Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

satireprod

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I've been their the feeder team so to speak, you draft deep in the draft, you mold, you see somethign in them no one else sees, and you build em up but as soon as they reach a level your no longer needed and are discarded.

Reminds me at my church, this lady was there all the time praying for a new job etc., my brother in law called some poeple through his networks nad was able to find a her a job, hasn't been at church since.

hell even reminds me of a former ex, I saved her from being homeless literally, got her a new job when she lost her old one but as soon as everything was going great I was chopped liver.
Do you think people in those situations if they could see it from your perspective would they see their actions as deceitful or would they even care?
 

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It's debatable, maybe some. For the most part people will do what they think is right. Even in the bible when Jesus healed blind beggars only one came back and said thanks.

I've loved two women,and I built them both up, while they plotted to destroy me. I'm past the hatred and bitterness, but it opens your eyes.


It's like a nikka raising his daughter, doing everything then some step dad nikka is walking her down the aisle

It's like purchasing a old jalopy car fixing it up putting rims on it fine tuning it, then some nikka shows up with ownership papers

Won't be me again, i got sick of going through all the sweat and mazes, fixing the broken toy so to speak. While some next nikka reaped the benefits.





Do you think people in those situations if they could see it from your perspective would they see their actions as deceitful or would they even care?
 

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Brehs,

How do you make it a habit of treating every woman the same? Something that I and i'm sure many men can relate too is treating women were attracted to, or that are attractive different than regular women. I really want to stop being "wide eye" or being in awe. That's a "nice guy" behavior of mine that i really wanna shed.
 

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It's debatable, maybe some. For the most part people will do what they think is right. Even in the bible when Jesus healed blind beggars only one came back and said thanks.

I've loved two women,and I built them both up, while they plotted to destroy me. I'm past the hatred and bitterness, but it opens your eyes.


It's like a nikka raising his daughter, doing everything then some step dad nikka is walking her down the aisle

It's like purchasing a old jalopy car fixing it up putting rims on it fine tuning it, then some nikka shows up with ownership papers

Won't be me again, i got sick of going through all the sweat and mazes, fixing the broken toy so to speak. While some next nikka reaped the benefits.
Damn the analogies are crystal clear.
 

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Brehs,

How do you make it a habit of treating every woman the same? Something that I and i'm sure many men can relate too is treating women were attracted to, or that are attractive different than regular women. I really want to stop being "wide eye" or being in awe. That's a "nice guy" behavior of mine that i really wanna shed.

You got to keep your emotions in check and basically sit back and analyze your interactions and determine whether you were dealing fairly.
 

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I've been their the feeder team so to speak, you draft deep in the draft, you mold, you see somethign in them no one else sees, and you build em up but as soon as they reach a level your no longer needed and are discarded.

Reminds me at my church, this lady was there all the time praying for a new job etc., my brother in law called some poeple through his networks nad was able to find a her a job, hasn't been at church since.

hell even reminds me of a former ex, I saved her from being homeless literally, got her a new job when she lost her old one but as soon as everything was going great I was chopped liver.

You treat a dog well, you got a loyal bud for life. With women, you treat them too well and you upgrade a woman to a certain point, then she starts feeling she's too fly for you and takes off. Women only want to stick around a man they feel is beyond them, so upgrading a girl too much brings her into a zone mentally where she believes you are not enough for her anymore.

Honestly, I get tired of worrying about the backwards attitude you need to present to 'keep a woman around'. I'm pretty much of if you want to be here, cool... if you decide to up and leave, then that's fine because I don't want anyone here that doesn't want to be here.
 

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You got to keep your emotions in check and basically sit back and analyze your interactions and determine whether you were dealing fairly.

It's not necessarily that i'm treating them more fairly, i just don't want act any different around them then i would a normal person/woman. Yes she's attractive...so what. No need to kiss her ass, or be extra nice or supplicate in any way. Understand what i mean?
 

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You treat a dog well, you got a loyal bud for life. With women, you treat them too well and you upgrade a woman to a certain point, then she starts feeling she's too fly for you and takes off. Women only want to stick around a man they feel is beyond them, so upgrading a girl too much brings her into a zone mentally where she believes you are not enough for her anymore.

Honestly, I get tired of worrying about the backwards attitude you need to present to 'keep a woman around'. I'm pretty much of if you want to be here, cool... if you decide to up and leave, then that's fine because I don't want anyone here that doesn't want to be here.

:salute: im the same man, while its nice sometimes being in a relationship I already know again tomorrow I can wake up with a We need to talk or whatever.
My girl asked me what if we break up would you be sad? I said meh it would sting for a little bit but then I'd get on with my life.

my mentality is literally your with me ill treat you good, ill be faithful, you'll get the real me which is a good man, if you don't want that i'm not going to chase, beg or whatever their is the door.

Worse comes to worse I got my Lord, I got football, I got basketball, I got my career and I have travelling.
 

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It's not necessarily that i'm treating them more fairly, i just don't want act any different around them then i would a normal person/woman. Yes she's attractive...so what. No need to kiss her ass, or be extra nice or supplicate in any way. Understand what i mean?

treat everyone the same, your not a bouncer no need to treat a sexy girl better than any other person
 

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It's not necessarily that i'm treating them more fairly, i just don't want act any different around them then i would a normal person/woman. Yes she's attractive...so what. No need to kiss her ass, or be extra nice or supplicate in any way. Understand what i mean?

You just have to temper your emotions and realize that this fine woman isn't any more special than any other woman. It comes with reflection and seeing if your actions align with your philosophy. If not, then you have to readjust your actions.

As you get older, you start to realize that although fine women are beautiful and all that, there's a lot more to a woman than beauty. If she doesn't know how to act right, then she serves very little purpose in your life. That realization will help you cut down on all the catering behavior.
 

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There's really nothing special about fine or sexy women, they are a dime a dozen in every city, every few kilometers. And like kevm3 said who cares if a woman is beautiful if the inside doesn't match up because then you will be taking for a ride. I've dated some very vbeautiful women in my life and they brought nothing but stress to my life, screw that now.
 

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There's really nothing special about fine or sexy women, they are a dime a dozen in every city, every few kilometers. And like kevm3 said who cares if a woman is beautiful if the inside doesn't match up because then you will be taking for a ride. I've dated some very vbeautiful women in my life and they brought nothing but stress to my life, screw that now.

Yep, as you get older and your emotions/hormones subside, you learn to enjoy the beauty of a woman without being captivated by it and hence making terrible decisions. Most of the playas in high school that had all the bad women married a woman that was nowhere near the prettiest they've dealt with. Once you get past the mystique of looks, having a woman who is 'pretty enough', but does everything she can to see you win and to be with you is way better than your run of the mill big booty, 'hot' instagram model.
 

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It's not necessarily that i'm treating them more fairly, i just don't want act any different around them then i would a normal person/woman. Yes she's attractive...so what. No need to kiss her ass, or be extra nice or supplicate in any way. Understand what i mean?


You'll reach a point where u start realizing all puzzy feels the same and you'll look past her beauty. Then you start caring more about if she's a cool chik or a headache.
 
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