The reality of the situation in this day and age is most men like the concept, the dream, and the fantasy of being in a relationship with a woman than the actual reality, which is why so many hurdle forward into these highly tilted relationships with them.
Men grow up hearing stuff like behind every great man is a great woman. In their mind they picture they are talking to this real sweetheart, this real gem of a woman that happened to slip away and how that once they 'get her' she will hold him down and represent him to the fullest... He'll have someone he can come home to, respect and cherish... He will have someone that he can keep warm through the long nights and to protect.
Reality of the situation is that the man is putting in all of this work for ZERO return. A man believes he discovered his princess in the wild, but in reality, he is taking this woman out on dates while she's meeting fellas at the club and letting them blaze it up for zero effort... often times WHILE she's eating free dinners on her 'man's' tab. Men are out here paying for their girl's school while she's cheating on him with a dude she met AT that school. Paying for her car, and she'll let another dude drive it. Fellas are out here, coming home and kissing their woman with a smile, not knowing she might have just put her mouth on another dude... He's out there supporting her, letting her stay at home while she's setting up meetings with random chat dudes. Now I wish I was joking about the situation, but these things are COMMON. If it was an exception limited to a few scandalous women, that'd be one thing, but this happens a lot more than one would expect.
Negroes are really out here paying hundreds of dollars for a handful of sand while at the beach. There are just as many women as men, and yet so many men will willingly accept the vastly inferior end of the deal with a huge grin on their face.
Women ain't out here cooking and cleaning as an expectation. You have to DEMAND it and in order to demand it, your game has to be super fly. She has to REALLY like you. On the other hand, you got to be this fly cat that she adores. Otherwise she will be expecting you to take her to dinner, the movies and do all these things while bringing nothing to the table. Let's be real. You sit around here supporting her financially, listening to her problems, dealing with her emotions and all of the such, but what are you realistically getting in return? You go off telling a woman your problems and you are 'weak' to her. Expecting a woman to support you financially? Only if you just got out of prison and can lay the down and out thug who is being held back by the system game on her. Otherwise she will be gone with the wind. You get to expressing your emotions? You are a little boy with female tendencies. But on the other hand, women expect for you to put up with that behavior from them and even reward them with flowers and dinners just for her attention. Let's not even get into the 'tests' that eventually come, aka coming with the worst possible behavior so she can know what she can get away with. "Oh, that's just my homie. Stop being insecure." "Oh I just fell asleep at my girl's house after the club."
The longer you are with this woman is when the 'real them' starts to come out and it hardly resembles the 'woman you fell in love with.' You start seeing their unbalanced emotional states and undesirable emotions such as unrelenting anger and even ruthlessness. You could have spent your whole time treating her well, but when divorce time comes because she got bored with your predictability due to you being responsible to actually support giving her a decent life, she will throw you over a bridge with a kool-aid smile on her face. Then she'll move some fella she was talking to in the background in the house she got off your back and let him drive that same car.
Oh yeah, let's not even get into babygirl's past. Some of you negroes right it off talking about well everyone has a past and people change. You sit back and wonder why people are giving you strange looks or you may even sea fella giggle or two until you learn that your princess was a real go-getter back in her day and you learn that it never stopped even while she was with you.
The reality of the situation is that with most women, the best time you will have with them is in the first month when they are on their best behavior, you don't know anything about them and they aren't comfortable enough around you to start trying to lock you into a relationship of favors or emotional dependency. You are still riding high on the fumes from the thrill of the chase. As soon as it wears off, so many sit around and think, "What in the world have I gotten myself into? I NEVER expected this."
This is why I keep advising men who have found a decent woman to stop cheating on them and to leave the game alone... When you are out here seeing this game for what it really is, it's a doozie.