Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Mickey Kane
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Not to get into the men and women can't be friends issue but I think 90% of the time it's not possible. The entire genesis of the relationship for about attraction, the friendship was just a place holder.
Mickey Kane
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Can't disagree fam, deep down I knew this.
But like I said, still developed love for her.
But like I said, still developed love for her.
Personal opinion, you got nothing to feel bad about. People can say what they want but situations like this are part of life. Mistakes are fine, repeated mistakes are the issue. Your life would be odd (to me) if you didn't go through these things to some degree.
MrFantastic
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Could not have said it better!
Man, you trying to make me look a fool out here, this is gonna be embarassing for me. Aight...
About 6 years ago, we met, she was 17, I was 19. Approached to get her number but she had a man but gave me the number anyway. Red flag #1 , but she young so whatever.
Anyway, guess I was in the Friend Zone for a couple years but it was cool. Ended up going going to same university too which was crazy & we'd hang out sometimes. I was still tryna get at her though & it got to a point where she was like, 'STOP'. I didn't like the way she said it & we stopped talking for just under a year. Anyway, fast forward to I'd say 2010 & we're cool again, more comfortable around each other. She's still with her man, I got my girl now. Deep down, I still wanna smash but for me, the friendship became 'genuine' by that point.
2011, June, she hollas at me, talking about she thinks her man is cheating. I'm like, "fukk" because a part of me sees that window of opportunity slowly opening & I feel guilty right. So I actually help her out her man by telling her not to rush to a decision, hear him out, get evidence, etc. I got my own girl, that r'ship was on its last legs & I felt uneasy about my urge to make my own move....
Anyway, she breaks up with her dude & I end up breaking up with my girl. More to do with the fact my girl just weren't on my level but the friend definitely help spark that break up.
So within a week of us ending our relationships, we start messing with each other. I look back & can admit I was a rebound but she'd say because of our history, I meant more, blah, blah, etc.
Anyway, now I start catching feelings. My logic is, we got the friendship. We got the sex. We like each other, obviously, we en route to something official.
She starts feeling a bit trapped, etc. Can't blame her, she just got out of a 5 year relationship. So we break it off. I ask her if she's ok with me doing my own thing. She says yes. Like an idiot, I thought it was straightforward.
So cool, lemme get back to doing me & we try to go back to our friendship. I'm telling her about other girls. Eventually, she telling me about dudes she dating. I'm feeling salty because I'm looking at her like, "Wasn't the reason we broke up because you said you didn't wanna be seeing anybody?". At the same time, she getting jealous over me seeing with other women? Lol. Between October 2011 to literally, June this year, a lot of back & forths occur. She'd try to get me jealous by flirting with other dudes in front me. I'm doing similar shyt, SMH.
But she still like, "I don't want to complicate things further so let's not do anything."
Aight. Anyway, recently, she thought I was trying to get at her girl. Which I wasn't, but had a fight over that. I'm at the club 2 Saturdays ago, I knew she was gonna be there so I tried to squash it because you know, I love(d) this girl. As a friend before anything so talked to her to make sure things are cool. But then I remembered her talking to a male acquaintance of mine which I didn't like but you didn't want to make a scene.
So I holla at him, just to see what's good. And he's acting surprised because he's asking me, 'Breh, why you getting aggy for? That ain't your girl & she behaving like that with a COUPLE of fellas within the scene..."
When I tell you I was shell-shocked. To make it worse, breh told me she denied anything that we had together. To be real, it was never official, but too many things happened & were said for anyone to say we never had a thing. So I'm looking at it like, you flirting with n*ggaz within my circle, you denying our thing, you being hypocrite because you wiled out at the thought of me getting at your girl...
Like, shyt still ain't registered. LOL.
But the bulk of all this pain took place in December, I'm more than ready to move on but to think of all the time, emotion, resources wasted on this girl annoys me.
live and you learn, if a women complains to me about her bf is cheating i say it once leave then, i dont want to hear about this situation again, women look for pity from dudes in their "friend zones".
Secondly never look for a in with a chick if she was being cheated on best believe it wasnt the first time.
and yes you were the rebound which many guys dont know they are, you only messed up by catching feelings for her, which many guys do because "shes nice, sshes sexy, the sex is good, how could any guy cheat on her and treat her bad"
women always pull this manoeuvres they will dump you, "stay friends" but how dare you date anyone else, even thhough they out clubbing and grinding on random dudes every week on dating sites etc., if your a "good nice guy" they want you single they want you to be there for them to call upon for favors. Another reason why if you ever break up or dumped by a chick NEVER EVER REMAIN FRIENDS. SEVER THE TIES.
and tis is why she is not your girl, you may think you love her but its just lust, she has control over you because she knows she has you your mr dependable, mr ill be there, you get jealous and it shows, the key is even if you care to be non chalant. You see your ex talking to a bunch of guys just
even if your 
inside.best thing to do is to cut all ties i wouldn't even let her know, change your number, delete from fb and vanish.
Women love disrespecting men who they know like her/lust her/ love her just to push their buttons.
Anytime a women you like tell you she wants to be "single" etc. its just that she is not that interested with you. I remember i was messing wiht a girl and she told me the same thing yet she was on a dating site interested in dating
real talk right here in regards to girls who will do you like that even when you were friends before. no girl is independent of that trifling, cowardly behaviour. I felt the same way about my ex where its like they cant even respect you enough to put the BS aside.
It was said before but basically, theres a certain common courtesy these women dont have. They cant help it though, i guess its just idiosyncratic.
Man, you trying to make me look a fool out here, this is gonna be embarassing for me. Aight...
About 6 years ago, we met, she was 17, I was 19. Approached to get her number but she had a man but gave me the number anyway. Red flag #1 , but she young so whatever.
Anyway, guess I was in the Friend Zone for a couple years but it was cool. Ended up going going to same university too which was crazy & we'd hang out sometimes. I was still tryna get at her though & it got to a point where she was like, 'STOP'. I didn't like the way she said it & we stopped talking for just under a year. Anyway, fast forward to I'd say 2010 & we're cool again, more comfortable around each other. She's still with her man, I got my girl now. Deep down, I still wanna smash but for me, the friendship became 'genuine' by that point.
2011, June, she hollas at me, talking about she thinks her man is cheating. I'm like, "fukk" because a part of me sees that window of opportunity slowly opening & I feel guilty right. So I actually help her out her man by telling her not to rush to a decision, hear him out, get evidence, etc. I got my own girl, that r'ship was on its last legs & I felt uneasy about my urge to make my own move....
Anyway, she breaks up with her dude & I end up breaking up with my girl. More to do with the fact my girl just weren't on my level but the friend definitely help spark that break up.
So within a week of us ending our relationships, we start messing with each other. I look back & can admit I was a rebound but she'd say because of our history, I meant more, blah, blah, etc.
Anyway, now I start catching feelings. My logic is, we got the friendship. We got the sex. We like each other, obviously, we en route to something official.
She starts feeling a bit trapped, etc. Can't blame her, she just got out of a 5 year relationship. So we break it off. I ask her if she's ok with me doing my own thing. She says yes. Like an idiot, I thought it was straightforward.
So cool, lemme get back to doing me & we try to go back to our friendship. I'm telling her about other girls. Eventually, she telling me about dudes she dating. I'm feeling salty because I'm looking at her like, "Wasn't the reason we broke up because you said you didn't wanna be seeing anybody?". At the same time, she getting jealous over me seeing with other women? Lol. Between October 2011 to literally, June this year, a lot of back & forths occur. She'd try to get me jealous by flirting with other dudes in front me. I'm doing similar shyt, SMH.
But she still like, "I don't want to complicate things further so let's not do anything."
Aight. Anyway, recently, she thought I was trying to get at her girl. Which I wasn't, but had a fight over that. I'm at the club 2 Saturdays ago, I knew she was gonna be there so I tried to squash it because you know, I love(d) this girl. As a friend before anything so talked to her to make sure things are cool. But then I remembered her talking to a male acquaintance of mine which I didn't like but you didn't want to make a scene.
So I holla at him, just to see what's good. And he's acting surprised because he's asking me, 'Breh, why you getting aggy for? That ain't your girl & she behaving like that with a COUPLE of fellas within the scene..."
When I tell you I was shell-shocked. To make it worse, breh told me she denied anything that we had together. To be real, it was never official, but too many things happened & were said for anyone to say we never had a thing. So I'm looking at it like, you flirting with n*ggaz within my circle, you denying our thing, you being hypocrite because you wiled out at the thought of me getting at your girl...
Like, shyt still ain't registered. LOL.
But the bulk of all this pain took place in December, I'm more than ready to move on but to think of all the time, emotion, resources wasted on this girl annoys me.
Damn my nikka yous a wreck.
fukk that , she made it easy for u to move on. nikkas u deal.with knew yall messed?.
You see little girl cousins and sisters around 8 or 9 years already showing signs of being overly dependant and acting like little 4 year olds and showing early signs of the spoiled attitude.....
9 years old and never washing dishes in your life
And I seriously think its a female thing. These women need to start being raised better. But it is true that even those raised well, just turned spoiled and become far too materialistic than what they were taught.
I got this girl in my lab class who gets angry at this other guy for each lab because after we get signed out by the professor and work on the rest of the lab report the following days(we never are able to finish because the lab sessions are very short)....
anyway since the semester started, for each lab she has gotten mad at him because he does not email or answer her texts about the certain diagrams, or charts needed and calls him "selfish" or curses him out.......
When in all actuality he could either be sincerely busy or he doesn't get it.
But I guarantee god forbid if a guy did that to her, she would call them lazy or being too thirsty and not giving her space
9 years old and never washing dishes in your life
And I seriously think its a female thing. These women need to start being raised better. But it is true that even those raised well, just turned spoiled and become far too materialistic than what they were taught.
I got this girl in my lab class who gets angry at this other guy for each lab because after we get signed out by the professor and work on the rest of the lab report the following days(we never are able to finish because the lab sessions are very short)....
anyway since the semester started, for each lab she has gotten mad at him because he does not email or answer her texts about the certain diagrams, or charts needed and calls him "selfish" or curses him out.......
When in all actuality he could either be sincerely busy or he doesn't get it.
But I guarantee god forbid if a guy did that to her, she would call them lazy or being too thirsty and not giving her space
Im starting to think this chick has a bf...
• she never spends the night
• never invites me to her place
• never has her phone on her around me
I'm at the point where I don't ask if she has a BF and couldn't care quite frankly(well to some extent.)