Dwayne_Taylor
Superstar
I agree with this completely. But how can you get emotionally attached to a person who is trying to test you in a war for dominance everyday?
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I agree with this completely. But how can you get emotionally attached to a person who is trying to test you in a war for dominance everyday?
I believe once you establish your manhood and never deviate, a woman will get the point to stop trying to test you or she knows you'll let her go and find someone who isn't with the games. When you establish what is and isn't acceptable around you, people eventually get in line, and those that don't, you simply don't deal with them. I think it's natural to initially test someone to see if they are who they say they are, but if someone is continually carrying on after a reasonable introductory period, you have to keep them from around you.
Thanks just a mirrorless camera basic with a 400 dollar lens.
And I dabble on the side one of my hobbies my girl shoots as well
I've shot a few concerts and a wedding so far.
And I dabble on the side one of my hobbies my girl shoots as well
I've shot a few concerts and a wedding so far.
Thanks just a mirrorless camera basic with a 400 dollar lens.
And I dabble on the side one of my hobbies my girl shoots as well
I've shot a few concerts and a wedding so far.
Some dope shots man, They look really good. You should look into it more.
women will always try and test you, to me Its just like what I tell every broad out there, my life was fine before you and if you add stress and all that im not afraid to walk away and never look back.
My girl asked me what if we break up, and I said in all honestly it would sting for a little bit but I'd get on with my life and you'd never hear from me again. I just take it like an athlete, just because I may get cut at the end of the year or we go our separate ways, doesn't mean I'm not going to give it my all so to speak.
After dealing with enough women and enough relationships you realize that no matter what, you'll be ok. There will always be another woman if you want, you will always recover if you want. Theres only 3 things a woman can hold over you. 1. sex 2. her beauty 3. emotional connection (kids, love, lust, investment).
Think of most men in horrible situations they stay because "the sex is amazing, where else would i get sex man". 2. She's beautiful man, i'll never get a woman that hot again 3. we got kids man, I love her, webe been together 5 years man i dont want to start over
conquer those three and you'll always be ok
This thread saved my mind and life. So many good advice. Without this thread I probably would of be in debt and simp allot. Thank you my coli brethrens.
Um. Ghouls
All Star
The first paragraph you stated is 100% true. My past 4 relationships was a complete disaster. All four women were educated in their respectable fields and they made more money than mi. All four cheated on mi, and I walked away after that. I'm too young and handsome to be stress at this day and age.
Hopefully I find a women that's kind hearted and loves mi for who I am.
live and you learn, ive been cheated on as well and that relationship was horrible. But without being cheated on I wouldn't have this strength or wisdom, i'm still the same person I am just that I'm not scared to walk away.
Regardless of age or how you look never take disrespect.
Secondly never give up your search, know what you want in a woman and never settle for less than what you deserve.
Youseenmywork
KING
So true...all my homeboy's and cousin's girls see me as the scumbag womanizer because of the shyt I say.
Male honesty is considered misogyny for some reason. Women aren't always innocent like most people. To me we all aren't shyt but like I say how much of anit shyt are you willing to put up with nobodies perfect.
Youseenmywork
KING
This thread saved my mind and life. So many good advice. Without this thread I probably would of be in debt and simp allot. Thank you my coli brethrens.
Been there breh, i wrote this a logn time ago when i was down and out
Growing up in my household all I ever experienced and saw was genuine love, loyalty, commitment, honesty and respect. While I’m thankful for my upbringing in a stable loving environment the minor negative is that it had me unaware how to manage the bewildering agonizing times that life will throw your way sometimes. I was naïve and innocent to say the least, trusting of all and presuming the best of others objectives. I believed that people were honest, kept their promises, appreciated kindness and lived by a moral code of integrity and loyalty. In essence I believed the majority of people thought and lived like I did – and well I was totally wrong. My innocence and open heart has been shattered to say the least, like when a kid finally finds out that wrestling is fake and Santa Claus is imaginary there is no going back from this point – I can’t undo what has already been done.
Get over it – they say? But how can I? My heart has had a sledgehammer taken to it and it lies in a million pieces. You have to Love like you never loved before – they say…… But I hate this phrase, if an individual has a heart attack are they going to eat and live like they never had a heart attack before? No they are going to adapt, be more cautious when symptoms arise and modify their eating habits and lifestyle.
So yes I have pondered whether to take the same approach in this game of life/love; I know the game now I’m a wily vet there is no “wow I finally made it” rookie feelings anymore. I’ve learned that the things I assumed could never ever happen to me can and did happen. I’ve learned that you can be the most moral person with the highest character, loyal, humble, honest, being funny and you’ll still take blows and beatings you don’t deserve – how do I know because I’m that man. So no longer will I be caught being oblivious anymore. I’m wiser now. Maybe I’m melancholic, I don’t know.
All I know is how I feel at the moment, that my experiences have shaped my views. I miss when a woman would tell me she was busy, and I would actually believe her. When she would tell me she loves me and I would actually believe her. When she got distant and cold and I was so gullible to not pick up the signs, when I could express how I felt without worrying about any ramifications.
Now the cataracts have been removed and I see everything clearly now. I already know how it’s going to go – the illusion sold early on to get me to fall, the men orbiting around her hidden from my view, and I know she’s only infatuated with me and once it expires what will happen next. I don’t want to be this way, I don’t want to be cold and jaded – I don’t want to live a life of an old war vet getting triggers and always looking over my shoulder wondering what’s around the corner. I want to live a life with honesty and without fear and I want to live it now.
Youseenmywork
KING
Mr Hate Coffee
Veteran
I have a first date with a chick from Coffee Meets Bagel tomorrow. She's really fine and seems like a cool chick via the phone.
But this whole process made me realize that women have no idea how much pressure a man is under during the initial stages of courting.
This is also why I think women get screwed later on. When the tables turn and dudes have a lot of options we tend to be like, "fukk all that. You can come to the crib and we can watch a movie. Take it or leave it."
But as always, for women, their currency is their attractiveness. And because she is fine as fukk I'm willing to court her... for now. In this situation I have high currency too. I'm a tall, handsome, black male with multiple degrees, etc. You know, the shyt that women care about. This allows us to meet on an even plane. Hopefully we can get past the bullshyt and get to know each other tho. If she turns out to be cool I'll let her plan the next date to bring balance to the early dating experience.
As far as what we're doing, we're literally going to a FREE art exhibit in the park. She seems super excited. I'm excited as well, I actually look forward to meeting chicks that I can build with. 
But this whole process made me realize that women have no idea how much pressure a man is under during the initial stages of courting.
- We have to do the reaching out... either blind asking for a number or initiating messages via dating apps.
- We have to plan a balanced date. Something cool enough to show interest but not overly expensive (for yourself) and not too cheap (for them)
- We really have to work the phone game. Sending texts and calling to keep them interested. The flake percentage before the first meet is super high.
This is also why I think women get screwed later on. When the tables turn and dudes have a lot of options we tend to be like, "fukk all that. You can come to the crib and we can watch a movie. Take it or leave it."
But as always, for women, their currency is their attractiveness. And because she is fine as fukk I'm willing to court her... for now. In this situation I have high currency too. I'm a tall, handsome, black male with multiple degrees, etc. You know, the shyt that women care about. This allows us to meet on an even plane. Hopefully we can get past the bullshyt and get to know each other tho. If she turns out to be cool I'll let her plan the next date to bring balance to the early dating experience.
As far as what we're doing, we're literally going to a FREE art exhibit in the park.
She seems super excited. I'm excited as well, I actually look forward to meeting chicks that I can build with.