The Friendzone Theory
The common narrative about the Friendzone is "a$$holes get the girls and nice guys finish last."
I have realized how untrue that is. Those a$$holes aren't really a$$holes and those nice guys are actually simps.
There's a difference between just being friends with a woman and being in the Friendzone.
First, The "a$$holes"
9/10 it's the guys who get stuck in the Friendzone who call the guys who get the girl, a$$holes. In reality they aren't a$$holes they're just confident men who know what they want and have standards. When a man refuses to settle for just any woman it's impossible for him to be a simp, which means it's also impossible for him to be put in the Friendzone. If you as a woman ain't shyt, don't expect this man to cater to you and fawn over you just because you have a vagina. For a confident man, "p*ssy is only p*ssy and he gets it when he needs it." That drives most women crazy. A lot of women love a man who acts as if they are not the world & sun and can do just fine without them, but at the same time shows some interest. Simps/nice guys don't understand that because they are used to dropping everything for a woman etc... So to them that confident man is an "a$$hole."
The "Nice Guys"
In reality "Nice Guys" aren't as nice as they think they are. Most of these simps will jump into a relationship w/any woman who presents one. These are the guys who send mass "sweet" texts/msgs to multiple women waiting to see who will bite. Women are not stupid and they can recognize this.
It's just like a guy never officially making a hoe his wifey. As men we know if you are easily giving up the goods there is a high possibility you are letting a bunch of other guys hit it. All we will use you for is consistent sex and as soon as we actually find a girl there is a good chance we will drop you.
Same thing goes for women. When they see a simp/"nice guy" giving up the goods and doing whatever for her she will realize that you are probably doing this for a bunch of other women. So yeah she will keep you around & sell you the dream for her benefit. She knows you will drop everything and come help her fix her car, or buy her food, or listen to all of her bullshyt problems. You are at her mercy and have given up all your power just to get her valueless p*ssy. So she drops you in the Friendzone and as soon as she gets a confident man, you are cut off from her.
Women love to have their cake and eat it too, so when they aren't with a man they still want to feel like they are with a man without the commitment. Cue the simp/"Nice Guy".
3 Ways To Avoid The Friendzone
- Be Confident
Show her you're not stopping your life just to make her feel good. Don't be afraid to tell her NO and that you have other important things in your life.
- Don't Reply
Stop replying to all of her texts/msgs in under 30 seconds. Sometimes don't even reply at all. Don't answer every call. She is still going to be there tomorrow so stop acting like if you ignore her the world will end.
- Make a Move
If you are feeling her, at some point you're going to have to show her. Kiss her, touch her sexually or something. A lot of times girls Friendzone dudes because they take too long. Like I said before, don't be thirsty and profess your feelings and shyt like you're in a lame ass movie, but you gotta show some interest.