Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Kind of how I feel. I aint trying to be serious right now unless you blow me away.

also on the body tip man I feel that.

Ive been working on myself heavily tho breh. Back working, working out, going to get my massage license in the fall, meditation, reading, doing shyt I enjoy. I havemt just been festering away aince the breakup at all.
This is good, just keep doing MORE of this for an extended period of time. Your breakup was pretty recent but if you must be involved with other chicks then keep it casual. Meeting up for drinks or chilling at their house. Save your money for yourself.

Put yourself first at all times for he next few months, those chicks can either keep up or get lost. You don't even have to be mean about it, but make it clear that you're number one in your life (don't bend over backwards for them, don't cancel plans for them, etc).

Regarding your ex, you need to get her out of your system homie. She is messing your mind up, even in ways you don't realize yet. Try this. Don't talk to her at all for the next 3 months straight. Not even a text. You to from now until July 28 without talking to her and I guarantee you will view her behavior for what it really is: manipulation and a waste of time. By that point you won't even want to talk to her again. You will gain nothing from talking to her or trying to meet up with her.

It will be tough but I gotdamn guarantee that if you make it to July then your mind will be crystal clear. I put that on my life.

nikka i meant itd be selfish to the other bytches im messing with to be dealing with them with my ex in my mind wtf :pachaha:


Also i never really claimed to be a game ubermensch, im still learning everyday :ld:
No shame in still learning. I'm far from an expert but a few months ago I started truly putting myself first and it changes things. Not even in an a$$hole type of way, just prioritizing my goals/wants/needs over other people's.
 

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This is good, just keep doing MORE of this for an extended period of time. Your breakup was pretty recent but if you must be involved with other chicks then keep it casual. Meeting up for drinks or chilling at their house. Save your money for yourself.

Put yourself first at all times for he next few months, those chicks can either keep up or get lost. You don't even have to be mean about it, but make it clear that you're number one in your life (don't bend over backwards for them, don't cancel plans for them, etc).

Regarding your ex, you need to get her out of your system homie. She is messing your mind up, even in ways you don't realize yet. Try this. Don't talk to her at all for the next 3 months straight. Not even a text. You to from now until July 28 without talking to her and I guarantee you will view her behavior for what it really is: manipulation and a waste of time. By that point you won't even want to talk to her again. You will gain nothing from talking to her or trying to meet up with her.

It will be tough but I gotdamn guarantee that if you make it to July then your mind will be crystal clear. I put that on my life.


No shame in still learning. I'm far from an expert but a few months ago I started truly putting myself first and it changes things. Not even in an a$$hole type of way, just prioritizing my goals/wants/needs over other people's.

I assume even if she contacts me to ignore her? You absolutely right btw and I know ya'll nikkas just faceless avis but I feel everyone in here regardless of their approach really do have our fellow coli brehs best interest at heart.
 

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I assume even if she contacts me to ignore her? You absolutely right btw and I know ya'll nikkas just faceless avis but I feel everyone in here regardless of their approach really do have our fellow coli brehs best interest at heart.
Yes, completely ignoring her would be for the best... but I know firsthand how difficult that can be. If you have to respond then keep your texts extra short, don't ask any questions, and take a long time to respond (24 hours per response from you is a good window). No phone calls.

By ignoring her and showing little interest she will either get the hint and leave you alone, or she will get desperate and try harder to contact you. Either way you get control and can focus on what you want. Just don't break and don't fall for the okey doke. If she shows up at your place tell her that you have plans and she needs to leave.

Don't pretend to be too busy for her, actually be too busy for her. Throw yourself into your interests 100%. Lift hard, save money, read, spend time with your boys. She is no longer a priority at all and she has proven that she doesn't respect you.

She wants to make you a text buddy, AKA a backup penis in case she wants you back in the future. Don't be that fallback guy. Ignore her completely if you can, but just don't engage. She had her chance and disqualified herself.

And yes, the dudes here have each other's best interests at heart, even if our advice can be a little wacky sometimes. Being a man means living life on hard mode so we gotta look out for each other when we can. Just get a little stronger every day and it adds up over time.
 

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Brehs just have to tell another story on why cold approach is best approach...my game has developed(although somewhat late it was :trash: :bryan: )

Saw a chick with her friend just throwing it to me...waited at the curb even when it said 'Cross' she crossed and then I caught her glance back at on some :usure:


She thought I gave up:shaq2:



NOPE:takedat:

I saw dat ass...mixed light brown tiing with dyed green highlights in her hair with some tight joggers with some sneaks and a booty with that classic nose-ring in the left nostril, had a personality..short too

AND NO SEPTUM
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Anyway walked up and complimented her hair and asked how she do it..she went into full details, so she know hair...tryna get her to wash my shyt with her herbal shampoos she make :ohlawd:

Anyway before her Uber came up she gave me her name, told me where she work and her shift:lupe:

And she work where I need to buy my oils :sas2:

Gonna hit her up at work for a quick minute and if we click again gonna ask her for a quick lunch at the park around the block where I play my guitar.

Stay Tuned and wish me luck.:lupe:
 

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Brehs just have to tell another story on why cold approach is best approach...my game has developed(although somewhat late it was :trash: :bryan: )

Saw a chick with her friend just throwing it to me...waited at the curb even when it said 'Cross' she crossed and then I caught her glance back at on some :usure:


She thought I gave up:shaq2:



NOPE:takedat:

I saw dat ass...mixed light brown tiing with dyed green highlights in her hair with some tight joggers with some sneaks and a booty with that classic nose-ring in the left nostril, had a personality..short too

AND NO SEPTUM
full


Anyway walked up and complimented her hair and asked how she do it..she went into full details, so she know hair...tryna get her to wash my shyt with her herbal shampoos she make :ohlawd:

Anyway before her Uber came up she gave me her name, told me where she work and her shift:lupe:

And she work where I need to buy my oils :sas2:

Gonna hit her up at work for a quick minute and if we click again gonna ask her for a quick lunch at the park around the block where I play my guitar.

Stay Tuned and wish me luck.:lupe:
u might want to avoid lunch dates. meet up for drinks in the evening. more likely for sh1t to pop off then.
 

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I feel like this thing with me and nurse is turning into a friendship with some romantic things sprinkle in rather than something that would blossom into something long term. We kick it, we go to movies, have lunch, she comes over. But her mind is still stuck on her past relationships and she still scared to take things to the next level. So Ima fall back on her for a while and start dating other women. See what happens...
 

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I feel like this thing with me and nurse is turning into a friendship with some romantic things sprinkle in rather than something that would blossom into something long term. We kick it, we go to movies, have lunch, she comes over. But her mind is still stuck on her past relationships and she still scared to take things to the next level. So Ima fall back on her for a while and start dating other women. See what happens...

yup, i'm in the same boat with this other girl... she's very churchly (fukk!), and she still hung up and saying "imma work on myself" and blah blah blah, but this girl keep calling me all the time. I think she wants to be down and get on the roster, but i think she still hung up on this other guy. anyways :camby: i don't mess with her anymore. only reason we still talk is because she keeps call me.
 

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Going on tonight meeting this chick for the first time...hitting up Dave & Busters...y'all think an Adidas tracksuit is too casual....
 

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yup, i'm in the same boat with this other girl... she's very churchly (fukk!), and she still hung up and saying "imma work on myself" and blah blah blah, but this girl keep calling me all the time. I think she wants to be down and get on the roster, but i think she still hung up on this other guy. anyways :camby: i don't mess with her anymore. only reason we still talk is because she keeps call me.

thats a potential diamond in the rough
 

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she got a baby with him?

No, but the fact is that she hung up on this other nikka. So i'm cool, I don't want them problems (not him, but her being indecisive and shyt). I see it this way, the longer I'm focused on her, the more opportunities i'm missing from other females. I'm just trying to bone really, she really can't offer me shyt to be honest. I think I need to fall back just on that principle alone - if a female can't bring something to the table, then why bother? I guess I answered my questions
 

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Basically, and I refuse to lie to these women to boost their ego, shyt didn't turn me on, plain and simple, of course she text me a long ass paragraph after I hit her with the truth :snoop:


yo this shyt happened to me back in the day. Chick sent me a pic of her t*ts I was like :francis:...lets just say we havent communicated for like 10yrs since then :pachaha:
 
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