Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[root_eruditorium_org]

i took an L trading stock options last year and lost 6K when the S&P500 tanked (was killing shyt but then I fell down a slippery slope ). That was a summer's worth of savings gone but I've managed to bounce back and hit 12K worth of savings less than 7 months later while helping my parents pay their mortgage mind you.

It would've been harder to do that if I had a steady girlfriend. But yo peep this.

If a girl really really likes you, and you establish that you're a leader, responsible and a hot commodity whose time is precious then it doesnt matter how frugal or cheap you are...a good woman will fall in line and take heed. There is no reason to feel pressure to spend bread on a girl. After a while they become happy just to spend time with you because

A) They know the reason for your cheapness is because you got bigger plans and they wanna be a part of said plans
B) Basking in your presence is satisfactory enough because it's rare...low supply...high demand = higher perception of value

I'm not saying propose a netflix and chill whenever you and a girl you're courting meet up. But communicate your busyness and finesse a situation where you agree to have a date night once a month or something. Works wonders. It's only when a girl sees you and talks to you so often that she becomes bored and then requires doing shyt out of the ordinary.

shyt ...

I remember a 3 month period where I smashed 3 girls last year.

Girl 1: Most I spent on her was LITERALLY a sundae from DQ. Second time we met up I smashed. Shortly after I had this girl trying to impress me with her cooking and bringing ME food when we would kick it. She was a bit too quiet and I like girls who I can talk to about real life shyt; girls I can educate but still learn from. She was too...bland so I deaded it.

Girl 2: Hmmm...First date we went to Salad King and then walked downtown and conversed. Cost about 25 bucks between the two of us. Smashed shortly afterwards...dont think I ever took her on a real date though after. She would either come to the crib or we would meet up after work and just shoot the shyt and catchup. She was on my dikk heavy, but she just wasnt good enough for me to wife. Eventually my arrogance and lack of feelings for her caught up to me and bit me in the ass and she cut me off lol.

Girl 3: Took her to Ripleys Aquarium for the first date. About $55 bucks between us. Smashed that date...(best fukk/head of my life) and the vibe was so bless that she would love just coming over and kicking it with the kid. Didnt matter if I was studying, working from home, watching basketball, watching TV or whatever. She wanted to come over to see a nikka and get this dikk. We got serious and would go on dates once a month. Who paid for the date alternated every month.

Lot of text i typed. But in summary...YOU'RE YOUNG! GET OUT THERE AND fukk THESE HOES. Just dont let them dupe you or run game on you. Keep your antenna up. You can focus on stacking bread, improving your physicality, mentality etc and still get at these hoes. It isn't difficult. Just dont go clubbing and shyt...meet women as you go about your day.

Yo first of all thanks for taking the time to type all of this out. What you are giving is good advice but I feel like some of it doesn't map so well on to my situation. First of all, it's not just a money thing it's a time thing. Just to get a bit of a boost I'm going to need to take most of my evenings and some significant time during the weekend off. & the girls thing, i'm still trying to get used to trying to catch girls from everywhere. honestly i haven't been very successful but i've become an animal sort of. i was at an end of year party for a club im part of a couple of days ago and i was just vicious in there. hitting on the photographer chick and these two other girls. it was so natural and effortless .... lol, i was thinking to myself like damn what happened to the old me??

anyways i will keep approaching women but i'm not expecting home runs or anything like that. which suits me

im horrible with girls (right now) but i feel like other aspects of my life more than make up for this one deficiency. hang on the coli too long you will start thinking p*ssy is the only thing that matters. talking to my buddy yesterday helped me broaden my perspective. if i just take a month or two to really focus on some applications, side projects, etc, it could really pay off big time.

& we gotta have a talk about investing fam. cuz i wanna dip my toe into it. i have a lot of savings but want to try investing a little bit. losing 6K is a pretty big deal IMO but im glad you were able to bounce back from it. i will catch you on PM some time with specific questions.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

It's interesting how you can really be feeling a chick and vibing with her, then she says some disrespectful/slick shyt and totally turns you off. Maybe it's just me, but I lose all interest in a chick like that instantly when she does that shyt and can't look at her the same.

This. I called a chick out on it she blocked me off snapchat. I ignore her for a week.

 

[Shadow King]

Been talking to a few old friends of mine who've been making moves, doing big things and stuff. Made me realize that I've been slacking a little bit. I have to step it up. & I'm actively not trying to date or deal with girls no more - its just a money pit honestly. At least for me anyways.

This...turning 23 with nothing and I'm losing my mind over here. Women ain't shyt but eye candy if I'm out...I got much shyt to do.

 

[Turbulent]

quick lil gem: realize the difference between sincerity/honesty and consistency. a chick could tell you she will love you forever and blablabla and then a few months down the line she's riding the next man's dikk. it doesn't necessarily mean she wasn't being sincere when she said it (although she could have been running game). maybe she really meant it at the time and actually believed she would always love you but her mind is just fickle/inconsistent. so then you got a chick telling you these sweet things and her current actions reflect those words yet when her later actions are the opposite, you're confused as fukk cause shyt doesn't add up. confusion is when you act erratic. train your mind to separate the two concepts (sincerity vs consistency/follow through). this will help you to better manage your expectations of people and keep your peace of mind. shyt will add up more.

 

[PinotNoir]

don't be afraid to sell these girls a dream man. they'll be quick to let you know that they dont owe you shyt when shyt goes left so remember you dont owe them either. worry about yourself

Terrible advice, fellas please don't take it. Be upfront and use your head, no need to play games with people, karma is the universal justice system. You have to be smart, if you're always paying for dates, chasing her then it's up to you to communicate and/or cut ties, also be the best YOU you can be, go to school, work on your career, travel, volunteer, and you'll meet women who are worth your time and you wouldn't have to worry about giving hoes your time unless you're just looking for some fun. Back to the poster, you should be ashamed of yourself spewing such hatred because of your past issues with women. I'm sorry but I'm at a loss for words.

 

[NeilCartwright]

Went out on a first date with this nigerian chick at another school last weekend. Grabbed some coffee then linked up that night.

She's been busy all week and just said she cant come out tonight bc she has a test mondayim cool with that. I have about 4 papers due next Wednesday myself.

Should i just play it cool and wait until she's free? Shes a senior engineering major so she's serious about academicswe're both busy and i dont think this was a curve

 

[The ADD]

Went out on a first date with this nigerian chick at another school last weekend. Grabbed some coffee then linked up that night.

She's been busy all week and just said she cant come out tonight bc she has a test mondayim cool with that. I have about 4 papers due next Wednesday myself.

Should i just play it cool and wait until she's free? Shes a senior engineering major so she's serious about academicswe're both busy and i dont think this was a curve

4 papers by Wednesday........stop posting and get to work.

After that hit her up

 

[DaHNIC82]

Watch the Orlando Magic special and seen how Nick Anderson went out. He was actually a great player but homie allowed missing those free throws to mentally decapitate him from really being a greater player. That experience enabled him for 20 years and he never recovered.

Same way with dealing with women. Don't let a humiliating setback make you feel enabled to really go out and find your worth or achieve your dreams.

You can go out like Kobe and keep shooting or do like Nick and be afraid of taking those shots

 

[Bald Head Ba$tard]

Women aren't gonna choose a nikka that isn't getting complimented on. Women make it seem like they want a nikka that isn't getting hit on, but that's false af. They don't wanna tell nikkaz this. But, when you're getting complimented by broads, it just raises your profile and makes you seem more fukkable (in their eyes). No broad wants a nikka that nobody wants. They'll be watching that in real life and social media as a test to see if you're really bout it.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

4 papers by Wednesday........stop posting and get to work.

After that hit her up

This. When I was in school, girls were not my focus at all. Priorities my dude. & you know how busy Engineering majors are. Be lucky she even has time for your ass (especially if she is Nigerian). I'm assuming also she's not your typical C student.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Women aren't gonna choose a nikka that isn't getting complimented on. Women make it seem like they want a nikka that isn't getting hit on, but that's false af. They don't wanna tell nikkaz this. But, when you're getting complimented by broads, it just raises your profile and makes you seem more fukkable (in their eyes). No broad wants a nikka that nobody wants. They'll be watching that in real life and social media as a test to see if you're really bout it.

I learned this at the tender age of 17 when I started hanging out with this attractive white girl (we weren't even a couple or fukking) and then all of a sudden all these other broads would start talking to me / hitting on me out of the blue.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Terrible advice, fellas please don't take it. Be upfront and use your head, no need to play games with people, karma is the universal justice system. You have to be smart, if you're always paying for dates, chasing her then it's up to you to communicate and/or cut ties, also be the best YOU you can be, go to school, work on your career, travel, volunteer, and you'll meet women who are worth your time and you wouldn't have to worry about giving hoes your time unless you're just looking for some fun. Back to the poster, you should be ashamed of yourself spewing such hatred because of your past issues with women. I'm sorry but I'm at a loss for words.

Such hatred? Are you talking about my post?

 

[Amare's Right Hook]

make a deal with it

 

[Deafheaven]

Went on the date on friday with ol girl. Cute lil Sinead O Connor ass chick

Was kind of aloof at first but being in a relationship you sometimes forget just how charming you are as a dude. Within like a half hour shes completely into me and we leave the bar go back to my crib, I throw some aphex twin on and use some of my Esthetician skills to give her a massage and shes putty. Pure fukking putty. We didn't have sex but made out for a while and she def has the googly eyes already. Bought me drinks and smoked me up already and she a chef with ambition. Body not as trill as my ex but some huge t*ts on a small frame

At the least she'll be a cool chick to have on the roster for the fact her musical taste is great and she loves to dance and do drugs.

 

[Dominicansbelit]

i took an L trading stock options last year and lost 6K when the S&P500 tanked (was killing shyt but then I fell down a slippery slope ). That was a summer's worth of savings gone but I've managed to bounce back and hit 12K worth of savings less than 7 months later while helping my parents pay their mortgage mind you.

It would've been harder to do that if I had a steady girlfriend. But yo peep this.

If a girl really really likes you, and you establish that you're a leader, responsible and a hot commodity whose time is precious then it doesnt matter how frugal or cheap you are...a good woman will fall in line and take heed. There is no reason to feel pressure to spend bread on a girl. After a while they become happy just to spend time with you because

A) They know the reason for your cheapness is because you got bigger plans and they wanna be a part of said plans
B) Basking in your presence is satisfactory enough because it's rare...low supply...high demand = higher perception of value

I'm not saying propose a netflix and chill whenever you and a girl you're courting meet up. But communicate your busyness and finesse a situation where you agree to have a date night once a month or something. Works wonders. It's only when a girl sees you and talks to you so often that she becomes bored and then requires doing shyt out of the ordinary.

shyt ...

I remember a 3 month period where I smashed 3 girls last year.

Girl 1: Most I spent on her was LITERALLY a sundae from DQ. Second time we met up I smashed. Shortly after I had this girl trying to impress me with her cooking and bringing ME food when we would kick it. She was a bit too quiet and I like girls who I can talk to about real life shyt; girls I can educate but still learn from. She was too...bland so I deaded it.

Girl 2: Hmmm...First date we went to Salad King and then walked downtown and conversed. Cost about 25 bucks between the two of us. Smashed shortly afterwards...dont think I ever took her on a real date though after. She would either come to the crib or we would meet up after work and just shoot the shyt and catchup. She was on my dikk heavy, but she just wasnt good enough for me to wife. Eventually my arrogance and lack of feelings for her caught up to me and bit me in the ass and she cut me off lol.

Girl 3: Took her to Ripleys Aquarium for the first date. About $55 bucks between us. Smashed that date...(best fukk/head of my life) and the vibe was so bless that she would love just coming over and kicking it with the kid. Didnt matter if I was studying, working from home, watching basketball, watching TV or whatever. She wanted to come over to see a nikka and get this dikk. We got serious and would go on dates once a month. Who paid for the date alternated every month.

Lot of text i typed. But in summary...YOU'RE YOUNG! GET OUT THERE AND fukk THESE HOES. Just dont let them dupe you or run game on you. Keep your antenna up. You can focus on stacking bread, improving your physicality, mentality etc and still get at these hoes. It isn't difficult. Just dont go clubbing and shyt...meet women as you go about your day.

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