Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DanielAlfredsson]

how many texts did you send in the next 3 days?

women's minds are fickle like that. the fukked up thing is that maybe she wasn't even lying. she probably did feel like seeing you again that night at that specific moment. but maybe you sent her too many texts and she got turned off.

or maybe it has nothing to do with you. cause say she feels good about you on date night so she wants to see you again. but the next day, some other guy that she's feeling more asked her out (could be the guy she sees everyday at work, could be the guy she gave her number to a week ago, could be the cute buff guy at the gym) so now someone is offering something she perceives as better to her. could also be that ex she never got over that called her and fukked her and now she's feeling him.

who really knows. the point is, don't be thirsty, don't trust words over actions, remember they have fickle minds so don't even take it personal and always be ready to replace their ass.

I don't think I came off as thirsty. We were texting a lot before the first date. She'd hit me with the "good morning handsome " shyt all the time (not gonna lie, made a breh feel real good )

So we went out Friday, all the stuff I explained earlier happened. Next day "heya, hows your day goin?" "Fine", whatever I said next, no response from her. Rinse repeat three times lol over the next three days.

She just moved here a month ago, and SHE brought up that no other dudes are tryin to holla, but I guess I should know better than to take these broads are their word.

I'll chalk it up as an L and move on, nothin major, just that people can't be more upfront. If you ain't feelin me like that, cool.

Oh well, I'm kickin it with a cuter girl tomorrow night

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[PrnzHakeem]

I bash on Reincar's approach towards women alot but there is alot of good advice in this thread.

The comment about learning to be single/alone so you don't tolerate bullshyt from the women you're dating is true.

One thing I will say for the guys who are getting mixed messages or confusion from the actions or (lack thereof) of the women they're dating is that when it comes to dating and interacting with men:

Women do everything for a reason.

Give her the benefit of doubt once, but also realize whatever she did or didn't do was on purpose. If she aint call you back, its cuz she purposefully did not call you back/answer your texts etc. Women aren't like men who don't do shyt for no reason or out of absent mindedness.

If you ask a chick for a 2nd date, and she says that time is no good or she has a conflict (AND SHE DOESN'T OFFER AN ALTERNATIVE TIME OR DATE), She's not interested and leave it at that.

Women will make time and put in effort to hang out with the people they want to. If they're serious about wanting a "nice guy", they will date them.

If a chick says "you're too good to be true", believe her and leave her alone. Don't let her lowered expectations of what her mate should be, blind you to the fact that she will stick to whatever level of mate she is comfortable with...or she will sully your good values and try to bring you down to the level of mate she is comfortable with.

Anyways, despite all that there are good women out there. Me personally, I found one and tomorrow we celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary.

 

[The ADD]

Alright brehs, I dropped a little knowledge earlier as a divorced dude. Now I come seeking knowledge.

I dropped this one girl I work with after her blowing me off on a 'hang out' invite for the second time. Have to have scruples, not accept shabby behavior, all that good stuff.

So I subsequently started messing with this girl from an online dating site, and she's pretty chill. One thing is she's a teacher, and we started meeting up etc right in the middle of her exam period. So she's crazy busy and says we can catch up after the exams are done.

We've hung out twice, but I'm pretty sure she's dating other dudes. Which she can. We're certainly not exclusive at this early, early stage.

My thing is, though, I'm not dating any other broads. I'm interested in this girl. And I'm thinking all of this time she's busy working on exams, surely some of that time is dedicated to trial dates with other cats.

Am I antiquated in my thinking? Should I be chasing skeezers off on the side? I should mention this teacher and I, we text daily. We talk on the phone every other day. She got liquored and texted me saying she liked me. Things are positive.

And if I'm being honest, modern women being so wretched, I just don't have the energy or patience to pretend to like the ones I don't, when I genuinely quite like this one and want to smash for the right reasons (ie not out of a sick, desperate loneliness).

Thoughts?

I don't see the purpose of dating other chicks as purely a response to her potentially doing that. If you want to date around do it, if not don't. Trying to play the game and one up her situation is going to lead to more trouble than its worth especially since from what you have said there is no reason to think she is playing you at this point.

All of that said, if you aren't going to see other chicks you can't let her become so much of a focus that your mind gets messed up. Keep living your life and doing what you enjoy and any time you interact with her is just a single element of your overall life, not a huge portion until/if you both get to that point.

 

[Seth Brundle]

I don't see the purpose of dating other chicks as purely a response to her potentially doing that. If you want to date around do it, if not don't. Trying to play the game and one up her situation is going to lead to more trouble than its worth especially since from what you have said there is no reason to think she is playing you at this point.

All of that said, if you aren't going to see other chicks you can't let her become so much of a focus that your mind gets messed up. Keep living your life and doing what you enjoy and any time you interact with her is just a single element of your overall life, not a huge portion until/if you both get to that point.

 

[MikelArteta]

Women are the most dishonest creatures in the world brehs.

I went on a date with this chick, a kindergarten teacher. Went well, did all the right things. At the end of the night, she said "I had a really great time, thanks so much". I asked her if she was up for hanging out again, and she said absolutely. Cool. She gets home and is texting me all night. She brings up the second date. Alright, she's feelin me, that's cool, let's see where it goes.

Next three days, nothing lol. No responses to my texts. "How's your day goin?". Nothin lol.

It's fine if she doesn't wanna go out again, not like I caught feelings. But don't say you wanna go out again if you don't. I'm a grown man, don't play games. I can handle the truth.

These hoes man, these hoes.

Same thing happened to me.

Except it was after two dates, the thing is the second she starts making excuses or ignorin just delete the number and get on.


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[MikelArteta]

Women are the most dishonest creatures in the world brehs.

I went on a date with this chick, a kindergarten teacher. Went well, did all the right things. At the end of the night, she said "I had a really great time, thanks so much". I asked her if she was up for hanging out again, and she said absolutely. Cool. She gets home and is texting me all night. She brings up the second date. Alright, she's feelin me, that's cool, let's see where it goes.

Next three days, nothing lol. No responses to my texts. "How's your day goin?". Nothin lol.

It's fine if she doesn't wanna go out again, not like I caught feelings. But don't say you wanna go out again if you don't. I'm a grown man, don't play games. I can handle the truth.

These hoes man, these hoes.

Same thing happened to me.

Except it was after two dates, the thing is the second she starts making excuses or ignorin just delete the number and get on.

The thing that screws with your mind is now you think did I do something or say something



Nezt time you go out on a date don't text or call afterwards just go cold let her panic


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[Fatboi1]

Same thing happened to me.

Except it was after two dates, the thing is the second she starts making excuses or ignorin just delete the number and get on.

The thing that screws with your mind is now you think did I do something or say something



Nezt time you go out on a date don't text or call afterwards just go cold let her panic


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Word. Straight up go igloo on her hot ass. She probably ain't used to some shyt like that from a nikka. Man I can't wait to give this girl the when she try to talk. She probably gonna open her legs right then and there

 

[jadillac]

Alright brehs, I dropped a little knowledge earlier as a divorced dude. Now I come seeking knowledge.

I dropped this one girl I work with after her blowing me off on a 'hang out' invite for the second time. Have to have scruples, not accept shabby behavior, all that good stuff.

So I subsequently started messing with this girl from an online dating site, and she's pretty chill. One thing is she's a teacher, and we started meeting up etc right in the middle of her exam period. So she's crazy busy and says we can catch up after the exams are done.

We've hung out twice, but I'm pretty sure she's dating other dudes. Which she can. We're certainly not exclusive at this early, early stage.

My thing is, though, I'm not dating any other broads. I'm interested in this girl. And I'm thinking all of this time she's busy working on exams, surely some of that time is dedicated to trial dates with other cats.

Am I antiquated in my thinking? Should I be chasing skeezers off on the side? I should mention this teacher and I, we text daily. We talk on the phone every other day. She got liquored and texted me saying she liked me. Things are positive.

And if I'm being honest, modern women being so wretched, I just don't have the energy or patience to pretend to like the ones I don't, when I genuinely quite like this one and want to smash for the right reasons (ie not out of a sick, desperate loneliness).

Thoughts?

Sounds like what I JUST came out of

Met girl on POF, we texted everyday for over two months, hung out several times, talked on phone, emailing funny pictures of us a kids, made lil comments towards each that I THOUGHT would indicate we were at least exclusive and potentially serious down the road. To me, talking everyday for 8-9 weeks made me think we were together.

I cut off all my other chicks - because I truly liked this girl, she got my jokes, I got hers, we laughed....liked the same songs....we just clicked on nearly every aspect. Had me like

She had began going back to college/school this semester, and she got a part time job as well. But anyway, slowly, the excuses started. "Sorry, I can't make plans", etc. Which was valid givn her schedule, but the thing is, after awhile, I know she wasn't working THAT much and she was hanging out w/ her "friends". Which too was valid also at first to me...I didnt wanna take up all of her free time or be selfish to think she had to spend it all with me.

But my gut was telling me she wasn't being 100 with me.......Fortunately I kept an ace in the hole b/c I was watching already her twitter. unbeknownst to her.
And let's just say one day it became obvious that she was talking to some other dude on the low.

This is the same girl who looked me in the face less than a week earlier and told me lies about how we were together, and how she's very trustworthy in relationships.

Soooo, I say all this to say, if you already know shes seeing other dudes, just drop her. You can't make her drop the other dudes just b/c you like her. She may not like you the way you think she does.

And if I didn't have that girls twitter, she could've kept jerking me around b/c I had no proof of her cheating....even though I had a feeling in my gut telling me she was being shady.

So go with your gut.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Same thing happened to me.

Except it was after two dates, the thing is the second she starts making excuses or ignorin just delete the number and get on.

The thing that screws with your mind is now you think did I do something or say something



Nezt time you go out on a date don't text or call afterwards just go cold let her panic


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happened to me this saturday..how you gonna flood my text inbox and then just randomly disappear..im still

i honestly believe most of these chicks just want a free dinner
im now convinced

real talk i just deleted every female i had on my cell fukk chasing these hoes
..i feel free

 

[sixsixtwo]

"Perfect man? What women want? What are we searching for? Are we willing to know what does it mean “the perfect man” or what women “want” – only to be BETTER SLAVES? Are we so blinded by steam from our gonads that no matter what we know, we still stumble ignorantly/ in semi comatose state, into relationships with women and we are still willing to do everything just to have p*ssy?

Mastery of women means that we are no longer their tools as we have been designed (natural state of man is slavery to women – pure evolution) but we have our mission, our freedom and our peace of mind. According to my experiences – once you have those things, you honestly do not give a fukk about what women want and what is their perfect man. Once you really understand them you know that they are not worthy of deeper interest or consideration. You are living your own life and enjoying them as long as YOU want, on YOUR terms and as long as they behave.

My relationship towards them is like that of a mature man to children. I enjoy interactions with children. Their games are cute, they are amusing creatures. it is the same with women. I understand the pain necessary to digest this knowledge, but once digested, what is the reason for bitterness, anger or any other destructive emotions? They have been made that way and given their mission – ensure procreation in this meat market, it was necessary. It is up to us to FINALLY understand them and behave accordingly."

 

[Turbulent]

here's one i thought of this morning:

when women give up the p*ssy the first time, it's usually the combinations of two things (usually one more than the other but you can't always tell which one it is the most)

1. She's horny and finds you attractive.
2. deep down she thinks you're better than her and she's starting to feel like she's running out of tricks and silly games to keep you chasing her. Basically she feels like you bring more to the table than her so she's scared that you'll wise up and realize you,re better than her. but since she's not used to playing with guys she feels are better than her, she feels like she has no other effective weapons besides her p*ssy.

So that's what she ends up giving up to stay at the high stakes table. Its almost like she feels like she's been getting away with murder but she better cash out while she's ahead cuz her luck is bound to turn pretty soon. but for her to think that way, she has to truly believe that you,re a better poker player than her. if she thinks your bluffing she'll start calling it and once you're caught she'll start milking you for all you got (time, attention, dates, material) until you're just out of chips or until she finds a new table with higher stakes. and once she finds that table, she'll tell you she'd rather go at the big boys table cause it's a better use of her time. Now she has the confidence to move up, she don't need you anymore and she'd rather play to win higher but risk losing more than waste time on the easy wins (but smaller chips) she'd get at your table. And now you gotta start all over with small chips and rebuild yourself from nothing.


Don't bluff. the girl might move on to the other table but at least you still got your chips and some other chicks will come to play at your table...

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

im really on my when it comes to females now...

im going back to messing with them old broads from pof..i was eating then

..a lot of these young chicks are fukking indecisive as fukk

 

[ridge]

here's one i thought of this morning:

when women give up the p*ssy the first time, it's usually the combinations of two things (usually one more than the other but you can't always tell which one it is the most)

1. She's horny and finds you attractive.
2. deep down she thinks you're better than her and she's starting to feel like she's running out of tricks and silly games to keep you chasing her. Basically she feels like you bring more to the table than her so she's scared that you'll wise up and realize you,re better than her. but since she's not used to playing with guys she feels are better than her, she feels like she has no other effective weapons besides her p*ssy.

So that's what she ends up giving up to stay at the high stakes stable. Its almost like she feels like she's been getting away with murder but she better cash out while she's ahead cuz her luck is bound to turn pretty soon. but for her to think that way, she has to truly believe that you,re a better poker player than her. if she thinks your bluffing she'll start calling it and once you're caught she'll start milking you for all you got (time, attention, dates, material) until you're just out of chips or until she finds a new table with higher stakes. and once she finds that table, she'll tell you she'd rather go at the big boys table cause it's a better use of her time. Now she has the confidence to move up, she don't need you anymore and she'd rather play to win higher but risk losing more than waste time on the easy wins (but smaller chips) she'd get at your table. And now you gotta start all over with small chips and rebuild yourself from nothing.


Don't bluff. the girl might move on to the other table but at least you still got your chips and some other chicks will come to play at your table...

 

[Ohene]

skimmed through your post Turb but I know what you mean. If you tell a chick you aint gonna talk to her no more because she acting a fool not even just fronting on the puss but playing games in general...you better do that or else the games will persist. Cold turkey. Delete number and cut off all contact so you at least still have your dignity in tact.

otherwise you gonna be stuck in a certain zone and it will be hard to prove that you "aint the one" so to speak. At that point you already lost so still...cold turkey