[MikelArteta]

Check this out, some female screenshotted her POF profile. She has 800 messages!!!!!!!!

"and you know im not the only one"