Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Rich Spirit]

Some advice fellas

I was dating this chick for minute. Single mom her place. I thought we were hitting it off pretty well. Last date we just chilled at happy hour and we chilled at her place. Now she don't text or call a brother no more. She just got distant. I'm not going to chase her but still, shyt went cold turkey stupid fast.

Most likely she's talking to another dude. It's good that you're not going to chase her

 

[PinotNoir]

So here is what you did, you made a comment like women that do that is so rare, and all these dudes who are complete strangers to each other just so happen to date from that same small pool of rare women.. Like there is no way this type of behavior is normal.. I was just saying it is, and it may not be intentional, but too many woman do the up and disappear act
No I am not saying you cant win, I was just saying the reason you have all these people quoting you is because you came off like what those guys were saying happened to them was so rare and how that isn't the norm.. My point was women don't like to admit flaws on their end during a relationship, even when asked about past situation, they almost always say it the mans fault.. If you ask a man to explain his last 3 relationships, you are gonna get 3 completely different reasons.. So here is what

Men disappear as well. I see yours and others point. Being communicative is important. You're right I had a sister who was dating a guy and she says I'm not talking to him anymore because he said such and such. My suggestion to her was to let the guy know instead of just dismissing him, talk to him about it. Never heard what happened afterwards. Closure important I'm not going to disappear I'll be upfront with him and say it's not working out because of....I can speak up not an issue. Can I just say this, from what I've seen some guys can come off as being awkward as heck, it's a turn off for most women which is why players be winning. Ex: I was on a group tour of city hall a while back and I thought the tour guide seemed interesting. After talking to him found out hes actually an engineer and worked on the arts commission so was asked to give tour but the whole time we talked the brotha seemed nervous and fidgety, just plain scared but he was okay talking to the other people in the group, I'd come around again he'd start fussing with his tie or suit jacket. It was odd.

I'll admit when I was wrong in relationships. I can analyze and see where I went wrong and bad signals I have off. Not every woman is alike.

 

[Action Mike]

The disappearing act is a tough one if you look further. I would say brehs should open their eyes because patterns and gut feelings shouldnt be ignored, also got to check your game .

But also with the short sighted nature of women these days, 99% of the time its another dude..ive been that other dude.

DropQ cant relate because she has only herself as a reference and hasnt dated women before, so..

 

[Urbanmiracle]

Did you hit it?

Yup but she was talking all this this gotta mean something nonsense.

 

[Rayzah]

Men disappear as well. I see yours and others point. Being communicative is important. You're right I had a sister who was dating a guy and she says I'm not talking to him anymore because he said such and such. My suggestion to her was to let the guy know instead of just dismissing him, talk to him about it. Never heard what happened afterwards. Closure important I'm not going to disappear I'll be upfront with him and say it's not working out because of....I can speak up not an issue. Can I just say this, from what I've seen some guys can come off as being awkward as heck, it's a turn off for most women which is why players be winning. Ex: I was on a group tour of city hall a while back and I thought the tour guide seemed interesting. After talking to him found out hes actually an engineer and worked on the arts commission so was asked to give tour but the whole time we talked the brotha seemed nervous and fidgety, just plain scared but he was okay talking to the other people in the group, I'd come around again he'd start fussing with his tie or suit jacket. It was odd.

I'll admit when I was wrong in relationships. I can analyze and see where I went wrong and bad signals I have off. Not every woman is alike.

See this that shyt right here lol...

With what you just said you have to remember one important thing about "players" they aint looking for no relationship, and the ones that are reformed only did it cause they got the girl pregnant or something..

However I do know what you are trying to say, but you have the super awkward dudes, the players, then everyone else. I can only assume the majority of the people here consider theirself in the "everyone else category.. I mean I cant judge this guy you are talking about but sometimes yall can have too many small things that are deal breakers, If men were as picky as women, no one would date

 

[MikelArteta]

If a chick gets distant its always another guy or she ajnt feeling you like that.

You ca n waste your time trying to ignite the fire with wet wood or you can say screw it and move on.

The disappearing act is a tough one if you look further. I would say brehs should open their eyes because patterns and gut feelings shouldnt be ignored, also got to check your game .

But also with the short sighted nature of women these days, 99% of the time its another dude..ive been that other dude.

DropQ cant relate because she has only herself as a reference and hasnt dated women before, so..

 

[PinotNoir]

See this that shyt right here lol...

With what you just said you have to remember one important thing about "players" they aint looking for no relationship, and the ones that are reformed only did it cause they got the girl pregnant or something..

However I do know what you are trying to say, but you have the super awkward dudes, the players, then everyone else. I can only assume the majority of the people here consider theirself in the "everyone else category.. I mean I cant judge this guy you are talking about but sometimes yall can have too many small things that are deal breakers, If men were as picky as women, no one would date

Players be winning because they're gratifying for the self. That's why I say they're winning. But you're right women are picky especially in their prime.

 

[Rich Spirit]

If a chick gets distant its always another guy or she ajnt feeling you like that.

You ca n waste your time trying to ignite the fire with wet wood or you can say screw it and move on.

Exactly, which is why we should always focus on ourselves. If a girl leaves, so what....I got bigger shyt to worry about

 

[Captsmackabeat]

You are welcoming a possible heartbreak. What the hell wrong with you ?

Brah, I was handling business before her and can do it without her.
I am in the best shape in my entire life.

Why would I care?

 

[NerdNash]

Me and my ex (feels funny even calling her that after 7 years) We been kicking it alot lately. Chillin, smoking together. Mainly because I've been on her heels lol. But hey, I can't front i'm trying to get her back. She even slept over the spot the other night and we went out to eat yesterday. I can still feel the love is there but She not trying to be a couple again...not yet anyway. She says it's no way i've changed in 2 months. I guess she's right.

What ya'll think brehs?

 

[NerdNash]

Some advice fellas

I was dating this chick for minute. Single mom her place. I thought we were hitting it off pretty well. Last date we just chilled at happy hour and we chilled at her place. Now she don't text or call a brother no more. She just got distant. I'm not going to chase her but still, shyt went cold turkey stupid fast.

She probably went back to her EX lol

 

[MikelArteta]

I think your setting yourself up for more hurt.

Usually when a woman's done she's done. Of course they may miss you and don't mind hanging out reminiscing about old times. I've seen this story before that's all I'm saying.

Maybe I'm a cynic but it usually ends with you two getting close and then her dropping she has a date or interested a new man

And you saying but we've been hanging out, you even slept over I thought we were

And her saying I'm sorry, it was great spending time with you but I just can't.

All I can say is don't get your hopes up

Again maybe I'm a cynic.
But I've been in your spot and wasted almost 5 years of my life

Me and my ex (feels funny even calling her that after 7 years) We been kicking it alot lately. Chillin, smoking together. Mainly because I've been on her heels lol. But hey, I can't front i'm trying to get her back. She even slept over the spot the other night and we went out to eat yesterday. I can still feel the love is there but She not trying to be a couple again...not yet anyway. She says it's no way i've changed in 2 months. I guess she's right.

What ya'll think brehs?

 

[Playa With Tha Passport]

Was dealing with this older chick i mean really older shes 36

Me and her talked on.phone for about 1 hour and a half

The next day we met in a park in talked
Then sat on her porch n talked
She gave me a kiss and i left
I got tired

Next day she text me sayn i was spying on her with my friend in a white acura in front of her house

Then 10 min l8tr text me s nd says im to dominant
She couldn't be with me

Like wtf lol

Now i see why shes been single 10 years
And she was on some bashing black men shyt to

This is the 1st L i took in some Years
But the chick has problems

I was just gonna tap that a few times then stop calling eventually anyway
She did have a fat ass

 

[Atlrocafella]

@DropQ stick around and you will learn a lot more from the male perspective, and even you will see the nonsense that women pull on men (you've already cited examples from your own friends).

We all aren't being crazy or lying in here.

 

[NormanConnors]

Me and my ex (feels funny even calling her that after 7 years) We been kicking it alot lately. Chillin, smoking together. Mainly because I've been on her heels lol. But hey, I can't front i'm trying to get her back. She even slept over the spot the other night and we went out to eat yesterday. I can still feel the love is there but She not trying to be a couple again...not yet anyway. She says it's no way i've changed in 2 months. I guess she's right.

What ya'll think brehs?

I wouldn't do it, she might have an initiative/be using ploys to keep you attached/at arms reach just in case. Who ended the relationship previously?

Keep your eyes open/don't get blinded by your heart.