Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

I've even watched 500 Days of Summer twice in the past year lol.

First off, Emperor ReinScarf clearly knows what he's saying and I got a lot of respect for someone that will impart such sound advice to those like myself who are hurting. I couldn't disagree with a single point you made when I think about things. So I just wanna say, man to man, I appreciate everything and you are right.

Honestly as I read your responses, it hurt, but was also sobering. In my heart, I been wishing there was some alternative to it not working. I thought maybe if I loved her enough, improved myself, just stuck with it, then at some point the power would even out and things would settle down. I'm just stubborn and crazy enough (yes, we're both a little unstable) that I fought off sound logic this long for some "expectation" in my head that this girl was going to love me. I mean we have loved eachother but not really, not completely, and in the healthy context of a committed relationship.

I think she knows what's up, she been texting me sexy pics all night. Torture.

thanks breh, ive been there myself man. It's a horrible place to be where you love and care about a woman so much but she doesn't feel the same way you do. But I'm telling you and everyone else if a woman wants to be with you nothing will stop her, not distance, not time apart, not a ring on her finger, not kids, hell not even if you cheated on her nothing.

I've seen it with my own damn eyes, hell at one point in my life i was dealing with this chick she told me she loved me, i didn't even feel anything for her wasn't even attracted, we stopped talking for almost 3 years i changed my number and all that, then by chance we ran into each other. She told me she thought about me every day, showed me all the emails she sent that went into the abyss as I never even used that e-mail anymore. She was dating a guy then and threw him to the bushes to try and get me, again I felt nothing for her not even attraction but i was just using it as an example when a woman wants you NOTHING WILL STOP HER.

The feelings of oh no if I don't message her she will forget about me, or she will get that attention elsewhere are just thoughts that need to be eradicated .

sometimes time apart can be good the 21 days will help you both think clearer, even after the 21 days if it doesn't work out how you want it, at least you know you went three weeks you can do another 3 weeks and much more.

All I know for me as I get older I look back and smh at all the time I wasted, all the women out there I could have dated who wanted me and I wasted so much time on a broad who didn't feel the same way never again

if you get over this you'll be able to get over anything

even now with women once i pick up the interest isn't there I just depart, no biggie

 

[Rich Spirit]

fukk man

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

Word, I know. I'm so set on this one though, no other girls are comparing to her for me right now and that's the problem.

It'll go away breh, been there done that. Just keep living life and you might likely have to let this woman fall by the wayside otherwise you'll continue this cycle.

Been there where someone is hot on you for a minute, then goes cold at times. Then it becomes harder and harder to meet up with them even though you know they aint got shyt going on. For the most part, I completely forgot about that person. Saw her pic on social media recently and was didnt affect me at all. Chalk it up to her being young and immature (she was a couple years younger and I can tell never really had many relationships/experiences)

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

thanks breh, ive been there myself man. It's a horrible place to be where you love and care about a woman so much but she doesn't feel the same way you do. But I'm telling you and everyone else if a woman wants to be with you nothing will stop her, not distance, not time apart, not a ring on her finger, not kids, hell not even if you cheated on her nothing.

I've seen it with my own damn eyes, hell at one point in my life i was dealing with this chick she told me she loved me, i didn't even feel anything for her wasn't even attracted, we stopped talking for almost 3 years i changed my number and all that, then by chance we ran into each other. She told me she thought about me every day, showed me all the emails she sent that went into the abyss as I never even used that e-mail anymore. She was dating a guy then and threw him to the bushes to try and get me, again I felt nothing for her not even attraction but i was just using it as an example when a woman wants you NOTHING WILL STOP HER.


The feelings of oh no if I don't message her she will forget about me, or she will get that attention elsewhere are just thoughts that need to be eradicated .

sometimes time apart can be good the 21 days will help you both think clearer, even after the 21 days if it doesn't work out how you want it, at least you know you went three weeks you can do another 3 weeks and much more.

All I know for me as I get older I look back and smh at all the time I wasted, all the women out there I could have dated who wanted me and I wasted so much time on a broad who didn't feel the same way never again

if you get over this you'll be able to get over anything

even now with women once i pick up the interest isn't there I just depart, no biggie

yep this woman I knew from work but we didn't talk as anything more than coworkers until after she left work. She went to school in the Caribbean and honestly she's so about me that it's almost jarring. We've hung out breaks but I had to be real with her and tell her she's too far away to make something tangible happen and that we should just be friends (maybe to an extent I wasn't as crazy about her as she was me, but I think it should be that way). She still hits me up every couple days to talk and will always chat me on the weekend no matter what I'm doing (I'm not with my phone a lot so we don't always get a chance to speak) . But my point is it's completely different when you know someone is crazy about you. And I doubt anything will ever happen with her, but I know that's the standard when a woman really wants you. Anything less simple or more obfuscated than that is not worth my time at least from a relationship perspective

 

[Ghanaian Armor]

I've said this before I'll say it again

Unless you are a certified psychologist do not date or deal with Women who have been abused in the past or have suffered any kind of severe trauma.

It will never work. Ever. You will be disappointed every. single. time.

I almost got involved with one whose Mother died TEN YEARS AGO and she still had hang-ups about it. The problem is her Father is a beta bytch and never taught her how to deal with grief. He never stepped up either. So now that colors how she views Men. She resented that I had a good relationship with my Mother. I did not even fukk that girl she was a false rape accusation just waiting to happen.

Sometimes these girls come unexpected. They pass your screening checks. And then in casual conversation the red flags start popping up. Always ask a girl about her family. Don't prod too much but just basic questions. Watch her body language and tone. If there are issues with the family 9 out of 10 times she is gonna have issues with you.

90% of American Women will fail this test. Almost all you will meet come from a broken family with problems in some way. The issue here is that a Man can deal with it but Women tend to bring emotional baggage and accumulate it over their lifetime. They just can't let that shyt go. Women of other cultures are taught better coping mechanisms in how to deal with this when there is a strong father figure at home. This is why I had to go get me a Japanese Woman.

 

[Ghanaian Armor]

thanks breh, ive been there myself man. It's a horrible place to be where you love and care about a woman so much but she doesn't feel the same way you do. But I'm telling you and everyone else if a woman wants to be with you nothing will stop her, not distance, not time apart, not a ring on her finger, not kids, hell not even if you cheated on her nothing.

I've seen it with my own damn eyes, hell at one point in my life i was dealing with this chick she told me she loved me, i didn't even feel anything for her wasn't even attracted, we stopped talking for almost 3 years i changed my number and all that, then by chance we ran into each other. She told me she thought about me every day, showed me all the emails she sent that went into the abyss as I never even used that e-mail anymore. She was dating a guy then and threw him to the bushes to try and get me, again I felt nothing for her not even attraction but i was just using it as an example when a woman wants you NOTHING WILL STOP HER.

Would rep but fakkits took it all away from me. Agree 1000%

After about 25 a Man should get over the tendency to show too much interest in a Woman unless she is really checking for him as you mentioned.

I had a very hot blooded (in the emotional sense particularly) Korean ex I had to break up with her because I could not move to Korea at the time and vice versa. After we broke up she would call/text/e-mail me non-stop from Korea specifically at times she knew I would be available after knowing my routine while she was staying here in America during the Summer. I could not pick up because I knew I needed to move on, and specifically I knew I had to start campaigning to fukk other girls ASAP or my composure would not hold up. This was about the time I started seeing escorts heavily for about a year, as between the breakup and stress on my new job I needed something to break the tension. I was not having luck campaigning in the sense that I did not see anything I'd like or worth going after. I was drinking too much and needed another vice to offset it and keep me sane. 2011 was a rough year with a lot of change and transition in my life. I didn't have the time or energy to campaign properly either so from both a time and cost savings perspective I delved into that world and became an expert in it. In NYC there are a plethora of options and specifically where I lived there were more than adequate Asian delicacies available. So I focused on getting my career underway and blowing off steam using these options when necessary. It helped me keep my head on straight until I met my now (Japanese) wife, got a new better gig with less politics, BS and stress. So if any dude is going through a similar scenario I would recommend investigating that option, cautiously of course depending on your locale. If you live in a small town (less than 100,000) unfortunately I would not recommend this at all - For various reasons: Lack of anonymity, over-zealous cops with little to do other than bust working girls, etc.

Looking back I made the right decision to breakup, she definitely wasn't marriage material either way because she was too emotional when it came to me. I met her at a professional networking event and thought she was a bit more level headed and I guess she just got sprung. The sex was very good to say the least and that is what kept me around. However, there were some qualities I did not like that I overlooked. One being I do not think she was very close with her family which is a red flag as I mentioned in an earlier post. Some other red flags were that she wanted me to fukk her raw and expected me to simply trust she was on BC, I did not want to have some Half-Black child in Korea and the guilt that would be associated with that. I was 99% sure she had no STDs (was not promiscuous) so that was not a concern.

Koreans are a hit or miss when it comes to Brothers, they either love the big dikk and become completely obsessed or they hate it/are indifferent. In my experience there is no in-between. Before this one there was another Korean girl who refused to have sex with me because she said she knew she would lose her mind if I fukked her and cause me "stress and problems" AKA drama. They tend to be less promiscuous than other Asian women but have a very hard time controlling their emotions when they find a Man they like. This is why I prefer (mature) Japanese Women they seem to have a better head on their shoulders in this regard.

BTW she tried to date 3 guys after me but it never went any further than coffee. I said I am glad you are moving on, she said she was going to marry some Korean guy in Atlanta (have no idea of the validity or truth behind it). I think she was going to do it for citizenship then divorce him take his money to be with me. At the time I did not have the income to sponsor her. She was willing to fukk over her own kind to be with a Black Man. As preposterous as this sounds in retrospect I truly believe she would have done something like that. But the kicker is she said she will not have his child let alone have sex with him. And I believe it.

Be careful what Asian women you dikk down because if they haven't been in America long they have never had good dikk. They will become addicted and commit fraud and crimes to make sure they continue having access to it. I am sure she thinks about me to this day. I did not tell her I got married because she would probably try and come kill my Wife. This is especially because some Koreans don't like Japanese. (But Chinese hate Japanese the most)

 

[MikelArteta]

I just look at it like Eeyor'es tail yeah eeyore from winnie the pooh, the first time he lost his tail it was painful, even the second and third time, then after that it was like :meh:, he knew after the detachment it would hurt a little but once attached it would be like it was before.

It just gets easier when you realize if a woman wants to be with you she will, dallas can offer all these perks a big ass contract but if her heart is in LA she'll be in LA

You never have to convince someone to cash out a winning lotto ticket that can change their life, so why do you have to convince someone to be with you a man who can have such a great impact on her life? If she's been abused and beaten in every other relationship, lied to and cheated on and you've never done anything except love her and treated her with respect why the hell do you have to convince her?

 

[MikelArteta]

Would rep but fakkits took it all away from me. Agree 1000%

After about 25 a Man should get over the tendency to show too much interest in a Woman unless she is really checking for him as you mentioned.

I had a very hot blooded (in the emotional sense particularly) Korean ex I had to break up with her because I could not move to Korea at the time and vice versa. After we broke up she would call/text/e-mail me non-stop from Korea specifically at times she knew I would be available after knowing my routine while she was staying here in America during the Summer. I could not pick up because I knew I needed to move on, and specifically I knew I had to start campaigning to fukk other girls ASAP or my composure would not hold up. This was about the time I started seeing escorts heavily for about a year, as between the breakup and stress on my new job I needed something to break the tension. I was not having luck campaigning in the sense that I did not see anything I'd like or worth going after. I was drinking too much and needed another vice to offset it and keep me sane. 2011 was a rough year with a lot of change and transition in my life. I didn't have the time or energy to campaign properly either so from both a time and cost savings perspective I delved into that world and became an expert in it. In NYC there are a plethora of options and specifically where I lived there were more than adequate Asian delicacies available. So I focused on getting my career underway and blowing off steam using these options when necessary. It helped me keep my head on straight until I met my now (Japanese) wife, got a new better gig with less politics, BS and stress. So if any dude is going through a similar scenario I would recommend investigating that option, cautiously of course depending on your locale. If you live in a small town (less than 100,000) unfortunately I would not recommend this at all - For various reasons: Lack of anonymity, over-zealous cops with little to do other than bust working girls, etc.

Looking back I made the right decision to breakup, she definitely wasn't marriage material either way because she was too emotional when it came to me. I met her at a professional networking event and thought she was a bit more level headed and I guess she just got sprung. The sex was very good to say the least and that is what kept me around. However, there were some qualities I did not like that I overlooked. One being I do not think she was very close with her family which is a red flag as I mentioned in an earlier post. Some other red flags were that she wanted me to fukk her raw and expected me to simply trust she was on BC, I did not want to have some Half-Black child in Korea and the guilt that would be associated with that. I was 99% sure she had no STDs (was not promiscuous) so that was not a concern.

Koreans are a hit or miss when it comes to Brothers, they either love the big dikk and become completely obsessed or they hate it/are indifferent. In my experience there is no in-between. Before this one there was another Korean girl who refused to have sex with me because she said she knew she would lose her mind if I fukked her and cause me "stress and problems" AKA drama. They tend to be less promiscuous than other Asian women but have a very hard time controlling their emotions when they find a Man they like. This is why I prefer (mature) Japanese Women they seem to have a better head on their shoulders in this regard.

BTW she tried to date 3 guys after me but it never went any further than coffee. I said I am glad you are moving on, she said she was going to marry some Korean guy in Atlanta (have no idea of the validity or truth behind it). I think she was going to do it for citizenship then divorce him take his money to be with me. At the time I did not have the income to sponsor her. She was willing to fukk over her own kind to be with a Black Man. As preposterous as this sounds in retrospect I truly believe she would have done something like that. But the kicker is she said she will not have his child let alone have sex with him. And I believe it.

Be careful what Asian women you dikk down because if they haven't been in America long they have never had good dikk. They will become addicted and commit fraud and crimes to make sure they continue having access to it. I am sure she thinks about me to this day. I did not tell her I got married because she would probably try and come kill my Wife. This is especially because some Koreans don't like Japanese. (But Chinese hate Japanese the most)

even a chick halfway across the world if she wants you, will keep in contact.

amazing isnt it, yet we struggle and waste time and try to ignite interest from women on our gawt damn street who cant even say good morning

 

[Ghanaian Armor]

Exactly, these American women don't exist to me anymore and I can tell that more and more Dudes are awakening to it. Because I can see the frustration lingering in the corner of my eye when I ignore these Women in public. It's happening slowly but surely, dudes are waking up to the bullshyt and revoking attention from these Women who haven't proven themselves worthy of it. They only get accosted by thirsty dusty Men and it pisses them off that even average looking Men are ignoring them.

The best way to give a Woman the tingles in her vagina is to make her mad, check her ego by treating her like a Man. American Women are essentially Men with vulvas. Think of them that way and your life will be grand. If you can get sex from them great, if not focus on getting to coastal city with more foreign options or just getting the fukk out of here period. It's a sinking ship.

Now I am not saying there are not problems abroad. Tokyo to me feels just like NYC. The Women are stuck up, superficial and have attitudes. But just go one city outside of Tokyo and it's all good. I heard Seoul sucks too. But you can find a good girl in Osaka, Busan, Jeju and 2nd tier cities more easily anyplace in the world.

 

[Clark Wayne]

Lawd this man Reinscarf is dropping so many gems in this thread it's crazy, especially that last page.

I'm nowhere to close to trying to be in a relationship but I know all the knowledge dropped in this thread will help me immensely when that time comes.

Right now I'm just focusing on me. Trying to get my money right (I have some debt issues). Get right physically (bought a pull up bar yesterday in order to help me stay active at home.)

Also get some new hobbies. I'm going to get into photography soon and that will keep me out the house and even help me meet new people. It might even become a nice side hustle .

All in all, I just wanted say this thread is a goldmine

 

[Action Mike]

even a chick halfway across the world if she wants you, will keep in contact.

amazing isnt it, yet we struggle and waste time and try to ignite interest from women on our gawt damn street who cant even say good morning

I'm going through right now, got one option hopping on the European contininent never failing to hit me up daily or telling me she can't wait to get back and see me next month.

The other is on some little girl games, next of half day replies, dodging meets., in fact typing this out made me realise wtf I'm doing...bushes.

 

[Ghanaian Armor]

A real Woman wants nothing more than to worship the ground you walk on and cater to your every need. If you look at history it should never be the other way around.

Men have lost themselves and sabotaged themselves over a Woman. And no one will be there to pick up the pieces.

Now there are varying degrees of this and you must determine how much you can handle. Because there is a correlation often if she is extremely devoted it could also mean extremely overbearing.

It is completely natural for a Man to not have as much interest in the Woman as she does him. It is the only way to have a harmonious relationship between the sexes, the natural order of things. Woman was made to submit to Man.

Do not engage with a Woman that has no interest in submitting to you. She doesn't have to lick your feet, but her interest should be very palpable and obvious .

 

[NerdNash]

Day 8 no contact brehs

 

[Fatboi1]

*reading about dudes with Japanese wives after having broke up with one*

Y'all lived there or what? Over here ain't much of them. I'm not into westernized Asians too much.

 

[Ghanaian Armor]

@Fatboi1 i got lucky but I was on a mission. Here in NYC you can find them. The ones with careers who take care of themselves are diamonds in the rough.

The problem is they do not congregate like Chinese or Koreans so you have to hunt them down. Many are moving out to NJ because it's cheaper. Mitsuwa supermarket in Edgewater NJ probably has the highest concentration of them on the whole east coast. It is the only Japanese supermarket I know of in the Northeast Tri-state area.

There are also pockets of Japanese in Upper Darby and West Philly but most are college students just here temporarily. I will tell you though after having gone to Japan I think the ones who make it here are light years ahead in terms of maturity and Wife potential.