Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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"Experience is the best teacher, but the tuition is expensive"
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Here's some thoughts to always heep in mind-
I survived before you
I'll survive with you
I'll survive after you
Ler her know that ANYTIME she wants to leave, she can. *The same goes for you. *If you are NOT getting a good deal in a relationship, then just walk away. *If she complains that you seem cold, heartless and distant, remind her that she's NOT a puppetmaster and that YOU, not HER, control what happens with YOUR life.
Take a look around you-see the things you put aside to deal with someone who seems to either jerk you around or have NO respect for you. *They're still there, right? *Now's the time to DO something, use the energy you spent trying to impress this "future cat farmer" and improve yourself. *No longer waste your time and aenergy on a pointless task, like winning the heart of a woman., focus on YOU, Inc. *YOU, not her, nor ANY like minded clone, can make you happy or make you feel like a man-that comes from within.
whether I have you or anyone like you, my bills still need to be paid, I still have to survive
and I am still a man-you'll never have or destroy that part of me-the part that makes me a MAN.
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. *Keep your defense up, ALWAYS pay attention to little seeds of doubt and NEVER THINK she is different. *NEVER go by looks or impressions, go by ACTIONS and RESULTS. *The world teaches us that looking professional or clean and nice will make us BE professional and that people are more willing to judge by someone who LOOKS good than someone that can get the job done. *Yet how many people have robbed others of all their assets who smiled in their faces and wore good clothing and had perfect hair, to give an example. *Did they say- "well, my life's savings are gone, I'm bankrupt, but BOY were his teeth white and hair perfectly combed/her body shapely and her voice alluring" *Not too many.
A slap or a punch, the pain eventually fades; when dealing with an emotional terrorist the pain hurts worse, for it's more mental. *You've created a synapse for that person in your brain
the synapse that inspired joy for that person is now receiving different messages
happiness turns to rage
joy turns to regret
and rejection turns to revenge.
Let it go. *There are 3 billion other women out there and she is but a pebble that you just shook out of your shoe and left there to go it's own way. *Stand strong and remember the wisdom
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Here's some thoughts to always heep in mind-
I survived before you
I'll survive with you
I'll survive after you
Ler her know that ANYTIME she wants to leave, she can. *The same goes for you. *If you are NOT getting a good deal in a relationship, then just walk away. *If she complains that you seem cold, heartless and distant, remind her that she's NOT a puppetmaster and that YOU, not HER, control what happens with YOUR life.
Take a look around you-see the things you put aside to deal with someone who seems to either jerk you around or have NO respect for you. *They're still there, right? *Now's the time to DO something, use the energy you spent trying to impress this "future cat farmer" and improve yourself. *No longer waste your time and aenergy on a pointless task, like winning the heart of a woman., focus on YOU, Inc. *YOU, not her, nor ANY like minded clone, can make you happy or make you feel like a man-that comes from within.
whether I have you or anyone like you, my bills still need to be paid, I still have to survive
and I am still a man-you'll never have or destroy that part of me-the part that makes me a MAN.
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. *Keep your defense up, ALWAYS pay attention to little seeds of doubt and NEVER THINK she is different. *NEVER go by looks or impressions, go by ACTIONS and RESULTS. *The world teaches us that looking professional or clean and nice will make us BE professional and that people are more willing to judge by someone who LOOKS good than someone that can get the job done. *Yet how many people have robbed others of all their assets who smiled in their faces and wore good clothing and had perfect hair, to give an example. *Did they say- "well, my life's savings are gone, I'm bankrupt, but BOY were his teeth white and hair perfectly combed/her body shapely and her voice alluring" *Not too many.
A slap or a punch, the pain eventually fades; when dealing with an emotional terrorist the pain hurts worse, for it's more mental. *You've created a synapse for that person in your brain
the synapse that inspired joy for that person is now receiving different messages
happiness turns to rage
joy turns to regret
and rejection turns to revenge.
Let it go. *There are 3 billion other women out there and she is but a pebble that you just shook out of your shoe and left there to go it's own way. *Stand strong and remember the wisdom
"My fiancee (female, 26) and I (male, 31) have been engaged for six months but have been together for four years. We're starting to get serious about setting a date and have begun looking at venues for the ceremony/reception. On Saturday, while debating the pros and cons of several places, she abruptly became very serious and said to me: "There's something I need to tell you."
No good conversation ever starts out with that phrase.
I already knew a lot about her tumultuous past: she came from an abusive home, dropped out of high school when she was 16 and supported herself by stripping at a very shady club (yes, they knew she was underage and no, they did not care). She got heavily into drugs, heroin specifically, before getting arrested for possession. Instead of sentencing her to prison she was ordered to complete a treatment program, which she did. She got clean, easily received her GED, and then went to college. We met when she was starting her first year at a very respectable state college after receiving her Associate's Degree at a community college.
What she had never told me before this weekend is that in addition to stripping she was also a prostitute between the ages of sixteen and twenty-three. Yes, even when she was in treatment she was prostituting herself. And yes, for roughly the first year we were together she was still having sex for money without my knowledge."
More: My fiancee recently confessed that she used to be a prostitute and that she was still "working" when we started dating. Is it right to feel so betrayed and angry right now? : relationships
No good conversation ever starts out with that phrase.
I already knew a lot about her tumultuous past: she came from an abusive home, dropped out of high school when she was 16 and supported herself by stripping at a very shady club (yes, they knew she was underage and no, they did not care). She got heavily into drugs, heroin specifically, before getting arrested for possession. Instead of sentencing her to prison she was ordered to complete a treatment program, which she did. She got clean, easily received her GED, and then went to college. We met when she was starting her first year at a very respectable state college after receiving her Associate's Degree at a community college.
What she had never told me before this weekend is that in addition to stripping she was also a prostitute between the ages of sixteen and twenty-three. Yes, even when she was in treatment she was prostituting herself. And yes, for roughly the first year we were together she was still having sex for money without my knowledge."
More: My fiancee recently confessed that she used to be a prostitute and that she was still "working" when we started dating. Is it right to feel so betrayed and angry right now? : relationships
In Greek there are 3 words for love: Eros, Philos, and Agape.**From the word Eros, we get our English word "erotic," which gives you some sense of what is meant.**Eros is the word the Greeks gave to the feeling that came upon a person quickly, that could influence a person to make poor decisions.**It is a powerful thing.**An English phrase that tries to "get at" the meaning is "She really turned that poor guy's head."**But eros is not just "raging hormones" or simple horniness.**It is actually the sense of being "in love."**Think of when a woman says, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."**As frustrating as this is to the hearer, what she's saying is that she's experiencing a deficiency of eros toward you.**Eros can start quickly, and burn out just as rapidly.**It is no coincidence that in Greek mythology, Eros (also known as Cupid by the Romans) is depicted as an archer.**The arrow that causes eros strikes quickly and without warning.
The other two type of love in the Greek understanding are what I call "familial love," since they can best be explained in terms of familial relationship.**The first, Philos (or philia) is what is commonly called "brotherly love."**Philadelphia - the "City of Brotherly Love" - gets its name from Philos + Adelphoi, love + brothers.**Philos is the sense of easy-ness in another's company.**Have you ever sat with someone in complete silence - on a car trip, perhaps?**With a stranger, this silence becomes strained.**We start to feel a need for something to fill in the gaps in converation.**But with a very good friend, this need doesn't exist.**We are comfortable just "being with" the other.**That's philos.**It is acceptance, it is trust.**If you want to see the highest example of philos that I can think of, look at a 12 year old boy with his best friend.**
The last type of love is agape.**This is the hardest one to define, because its meaning has changed a lot over time.**Plato used the word to explain the allegience that one owes to members of one's own class.**And so it does have the sense of comradeship and loyalty.**It is also a word that seems to describe the relationships within a family that isn't covered by philos.**The writer of the Gospel of John seemed to use the word interchangeably with philos.**However, later Christians used the word in the sense of "self-sacrificing love," to try to "get at" the love Jesus showed.
Paul used agape to explain the love a husband needs to feel for his wife.**This is a concern for the good of another that is equal to one's concern for his own good.**As "head of" his wife, Paul instructs husbands, a man should care for her as much as he cares for his own body.**I think this is the definition that we should use: to care for another as if they were ourselves.**Because it seems to me that agape is the word that describes the love that exists (or should exist) between family members.**In a poignant example, I'd use the word to describe the love that a mother has for her child.**A mother will, quite naturally, see her child as actually being her own body.
The other two type of love in the Greek understanding are what I call "familial love," since they can best be explained in terms of familial relationship.**The first, Philos (or philia) is what is commonly called "brotherly love."**Philadelphia - the "City of Brotherly Love" - gets its name from Philos + Adelphoi, love + brothers.**Philos is the sense of easy-ness in another's company.**Have you ever sat with someone in complete silence - on a car trip, perhaps?**With a stranger, this silence becomes strained.**We start to feel a need for something to fill in the gaps in converation.**But with a very good friend, this need doesn't exist.**We are comfortable just "being with" the other.**That's philos.**It is acceptance, it is trust.**If you want to see the highest example of philos that I can think of, look at a 12 year old boy with his best friend.**
The last type of love is agape.**This is the hardest one to define, because its meaning has changed a lot over time.**Plato used the word to explain the allegience that one owes to members of one's own class.**And so it does have the sense of comradeship and loyalty.**It is also a word that seems to describe the relationships within a family that isn't covered by philos.**The writer of the Gospel of John seemed to use the word interchangeably with philos.**However, later Christians used the word in the sense of "self-sacrificing love," to try to "get at" the love Jesus showed.
Paul used agape to explain the love a husband needs to feel for his wife.**This is a concern for the good of another that is equal to one's concern for his own good.**As "head of" his wife, Paul instructs husbands, a man should care for her as much as he cares for his own body.**I think this is the definition that we should use: to care for another as if they were ourselves.**Because it seems to me that agape is the word that describes the love that exists (or should exist) between family members.**In a poignant example, I'd use the word to describe the love that a mother has for her child.**A mother will, quite naturally, see her child as actually being her own body.
Smh at this simp, had all thaw red flags but decided to look the other way
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Steve Piffler
I got them CERTS
This is helping a nikka out tremendously. i been outta the game for a hot lil minute, so this is preparing me for the swan dive back into the dating scene....
My question for the panel is: how do you let go completely? i know that my marriage is over and I need to skate, but my mind is always telling me that i should try to work it out. but there is CLEARLY nothing left to work out. we still live in the same house, so it's hard to move on and see her face/interact with her everyday. what do i do?
My question for the panel is: how do you let go completely? i know that my marriage is over and I need to skate, but my mind is always telling me that i should try to work it out. but there is CLEARLY nothing left to work out. we still live in the same house, so it's hard to move on and see her face/interact with her everyday. what do i do?
This is helping a nikka out tremendously. i been outta the game for a hot lil minute, so this is preparing me for the swan dive back into the dating scene....
My question for the panel is: how do you let go completely? i know that my marriage is over and I need to skate, but my mind is always telling me that i should try to work it out. but there is CLEARLY nothing left to work out. we still live in the same house, so it's hard to move on and see her face/interact with her everyday. what do i do?
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This is helping a nikka out tremendously. i been outta the game for a hot lil minute, so this is preparing me for the swan dive back into the dating scene....
My question for the panel is: how do you let go completely? i know that my marriage is over and I need to skate, but my mind is always telling me that i should try to work it out. but there is CLEARLY nothing left to work out. we still live in the same house, so it's hard to move on and see her face/interact with her everyday. what do i do?
THe key to moving on is to come to certain realizations... The primary realization is to KNOW that when a woman has moved on and checked out, there's no going back. As we know, women deal in the realm of EMOTION first and foremost. If her feelings for you are gone, she's ice cold. You ever notice how when women deal with some of these loser type dudes, they do her wrong, but she's emotional and still trying her best to work it out despite them treating her bad? What that says is that when a woman has feelings for you she WILL make an attempt to work it out. If she doesn't have those feelings and is exhibiting that cold, nonchalant behavior, you just have to keep it pushing.
When a woman loses her passion for you, attempting to rekindle the fire will do little more than perhaps give you a glimmer of hope for a short time before you eventually come to the realization that you still do have to move on. To move on you simply have to realize that you are accustomed to her company and not necessarily 'in love' with her. It's that feeling of dependency we get that comes from familiarity. If you wore a headband on your head everyday for a year, removing it would start to feel strange. There's not anything there emotionally between you two in terms of love, but you've grown accustomed to having her company and having it removed will feel strange. Although it will feel strange being on your own at first, you will ultimately realize that it was for the better when the haze that is currently surrounding you starts to lift. You will eventually say, "Why was I dealing with that? It's nice now to actually have the ability to be around someone that appreciates me." Knowing it is a process will help you move on.
Reincar has his pimp hand hard as hell with this advice. You don't need to be a full blown a$$hole, but you need to have humor and a$$hole tendencies to get bytches. Always be direct with you intentions with a chick and reveal as little as possible with these women.