I been meaning to go there. I might go with a Chinese Co worker. I'm a black dude with dreads so I dunno if they on that
steez.
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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My former supervisor at my old company was a Jamaican with dreads and got on the Japan boat all by himself. Until the topic came up he didn't know my girlfriend (now Wife) was Japanese. His new GF is all over him like White on Rice calling him everyday while we were at work LOL. I think some Japanese Women are obsessed with dreadlocks in the sense of "how is this hair texture possible?"
His former baby momma/ex is Caribbean and he said he is done with that part of the world period. My Pops most recent ex was Bajan and she was very nice to me thought of me as her second Son , even helped try to get me a job after graduation. But she was a little too bossy with my Pops.
His former baby momma/ex is Caribbean and he said he is done with that part of the world period. My Pops most recent ex was Bajan and she was very nice to me thought of me as her second Son , even helped try to get me a job after graduation. But she was a little too bossy with my Pops.
I got that when I went to Japan. I went to my ex girls house and her grandma after greeting me grabbed my hair to feel.
shyt ain't easy breh. Almost folded again today but then thought to myself "just work harder, get busier"
I know it threw her off tho. I literally went from begging every day to not hitting her at all. She has to be wondering what the hell is going on lol
Swamp-Thing
Avatar of the Green
I'm approaching the end of day 1 and it hasn't been so bad. I try to just think about it like I'm moving on but there's an outside chance this will make her realize. I haven't really had the urge to contact her, but sometimes I'll see/hear something that reminds me of her and get a little nostalgic. At that point, I try to think about something negative, like for instance, how she wouldn't commit and has pretty much just strung me along even after I laid it all out on the table for her.
She texted me and sent some pics last night so at that point she already knows something is up when I'm not commenting on her sexy ass. This is basically me moving on though. 21 days w/ no contact just to see if that helps anything before I make it a permanent cut. It might be a little harder to get up in the morning for a while and a little lonely at night without her but there was no other alternative, aside from maybe getting played and destroyed emotionally.
Sure, I still love her and miss her and I'm doing this for both of us, but especially for me. Letting someone string you along is not loving yourself, and that's a pre-requisite for loving someone else, as well as overall success as someone who respects themselves.
I believe if you do the right thing then good things will follow. Stay strong!
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I don't mean to be harsh but y'all are wasting your time waiting for a woman to "come to her senses and come back to you". Stop putting your life on hold for a woman, trust me the majority of them won't for you. Yeah its painful because you love her and etc. etc. but its all the emotional bond. Doesn't matter the amount of "years", or how you "feel", "shes the one" and all that, it doesn't matter IF SHE DOESN'T FEEL THE SAME WAY. and a woman that feels the same way won't be out there weighing her options, being hesitant, having you on old.
I keep telling y'all you will blink your eyes and months or even years will pass and you'll be the EXACT SAME POSITION. THen one day you'll hop on facebook and see she's in a relationship, or pregnant, or gasp married all while you sat back waiting for her to come around.
KILL THE EMOTIONAL BOND by staying in no contact and one day you'll back and be like
Brehs i've been where you been i loved my ex more than I loved any women, I loved her so much I accepted "friendship" and ended up living in hell for literally 5 years of being strung along, I love you reinscarf, what if we get back together all those friggin breadcrumbs to draw me back in when she saw I was moving away, until I finally couldn't take it anymore and withdrew and never contacted her again (its been almost 2 years now). Just imagine if I continued to be around hopin for her to come around, now shes pregnant and for all I know will prob get married, I would have been friggin gutted, but I took my exit and now its meh, I never thought I could get to the point in my life where a woman I loved so much could be pregnant for another man and its like.
All the time you waste on someone who doesn't want you the way you want them is time you can't get back, the outcome won't change, there are so many women out there praying every day and night for a man to love them the way you love these women who don't feel the same way about you. STOP WASTING TIME, stay no contact your mind will clear one day.
Exactly. If a woman comes with that feminist trash, don't even engage and argue with her. Simply ignore her. Men receive the kind of behavior they respond to from women. Dudes say they are tired of whores but stay drooling over strippers and prostitutes but ignore the quality woman. A man can tell when a woman is into him. The problem starts when men start focusing on women that have little to no interest in them.
yep its not easy but every day gets easier, hell I remember after my first breakup when I went NC, it was a living hell. Felt like a cocaine addiction withdrawling, had the shakes to message or call, sometimes I broke it and I'd feel good getting that hit then id feel even worse after, then I just started and didn't look back, started counting the days and all that, the first day the first week, the first month after a while you just stop counting, hell its been 8 years since my first breakup/heartbreak
Man you'll get to a point where you don't even care what she thinks, in the early days we all do it ala to get them to miss us then as the time goes on you could care less. Many times they will crack and msg you and instead of the yes celebration its more of a nuisance
Yep, the first few weeks after a break up are always the worst, but slowly you feel that emotional connection dissipate. It takes time and ultimately realizing that if she wants to be where you are, she'll come to you, and if she doesn't, there are other women out there.
I'm about to throw this girl back in the sea 
She has no time to do shyt except work n school, canceled plans, always stressed over work/school
Thought there was potential but I can't even have regular contact
Was ready to throw these other hoodrats to the bushes but back in the game I go
She has no time to do shyt except work n school, canceled plans, always stressed over work/school
Thought there was potential but I can't even have regular contact
Was ready to throw these other hoodrats to the bushes but back in the game I go
Rich Spirit
#LeveledUp
aint nobody that damn busy. How many hrs do she work a week and how many credits she taking?I'm about to throw this girl back in the sea
She has no time to do shyt except work n school, canceled plans, always stressed over work/school
Thought there was potential but I can't even have regular contact
Was ready to throw these other hoodrats to the bushes but back in the game I go
I'm about to throw this girl back in the sea
She has no time to do shyt except work n school, canceled plans, always stressed over work/school
Thought there was potential but I can't even have regular contact
Was ready to throw these other hoodrats to the bushes but back in the game I go
Sometimes irregular contact doesn't mean she doesn't like you.....cancelled plans are a bad sign though...
why not just ignore her and see what happens? people usually fold under the anxiety of being ignored and you can figure out where you stand forreal at least...
if she doesn't care that you never responded then she's not feeling you and you did the best thing AND you can always just try again in a few months.....women can be fickle.
Try a break maybe