Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

"Experience is the best teacher, but the tuition is expensive"
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Here's some thoughts to always heep in mind-
I survived before you
I'll survive with you
I'll survive after you

Ler her know that ANYTIME she wants to leave, she can. *The same goes for you. *If you are NOT getting a good deal in a relationship, then just walk away. *If she complains that you seem cold, heartless and distant, remind her that she's NOT a puppetmaster and that YOU, not HER, control what happens with YOUR life.

Take a look around you-see the things you put aside to deal with someone who seems to either jerk you around or have NO respect for you. *They're still there, right? *Now's the time to DO something, use the energy you spent trying to impress this "future cat farmer" and improve yourself. *No longer waste your time and aenergy on a pointless task, like winning the heart of a woman., focus on YOU, Inc. *YOU, not her, nor ANY like minded clone, can make you happy or make you feel like a man-that comes from within.

whether I have you or anyone like you, my bills still need to be paid, I still have to survive
and I am still a man-you'll never have or destroy that part of me-the part that makes me a MAN.
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. *Keep your defense up, ALWAYS pay attention to little seeds of doubt and NEVER THINK she is different. *NEVER go by looks or impressions, go by ACTIONS and RESULTS. *The world teaches us that looking professional or clean and nice will make us BE professional and that people are more willing to judge by someone who LOOKS good than someone that can get the job done. *Yet how many people have robbed others of all their assets who smiled in their faces and wore good clothing and had perfect hair, to give an example. *Did they say- "well, my life's savings are gone, I'm bankrupt, but BOY were his teeth white and hair perfectly combed/her body shapely and her voice alluring" *Not too many.

A slap or a punch, the pain eventually fades; when dealing with an emotional terrorist the pain hurts worse, for it's more mental. *You've created a synapse for that person in your brain

the synapse that inspired joy for that person is now receiving different messages
happiness turns to rage
joy turns to regret
and rejection turns to revenge.

Let it go. *There are 3 billion other women out there and she is but a pebble that you just shook out of your shoe and left there to go it's own way. *Stand strong and remember the wisdom

 

[sixsixtwo]

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b4gGz3jT7Pw&feature=g-all-u"]Woman Spat On By White Dude Update! - YouTube[/ame]

 

[sixsixtwo]

"My fiancee (female, 26) and I (male, 31) have been engaged for six months but have been together for four years. We're starting to get serious about setting a date and have begun looking at venues for the ceremony/reception. On Saturday, while debating the pros and cons of several places, she abruptly became very serious and said to me: "There's something I need to tell you."

No good conversation ever starts out with that phrase.

I already knew a lot about her tumultuous past: she came from an abusive home, dropped out of high school when she was 16 and supported herself by stripping at a very shady club (yes, they knew she was underage and no, they did not care). She got heavily into drugs, heroin specifically, before getting arrested for possession. Instead of sentencing her to prison she was ordered to complete a treatment program, which she did. She got clean, easily received her GED, and then went to college. We met when she was starting her first year at a very respectable state college after receiving her Associate's Degree at a community college.

What she had never told me before this weekend is that in addition to stripping she was also a prostitute between the ages of sixteen and twenty-three. Yes, even when she was in treatment she was prostituting herself. And yes, for roughly the first year we were together she was still having sex for money without my knowledge."

More: My fiancee recently confessed that she used to be a prostitute and that she was still "working" when we started dating. Is it right to feel so betrayed and angry right now? : relationships

 

[MikelArteta]

So check out these rules, some of them are mine, some of them I stole shamelessly from someone else.**But if you like them, and you want to change how the game is played you might want to play by these rules and encourage others to do so.

RULE 1:**You are the prize, she must work for you.
Reason:**Because in this day and age not only are you bringing down income, you are the one who has built his own empire: a nice car, house, good reputation. You are also trained how to handle the domestic side of things i.e cooking, cleaning.... because most "liberated" women no longer do this and don't know how.**So in the end what does she offer other than sex which you can get from any woman?**See right there you are the prize not her.

RULE 2:**You make the rules.
Reason:**Its not your job to jump through hops, you work for a living, you have friends, you simply just have better things to do.**Speaking of better things to do, being the one that sets the rules for wheither or not a woman gets to date you or keep dating you helps you weed out the losers.**Because you simply have better things to do.

RULE 3:**Always use a condom.
Reason:**There are plently of women out there with "baby rabbies."**Just as there are plenty of women out there who forget to take their pill or simply lie about it.**Do you want an 18+ prison sentence and pay support after raising the kid?**No?**Then wrap your shyt up.**Also dispose of that condom just in case she has any ideas for that sperm.

RULE 4:**Spend No More Than $60 On A Date
Reason:**The more you spend does not translate into you getting laid.**If you want to spend money getting laid, get a prostitute and if you do that you better spend more than 60 dollars and wrap it up tight.

RULE 5:**Date More Than One Woman.
Reason:**Just because you two go on a date doesn't mean you are going steady.**Trust me she is dating more than one guy when she is with you.

RULE 6:**Never Say "I Love You."
Reason:**She is your date not your wife.**The longer you hold off saying "I Love You" the more she will die to hear it.**Hold off just long enough one of two things will happen: 1.**She will leave because she can't win the game of making you say it when you probably don't really mean it.**2.**When you do say it, it will mean so much to hear you say it her will to act like typical skank will be broken, as long as you don't shower her with "I Love Yous."

RULE 7:**THE FIRST DATE IS HER FIRST INTERVIEW.
Reason:**You are using the first date to find out wheither or not she is a loser.**If you can get this done on the first date you will save yourself not just heartache, but money and time, which you can later use on the stuff you want to do.**

RULE 8:**IF YOU ARE PAYING YOU CALL THE SHOTS FOR THE DATE.
Reason:**Its your money, you control the time, the place, the day and what you do.**Remember it was she that wanted to hang out with you in the first place, and if she doesn't like what you do for fun how can she ever like you?

RULE 9:**There Are No Second Chances.
Reason:**She won't give you any.**She is old enough to know that she needs to bring her A game on a date.**We are talking the total package, manners, sense of humor, up beat attitude, conversation skills and sense of adventure.**If she seems "off" that night, you call it off.**She should know better than to half ass a date.

RULE 10:**YOU WILL NOT ALLOW HER TO "TEST" YOU.
Reason:**You are not some social science project to see just how far you will go to make an ass out of yourself for her.

RULE 11:**FORGET EVERYTHING YOU THINK YOU KNOW ABOUT DATING AND LOVE.
Reason:**Because TV and your parents lied to you.**When someone starts giving you the hollywood version of romance I want you to picture in your head a football stadium of people chanting OVER-RATED!

RULE 12:**Trust Your Closest Friends.
Reason:**If they think see is a bytch and you can't figure out why they are seeing something you can't.**Trust me women do this all the time.

RULE 13:**If You Are Under 30 The Words "Long Term Relationship" Do Not Belong In Your Love Life.
Reason:**You are young, go out and have fun.**Don't worry most women won't be mentally prepared to be mothers and wives until age 35.**Then again there a plenty of women that will never be ready.

RULE 14: No Weekend Dates, No Lunch Dates, No Double Dates.
Reason:**You are in demand, the less she has of you the more she will want.**Lunch dates and double dates are meant to be harmless which will land you in the friends catogory.

RULE 15:**You Are An a$$hole.
Reason:**a$$hole's get laid, nice guy's get to hear about a$$holes getting laid.

RULE 16:**THE WORD "NEXT" SHALL BE IN YOUR DATING VOCABULARY.
Reason:**She tries to test you= Next.**She tries to make you jealous by dating other guys= Next slut.**She only likes expensive dates= Next you gold digger.**The point is when she turns out to be a dud she's fired.**Or as Grounds Keeper Willie best put it "Back to the Loch with you Nessie!"

RULE 17:**Don't Buy Her Drinks, Gifts, Clothes.
Reason:**She is not your wife let her pay your own way.

RULE 18:**CHIVALRY IS DEAD WE ARE ALL EQUALS.
Reason:**Feminists killed this idea, so we are all equals which means no special treatment.

RULE 19:**ANY WOMAN IS REPLACALBE.
Reason:**Date enough women and you will see they pretty much are the same.**Why do you think guys keep getting reminded of their ex's even when they are dating a new girl.

RULE 20:** Exchanging Phone Numbers.
Reason:**You get hers, she doesn't get yours.

RULE 21: YOU CALL ONCE ONLY ONCE.
Reason:**If she really wants to hang out with you she will call.

RULE 22:**YOU DO NOT DATE IN ORDER TO VALIDATE YOUR EXSISTANCE OR BECAUSE YOUR FRIENDS ALL HAVE WOMEN.
Reason: You do it because it makes you happy, when it stops making you happy then you stop dating.

RULE 23:**When Your Level Of Importance To Her Drops, You Drop Her.
Reason:**You shouldn't play second fiddle to her phone, sororiety, friends or other guys.

RULE 24:**WHEN YOU BREAK UP, YOU BURN ALL BRIDGES.
Reason:**You are not going to have that awkward ex girl friend that fukks up your game by throwing you signs you might get back together.**It will only fukk up your ability to be happy in the future.

RULE 25:**DATE SOMEONE YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT.
Reason:**When you break up, which you will, you will experience what it is like to break up so when the real thing happens you can bounce back.

RULE 26:**AFTER A BAD BREAK UP fukk 5 WOMEN.
Reason:**Trust me you will feel a lot better afterward.

RULE 27:**DATING SHOULD NEVER DISTRACT YOU.
Reason:**You have goals, a job, friends and hobbies and a life to live.**This shouldn't derail you from doing that.

RULE 28:**BE YOURSELF.
Reason:**Your personal image is what should attract women.**Plus at some point you will have to look yourself in the mirror.

RULE 29:** Tolerate Only Proper Behavior.
Reason:**Just like you have to potty train a puppy, you have train most women to act like the one you want.

RULE 30:**One Night Stands should be the norm.
Reason:**Most women are absolutely undateable, not unfukkable.

RULE 31:**YOU ARE NOT BOB VILLA.
Reason:**You do not take on fixer uppers, you want to drive a porsche you get one in mint condition.

RULE 32:**HER FRIENDS HAVE NO SAY IN YOUR DATING, fukkING, OR RELATIONSHIP.
Reason:**If she likes her friends ideas, she can date her friends.

RULE 33:**RESPECT IS EVERYTHING.
Reason:**IF SHE DOESN'T RESPECT YOU, SHE WILL NEVER fukk YOU, LET ALONE DATE YOU OR WANT YOU.**She has to be respectfull of you and earn your respect.

RULE 34:**TRUST MUST BE EARNED.
Reason:**Not all of them are good people.**We only get burned by those we give the keys to the city up front.

RULE 35:**The Only Way Rules Work Is If You Are Willing To Follow Them And Encourage Them.
Reason:**We links ruin it for everyone, and if you start breaking down you will ruin dating, sex and relationship for yourself just like the feminists and skanks have.

 

[MikelArteta]

In Greek there are 3 words for love: Eros, Philos, and Agape.**From the word Eros, we get our English word "erotic," which gives you some sense of what is meant.**Eros is the word the Greeks gave to the feeling that came upon a person quickly, that could influence a person to make poor decisions.**It is a powerful thing.**An English phrase that tries to "get at" the meaning is "She really turned that poor guy's head."**But eros is not just "raging hormones" or simple horniness.**It is actually the sense of being "in love."**Think of when a woman says, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."**As frustrating as this is to the hearer, what she's saying is that she's experiencing a deficiency of eros toward you.**Eros can start quickly, and burn out just as rapidly.**It is no coincidence that in Greek mythology, Eros (also known as Cupid by the Romans) is depicted as an archer.**The arrow that causes eros strikes quickly and without warning.

The other two type of love in the Greek understanding are what I call "familial love," since they can best be explained in terms of familial relationship.**The first, Philos (or philia) is what is commonly called "brotherly love."**Philadelphia - the "City of Brotherly Love" - gets its name from Philos + Adelphoi, love + brothers.**Philos is the sense of easy-ness in another's company.**Have you ever sat with someone in complete silence - on a car trip, perhaps?**With a stranger, this silence becomes strained.**We start to feel a need for something to fill in the gaps in converation.**But with a very good friend, this need doesn't exist.**We are comfortable just "being with" the other.**That's philos.**It is acceptance, it is trust.**If you want to see the highest example of philos that I can think of, look at a 12 year old boy with his best friend.**

The last type of love is agape.**This is the hardest one to define, because its meaning has changed a lot over time.**Plato used the word to explain the allegience that one owes to members of one's own class.**And so it does have the sense of comradeship and loyalty.**It is also a word that seems to describe the relationships within a family that isn't covered by philos.**The writer of the Gospel of John seemed to use the word interchangeably with philos.**However, later Christians used the word in the sense of "self-sacrificing love," to try to "get at" the love Jesus showed.

Paul used agape to explain the love a husband needs to feel for his wife.**This is a concern for the good of another that is equal to one's concern for his own good.**As "head of" his wife, Paul instructs husbands, a man should care for her as much as he cares for his own body.**I think this is the definition that we should use: to care for another as if they were ourselves.**Because it seems to me that agape is the word that describes the love that exists (or should exist) between family members.**In a poignant example, I'd use the word to describe the love that a mother has for her child.**A mother will, quite naturally, see her child as actually being her own body.

 

[MikelArteta]

"My fiancee (female, 26) and I (male, 31) have been engaged for six months but have been together for four years. We're starting to get serious about setting a date and have begun looking at venues for the ceremony/reception. On Saturday, while debating the pros and cons of several places, she abruptly became very serious and said to me: "There's something I need to tell you."

No good conversation ever starts out with that phrase.

I already knew a lot about her tumultuous past: she came from an abusive home, dropped out of high school when she was 16 and supported herself by stripping at a very shady club (yes, they knew she was underage and no, they did not care). She got heavily into drugs, heroin specifically, before getting arrested for possession. Instead of sentencing her to prison she was ordered to complete a treatment program, which she did. She got clean, easily received her GED, and then went to college. We met when she was starting her first year at a very respectable state college after receiving her Associate's Degree at a community college.

What she had never told me before this weekend is that in addition to stripping she was also a prostitute between the ages of sixteen and twenty-three. Yes, even when she was in treatment she was prostituting herself. And yes, for roughly the first year we were together she was still having sex for money without my knowledge."

More: My fiancee recently confessed that she used to be a prostitute and that she was still "working" when we started dating. Is it right to feel so betrayed and angry right now? : relationships

Smh at this simp, had all thaw red flags but decided to look the other way

 

[Steve Piffler]

 

[ineedsleep212]

Just reading this thread feels therapeutic. I end up leaving the thread like and finally .

 

[Steve Piffler]

This is helping a nikka out tremendously. i been outta the game for a hot lil minute, so this is preparing me for the swan dive back into the dating scene....

My question for the panel is: how do you let go completely? i know that my marriage is over and I need to skate, but my mind is always telling me that i should try to work it out. but there is CLEARLY nothing left to work out. we still live in the same house, so it's hard to move on and see her face/interact with her everyday. what do i do?

 

[sixsixtwo]

To any dudes reading this thread that are thinking about getting married, I strongly suggest you read a book called "Women's Infidelity" by Michelle Langley..

It might change your mind before you walk the plank..

 

[sixsixtwo]

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TxUGDcZJutE&feature=relmfu"]FEMINIST HYPOCRISY 3 - OUR WOMEN ARE NO LONGER ALLIES - YouTube[/ame]

 

[sixsixtwo]

This is helping a nikka out tremendously. i been outta the game for a hot lil minute, so this is preparing me for the swan dive back into the dating scene....

My question for the panel is: how do you let go completely? i know that my marriage is over and I need to skate, but my mind is always telling me that i should try to work it out. but there is CLEARLY nothing left to work out. we still live in the same house, so it's hard to move on and see her face/interact with her everyday. what do i do?

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[kevm3]

This is helping a nikka out tremendously. i been outta the game for a hot lil minute, so this is preparing me for the swan dive back into the dating scene....

My question for the panel is: how do you let go completely? i know that my marriage is over and I need to skate, but my mind is always telling me that i should try to work it out. but there is CLEARLY nothing left to work out. we still live in the same house, so it's hard to move on and see her face/interact with her everyday. what do i do?

THe key to moving on is to come to certain realizations... The primary realization is to KNOW that when a woman has moved on and checked out, there's no going back. As we know, women deal in the realm of EMOTION first and foremost. If her feelings for you are gone, she's ice cold. You ever notice how when women deal with some of these loser type dudes, they do her wrong, but she's emotional and still trying her best to work it out despite them treating her bad? What that says is that when a woman has feelings for you she WILL make an attempt to work it out. If she doesn't have those feelings and is exhibiting that cold, nonchalant behavior, you just have to keep it pushing.

When a woman loses her passion for you, attempting to rekindle the fire will do little more than perhaps give you a glimmer of hope for a short time before you eventually come to the realization that you still do have to move on. To move on you simply have to realize that you are accustomed to her company and not necessarily 'in love' with her. It's that feeling of dependency we get that comes from familiarity. If you wore a headband on your head everyday for a year, removing it would start to feel strange. There's not anything there emotionally between you two in terms of love, but you've grown accustomed to having her company and having it removed will feel strange. Although it will feel strange being on your own at first, you will ultimately realize that it was for the better when the haze that is currently surrounding you starts to lift. You will eventually say, "Why was I dealing with that? It's nice now to actually have the ability to be around someone that appreciates me." Knowing it is a process will help you move on.

 

[Wild self]

Reincar has his pimp hand hard as hell with this advice. You don't need to be a full blown a$$hole, but you need to have humor and a$$hole tendencies to get bytches. Always be direct with you intentions with a chick and reveal as little as possible with these women.

 

[MikelArteta]

This is helping a nikka out tremendously. i been outta the game for a hot lil minute, so this is preparing me for the swan dive back into the dating scene....

My question for the panel is: how do you let go completely? i know that my marriage is over and I need to skate, but my mind is always telling me that i should try to work it out. but there is CLEARLY nothing left to work out. we still live in the same house, so it's hard to move on and see her face/interact with her everyday. what do i do?

just envision your ex is out there not thinking of you hving a great time, canoodling and cavorting with others, talking to new guys and telling them how horrible of a ex you were. that she has no feelings for you and you are hte last guy on earth she would ever want to be with at this point.


when a woman loses feelings for you its done its over, right now your just a friend to her, seeing her everyday and interacting makes things harder, i have a ex that lives on my street, even if you hurting inside be non chalant, when ou talk dont talk about "us", if it has nothing to do with the kids or bills say nothing.

this is when it gets tricky when women tell you suddenly dont care and slowly detaching away, she may start to act nice, give you a blow job or sex, to draw you back in and if you fall for it, you will be thinking those thoughts hey maybe we can work it out again, only to be hit the it was just a mistake, i still love you steve just not like that

the key is to be a step ahead, you kno in your mind shes prob out screwing around or talking to otehr guys, so why stay grounded? throw your pic on a dating site, go to a bar come home late, its none of her business what you do,