Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DAlbert]

It's a waste of time for real. Women want a dude to give them problems. They'll tell you they want some nice, sweet faithful guy when their last 4 or 5 boyfriends were the SAME drama types. She always posts on facebook she wants a man of God, but everytime you see her kicking it, it's with the block bully.

I'll tell you a secret. You'll get more loyalty when your girl is arguing and fighting with you on occasion than you will if everything is smooth and there are no problems. Women like to be emotionally wrapped up in some form of drama. Peace and perfection are way too boring for them. LOOK WHAT HAPPENED IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN. We had peace and perfection there, but she got bored and had to go off listening to that snake.. You feel me mane? That's why it's better to be a woman's problem than her problem solver. It's also why you don't worry about what a woman thinks, because you try to give into her supposed 'wants' and you'll be even more confused than her. You end up satisfying all of her needs and doing whatever it takes to put a smile on her face everyday and she'll leave you for being too boring and too appeasing. You spend a lot of time with her and you are 'too clingy and need to give her space.' You don't spend a whole lot of time with her and you are too distant and aren't showing her enough affection. In other words, no matter what you do, she was a way to find you in the wrong to justify her complaining or her talking to some other guy, etc. This is why you never focus on pleasing a woman, but instead operate on principle whether she likes it or not.

One art a woman has perfected is the art of victimhood. Once you figure this out, you will have a way deeper understanding of female psychology. Women have been taught at an early age to manipulate men by manipulating her dad through crying and looking sad. She won't try that with momma, because momma knows what's up and will tell her to dry those tears up and get out of there. Daddy, on the other hand, will say hey princess, what's wrong? How can I make those tears go away? She learns at an early age that by playing the victim to a man she can get her way.

Think of a situation in which a woman with a man decides to cheat. To the other man, her boyfriend is the dirtiest scumbag ever, but somehow she never got around to leaving. One day you end up meeting the fella, and you might say man this dude ain't nothing like what she described... He looks like one of those nice guys that is just heads over heels in love with his woman. If she gets caught cheating with you, all of a sudden you were the slick seducer that made her do it against her will. We can go on and on with countless more examples. If you want a recent example, just look at the whole SOHH fiasco. It wasn't SOHH and felicia's fault for ignoring the requests of users. It was Buzznet's who she decided to make a deal with. It wasn't her problem to fix, but it was the users that needed to email buzznet.

You will save yourself a LOT of time and effort if you understand the victim mentality of a female and learn to cut it short. Just tell them to stop feeling sorry for themselves and to handle that... Otherwise YOU'LL be the one feeling down when she wraps you in a blanket of negativity as she offloads constant complaints in your ear in the form of non-stop vent sessions. You will save yourself undue manipulation.

had to quote this shyt again

 

[DAlbert]

I have a low tolerance for the bullshyt.. If it comes a scenario where the chick isn't doing nothing but texting or FBing and we're not building on no mutual way of meeting for the future, She's gone. If it comes a scenario where she has to constantly be on some "I can't get rid of my ex" shyt. She's gone. I'm not gonna sit there and play chatty patty all day with no complete payoff. I love spitting from the cuff, I'm no big texter at all unless I'm at my job with nothing else best to do but I usually get my best results when speaking. That Texting shyt is usually for suckaz that are playing the wing and not willing to go into full gear.

fukking this man, I'm still trying to figure how to balance the whole text thing and making progress shyt

as soon as you try to call a bytch you're going straight to voicemail

 

[DAlbert]

I had a date on Friday, yesterday Saturday I just send a text no reply.

I remember being younger this used to frustrate me. I thought the date went well what did I do wrong, did I say something. Should I have done this or that. Then I realized there's nothing you can do, a woman feels you or not all that chemistry tingles emotional crap. And if she doesn't well.

You can always control how you react to situations remember that. Your out here worrying and pondering why isn't she replying etc. She's out there thinking of markel, or what the next pair of shoes she's going to by.

 

[MikelArteta]

I just think it's easier when your just non chalant. When your calling a male friend or a relative you don't feel nervous you are yourself you text if you want to text, call when you want to call..

You gotta be like Peyton Manning and Tom Brady, just smooth cool and calm.

You've seen every blitz and formation and packages nothing surprises you anymore, you don't get nervous throwing it in a tight spot, you throw a int shrugs it doesn't change your gameplan.



That's my mindfrane, even when I talk to a girl I'd they go cold or disappear its shrugs, its like throwing a int. I'm not going to change who I am, if your a gunslinger be the gunslinger if your the conservative Alex Smith be that, your ob offense let the defense adapt not you

 

[b_priest9mm]

Looks like my attention whore got the message. Hasn't said a word to me since I cut off her supply. When we walk by each other, there's not even so much as a greeting. Good, now she can get her fix elsewhere.

She's got a fatty, but I won't let it tempt me because I know the price that comes with it. No more boosting her ego and me going through a cycle of depression.

This is great because it's a load off my mind and allows me to mentally reset. One less thing for me to worry about. I had been stressin', I won't lie and now I feel refreshed.

I can focus 100% of my energy on myself and my goals again.

I wanted to add another point: what I learned from the experience. Not just with this co-worker either (there was another and the long story short is that we work on completely different days, so we won't be seeing each other much at all, if ever. Not to mention the repeated instances from the past).

Put simply, if a girl doesn't find you attractive, she will treat like shyt. Not all the time, but it happens enough for it to be a legitimate issue.

It's my fault though, I knew better but thought that maybe I had improved enough on my appearance for things to be different...I was wrong. Whatever small, hard-headed part of me that believed differently got a nice, cold dose of reality.

I know now what I must do and every fiber of my being is committed to true change like never before.

The good news is I'm confident more than ever that when I accomplish my goals things will be different next time. Next time, I'll be ready.

 

[NerdNash]

Sorry for drawing you back in, but I remember telling you the relationship was over and to not go back.

You love this chick, and want her back...but you willing to be faithful to her NOW? You did her super dirty from what I remember, and it wasn't the first time. So why should she think the next time will be different?

More importantly, why do YOU think the next time will be different? Your insecurities pushed you to that demonic life, and all of a sudden they gone? You want ya lady back and to heal your relationship, but you aint even heal ya self.

Hey man there comes a point you realize you weren't shyt and you want to change. It was deeper than the women.

 

[PrnzHakeem]

Hey man there comes a point you realize you weren't shyt and you want to change. It was deeper than the women.

That is noble, but we both know chasing this woman won't fix your issues. Yall can get back together, but she's gonna have you under a level of scrutiny and surveillance that will be bad for the both of you. It may keep you from messing up again, but it'll prevent you from your own growth.

You may want to change, but how can you know when you've truly done it if you aint being tested? How do you know that if she gives you the same space and privacy you previously had, that you wont fall back into bad habits? Not trying to shyt on you, just some questions you should ask yourself.

One of my best friends lost a baaaad chick this same way. He thought he was going to marry her and was gonna get right "eventually". Well, eventually never came and chick bounced, even moved to another state, met someone else and got married in less than 18 months. He learned his lesson though, and is doing right by his new lady.


One question I have for you, you willing to marry this chick you trying to win back? 7 years of history? If not, you might as well move on completely.

 

[NerdNash]

That is noble, but we both know chasing this woman won't fix your issues. Yall can get back together, but she's gonna have you under a level of scrutiny and surveillance that will be bad for the both of you. It may keep you from messing up again, but it'll prevent you from your own growth.

You may want to change, but how can you know when you've truly done it if you aint being tested? How do you know that if she gives you the same space and privacy you previously had, that you wont fall back into bad habits? Not trying to shyt on you, just some questions you should ask yourself.

One of my best friends lost a baaaad chick this same way. He thought he was going to marry her and was gonna get right "eventually". Well, eventually never came and chick bounced, even moved to another state, met someone else and got married in less than 18 months. He learned his lesson though, and is doing right by his new lady.


One question I have for you, you willing to marry this chick you trying to win back? 7 years of history? If not, you might as well move on completely.

Yes breh. I am. Dead ass serious too.

 

[WheresWallace]

@Emperor_ReinScarf @malcolmxxx_45 Do yall work on Twitter/IG? POF is trash in my city. I want to start using my twitter account. How do yall find biitches using twitter?
Whats twitter etiquette?

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

@Emperor_ReinScarf @malcolmxxx_45 Do yall work on Twitter/IG? POF is trash in my city. I want to start using my twitter account. How do yall find biitches using twitter?
Whats twitter etiquette?

What city u at?

I don't use twitter
Just IG

 

[Fatboi1]

No doubt. I know she's going to crumble bro. Real shyt, im not the most put together dude but I know im all she knows. Chick still uses my lingo and all. Could be not a goddamn thing. But sometimes you just gotta believe shyt is meant to be.

But I promise my brehs I aint folding. I'm staying strong for the culture

Just remove anything that would "trigger" you about her. I was on facebook just a while ago randomly looking through my feed and then I decide to search for some other girl from way back and I guess Facebook still has saved searches so her profile popped up in the search.

 

[MikelArteta]

Nah don't have any .
Sorry

@Emperor_ReinScarf @malcolmxxx_45 Do yall work on Twitter/IG? POF is trash in my city. I want to start using my twitter account. How do yall find biitches using twitter?
Whats twitter etiquette?

 

[kevm3]

As you get older, over and over you see the same patterns with women. I'm telling you now, enjoy them while they are in your presence, but do NOT build your world around women and always be prepared to move on if one decides to leave. You see a lot of these PUA type guys focus their lives on women, and while they end up sleeping with a lot of them, they have NOTHING to show for it, because most of a woman's benefits evaporate as soon as she leaves. In this day and age, who knows how long a woman will stick around? Everything may seem super cool for weeks, months, if not longer, and then all of a sudden she disappears. The man who built his life around women or that particular woman is in a world of trouble. The man who has prepared himself simply moves on to enjoy other things in life.

 

[lamont614]

if anybody following my story

i just laid it out to shorty

asked her for one more date since we never got to do anything fun since it was cold outside when we first started talking
i asked did she want to go running at park and have a picnic


she actually texted me back


"why are you even interested in me? "



told her why she my qb



she text me back "i have to think about"


so we pro at closure im not going to bug her anymore just wanted to tell her i was feeling her

she was fine breh


god is good

hopefully she give me a chance

 

[MikelArteta]

As you get older, over and over you see the same patterns with women. I'm telling you now, enjoy them while they are in your presence, but do NOT build your world around women and always be prepared to move on if one decides to leave. You see a lot of these PUA type guys focus their lives on women, and while they end up sleeping with a lot of them, they have NOTHING to show for it, because most of a woman's benefits evaporate as soon as she leaves. In this day and age, who knows how long a woman will stick around? Everything may seem super cool for weeks, months, if not longer, and then all of a sudden she disappears. The man who built his life around women or that particular woman is in a world of trouble. The man who has prepared himself simply moves on to enjoy other things in life.

Yep it's crazy when you think of it, I've been on so many dates in my life with different women, i've had so many women tell me they love me they care about me. And I sit here and it's like where are they now? The only women who actually stayed in my life are the ones I had NO FEELINGS FOR, a few ex co workers who I consider some of my closet friends and still keep in touch daily, a girl who I grew up with who got married a few weeks ago who is like my sister and well that's really about it.

All the women who I spent portions of my life with GONE
all the women who said they love me GONE
All the women I've slept with GONE
ALl the women I said I loved gone


I'm just thankful I gained that knowledge while I was semi young so now that I'm older I no longer stress.