Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

@RealAssanova what app is that

 

[Bless't]

What happened to shakira?

We dated close to 5 months. But ultimately I wasnt giving her enough attention apparently. We started getting on one anothers nerves too often. It was nice while it lasted though.

 

[kevm3]

women man

so i match up on this dating app equivalent to tinder with this east african broad from Cali. Said she in medical school and all and liked what she saw. So i was like same thing for me i guess

I downloaded this app 2 fridays ago, so we talked quite abit all throughout. So she just happened to be flyin into Toronto and came in on wednesday night. Thursday night she hit me up on some "hey i'm in your city lol"....so i said welcome

then she asked what am i doing on saturday cuz she wanted to meet up (a girl taking initiative ), to which i said can't really tell but it shouldn't be a problem. Temporary plans were made (ie. place we'd might be going to and whereabouts in the city she might be at so i can scoop her up) and she said she would contact me saturday morning to lemme kno wassup. So i told her sounds good.

well, saturday i got nothing...sunday too.

I go onto my thing now, and she unmatched me.

surely it wasn't my fault brehs. Right?

Nah, women are weird in this day and age. They will tell you they can't wait to meet up but cancel at the last moment and then disappear to avoid having to deal with you calling them out. They're really not worth worrying about, especially due to the lack of manners. For the most part, I'm very skeptical about those dating sites. What is a fine broad doing on there, especially if she has a decent personality? She should be hounded by dudes in her local area.

Honestly, not even worth worrying about. Not your fault.

 

[kevm3]

Ok brehs i need some advice here with this girl im seeing

First of all, she contacted me on fb 4 years ago, she went to my church, we talk once and that was it... fast forward to 3 months ago and we match on tinder, my opening was "so this mean we bf and gf now?" she replys "yes you have to get a tattoo of the date" now heres the story.

I meet her at church on feb 20, we click off right at the start she ends up wanting to see me 3 days later, we start texting daily i mean every single day since feb 20 morning text and good night texts etc, shyt starts with long ass messeges everytime on the second date we kiss, after that she tells me she feels weird because shes never kissed a guy who she wasnt in a relationship with first, shes 19 btw i know im not suppossed to belive that but you never know... anyways we start having stupid little fights over whatsapp cuz i got mad over a fb comment of hers, i went to her house to try and talk things and we kinda get on good terms again

i made a mistake tho, she wants to date and i want to date her, like i really dig this chick buuuuuut i ask her "why you wanna be with me?" "im not asking you to be my girl till you tell me that" at the moment i thought it was a good idea... boy was i wrong tho shyt backfires and starts acting cold, she picks me up and takes me somewhere to talk, she tells me she actually saw a future with me but after i told her that that day she started thinking and didnt know why she wanted to date me. she still wanted to try and see where we go

After she doesnt text me one day i get mad and tell her shyt is over cuz i saw her online and she wasnt responding to my text, she got weird and came home to talk it thru wanting to end shyt... we didnt.

After that i tried to put more thought into the relationship since i really like her and want to gf her, so i went and bought cupcakes for her from a nice place, taked them to her house while she was working and left them with her mom, she liked the little detail, 3 days later i picked her up to go to the movies to see san andreas, theather was packed but she was impressed cuz i bought the tickets earlier and and we didnt have to make line which was long as fukk, after the movies is over i took her to my car and i told her i wanted something serious with her and that shes been on my mind alot lately, like me being ready to get srious with her, i think i fukked up but i was feeling emotional you know? then later we end up kissing again for the first time in like 1 month... today i was gonna see her at church but i didnt go. she replied to a text i sent yesterday a whole day later, with a stupid emoji(the surprised face) and i took like 5 hours to get back at her, after that she started texting cold, like desinterested, this got my head thinking if i fukked some how,

now how can i come back from this? i need serious advice here... should i stop texting her so much? im used to texting every day... like i said this girl the type you bring to your parents so i want this to worl

If all it took was one statement, and one that wasn't even that bad for her to act weird on you, I would say don't even bother putting in much more effort. You're going to be walking on eggshells all day as she manipulates you and you sit around wondering about the latest thing you 'did wrong'.

I guarantee you're going to give yourself a headache looking for the perfect ratio of text to silence, the perfect words to say, etc., etc. If a girl wants to make things work out, she'll find a way. Otherwise, you'll be playing a chasing game of her maybe acting cool for a little while, but always being distant.

 

[MikelArteta]

There's no text ratio etc if a woman wants you,

I was with my ex fiance for like three years and we texted every day from morning to night when we weren't together. If a woman wants you and views you as number one

If you want to text text if she's not receptive there's your answer

 

[MikelArteta]

Ah the everything is going smoothly, let me start some drama .

Ifirst three months honeymoon, next two coming down from cloud nine if you can make it to 7 months the coast is clear

We dated close to 5 months. But ultimately I wasnt giving her enough attention apparently. We started getting on one anothers nerves too often. It was nice while it lasted though.

 

[TRUEST]

Ok brehs i need some advice here with this girl im seeing

First of all, she contacted me on fb 4 years ago, she went to my church, we talk once and that was it... fast forward to 3 months ago and we match on tinder, my opening was "so this mean we bf and gf now?" she replys "yes you have to get a tattoo of the date" now heres the story.

I meet her at church on feb 20, we click off right at the start she ends up wanting to see me 3 days later, we start texting daily i mean every single day since feb 20 morning text and good night texts etc, shyt starts with long ass messeges everytime on the second date we kiss, after that she tells me she feels weird because shes never kissed a guy who she wasnt in a relationship with first, shes 19 btw i know im not suppossed to belive that but you never know... anyways we start having stupid little fights over whatsapp cuz i got mad over a fb comment of hers, i went to her house to try and talk things and we kinda get on good terms again

i made a mistake tho, she wants to date and i want to date her, like i really dig this chick buuuuuut i ask her "why you wanna be with me?" "im not asking you to be my girl till you tell me that" at the moment i thought it was a good idea... boy was i wrong tho shyt backfires and starts acting cold, she picks me up and takes me somewhere to talk, she tells me she actually saw a future with me but after i told her that that day she started thinking and didnt know why she wanted to date me. she still wanted to try and see where we go

After she doesnt text me one day i get mad and tell her shyt is over cuz i saw her online and she wasnt responding to my text, she got weird and came home to talk it thru wanting to end shyt... we didnt.

After that i tried to put more thought into the relationship since i really like her and want to gf her, so i went and bought cupcakes for her from a nice place, taked them to her house while she was working and left them with her mom, she liked the little detail, 3 days later i picked her up to go to the movies to see san andreas, theather was packed but she was impressed cuz i bought the tickets earlier and and we didnt have to make line which was long as fukk, after the movies is over i took her to my car and i told her i wanted something serious with her and that shes been on my mind alot lately, like me being ready to get srious with her, i think i fukked up but i was feeling emotional you know? then later we end up kissing again for the first time in like 1 month... today i was gonna see her at church but i didnt go. she replied to a text i sent yesterday a whole day later, with a stupid emoji(the surprised face) and i took like 5 hours to get back at her, after that she started texting cold, like desinterested, this got my head thinking if i fukked some how,

now how can i come back from this? i need serious advice here... should i stop texting her so much? im used to texting every day... like i said this girl the type you bring to your parents so i want this to worl

ur first mistake was texting too damn much. u shouldn't be spending too long texting or talking on the phone with chicks. u should keep ur convo under 5 to 10 minutes. and the conversations should be mostly about when you two are going to get together again and what you're going to do.

to bounce back from the situation ur in. do this. wait a day or two after her last text to u. then either call her or text her some very direct sh1t like:

you: i need to talk to you. i'll pick u up at 6pm tonight
you: (dont be asking her if she's free or whatever bs sh1t - she will let u know if she really cant meet up)

when you pick her up, take her some where relatively quiet where she wont be embarrassed to allow u to tongue her down. then, just go wild on her man. be like,

you: listen, i've got issues and i know it. some times i say some very dumb things and i just cant help myself. when i asked u why u wanted to be with me, i have no idea what i was thinking. the question i should have been asking is "why the fucck wont u wanna be with me" lol. i mean, wtf, i'm awesome and you know it! (it helps if u make her laugh with this).

then through out the date, make sure u are very touchy with her.

the only only only way for u to get up away from the shadow of weakness u are under right now is to do some really bold things with and to her.

 

[TRUEST]

women man

so i match up on this dating app equivalent to tinder with this east african broad from Cali. Said she in medical school and all and liked what she saw. So i was like same thing for me i guess

I downloaded this app 2 fridays ago, so we talked quite abit all throughout. So she just happened to be flyin into Toronto and came in on wednesday night. Thursday night she hit me up on some "hey i'm in your city lol"....so i said welcome

then she asked what am i doing on saturday cuz she wanted to meet up (a girl taking initiative ), to which i said can't really tell but it shouldn't be a problem. Temporary plans were made (ie. place we'd might be going to and whereabouts in the city she might be at so i can scoop her up) and she said she would contact me saturday morning to lemme kno wassup. So i told her sounds good.

well, saturday i got nothing...sunday too.

I go onto my thing now, and she unmatched me.

surely it wasn't my fault brehs. Right?

i dont know why u n1ggas sabotage urselves man.

even if u think u wouldn't have been able to make it, u dont tell her that. let her believe ur making DEFINITE plans. not temporary plans. some other n1gga with more resoluteness scooped her up. man, i got mad readinng this sh1t.

 

[Bless't]

Ah the everything is going smoothly, let me start some drama .

Ifirst three months honeymoon, next two coming down from cloud nine if you can make it to 7 months the coast is clear

Thats what I was thinking. shyt started about the 4th month and that last month was just bullshyt. I stay away from drama as much as possible. Then she text me yesterday afternoon like, "Hey, why dont you come over and let me make you some homemade Colombian food."

She began the relationship doing everything right. Cooking, great conversations, laughing, chilling... the cooking definitely fell off after the first month. She had me hooked and she knew it.
I know she was baiting me to come back yesterday but I told her no thank you.

Live and learn.

 

[MikelArteta]

Its messed up man, If she didn't have you, shed still be cooking food and under her great chameleon act.

When she has you has to incite drama etc to keep her entertained, once you say eff it and pull away, she reverts back to trying to have you again

Thats what I was thinking. shyt started about the 4th month and that last month was just bullshyt. I stay away from drama as much as possible. Then she text me yesterday afternoon like, "Hey, why dont you come over and let me make you some homemade Colombian food."

She began the relationship doing everything right. Cooking, great conversations, laughing, chilling... the cooking definitely fell off after the first month. She had me hooked and she knew it.
I know she was baiting me to come back yesterday but I told her no thank you.

Live and learn.

 

[RealAssanova]

@RealAssanova what app is that

minder...its the muslim version of tinder.

Nah, not your fault. You can never take how a woman reacts to you to heart (unless you are being a complete sociopath/a$$hole) she's probably dealing with some emotional shyt. Thank the heavens you didn't invest anything past a conversation with her.

i know breh. Its just weird. Shorty was damn near into me and couldn't wait to see me...then she just vanished.

 

[RealAssanova]

i dont know why u n1ggas sabotage urselves man.

even if u think u wouldn't have been able to make it, u dont tell her that. let her believe ur making DEFINITE plans. not temporary plans. some other n1gga with more resoluteness scooped her up. man, i got mad readinng this sh1t.

tbh, she was more of "passing time" type of thing. If it was someone i wanted to smash badly, best believe i would've been on it. But it seemed like she was more eager than me and maybe she got pissed about that and decided to drop me altogether.

 

[EQ.]

minder...its the muslim version of tinder.



i know breh. Its just weird. Shorty was damn near into me and couldn't wait to see me...then she just vanished.

don't even stress it breh. Thats why i suggest talking to alot of women just so you can further understand and recognize the patterns of behavior. Don't chase em, replace em

 

[jadillac]

You need to step back a bit. Yall shouldnt be blowing up over texts taking too long. That's not a good habit to kick off a relationship and it can lead to huge probs of distrust over minor things.

I understand it, trust me. But its not healthy

Ok brehs i need some advice here with this girl im seeing

First of all, she contacted me on fb 4 years ago, she went to my church, we talk once and that was it... fast forward to 3 months ago and we match on tinder, my opening was "so this mean we bf and gf now?" she replys "yes you have to get a tattoo of the date" now heres the story.

I meet her at church on feb 20, we click off right at the start she ends up wanting to see me 3 days later, we start texting daily i mean every single day since feb 20 morning text and good night texts etc, shyt starts with long ass messeges everytime on the second date we kiss, after that she tells me she feels weird because shes never kissed a guy who she wasnt in a relationship with first, shes 19 btw i know im not suppossed to belive that but you never know... anyways we start having stupid little fights over whatsapp cuz i got mad over a fb comment of hers, i went to her house to try and talk things and we kinda get on good terms again

i made a mistake tho, she wants to date and i want to date her, like i really dig this chick buuuuuut i ask her "why you wanna be with me?" "im not asking you to be my girl till you tell me that" at the moment i thought it was a good idea... boy was i wrong tho shyt backfires and starts acting cold, she picks me up and takes me somewhere to talk, she tells me she actually saw a future with me but after i told her that that day she started thinking and didnt know why she wanted to date me. she still wanted to try and see where we go

After she doesnt text me one day i get mad and tell her shyt is over cuz i saw her online and she wasnt responding to my text, she got weird and came home to talk it thru wanting to end shyt... we didnt.

After that i tried to put more thought into the relationship since i really like her and want to gf her, so i went and bought cupcakes for her from a nice place, taked them to her house while she was working and left them with her mom, she liked the little detail, 3 days later i picked her up to go to the movies to see san andreas, theather was packed but she was impressed cuz i bought the tickets earlier and and we didnt have to make line which was long as fukk, after the movies is over i took her to my car and i told her i wanted something serious with her and that shes been on my mind alot lately, like me being ready to get srious with her, i think i fukked up but i was feeling emotional you know? then later we end up kissing again for the first time in like 1 month... today i was gonna see her at church but i didnt go. she replied to a text i sent yesterday a whole day later, with a stupid emoji(the surprised face) and i took like 5 hours to get back at her, after that she started texting cold, like desinterested, this got my head thinking if i fukked some how,

now how can i come back from this? i need serious advice here... should i stop texting her so much? im used to texting every day... like i said this girl the type you bring to your parents so i want this to worl

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

There's no text ratio etc if a woman wants you,

I was with my ex fiance for like three years and we texted every day from morning to night when we weren't together. If a woman wants you and views you as number one

If you want to text text if she's not receptive there's your answer

yep true shyt can absolutely attest to this there's a girl that's digging me now, she was out with her friends and I was driving down to one of my boy's place for the weekend and she was drinking and saying 'are you ignoring meeeee' and all that other shyt. truth is I wasn't, it was taking me 4 hours to drive through traffic to my boys place

I respond hours later with two words, 'driving, chill'. All I typed all day cause I didn't have service at my boys place since he lives in the middle of nowhere and I was chilling with him all weekend. I felt a little bad about it but it was a long ass drive and I can't be bothered by that



Next day, I wake up and she's the one apologizing. After that, I definitely respect her more cause it really was no big deal like that and I can tell she's a sweet girl.


Well whole point of that diatribe is that if she's messing with you, you aint really gotta worry about it at all. Responding, not responding, taking too long to respond, responding too quickly, cutting the conversation off, none of that shyt matters if its someone who likes you. It's just like with a good friend




All in all just respect yourselves breh. It's as simple as that. If one of your boys did it to you and aint reconcile, how you gon let strangers or near strangers do that to you. Leave it up to them, I swear life gon be more peaceful for you and you'll look elsewhere instead of racking your brain all the fukking time trying to make heads and tails of nonsense