Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Was talkin to this one girl i been talkin to for a few weeks, asked what i was doing Friday night (yesterday) told her a friend of mine invited me to watch jurassic world, she asked who then said (i dont care if its a girl your single) so i told her who it is, then she told me, 'im dissappointed but im going to have to friend zone you thats a big turn off for me, even tho you not my man'
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Was talkin to this one girl i been talkin to for a few weeks, asked what i was doing Friday night (yesterday) told her a friend of mine invited me to watch jurassic world, she asked who then said (i dont care if its a girl your single) so i told her who it is, then she told me, 'im dissappointed but im going to have to friend zone you thats a big turn off for me, even tho you not my man'
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:camby:

delete the number bushes :blessed:
 

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Thank you, and you make a lot of great points. It just sucks when a woman just up and casts you aside like that though, you can't help but feel inadequate. But it's as you said, the wrong women will eat you alive and destroy you. I just can't understand how people can be so cruel.


We go through life struggling. This is true for everyone. We all live with inferiorities, dashed dreams, and deep frustrations. Because of this we tend to grow jealous. We begin to envy other people’s lives, seeing in their lives the things that we are missing within our own. This increases our disappointment with who we are and, all too often, puts us into an attitude within which we refuse to accept what is good, happy, creative, and pleasurable within our own lives.

Instead of picking up our own lives and living them creatively, we put them on hold. We focus on something we are missing, and desperately crave – a marriage partner, a certain friendship, a certain achievement, a certain prestige, a certain physical appearance, a certain fame or place to live – and we relativize and belittle our own lives to the point of finding them unhappy and meaningless. We live in brackets, waiting; always waiting for this certain something to come along and fulfill our lives. When this happens, a deep restlessness sets in.

There is a beautiful image in Scripture that depicts this. After the resurrection of Jesus, his disciples are unable to pick up the spirit of his new presence. They want, instead, to have their old earthly Jesus back. Eventually, they are reduced to huddling in fear in a locked room, paralyzed. When they do receive the spirit of the resurrected Christ, they burst from that room, now alive with the spirit for their actual lives. When we live in restless unhappiness, not satisfied with our situation in life because we are unmarried, or because we are not married to whom we would like to be, or because we would want a different job, or different family, or different body, or a different set of friends, or a different city to live it, we live, like the Apostles, huddled in fear.

Let me illustrate this with an example, Brian Moore’s novel, The Lonely Passion of Judith Hearne: Judith Hearne is a woman approaching menopause. She is bright, talented, educated, artistic, and gifted with a pleasant personality and pleasant looks. But she desperately wants to be married. She is deeply frustrated with being single and does not consider herself a complete person. Consciously and unconsciously, her whole life is geared towards finding a husband. Because of this, her entire present life has little meaning or satisfaction for her. She wants to be married and has decided that, for her, there can be no meaning, no genuine reality, outside of that. Early on in the story, she meets a man who interests her, and who she senses is interested in her. He is a pleasant man, though he is also a calculating schemer and dilettante. It is soon apparent to the reader that Judith would be taken for a ride in this marriage. However, because she is desperate, and this is a real chance at marriage, Judith pursues the relationship and, in a vague kind of way, does fall in love. On his part, the man sees her as a possible business partner, as someone whose money he could use.

At a certain point, Judith proposes to him. She is rejected and the disappointment, coupled with the hurt of rejection, triggers within her a deep depression which takes her on an alcoholic binge and eventually leads to a nervous breakdown and a mental hospital. The story climaxes with her ex-boyfriend coming to visit her in the hospital and announcing that he has changed his mind and wants to marry her after all. She refuses and in her explanation to him of her decision we learn things to help us understand the connection between ascension and Pentecost:

These are her words:

“When you are a little girl you dream of the perfect man, of that perfect person who will make you whole, who will give you reality. He will be handsome, and good, and kind and generous. He will be perfect.

“Then, as you get older, you revise your expectations downward. After awhile, he doesn’t have to be so perfect, or handsome, or good.

“Finally, when you get to be my age, he doesn’t have to be handsome, good, or loving at all. Anyone will do….even if they are common as dirt! You’ll take anyone because you think that, alone, you aren’t anything.

“But I’ve learned something here. I’ve grown to know that, even alone, single, just by myself, I am something! I have reality!”

She throws his address card away as she leaves the hospital and we see in her face that she is now a woman of inner strength and inner joy. She has a new calmness, attractiveness and energy. The restlessness is gone. She has received the spirit of her own life. You sense too that, now, if she wants to, she will easily find someone good to marry… now that she no longer desperately needs to.

Pentecost in not an abstract mystery. We are asked to accept the spirit of our actual lives. When we do this, then we no longer belittle our own lives but, like Judith Hearne, know that even with all our inferiorities and frustrations, just by ourselves, we are something.

http://ronrolheiser.com/pentecost-a-need-for-our-lives/
 

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Was talkin to this one girl i been talkin to for a few weeks, asked what i was doing Friday night (yesterday) told her a friend of mine invited me to watch jurassic world, she asked who then said (i dont care if its a girl your single) so i told her who it is, then she told me, 'im dissappointed but im going to have to friend zone you thats a big turn off for me, even tho you not my man'
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What was your reaction brehs
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Sooo, at work the other day this chick that works there randomly came up to me and told me I was very very handsome. I was just like ''Thanks!":steviej:

Unfortunately, she wasn't my type (decent face, bad body)...:to:
 

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Sooo, at work the other day this chick that works there randomly came up to me and told me I was very very handsome. I was just like ''Thanks!":steviej:

Unfortunately, she wasn't my type (decent face, bad body)...:to:
i would have said the same thing if a girl wasn't my type :manny:
 

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  • tariqeliteThis pic is a swimsuit ad from #Target . This is another example of fake liberal racism. They try to give off the impression of inclusiveness by having a Black woman included in the ad. But they made sure the Black woman they chose for the ad is overweight and obese compared to the other slender white women in the ad. Trust and believe that there were plenty of physically fit Black female models they could have used. But they have to maintain these propaganda images
 

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not into the whole roosh pua type things but soemtimes dude spits that realness

I have a bank of rotating stock questions I ask women that let me know how I should proceed with my game. One of the questions I used to ask was “Do you need a man?” Out of the dozens of times I asked it, not a single girl answered yes. Even in Eastern Europe, a woman needs a man as much as a cat needs milk. They would prefer the best man or the best milk, but they can surely live without.

There is definitely not a single woman alive in the Western world who needs a man. While in the past a woman had to put forth effort to obtain a husband who would help her survive, today she is protected by a welfare state that ensures she will never go hungry or spend one night on the street. Even a child she has out of wedlock from a drunken night out will not have to suffer from her mistake, and that’s in spite of the fact that many nations already provide her with free contraception to compensate for her lack of judgement in selecting worthy mates.

Anything required for a woman’s survival or pleasure can be easily achieved without her having to put forth commitment, sacrifice, or labor. She can shave her head, gain 50 pounds, and disfigure herself with tattoos yet still have many suitors to—at the minimum—have sex on demand. Her food and shelter will be provided by a state which has embarked on an extraordinary effort to compete with men for her devotion and loyalty.

I started asking a different question to women: “Do you want a man?” I began receiving “I don’t know” answers (the more they hesitated to respond, the more I considered their true answer to be a yes). Only in a few instances did a woman outright say yes, and these usually happened in Ukraine. It’s no surprise that I eased into mini-relationships with these yes girls without the standard flaking or game-playing you would normally receive from girls who see men as milk instead of water. The girls who said yes weren’t exactly hurting for food or shelter, and they didn’t try to reach into my pockets for resources, but through their attitude and demeanor it was clear that they did want a man in their life who could provide it with a measure of happiness that could not be gained from their environment or government.

You’re a lucky man if you can find this type of girl in the West. From a young age, girls are brainwashed to believe that they don’t need men and that the key to their happiness is self-empowerment by sleeping around and becoming a corporate wage slave. It’s hard to dispute the notion that a woman who believes she doesn’t need a man won’t make as good of a relationship partner as one who does. She will treat you as a distraction to her more important job, girls’ nights out, and social networking validation happy time. Men have become an utterly replaceable and expendable commodity in a girl’s life. Her interest in a man is not unlike her interest in a new television show or Apple product, and your only hope is to have sex with her as many times as possible until her attraction diminishes and she moves on to the next guy in line.

Women don’t seek out comfort or stability in men anymore—they seek entertainment. They seek distraction. They seek hedonistic pleasure. This is why provider men (beta males) are so hopelessly failing today to secure the commitment of beautiful women in their prime, and this is why even lesser alpha males fail to enter relationships with women beyond a few bangs. Once the entertainment or novelty you provide her declines—and it inevitably will—she moves on to something or someone else. In essence, the only way you can keep a girl is if you adopt the mentality of a soap opera writer, adding a cliffhanger to the end of each episode that keeps a woman interested when being a good man no longer does.

When I look at myself in the mirror, I don’t see a man who has improved himself over the years to be the best that his genes allow—I see a glittery skirt that a girl encounters in the mall. Is the skirt too expensive or is it on sale? Is there only one left of her size or is the rack full of them? Does she already have something similar or is it totally novel? Does her friends think it’s cute or just alright?After trying it on, does it flatter her body or make her look fat? Either she makes the impulsive decision to buy the skirt or not, because odds are she won’t come back for it. There are so many stores with so many skirts that she will soon forget it, forever. We are like glittery pieces of fashion to women—items that she truly doesn’t need. Not only has she already collected so many of them, but she can easily obtain more within walking distance from where she lives. She can even browse online from home while in her pajamas through a nearly unlimited selection.

We are not men in the traditional sense—we are clowns. With our tight game we have to be entertainers who create drama and excitement in a girl’s life, just long enough so that she spreads her legs and makes sexy noises, and even though she did commit such an intimate act with us, she will soon lose interest or simply get bored, and then move on to the next shiny cock that catches her eye. The other side of this coin is that we no longer need women. We don’t need them to maintain our home or cook good meals for us. We don’t need them in an age where having children is no longer important or valued. Whatever natural connection that once existed between the sexes has now been severed. Neither sex needs each other so we dedicate ourselves to corporations, entertainment, and base pleasures instead, and this is a great tragedy that most people believe is a sign of progress, a cause for celebration.

For the next girl I meet, I’m not going to ask her if she needs a man, because I know she doesn’t. Instead I will simply ask her if she wants a man, and if the answer leans yes, I will perform like the good clown I am so that she is entertained enough to have sex with me. Either she or I will eventually get bored and the relationship will end. Then I will simply repeat my performance on a someone new, because I’m a skilled clown, and that’s exactly what women today want.
 

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not into the whole roosh pua type things but soemtimes dude spits that realness

That's why I decided to move on to other things. He realizes what a pointless endeavor it is, and yet he keeps engaging in it. The real question is WHY dedicate your life to being a clown for a woman? He's spent so much of his life on the PUA thing, that he has to keep the charade up or else the income won't keep coming in because people have to buy his books. If he was smart, he'd be planning some kind of exist strategy and looking to invest his time elsewhere. For the most part, modern women aren't looking to build a family. They want thrills, and then when they are old and worn out, it's not a family they want, but more like the 'experience' of having a wedding and of 'having a kid'. It's not as if they really want a family in the sense of a cohesive structure where the dad is also there, but more like a different 'experience' to give her a bit of thrills since she sees her homegirls doing the same.

Building your life chasing skirts, especially in the West, is going to put you in a whole world of trouble. Get financially fluid and prepare to check out other countries if need be. Best not to be tethered here.
 

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Was talkin to this one girl i been talkin to for a few weeks, asked what i was doing Friday night (yesterday) told her a friend of mine invited me to watch jurassic world, she asked who then said (i dont care if its a girl your single) so i told her who it is, then she told me, 'im dissappointed but im going to have to friend zone you thats a big turn off for me, even tho you not my man'
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:camby:

That's understandable on her part, since if you were talking to a girl and she said she was about to go to the movie with her homeboy, you probably wouldn't take her seriously. If you asked us here to take a girl seriously who is going to the movie with her homeboy, we'd say the same thing... nah, move on.

She had feelings for you, so that's why she said what she did.
 

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To me its not worth it, but you keep trying hoping to find that one gem.

I keep thinking what are these women bringing to the table and minus a pretty face and vagina that a bunch of dudes already got .

Dating should be effortless but I know what you mean the paranoia I've been in relationships where I was told I love you bla bka Sunday night and Monday morning we need to talln

I was talking to this broad whose 31 and I just stopped. 31 she looks good for her age no kids but she's a barista at Starbucks and I'm suppose to chase after this?





is the dating game even worth it? i feel like dating is just filled with paranoia. the worries of your girl fukking someone else or getting bored or divorce paranoia. id rather have no attachment sex than be paranoid.
 
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